We love you, Michelle. On this 9th anniversary of your death we miss you more than ever. Our world is much darker and that bag of rocks that no one else can see still weighs heavy on our backs.
We hope you are so happy in heaven. Love, Mom and Stan
March 10th is a day we will always remember. We love you, Lynn and Stan, and will be thinking of you tomorrow.
Marlene and john
Happy 35th birthday, Michelle! We know you are celebrating in Heaven with all the other angels. Just know that we down here never let you get very far from our minds and we will all see you again.
Love, Aunt Marlene and Uncle John
R.I.P Mike...............my cousin was just 20 when he passed from CF just this September
What a beautiful way to remember Michelle we didn't know her but we do through you. Real nice meeting Lynn at the reunion and remembering old memories of 68th Place. You did a real nice job on the site Stan thanks for sharing.
Lynn and Stanley, we are thinking of you today. May your hearts and minds feel light and at peace. We think of Michelle's radiant smile pleasing all her angel friends in Heaven.
Another year has passed without you. Somehow the sun keeps rising and setting. We only get more lonely for your sweet smile.
We love you always.
Mom and Dad
I have learned that each day, I miss you no less than the day before. Each day, I understand further that there is no one like you, Michelle. You are very much alive in my heart and in the hearts of family. I am sure you know that there are now two girls I can influence with your spirit-- two girls that I can affect with my memories of you. I miss you so much, Michelle. Happy birthday.
Well, another birthday has come and passed and we are sill more lonesome than ever to hear your voice and see your smile. We had coffee with Nicole and Chris today and dropped off some flowers at your place. We have so many things to tell you and we do talk to you and trust that you are listening. God bless you and someday we will hold hands and wrap our arms around you again. So, Happy Birthday and God Bless. We love you so much, actually more every day.
Love Mom and Dad
Happy Birthday Michelle. I hope all the angels are singing to you in heaven. Miss you and love you. Gail
We remember precious Michelle and the joy she brought us. Happy Birthday, Michelle, as you celebrate in Heaven.
Love, Marlene and John
Well, as you know, 7 years have passed since you left us so suddenly. We are still in some state of shock and continue to live with broken hearts. The family still is functioning but it will never be the same without your smiles and love. We will soon head for Pointe South for our trip to the Florida beach and remember all the fun times we had there when you were there with us. We feel closer to you as we walk down the beach and when we wake to the sounds of the surf rolling in. We have received many cards and postings on Facebook from the wonderful friends and family you had to leave behind. You chose your friends well as they are all wonderful and we hear from them often. They have not forgotten and never will as you left an imprint on their souls. God Bless.
With all our love,
Mom and Dad
Remembering Michelle today with lots of smiles.
I was on Facebook today and laughed to myself at how you would have loved the social media boom. Time has helped to ease the pain of loss some and now I find myself often and randomly remembering the silly things that make us laugh, like !!! !!! !!!-!!!-!!!.
It was a crappy day this morning and I'm certain you made the sun break through. Just like you always did when you were on this side of heaven.
As the day settles into night and I sit here quietly I am reminded of how much I miss you. Love you little sis.
We are thinking of you, Lynn and Stanley,as another year without Michelle has gone by. We continue to remember her and we wish you peace and love.
Marlene and John
Lynn and Stan,
Thank you so much for sharing Michelle's story with us. She sounds like such a precious person. I wish we would have had the opportunity to meet her.
Thinking of you and your family at holiday times,
The Sutkowski Family
You are in our hearts today, your birthday, and forever. We miss you so much and yet we realize that you are in the perfect place, safe and happy. We think of you when we see your mom and dad or when we see animals and birds playing freely without a care.
Love, Marlene and John
Just a little note to you on this, your 33rd birthday. First of all, we still miss you desperately as when you left us you left a huge hole in our hearts that doesn't and will not go away. Today is a beautiful day as last night it snowed a nice 6 inch layer of the snow that you always got so excited about. We don't know if there is snow in heaven. We will be going to the Chanhassen Dinner Theater tonight as we always have done and will continue to do on your birthday. They say that you are in a wonderful place but we believe that place should be with us. We look forward to your little messages and will be alert for more as time goes by. God bless you dear heart and we will keep the homefires burning. Oh, by the way, we have had a lot of fires in the fireplace and each time I start it I always remember how you loved the warm fires. So, take care and we love you.
Dad and Mom
Good afternoon, Today I met Stan and Lynn at a Dragon Fly Project get together at Prudential Financial. It was nice to meet you both and having you there brings the work that we did to life!
I'm sorry for your loss but happy to see how something so sad can bring comfort to so many!
I still think of you all the time. Your radiant smile greeted me on Monday mornings and I've missed it everyday since then.
Wanted you to know that Greg and I thought of all of you and Michelle as we drove by the Blue Fin Resort this past weekend. Even though we never met Michelle, after reading about her and seeing her photos, we can tell she was truly a lovely woman.
Words cannot describe how my heart feels today and everyday that you are not here with us. I miss walking through the front door of mom and dads seeing your bright smile and sparkling eyes with arms wide open for a hug. Oh, I miss those hugs. I miss you so much....
I cannot believe it has been six years. I spent more time sharing an office space with Michelle daily than anyone else in my life and hate that she is gone. Her picture still greets me daily in my office.
I was going through old photos from Alpha Gam recently and I came across a few with Michelle. I knew this anniversary was approaching and even though she and I were not close, I still think of her from time to time. It's hard to believe it's been six years. She is still missed and not forgotten by those of us who were blessed to know her.
It is six years ago today that the unthinkable news came. Time DOES seem to stand still in that it only seems like yesterday. In Heaven there are no timelines except the one when we can all be reunited with Michelle. Our hearts are with you, Lynn and Stanley, today especially. We understand the hurt and lonely feelings you experience.Continue to cherish the wonderful and precious memories Michelle left you with.
Love, Marlene and John
We miss you with aching hearts today and every day. Today it is six years since you died. We long for your hugs, your smile, our good talks, your sweet presence. It was all the best. We thank God for you and the time He let us have together. But you should be here.
With all our love,
Such a beautiful girl and such a terrible tragedy. Our love and prayers to the family.
Lynn & Stan: Thank you so much for sharing your stories of michelle with me last Thursday and for sharing her website with me. What a beautiful girl! She obviously touched the lives of many people while here on earth, and she continues to touch hearts even though she's in heaven. Thank you for sharing your angel with me.
Lynn & Stan: My sister Jackie only shared Michelle's story with me through email yesterday. I felt compelled to check out Michelle's website as we have the loss of a daughter in common. What an incredible way to honor Michelle with the website; something like this never occured to us to do. Michelle is beautiful and how lucky she was to have you as parents. My heart aches for you as we know the pain doen't go away, you just learn to deal with it.
We are thinking of Michelle today as one more birthday goes by without her EARTHLY presence. Angel birthday parties must be very beautiful..full of music and dancing. Don't we wish we could just peek in for a moment? We would no doubt recognize some of the guests.
Stan & Lynn:I looked at your pictures and your memorials. My heart breaks for you and for Sean. Such a young lady with excitement of getting married and then taken away so suddenly. If only someone knew. But I guess most of us never know when it is our time to go.And it is probably a good thing. God is with you even though it makes you question him. He is there. I never knew her but I can tell she was a beautiful girl and very much in love and happy.take Care1
Michelle - You already know, but my best friend lost her 21 year old son Oct 17, 2009 in a tragic single car accident. I am doing my best for her by being the strong shoulder to lean on. The same I did and still do for Mom and Dad. But Michelle, I thought after five years of not having you here with us it would get easier with each passing day and year. It does not!!! We had thanksgiving at the farm today. I know you, Grandma, and Grandpa were there in spirit with us, but it's not the same. Know that I love you and miss you. Lastly Michelle, if you see Eric would you give him a hug for me. Thanks Sis.
I'm a current member of Alpha Gamma Delta and I happened to come across the memorial looking for something about the sorority. My heart goes out to those who knew Michelle. She must have been a truly beautiful person to inspire this memorial!
Thanks for sharing with us your beautiful and loving memorial to you daughter. Michelle must have been a wonderful person and the world is a lesser place without her. Our heartfelt sympathies to you, her family and all of her loving friends.
