Tommy and Lynn,
My heart breaks for you in more ways than you know. I found out about Tara about two minutes after I found out they had found my cousin dead. Words can not now or ever express what I feel for you or my aunt and uncle.
I would say what everyone says "Let me know what I can do for you." But what you want and need I, nor anyone else on this earth can give you right now.
May God put his loving arms around you and comfort you as much as possible.