I happened upon your beautiful memorial for Michelle as I searched for designs for a memorial flower garden as I have lost both of my parents. What a tribute to your beautiful daughter!! I too am a mother and I can't even fathom the pain you must feel. My heart goes out to you on this Mother's Day. God bless you all!!
I attended The Compassionate Friends last Monday and humbly understand the desolation you shared with us for the death of your beautiful daughter. It is so diminute to say we miss our children,
there are not enough words to translate not even an yota of our passion on such greatest loss. May The Lord be merciful to all those bearing this cruel reality. God Bless... Selma, ( David's Ma )
My thoughts are with you..I came across your website looking for pictures of Fort Myers beaches and stumbled apon this memorial for your Michelle..I am touched by your story as well as her life and how abrubtly it was taken on March 10, which happens to be my birthday..I can't imagine how my parents would handle this but i'm sure you give strength to many families who have shared the same and by creating this a memory lives on for strangers like myself to be touched by a life lost..I will keep Michelle in my heart. Thank You.
Dearest Michelle, We are at Pointe South today. It is a very hard day. We talked to Sean and he wished so much we didn't have to have this kind of day. We love you and miss you forever. We will whisper your name into the ocean breeze as the sun sets tonight. We know that somehow you are nearby. Love, Mom and Stan
Michelle - We think of you often. Celia talks about you alot. Every Tuesday and Wednesday we pass the cemetary and she tells her friends " That's where my Aunt Michelle is". I am sure you are so proud of her as she is dancing away. Love you,
Five whole years have passed since we received the news that Michelle took flight to Heaven. As time goes on we realize that she is in the most wonderful peaceful place where she has nothing to fear. We can all look forward to a grand reunion with her someday. Lynn and Stanley, we know about that huge empty spot in both your hearts and we pray for you often. Keep strong. You are great models to the rest of us.
Love, Marlene and John
I was lucky enough to know Michelle for a few short years. I have so many beautiful memories of her, including when Sean brought her to meet us that first time and when they both attended a murder mystery party at my house. Michelle wore an adorable red flapper costume and black wig. She was so always so full of life and fun! I think of her every year about this time. My thoughts are with you all.
My daughter went to school with Michelle and also danced at the same studio. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.
I had a really neat thing happen Thursday, when I went to the cemetery to remember Michelle on her birthday...
I arrived with a little birthday cake which Jeff and I had bought for her. I planned to light all the candles and make a wish.
It was a cold and windy day, so I was having a hard time getting the matches to stay lit, let alone getting more than 2 or 3 candles going at one time.
Finally after several attempts, I realized that all could not be lit at once, so I better make my wish before the last one went out.
I made my wish to Michelle - that where ever she was today, I hoped she was happy and I blew out the white candle at the top. At that very moment I saw a flicker out of the corner of my left eye, the pink candle on the side had re-lit. Instead of being scared though, I was in awe. How could this be, it had been blown out by the wind long ago. I stood there just thinking and let that darn candle burn. Nothing like this have EVER happened to me! This time the wind didn't blow it out, no matter how long I waited. It stayed lit, until I decided to leave and blew it out myself!
I wasn't sure what to make of this, It felt SO good, could it really be, yes I think its true - Michelle must have heard me and was letting us know she is ok - even better - she is happy :)
Happy Birthday my sweet Michelle!! Thirty-one years ago today we were both very busy. I was so excited to meet you. But before you were even born we knew each other by heart. I have always been so very blessed to be your mom. I miss you with every cell in my body.
Stan made a Christmas tree out of spruce tips that John and Marlene gave us. He decorated it and we'll bring it to the cemetery today. He wanted to make it with his own hands because that is the kind of thing you would have done.
I still know you by heart. We will miss you and love you forever.
Mom and Stan
Happy Birthday Michelle!!! You are still missed and thought about tons.
Love you lots.
I stumbled on this site accidentally and just wanted to say that Michelle seems like a wonderful person. She was very pretty and seemed to enjoy life. That's rare to see. It seems as though she was happy though with her music and dance and loving partner. My condolences.
Our daughter, who was born in August, is named Samantha Michelle Martin in honor of Michelle. I hope that she has the same love of life and of those around her as the friend I miss every day.
Still missing you, darling Michelle-- What a blessing to have known and loved you!
I am so sorry for your loss, I found this site while looking for a picture of the Christmas Box Angel which is also a statue at Michigan Memorial Cemetery where my daughter Laura Zuk is buried. Michelle was very beautiful and your memorial site is a lovely tribute. May peace find your heart. Karen Zuk
To Michelle's family:
I am so very sorry for the loss of Michelle. I read the article in the dragonfly buzzette. I received my dragonfly packet the MOnday before Christmas. It would have been my first Christmas without my son. It brought me such comfort. This Sunday, June 8th marks the one year anniversary of my sons death. He was 29. There is still such pain and heartache. I, too, do not believe in coincidences. He send me signs all the time. Maybe a certain song. I visit him every day. That brings me some comfort.
I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter. I read about her in the "dragonfly on your wedding day" article. I lost my only child July 22, 2006 in a freak hiking accident. She, like your daughter, was full of life with so many things yet to do in her life! I was very touched by your story. Thank you so much for writing about your "dragonfly" experience!
This is crazy and so unlike me, but I feel so compelled to write something here. I did not know Michelle, nor her family or friends. I am just a dispatcher in podunk SD who is trying to pass time this Sunday afternoon on memorial day weekend.
I was thinking about how I wanted to plant some flowers on my day off tomorrow. I wanted to get some ideas for a beautiful flower garden. I 'googled' flower garden pics, and thats how I ended up on Michelle's memorial site. I was expecting to see beautiful flowers, but what I found was something even more beautiful.
Today, your Michelle reached out and touched a total stranger's life. I thank you for that. God bless!
March 10th has passed and it is very hard to believe it has been four years. My husband and I had our first child on February 17th-- a little girl. We named her Arete Michelle as a namesake for best friend. I hope that in addition to giving my daughter a name with such significance, that I can also pass to her the living lessons Michelle so generously offered, simply through her friendship. Time works treacherously against us as we struggle to keep the memory of our loved ones alive. My only solace comes from the knowledge that this world has been forever changed by Michelle's presence-- that she has changed my life and will impact the life my newborn daughter.
I miss you my dear Michelle-- if we can name Godmothers in heaven, you are Arete's.
Lynn and Stan, I am grateful to have both of you in my life. All the best of Michelle is from you and it gives me something to see and hear in these difficult days. I love you both and will be thinking of you all week!!!
Michelle, I am so lonesome for you. It doesn't seem possible that four years have gone by since I've heard your sweet voice say "Hi, Mom!" My heart is broken.
Thinking of you two today and missing Michelle as always....Love, Melissa Shurson
Dear Lynn and Stan,
Thinking of you today, as I often do. Visiting Michelle's website has provided me with much comfort and many smiles these past four years. Thank you for keeping her memory alive in such a profound way.
All the best,
Dina Carpenter (book club friend)
We are remembering lovely Michelle tonight as we approach the 4th anniversary of her going to Heaven so suddenly. You know that she will never be forgotten as she was so vibrant in our midst. We send love and peace.
Marlene and John
Dear Lynn and Stanley,
It is hard to believe that Michelle has been in Heaven for 4 years already. It many ways it seems that we just heard the news. We are thinking of you.
Marlene and John
You'd be the first one of us to kickoff the year we all bravely turn 30. We miss you.
Shocking. I just ran into this website. She was such a beautiful person. It brings tears to my eyes. My heart goes out to all of you.
I knew Michelle through orchestra in high school and came across her website today. Looking at all of the pictures, thoughts and memories, it is apparent that Michelle was loved very much. I am saddened for your loss.
Wow...where has the time gone. I first heard about the passing of my high school friend in June 04' when the Duluth News-Tribune ran an article on her story leading up to Grandma's Marathon. The smiles and Energy in English class and the time/s our paths crossed while we were off at college will be what I remember most!
Lynn and Stanley, we are thinking of you and Michelle today, Mother's Day. If she were here she would be showering you, Lynn, with love and affection. Even though she isn't visibly here we feel she is looking down on you just the same. We wish you love on 'your' day.
Marlene and John
Two years... So much has happened in this time and I constantly yearn to dial a number which Michelle can answer to. I wish I could tell her about my recent move from Hawaii to Washington DC. I think about how I would ask her to come visit me so we could see the Cezanne exhibit at the Smithsonian.
I must keep reminding myself that my experiences are now her experiences, too. It is difficult.
I read the entries of others who recall Michelle's beautiful hair, infectious smile, and kind ways; it truly warms my heart.
I miss my best friend.
March 10th will always be a day we remember with sadness. It will be a day to remember and to reflect on Michelle's many wonderful attributes. We miss her.
I moved from Minnesota to Tennessee last year. Michelle and I knew each other from NSOD. I think of her often and find myself looking twice at one person or another who reminds me of Michelle. Those beautiful brown locks seem to be everywhere. I find myself smiling as someone who looks like her walks by in an airport and my many warm memories of her come rushing back. I miss you Michelle and think of you often.
Time passes but the pain of loss goes on and on. It will be 2 years since Michelle left us so suddenly and at times it seems like just yesterday. We readily admit that we are still in some level of denial as we ask ourselves, how could this happen to us? Even thought March 10th is that fateful date, we tell ourselves that it is not unlike all the other days that have come and gone since. We have had great support from family and friends and we appreciate that so very much. We do believe that she is in a better place and someday we will see her again. We accept that but admit that we are selfish and want her back. We both miss her so and want so much for her to pop in though the door with her smile and bringing in the joy and happiness that always surrounded her wherever she went. Thanks to all who visit this site and read these words. I feel so inadequate when I try to put my thoughts into words. I feel so helpless when I think of how much I loved her and realize that I will never see her again on this earth. I feel so sad for the world as it has been cheated out of the love, kindness and the beauty she possessed. All we can do it trust in God and believe that his teachings are fact and that we will go to that chosen place to see her again. Michelle, we do miss you so much and we will see you someday. God bless and see you soon.
Please visit Michelle’s memorial website at:
Happy Birthday, Michelle, from those of us here on Earth who love you and miss you very much. May you be surrounded by Heavenly music today and every day.
I've been thinking of you, Lynn and Stanley, as you made one of your special trips to Illinois without your precious Michelle. I hope that just being with such wonderful friends and in that familiar place brought comfort to you.
I think of Michelle every day and visit her guest book and beautiful website often just to keep in touch. I picture her as if she were still here being busy and always smiling.However, I do think of the song"If You Could See Me Now." According to its words, she is so much more happy and busy in her new life. What a promise for us. I wish love and peace to you, Lynn and Stan. Keep on being strong. You are an inspiration to the rest of us.
I never knew Michelle too well, but she was still my family. She gave me a elephant stuffed animal that plays music when I was born. Every time I hear the music it plays- I think of Michelle. She was such a kind, loving person, who was so accomplished. She was ready and able to pursue anything. It's been a while since she has passed, but I still think of her often. She is missed, and is still in my thoughts and prayers. Rest in Peace Michelle, and much love to you and your family.
It is Memorial Day weekend and our hearts and minds are on our loved ones who have left us. We remain here on Earth,feeling sad and lonely oftentimes, while they are in the heavenly place paving the way for the rest of us.
Dear Michelle, you are very much in our thoughts and we miss your presence so much. We will remember you especially tomorrow and will keep in mind that we will see you again.
And Lynn and Stanley, you know our thoughts for you. We remember you in our prayers all the time and hope you will continue to be strong. You have made it this far, thereby making us even bigger 'believers.'
It now has been just over a year since Michelle left us so unexpectedly. It has been a very difficult year for our family and also for Sean and his family as well all of those who loved Michelle and were loved by her. We have read all the entries many times that give witness to what kind of a person Michelle was and how she affected all those who were lucky enough to have known her.
We have launched a website in her memory,
Please visit it and feel free to forward it to your friends as we want as many people as possible to see what a wonderful person she was.
March 10th, 2005
Camp Smith, Hawaii
The sun shone brightly on this day. The rain, light sprinkles, like little kisses surrounding me.
It was one year ago, when I'd wishted for the Hawaiian skies to turn black and torrential rains to wash me away. Instead the "Michelle Rain" I've described above, brought me comfort and hope that Michelle was right there with me.
Thank you Michelle
I was just thinking about a funny story a few days ago when I went to cut my hair, as in, take a scissors and cut my own hair. I have curly hair just like Michelle, and we used to call ourselves the "Curly Girls". We all know how much Michelle loved her hair and her beautiful locks. Well, one day she decided she wanted a haircut, and since I had given several people haircuts, including myself, at AGD, she asked her fellow curly girl to do it. I was very nervous, because I thought she would flip out when she saw her locks lying on the floor, but she loved her new shorter hairstyle. It's a fun memory that comes every time I trim my curls.
As I sit here a year after Michelle has passed, I finally have enough courage to write something about my friend, my sister and my family member.
When I think about Michelle and what she has given my life both now and before, the same things come to my mind...Enjoy life! Live it and love it!
Try not to dwell on what has happened or didn't happen, but rejoice in what you have. Let others know how you feel and do not be afraid to show it.
Michelle was amazing. She brought people together who wouldn't typically be together. What is even more amazing- she is still doing that now!
I am so thankful to have been a part of her life. I will always think of Michelle when I see a navy "bug", or when I wear an Alpha Gam sweatshirt, or when I am at a family gathering with Sean, but most of all I will try to live a little more like her.
Enjoy life! Live it and love it!
Dear Michelle, our Heavenly Angel,
For a whole year those of us you left behind have missed you and thought about you. Most of all your Mom, Dad and Snookums have been lost without you. We just keep reminding ourselves that you are safe in the company of Jesus and all the angels and that we WILL see you again.
Your beautiful face, big bright eyes and precious smile are all imprinted on our minds forever.
Your parents are an example to all of us by showing amazing strength throughout this year. No doubt you have been watching them and feeling so proud of them, too. We love you and them very much.
I just cannot comprehend that it has been an entire year since my best friend-- my sister-- has passed away. Every day, I feel the loss as I think about my dear Michelle, but I see messages from her everywhere... in everything that I do.
As I prepare to rush off to work this morning, I have decided to wear something purple.
I know you have all dressed for the day as you are in Minnesota and are probably eating lunch by now. If you didn't wear purple, I ask that you "think purple" for the rest of the day. In fact, think purple every time you want to celebrate the short but powerful life of the most beautiful woman I know.
I will be singing the Beatles song I used to serenade her with on my way to work.
Michelle’s absence is felt every day.
It breaks my heart to think of a world without her – Stan & Lynn without their daughter, Sean without his wife and my life without my friend…
Life is so beautiful and so short – don’t waste a second of it. That’s the most painful lesson I’ve ever learned. I will continue to honor Michelle by making sure I remember that - and act on it - every day.
Someday, we’ll all be together again. And I have no doubt that there will be a beautiful girl with curly hair and a beaming smile waiting to welcome each of us.
Michelle - Still think about you on a daily basis. Everytime I look at your picture it still does not seem right. Maybe that just means how important you were to so many people. Lynn and Dad miss you dearly, but your Mom has proven herself to be a strong and couragous person. The last year has not been an easy one in that household as you have probably been watching.
Well, anyday now our 3rd child will be born (your neice or nephew). Wish you could be hear, but I know are with us in spirit. Like I said though, I think about you EVERYDAY!!!
We love you =)
It is one year since we lost our beautiful Michelle. Our prayers are with Lynn, Stanley and Sean on this day of remembrance, the 10th of March.
Happy Birthday Michelle! Your kind, beautiful soul continues to inspire me to be a better person.
You may be out of our sight right now but never out of our minds. We all love you and miss you but know you are right here with us alot of the time.
Marlene and family
What a special day it was last Saturday when we all gathered to honor you. You have wonderful friends from your sorority. They miss you as we all do. It was so good to meet Sean and his parents, too. We felt your presence that day. It was so clear that you were right there with us celebrating your life which really will NEVER end.
Dear Lynn and Stanley,
John and I will always remember the wonderful little ceremony at Michelle's grave on October 9th. It brought us peace. Thanks for allowing this day to happen. We wish you comfort from your countless happy memories, faith in God's promises, and the love and support of many many friends. May your hearts feel just a little bit lighter.
Your Michelle is a beautiful and sweet young woman. I'm so very sorry for your loss.
(elizabethg1 from alt.support.grief)
Michelle, you are missed by all your friends, and family-Stanley, Lynn and Sean, Today was a Triathlon in Chaska, and it was run in your memory by your friend and I'm sure you were helping out along the way! We love you!!
Dear Lynn and Stan,
I just want to say how sorry I am that it has taken so long to write this. I have to confess that I was not as fortunate to really know Michelle as everyone else. I did know a few things about her that just stuck with me. That is her love for dance, her relationship with lynn and the kind compassionate heart that she had. She was such a sweet person!!! I remember the time that she came up to me and commented on how much she loved my hair and who did it? I just looked at her and thought I love your hair!Whats wrong wiht it? LOL! But then again, do we evey appreciate what we have? I wish I would have had the opportunity to get to know her more. Michelle is the fortunate one. She is where we all long to be some day. We are the ones that are left behind. We are all sent by God as gifts each and every one of us and we are here to stay as long as he needs us here. Michelle is blessed to be called to a higher place. We are the ones that will long to miss her smile, laughter and her tears. I know that she awaits for us to come where she has been sent and dance for Jesus with her. I am sure that she probably feels she cannot do it without her Galaxy group, LOL. But I know she is managing just fine on her own. I know that she would be saying the same thing to you also Lynn and that is I hope you dance. I will keep you and your family in my prayers and know that we will always be here for you! May God strengthen you and your family at this time!
God Bless Always with all my heart,
Corrie Mae Rolf
It's been three months since Michelle passed away. Since then she has been with me to two foreign countries and cheered me on as I did my first triathlon. I know that Michelle was also with me that sick, lonely day about one month ago when I was sobbing my eyes out for her.
I miss Michelle so much-- I just wish I could call her and hear that warm, encouraging voice again. I guess I feel like I can still call her, I just don't need to use the phone anymore. I can hear exactly what she would say to me when I gave her the good or bad news of the day. "Good job!" or "You can do it!" and sometimes, "Well, they're just jealous-- you're the best!"
I wrote the below passage right after Michelle passed away. Lynn and Stan, thank you for honoring me by asking me to speak at Michelle's funeral. I can never tell you how much it meant to me.
We gave a sisterness about us.
We have a sisterness about us.
We understand each other.
You know my stories, my secrets.
I know yours.
I call you my friend…
but deep in my heart,
I call you my sister.
These are the words of Maya Angelou. Michelle sent them to me in a card during my 6-month deployment to the Middle East.
I had moved away from Minnesota after graduation, but this time, living on a ship, there were no phone calls. Consequently, Michelle and I did a lot of writing. She always was so worried for my safety during that time. My command, the Eleventh Marine Expeditionary Unit, had a website, which I think she found before I could ever give it to her—Michelle was so quick on the Internet! She later wrote me in a letter, “So when are they going to post some pictures of you on that 11th MEU Website?! It’s been all boys so far, but I check every day.”
We dreamed that one day we’d live next door on Lake Calhoun and push strollers side-by-side on a sunny afternoon. I made a request to her in one of my letters that she vow that during our seventies we’d wear eccentric hats, find a park bench, and feed the geese together. She replied in a in a subsequent letter to say that, “We will, indeed, dress up and watch people together when we’re old and grey. We can take our grandkids on fun outings together and go shopping and have brunch, and spend our millions! ;)”
Michel le was never afraid to dream about the future, but she was always practical in her actions during the present.
Why we loved Michelle:
-Her curly locks of chestnut hair
-Her warm eyes
-She knows the difference between “Times New Roman” and “Garamond” fonts—AND that she actually has an opinion. She had sent me a copy of her resume, which was in Garamond font. I thought, “Who uses that?” Well, Michelle did.
-Her music and the way we could make music together.
-The way she danced—she had the perfect facial expressions which drew you right in to focus on her.
- The way Michelle would never sign her cards with just a name—there was always a smiley face to go along.
-How there was never enough purple and never too many elephants
-The fact that she and Sean had some of the cutest Halloween costumes you could ever think of. While I was away, she sent me pictures of her as a crocodile and Sean as the crocodile hunter. Sean—thank you for loving her the way you do.
-How she looked like Jaqline Onassis. Michelle could have easily been carved out of marble or painted on canvass for display at the Louvre.
-The way she was the best maid of honor one could ever have. I was so excited for my turn to chase after her train and make sure everything was perfect.
-The way she turned everything she touched into a little patch of heaven.
-Her integrity and moral character.
-The way she was never afraid to love.
My favorite memories of Michelle were those afternoons we spent together at the piano. I’d bring my Italian Arias book and she’d play—beautifully. I’d sing. I always thought that one day, we’d make music together—maybe folk songs—at a coffee shop down town.
In a later card she wrote, “You don’t have to be here for me to be there for you.”
I think about that a lot now.
The day I found out Michelle had passed away, I expected the Hawaiian skies to turn dark grey and to pour down in torrential rain. Instead, when I went outside, the sun smiled brightly upon me while light sprinkles of rain surrounded me, like little kisses. There is no better way to describe that rain than to call it Michelle rain—so graceful—so beautiful—so full of hope and love. That is my Michelle.
I've felt over these past few days, that Michelle has been looking out over all of us. I’ve wondered, what Michelle would say to us if she could. I think she would take each one of us individually so that she could make us feel her entire attention and tell us how beautiful and capable we are. She would tell us she loved us and to go out and make her proud.
Michelle, I will make you proud.
Last night when I wrote in Michelle's journal Teresa Rolf's wonderful message was not yet posted. I want to say that her entry is also just extremely sincere and definitely from her heart. Lynn and Stanley, you are really blessed with awesome friends and I know that they will continue to help you through this very terrible time in your life. And Michelle, how is everything going with you and all your new angel friends? We think of you all the time. We miss you and love you.
Thanks to Shannon Bourquin for her wonderful entry in the guestbook. I knew it was time for the dance recital and that everyone would be missing Michelle's presence that night. I think she must have been dancing right along with the others with her usual big smile.
Love to Lynn, Stanley and Sean from Michelle's Aunt Marlene
Michelle, Lynn, and Stan,
I has taken a long time to place my entry into this book, but it has never been off my mind. It has been such a difficult year in many ways, and has taken me some time to organize my thoughts.
Michelle was so dear to everyone who knew her. Michelle's smile, her enthusiasm, her can do it additude, her love of life, that WAS Michelle. Her love of dance was special to me. I so enjoyed the mother daughter team in my class. She will be missed by all of us for a long, long time.
The relationship between your entire family was an example of what all families should strive to be. Your family has been a shinning example to everyone who came in contact with you.
Lynn, Stan, this is the most difficult time of your life. This is so hard to understand, it seems so unfair, but with time, faith, each other, and good friends that care about you, you will come through this together. With your faith you know she is in the best place possible, and some day you will all be with her. We that are left behind miss her dearly.
While at the funeral I saw all the wonderful pictures, the memories. You are blessed to have all these wonderful memories to keep in your heart. I know it is difficult to think about moving on with your lifes, even trying to be happy seems impossible, but Michelle loves you and will always be with you. Michelle wants you to find a way to be happy. I know she would be saying "I hope you dance"
Lynn and Stan we will always be here for you.
With love, and Gods Blessing,
I went to the NSOD dance recital last week. I went with apprehension. I didn't know how I would feel not seeing Michelle and Lynn on stage. It was hard. I saw Lynn & Stan and I sat behind Sean's parents. This just doesn't get any easier. I see things that remind me of Michelle everywhere. Her passing has made me strive to be a better daughter, a better dancer, a better wife, just a better person overall. She was and continues to be an inspiration to me. I remember one of our last conversations vividly. We were at NSOD and it was just Michelle and I. It was a Saturday and we were stretching out and chatting. We wound up talking about death and dying. We were talking about the September 11th attack and Michelle said that was not how she wanted to pass on. She said she didn't want it to be this big, tragic, worldwide event that was reported on and talked about forever. She said she wanted something peaceful and quick, not an agonizing, slow death. There was so much involved in that conversation that rings so true now, I know Michelle passed as she had wanted to, but far too soon. That wasn't in the plan.
Michelle was indeed an angel here on earth, now she is with all the other angels. I will never forget her smile and her laugh, how she spoke of Sean and her grace and poise. I miss her.
At age 26 Michelle was in her prime--having her dream job, driving her dream car, and getting ready to marry her dream guy. Michelle was one of those people we all aspire to be....compassionate, caring, friendly, funny, driven and good hearted. She had this light around her that seemed to make her stand out amongst others. She was just a wonderful person. She was the editor and copywriter of our company magazine...very creative and bright. In her spare time she belonged to many outside organizations, but the one that I remember most is her love for dance. She and her mother were so excited because they were finally dancing together on stage and they were so happy to be doing so. Last year, Michelle's fiance proposed to her and I've never seen her glow like that before! They were so in love....I could honestly say I've never seen a couple that was so happy and so in love all the time. My husband agreed....they were like a fairytale romance. They set a date, and Michelle and her mom were making all the plans over the course of the months. She had recently found her dress, and was so excited to do some cake tasting.
In March, they went to Lutsen, MN for a short getaway. While they were there Michelle did not feel very well. She went to lay down for awhile to read--she fell asleep and never awoke At 26 she had an aneurysm and was gone before anyone had the chance to say goodbye.
When Michelle was found she had been reading a book and she had stopped reading on this page. I just thought I would share it because I truly think it is remarkable:
&quo t;I can't believe you're gone. Even now I wake with a sense of disbelief. You're gone. Each morning I rise reluctantly, wondering whether to live the day or let it wash over me. I walk numbly, listlessly, drifting like a phantom. I feel apart from my body. I am half a person. You're gone.
From the start everyone knew you were different. There was something more there. A mysterious glow, a strange, unfamiliar beauty. But somehow, I felt like I'd known you all my life. Maybe I did, could it be?
I always believed in you. And I believe you always believed in me."
(from A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius)
As someone on this obituary guestbook said, "Michelle was fit for heaven, no improvements needed. You could simply pin a pair of wings on her, a perfect angel."
I felt compelled to share this because of how badly it hurts when you don't get to say goodbye. Love your family, love your friends, and make sure they know it....life is too short.
It's so sad. Must have been a great individual
I thought this would be easier to write after letting some time pass after losing Michelle - it's not. First, I am heartbroken for Sean, Lynn, Stan, myself and everyone who loved her. This makes no sense to me and everyday I still can't believe she's gone. I can only promise her that I'll honor her by making an effort to be as kind, loyal, caring, supportive and giving as she was. Michelle was gravitational and you couldn't help but love her. Her smile was contagious and her laugh unforgettable. I can only be thankful that she passed at a point in her life when she was purely happy. She is an example to live by: love fearlessly, cherish and celebrate family and friends, be kind to everyone, follow your dreams & sing and dance your heart out.
To Michelle, simply said, thank you for a beautiful friendship. I know you are still with me and I hope you are there to meet me when it's my time. EP.
Lynn, Stan and Sean,
I knew Michelle as a loving daugther of Lynn and Stan. The love of his life for Sean. Please accept my condolences for your loss. Her well thought out and planned life was taken to soon, but she is planning the next phase of being in another place. I am sure duties there will help us understand why she has passed this world.
One of your many best friends,
Roger, Maria Wilson
My thoughts and prayers are with everyone who had the privilege to know this gift from God. Michelle will be sorely missed. I have found consolation in the thought that she is now able to watch over us all without the constraints of distance. Lynn, Stan, Sean, and family, know that we are all sharing your pain and loss. Peace be with you.
To Michelle's family and friends- I only in the last few days heard about Michelle's passing. I am very sorry for your loss. I knew Michelle in high school and always appreciated her quick wit. She certainly made English class much more interesting. I will hug my daughter closer tonight and appreciate how short life really is. My prayers are with all of you.
We fell in love with Michelle on that blustery winter evening of December 4, 1977. That love grew as she brought caring thoughts to all of us who loved her. All through her growing up years she showed who she was and who she would become - a very special person, intelligent, thoughtful with poise, grace, true beauty and a fun loving twinkle in her eyes. Grandpa Frank will especially miss the sweet "Hi Grandpa" when he was fortunate enough to answer the phone when she called. Grandma Jean has memories every day of the precious times spent together. We are ever thankful to God for the time she spent with us. She will always be in our hearts.
Stan and Lynn,
We are so sorry for your loss. It has been a long time since I have seen Ms. Michelle, but what I do remember is her beautiful smile, always very happy and and very thoughtful. Words cannot take away the pain; may time heel your sorrow and may beautiful memories give you strength at this difficult time.
I am so sorry about your dear Michelle. Her Aunt Barb Thompson is a good friend of mine. Just wanted to relate to you that prayers were said in our church in Hutchinson for your family. God bless the memories you have of Michelle.
we all are so sorry for everyones loss of such a beautiful young talented woman with so much potential. Its hard to understand & make reality. I wish we knew her better but at least she was part of the family. I never knew she had so many talents & was so popular. She will truly be missed. We will continue to pray for all of you. Sean...you seem like such a great guy. So sorry you all have to go through this trial. May god bless you & peace be with you all. barbaree & john liedman & edwina & chris Lorensen
To all of Michelle's loved ones:
Please accept my sincere condolences on the loss of Michelle. She blessed those of us that knew her with a radiant smile, a glowing heart and a shoulder that never quit. I knew Michelle in high school and through dance. I remember the look on her face while we were getting ready for competitions and the pure joy that would emerse and just take over the rest of us. She was the kindest person I could have ever wished to know. I wish your family peace and comfort. She will be truly missed.
My Husband Mike and I were very saddened to hear about the loss of Michelle. We all played in the Osseo High School Orchestra together and hung out on an occassional weekend. She had such a bright soul. We remember her big smile and the sunshine she brought wherever she went. Her talents were endless. She was incredibally intelligent and creative. Although we lost contact over the years she is someone we will always remember. We were blessed to have known her. She made the world a better place. We send our prayers to her family, fiance, and friends. You are missed Michelle!
Mike and Sara
I had the opportunity to meet Michelle through AGD, and I'll never forget her as a kind, caring, and generous woman. I remember thinking she was such a beautiful woman, inside and out. She will truly be missed. My heart goes out to all that loved her, and I am keeping all of you in my prayers.
I’m still at a loss for words. Michelle had such a gift for finding joy in the world around her. I remember the smiling, chubby cheeked, curly haired little girl exploring her new world with the innocent curiosity of a child. I watched her grew into a lovely and gifted young woman who effortlessly brought light and happiness to all she met. Her enthusiasm for life was contagious. Michelle’s glass was half full, and when you were with her, you realized that yours was also. She was just that way. You couldn’t help remembering her. Michelle’s life was much too short, but she lived every moment of it and the world is a better place for her having been here. Lynn, Stan, Sean – You are in my thoughts and prayers.
I worked with Michelle at The Business Journal. I did not know her very well, but she always had a smile on her face-I do remember that. I am sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.
I will always remember Michelle's unending smile and love for life. We were in Alpha Gam together and Michelle was one of those people that I just could not help but love. She was like a magnet for all of us, filled with joy and laughter. That is always how I will see her in my mind. To Sean and Michelle's family, you have been and will continue to be in my prayers each day. I am so sorry for this loss that you are enduring and pray for strength for you in this hard time.
Michelle was a delight to everyone around her, and the loss I feel will never be forgotten. I will always remember her permanent smile and her amazing creativity. One day, she was listening to "We've Only Just Begun" by the Carpenters, and within a couple minutes, Michelle made up a dance routine for the entire song. She was very aware of her talents, but more than that, Michelle used those talents to help and encourage everyone around her. I am thankful for every day I shared with her.
Michele was always fun to be around and she will be sorely missed. I remember her all through Junior and Senior High being a big part of "the gang." My best to all others who will miss her.
Dear Sean, Lynn, Stan, and all Michelle's family and friends:
I just heard about Michelle from Tina Spetch. I am truly shocked and saddened by the news. Michelle and I were good friends throughout junior high and high school. I have so many wonderful memories of playing music and tennis together and just hanging out and having fun. She was such a kind and sympathetic person. My heart goes out to all of you for your loss.
As a colleague of Lynn's for a few years, I have come to appreciate both Lynn and Stan personally and professionally. Lynn spoke of Michelle frequently at the office. It was evident just how special a relationship the two had by how Lynn's face would light up when speaking of her daughter. Most Mothers glow when speaking of their children, but Lynn's glow was exceptional and evident to everyone around her. I only had the opportunity to meet Michelle once - when Stan brought Michelle to a neighbors to purchase a car a few years ago. Not unlike Lynn, even then you could see the love and fondness Stan had for Michelle just in this casual interaction. After attending the beautiful service in honor of Michelle, and hearing the loving, eloquent, words and fondness for her from family and friends, it made me regret I did not know this wonderful individual more as I do her Mother and Father. Frankly, it comes as little surprise that Michelle was a gracious and dynamic as she was, as greatness does not fall far from the cloth. Lynn and Stan, your loss is shared by your colleagues/friends who care for you deeply and wish you comfort in these difficult days. We look forward to the day you are comfortable to join us again as we miss you and your warm smile very much! Our continued prayers are with Sean and you both.
I just received word this morning of this shocking news. I met Michelle in elementary school, and we became best friends in Junior High. I still remember walking to her house and thinking it was so cool that she lived so close...and yet so far away (it was at least a couple of blocks!!) I went to her dance recitals and we played in the orchestra together. She choreographed my gymnastics floor routine, and it won me first place at one meet. I remember the first time she colored her hair with permanent hair color. The stuff looked like mud, and she was so nervous and excited. It turned out great! I remember sitting around and talking about boys. I am so happy to hear that she had found the love of her life.
My deepest sympathies go out to her family, fiance, and close friends. Michelle made a huge impact on my life in the early years. I thought of her often over the years...wondering where she was and what she was doing. I am overjoyed to know that she was happy and loved. My thoughts and prayers are with her and all those who loved her.
Lynn & Stan: I am shocked, saddened, and also frightened by your loss. It reminds me that each and every day is a special day in and of itself. I have so many fond memories of your Michelle and my Allison in dance class - all of which seems like only yesterday. You are in my prayers.
What a loss. The world seems so empty without her. But what a gain for heaven ~ she was just too good to stay here. I will never forget Michelle's smile, her singing, her piano playing, her genuine interest and love for everyone she met, her creativity, her silliness, her thoughtfulness, her big heart and most of all her unwavering friendship. Sean, Lynn, Stan, Paul, I don't know how you even begin to cope with something like this. I pray for you often. Thank you for sharing her.
Both Jill and I were shocked and saddened to hear this news. Michelle and Jill danced together for years and as their mothers, we have many memories of big hair, sewing sequins on costumes, and spending all our Saturdays at competition. It seems so senseless to lose such a bright young woman with such potential. Know that we are all grieving with you - may your memories sustain you as you struggle through this. We are glad we had the chance to know Michelle.
Dad and Lynn, We just want to let you know that you are on our minds at all times. We are here for you at anytime you need us and our door is always open.
Lynn - Gail, Jeff and I would not have had it any different over the past few days and plan to continue to be there for you always. You are a Mom to us also. And don't forget you are a wonderful Grandma to Celia, Calvin, Chad and Travis.
We LOVE you guys to the moon and back again.
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of Michelle. She was the most wonderful girl, so creative, loving, and fun. I wish I could have been there, I am on cruise with the Navy, and thinking about you from the other side of the world. Please accept my most sincere sympathies.
I found out about Michelle passing away through my sister, Laurie, a close friend of Michelle’s throughout high school. I, unfortunately, never got the chance to get to know her but always remember her smiling and laughing—just living life the way she knew how to. Even though I may not have gotten to know her, she was a shining star because all of her friends shine just as bright.
Only through reading these entries and glancing through the photos made me realize that Michelle’s fiancé was a classmate of mine throughout college. Sean, cherish every memory you have of Michelle. God works in mysterious ways and I believe your strength will guide you through this. Know that many thoughts and prayers are with you and your family—including mine.
To Michelle's Family and Fiance, from Patrick Zacher's Dad and Step-Mom: How kind of you to reach out to us, in the midst of your grief. We are total strangers, linked by the awful bond of losing your Michelle and our Patrick, both age 26, both engaged, both suddenly. We can only hope that all of you are as surrounded by love as we have been during this heart-wrenching time. The loving concern of others can not take away the pain, but it surely does ease it. As Tiny Tim said in A Christmas Carol, "God bless us, One and All."
Dear Lynn, Paul and families,
Although over the years we had lost touch, I was saddened today to learn from Bret of your terrible loss. Bret, Chad and I want to express our deepest sympathies. Although Bret and Michelle reconnected at the University of Minnesota in their early college years, I mainly remember Michelle in her much younger years. I remember visiting at the hospital to get our first look at Michelle. Oh, it only seems like yesterday even though it was long ago. From all the expressions of love in the guest book, it looks as if Michelle grew to be quite a young woman. We will always remember her and the good times we all shared. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.
Cheryl, Bret and Chad Morse
Lynn & Stan
We send our deepest sympathy to you and your loved ones. We Never had the honor of meeting michelle, but by all the entries listed in this book and her pictures. We just know she to be someone very special. We are so sorry
Gary and I only met Michelle one time, and she was a light in the room. We send our prayers to her family and friends. Her light will continue to shine in them!
My deepest sympathy to all of Michelle's loved ones. I didn't know Michelle very well but will always remember her beautiful smile and friendly nature. She will be greatly missed here at Larson Allen.
Dear Franta family,
As children grow up together in a neighborhood like Boundary Creek, we all come to know each other's families. Michelle and Jessi were together all the way through school, and we only heard wonderful things about Michelle. She was a bright, beautiful, accomplished young lady. Our prayer is that God will fill your hearts with lovely memories and give you strength and support at this difficult time. May Michelle's life inspire all of us to live a life full of hope and joy.
For Michelle's family and friends,
We wanted to take the time to send a picture of a special friendship that we enjoyed between Kirsten and Michelle when they were just babies and toddlers. Kirsten and Michelle were both in daycare together from the time that they were babies until they were around 4 years old. Kirsten always wondered what had happened to her friend Michelle. She missed the friend that she had spent so many hours playing "Woodsies" with. They eventually did find each other again in high school and actually worked on some projects together.
We loved the Michelle that we knew. She was a sweet, even-tempered wonderful young girl who grew into a beautiful woman. Our prayers, love, and heartfelt thoughts go to everyone in her life.
For family and friends-
I met Michelle in high school and an immediate friendship emerged. As with many of our high school friends distance separated us after graduation, but the friendship would be everlasting. After the last time I saw Michelle (August '03) I remember thinking, "She's found the love of her life, she's having success with her job, and she just purchased her dream car the VW Beetle. This girl is in her prime!" I was so proud and happy for her. The loss of her life is a true tragedy.
Her fun-loving spirit, love of music and dance, and strong character had an effect on every person that crossed her path. I am so thankful that she was a part of my life. She will be sadly missed. My love and sympathy to all.
For Michelle - IYGDDN
Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. Michelle's smile is one of my earliest memories from Alpha Gam. She was my bid day buddy. My heart truly goes out to all of you.
Love, Ann Bosman
Stan & Lynn:
My heart and prayers are with you and your family during this time in your life. I have been richly blessed by Michelle's journey, which was shared through the pictures that were displayed and stories shared by her family and friends! Please know that she continues to be a blessing with the legacy she left behind. I love you both!!
I worked closely with Michelle for a brief period of time in 2001 at The Business Journal in Minneapolis. We were only a few months apart in age, with common career aspirations, so I was naturally drawn toward her as a friend. When she moved on to LarsonAllen, we tried to keep in touch via e-mail, and often ran into each other in the downtown skyway. I last saw her in December, and we chatted about how we needed to get together for lunch some day, thinking we had all the time in the world to plan such a visit... My heart goes out to her parents--as a parent myself, I cannot imagine the enormous pain that comes with losing a child.
My Dear Sean,
I am shockingly dumbfounded by this very untimely demise of Pi, which I learned of from Jessica upon my return from Miami this morning. Son, please accept my profound and heartfelt condolences. Though I do not know what else to say or how to say it, I am convinced of two things: (1) that you were, indeed, made for each other, and (2) you will meet again because the promises of this life WILL be fulfilled in the next.
Sean, you can be strong when you want to be--now is the best time to do so. Cherish and smile at all the lovely memories you shared, and remember her in the knowledge that she really hasn't left you---that, in fact, she is just around the corner!
May the peace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you, now and for evermore!
I'm sorry to hear about Michelle. I was an acquaintance of hers in high school and would run into her from time to time at the U. She was very bright, extremely positive, and one of the nicest persons I have ever met. My condolences to her family and friends.
My deepest sympathies to everyone who knew Michelle. I got to know Michelle during my first two years at the U through Alpha Gam. It was a pleasure to dance, talk dance, and compete and practice with her during those Spring Jam Ballyhoo dance competitions. She was so talented with a great energy for life. I will certainly remember her creativity and fun.
Although, I didn’t have the luxury of seeing Michelle’s smiling face every day, I worked with her at LarsonAllen on a regular basis via phone and email. Not only did she remind me of grammar rules I hadn’t thought of since high school, but she took the time to get to know me and opened up, so I had the chance to know her some. We talked about our love for animals, chocolate, and reading. We laughed at how our meetings didn’t stay on track because we couldn’t resist talking about my cat or Pooh Bear. She shared her excitement about her engagement with me. There’s nothing I didn’t like about Michelle. She was kind, sensitive, smart, funny and beautiful. I will miss working with her… No one will be able to edit my writing like she did. The best way I can describe how I feel about this devastating tragedy is through a Bible verse – Psalms 137:2 – “We hanged our harps upon the willows in the midst thereof.”
My heart and prayers go out to her family, friends, coworkers, teachers and absolutely everyone who ever spent any time with Michelle.
I was saddened to hear of your daughters death. You and your family are in my prayers.
The many thoughts we have just read confirm the beauty of spirit and body that are (in spirit, yes) so uniquely Michelle. We remember her adorable baby face, the change in photos as she passed through grade school, high school and college; always smiling, always looking for and fulfilling a challenge succes- fully and happily. We saw Michelle infrequently but were fortunate to have updates from Jean and Frank, accomplishments and future plans. To Lynn, Paul and Laura, MaryAnn & Jim, Mark and Trish, Jean & Frank, we are so sorry not to be there with you and hug each of you. We pray for Michelle and for all of you that you will find solace in the compassion, prayers and thoughts expressed by all of your friends as you try to understand the loss of your beautiful Michelle. Our love, Aunt Barb and Uncle Pat.
I had the privilege of meeting Michelle only through Sean's eyes, when he told me of their plans together, while we were fishing at Lac Seul, Ontario. Michelle's light beamed through Sean's eyes at the mere mention of her name. I knew then that she was a very special person, and he was indeed fortunate to have met her and known her love.
Nancy and I are praying for Michelle and for all whose lives have ever been touched by this rare gem of a person.
I met Michelle when I was at the end of my college career. I remember thinking that she had a sort of warmth about her, and I had to talk to her and find out what fueled this radiance. Well, I sat down at the huge tables in the eating area at AGD and talked to her. I remember thinking that I was really glad to have met her and I was excited to see her grow. As we got older and I moved into my 'grown up' life, I periodically ran into Michelle. I loved hearing about the goings on in her life. She always had something interesting and challenging on her plate. May be that is what fuled that radiance. May be it was just a passion for life that few of us harness. I am not sure what fuled that spark but what I do know is that I will miss that radiance and that smile. Her unwaivering kindness and warm soul is something that I will always remember her by.
My deepest sympathies go out to all who loved her.
I met Michelle at an event last summer reuniting Sean's family with the "Card Club" that his grandparents belonged to. She was such a beautiful vibrant girl. These families, the Kukeilka's and McPherson's have been a part of my life for as long as I am able to remember. As I have been processing this tragedy, I have found comfort in thinking that Sean's grandma is there to welcome Michelle into heaven as are many of Irene's dear friends. She will be in good company.
I am moved by the beautiful tributes to this wonderful person.
You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Mimi Puchtel King
I was an Alpha Gam at the University of Minnesota with Michelle, and lived in the house with her for two years. She often played the piano in the living room at the house, and I remember being constantly amazed at her ability to play most anything by ear! In every memory that I have of Michelle, there is a smile on her face. This sweet, talented young woman will be deeply missed. My heart goes out to Sean and her family.
Stan and Lynn:
We can only say that God has a very special task for Michelle at this time for him to call her up. This is something that we as humans on earth are not always able to understand. We are all with you at this time and are here to assist both of you in any way.
Mike and Jean
I had Michelle as one of my 6th grade students at Edinbrook Elementary. She was one of those students you never forget. She never entered a room without a ray of sunshine following her! She radiated compassion for everyone around her. She worked so hard and she encouraged those around her to work even harder!
Michelle was an incredible writer. She loved to share her writing and I loved to read it! She once wrote a humorous poem that was so incredible for a 6th grader. While it was meant to be funny, it had meaning way beyond the words! I still read that poem to my students every year. I have the original and would love to return it to her mom. In the 14 years since Michelle has left my classroom, I have talked about her every year...not just her poem, but about her hard work, her desire to accomplish so much more in life.
Michelle was an angel here on earth, and now she has truly earned her wings. She will always be a part of my memory and my heart. Thank you so much for allowing me to share not just a year with your daughter, but also her writing, and her love of learning!
I am so sorry! Please know that my prayers and thoughts are with you.
I will always remember Michelle's selfless kindness and joy for the happiness of others ... her sharing in our delight at the birth of our daughter, Zora; her devotion and support of her friends and family.
I will never forget Sean singing a karaoke love song to Michelle at the Poodle club; my sister said she had never seen two people so in love.
Michelle will be sorely missed, but all of us can look back with happiness on the time we had together, and know that we're better for having known her.
Our thoughts and prayers are with Sean and her family. Please let us know if you need anything at all.
Michelle enriched the lives of everyone she knew and loved. That blessing will never be lost or forgotten. I pray that everyone who loves her will find the strength to cope, and the will to pass that blessing along.
Michelle was one of my all-time favorite students. Her kindness and good nature endeared her to everyone who knew her. She was a fine musician and a fine young person who will be sorely missed. Words fail me when I try express the sense of loss I feel. We used to talk and laugh before and after school, and on orchestra tours and during class, where she was always one of the first to be seated and ready to play. Michelle always knew her part and practiced hard. She was a leader, both musically and spiritually. My sympathies to her family and friends.
I first met Michelle two years ago upon her arrival at LarsonAllen. She joined our small but close knit Marketing group as the copywriter for Effect. She was the most positive person and as others have said, always had a twinkle in her eye. I often teased her about her addiction to Caribou Coffee, only to laugh at myself later for becoming hooked! My husband and I had the opporunity to be with Michelle and Sean for several company and department events and there was no happier couple out there. She will be greatly missed.
While inadequate, please accept my deepest condolences. Sonia informed of your loss, and it pained her deeply. She has always spoken glowing of Michelle, and her bright spirit.
The wounds of loss will
never heal, but time and grace
will salve awful pain.
You are on our minds and in our hearts continually. We have shed many tears over this unspeakable loss to us all. We are very thankful for the internet right now as we can feel connected to you even though we are so far away. As you can see by Michelle's guestbook, you are NOT going through this alone and we will all continue to support and uphold you.
We are finding amazing support since church services here at Palm Creek Park this morning. I asked for prayer for you and the pastor also did also. Many here are praying for you including Bill and Betty Koski who send their most sincere sympathy and concern. You will be uppermost in our thoughts as you go through the visitation tonight and the service tomorrow. God bless and embrace you.
Love, Marlene and John
I didn't know Michelle very well, but I knew her well enough, through family gatherings, to know that she was a very caring and thoughtful person. She was always smiling and had so much energy and love to offer people. This is a tragic thing, and I can not believe the suffering the family must be going through, especially her fiance. My thoughts are with the family. I am so sorry for everyone that this effects.
Michelle became a part of our lives through our cousin Sean. Her warmth and sincerity has been a great addition to our family. The love between Sean and Michelle was recognizable to everyone. We are grateful to have had Michelle as a part of our lives. She is truly missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with our cousin Sean and Michelle's family.
Jenny, Stephanie and Alexa
Michelle always lit up the offices at The Minnesota Daily, at the U of M. She will be missed.
I will keep Michelle, Sean, & her family in my prayers forever. I just recently started to really get to know Michelle. I am a fellow AGD sister. Michelle was helping me with creating a webpage for our alumnae group. She did such an excellent job. I could always tell that she was a bright, talented, and dedicated person. She had an infectious smile & such a positive glow of energy around her. I am truely sorry for your loss. Though she may be gone, her memory & love will live on in your hearts.
As Michelle's father and stepmother, the well of emptiness we feel seems almost bottomless, and yet as we read this guestbook and remember, there are some smiles mixed with our tears. Smiles at the memories of all the lives she touched in such a loving way, old friends, new friends, and all those we never met. Michelle brought more joy and love to this world in her all too short life than many do in 80 or 90 or even 100 years. Her love and her light will shine on always for all of us. So, some beautiful summer day, when the sun seems to shine just a little brighter than usual, we will know why.
Our deepest thanks to all those who have joined with us offering support and prayers, we are overwhelmed.
We love you Michelle, as you loved us, as you loved life. You will remain with us. There will always be sunny summer days.
Dad and Laura
Lynn and Stanley,
I can only try to understand the grief that you are experiencing at the loss of Michelle, and no one has answers for why such a thing could ever happen. But you can take comfort in the love and support of those around you, and know that you will see her again.
We are all so very shocked and saddened by this; we will all miss her very much...
With love from her cousin,
We were so sad to hear about what happened! While growing up, Michelle lived one house away and was a good friend to my daughter Angie and her sisters Tiffany & Stacey. The kids have so many fun memories of times with Michelle. Building forts in the woods, swinging, playing with cabbage patch kids, building snow forts in the cul-de-sac and summer bike rides to name a few. Michelle was a good piano player and would give me a little concert from time to time. Her halloween costumes were always the envy of the neighborhood, having beautiful costumes hand made by her Grandma. Lynn, I'm so glad that I ran into you and Michelle at Arbor Lakes a few months back. I'll always remember the big hug she gave me and her smiling eyes. She was so happy about her upcoming wedding. As I watched you two having lunch together, it was easy to see the love she had for you and what a great Mother-daughter friendship you had.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all at this time.
Bonnie & Ed Rippberger
It is so hard to comprehend that Michelle is no longer with us. She had a light within her that glowed wherever she went. She was the absolute sweetest person I have ever known. I know that I will be a better person for having had the chance to know Michelle. My thoughts and prayers are with her family, Sean, his family and all that have known her. She has left a mark on my heart that will never be forgotten.
Michelle's beauty and zest for life were so true and pure. She made a difference in those of us that were honored to know and love her. She believed that the world was good and found the positive in everything. I always saw Michelle with a sparkle in her eye and a smile on her face. Her love for Sean, her family and her group of friends was so evident.
I truly feel like I am a better person for having known her. I am going to strive to carry on her love for life and to be a better person.
To Sean, Michelle's family and everyone that has been touched by this remarkable young lady...my thoughts and prayers go out to you all during this extremely painful time.
She has forever left a mark on me and I will miss her terribly.
I knew Michelle through book club, and she was such a bright, loving, beautiful woman. Her kindness is what I will remember her the most for. She loved all of us in book club and was always willing to tell us that in so many wonderful ways. Michelle wanted to save the world and believed it was worth saving. I miss her very much and hope to keep her memory alive.
This beautiful, beautiful young woman, Michelle, graced all of her family and friends with her sweet nature, and loving ways in this world. Her Uncle Jim and I have been reminiscing, and concluded that Michelle was fit for heaven, no improvements needed. You could simply pin a pair of wings on her, a perfect angel. As much as we are grieving, we know that every person whose life she touched, who comes here to read these pages, feels this loss, too. Michelle's circle of friends and family was very wide, indeed, and we offer our sympathies to all of you who knew her. Your notes here are a comfort, and we thank you.
Sean, you are already part of our family. Know that we love you, and our prayers are with you.
Peanut, we will miss you forever.
Auntie MaryAnn and Uncle Jim Moenck
As Michelle’s mother and stepfather we want to thank all of you who have left messages and also those of you who have read the wonderful words that have been written about our beautiful daughter Michelle. We also thank you for the prayers that have been said for Michelle. She was a true gift from God and her mother’s only child. He blessed us with a daughter whose beauty and talents were endless. She loved the piano and her violin. She loved to read and was a member of a book club that would read and meet to discuss the books they read each month. Her real love of life was dance as she had been a dancer continuously since she was 4 years old. Michelle and her mother were especially happy to be dancing together in the same dance class at Northland Dance Studio. Her mother said it was like a dream to see Michelle beside her at the dance classes. She had the greatest group of friends all the way from grade school, through high school, college and into her professional life. She was the light of our life and she shone that light on every person that she interacted with and always left things better than she found them. Michelle and her mom were so excited as they were planning a beautiful fall wedding to the love of her life, Sean. We are crushed for this loss and we are in pure agony for Sean. They had just been approved for financing to buy a home. They were so excited to be looking for that perfect little house that they could decorate where they would start their married life and family. I must tell you that the pain of our loss is virtually unbearable and we have been told that time will help. Well, that may be true but I’m not sure that there is enough time to allow the sadness to lessen. We ask you to pray for Michelle and thank all of you for those prayers.
Stan and Lynn
Since the day I met Michelle, her effortless, unwavering love for and support of her family and friends have made me want to be a better person. To all whose lives were touched by this beautiful person: you are in my heart.
To all of those who also loved Michelle:
I adored Michelle. Her beauty inside and out were unmatched, as evidenced by all those who have signed this book before me. I am devestated by this loss of both a friend and a good soul in this world. If more people approached life like Michelle did, the world would be a much better place. To her parents and to Sean, my heart and prayers go out to you. Please contact me if you need anything.
Dear Lynn and Family, I am so sorry and saddened to hear the news of Michelle's passing. The memory that will always stay in my heart is of the day Bonnie and I saw you and Michelle having lunch a few months ago. Michelle was glowing with happiness. I am so thankful to have been given those precious few minutes of conversation. I cherish the wonderful memories of our Brownie and Girl Scout days and watching the girls grow up through the years. Michelle was so beautiful and delightful; everyone who knew her will remember her shining smile, warm heart and gentle composure. My heart aches for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers and have our deepest sympathy.
Linda and Jon Trosvig, Maple Grove
Michelle's fiancé Sean is my cousin. We had the pleasure of meeting Michelle at many family functions and were so excited for their upcoming wedding. Although we didn't know Michelle that well her love my cousin was so obvious, and that alone spoke volumes about her. Our hearts are breaking for you all. Our deepest condolences.
Julie, Devin and Ella Peterson
My thoughts go out to all of us that were blessed to know Michelle and how she touched our lives in many special ways. Michelle will be greatly missed by her family and friends but will live through us.
I would like to express my sympathy to the Franta and McPherson family. My thoughts are with you during this time as well as into the healing process ahead.
Sean loved Michelle deeply and they brought the best out in each other. I will always remember Michelle with a smile on her face and a curiosity in her eyes because of the love and excitement they gave to one another. Thank you, Sean, for introducing Michelle into my life and into your other friends and family.
She will be missed, but not forgotten.
My deepest and most heartfelt sympathy goes to Michelle's parents, grandparents, aunts, and uncles, and especially to her fiance`. We have all been privileged to have had Michelle in our lives and we'll miss her terribly.
Thank you to all who have and are yet to give their condolences.
As I am only Seans aunt and torn apart by this tradgedy, I can only dare imagine your grief.
They weren't just soulmates, they synergistically complimented one another.
Old fashioned romantics, old fashioned values, looking for a charming old fashioned home to start their life together.
In Michelle you nurtured a warm and beautiful young woman. Gifted & wisely grounded. May her warmth envelop you every day.
I pray for you, your family & Michelle's beautiful spirit.
I pray that one day my Sean will find his heart again.
I was shocked and extremely saddened to hear of Michelle's passing. I grew up in the same cul-de-sac with her and we hung out almost everyday when we were growing up. I will never forget her and will always miss her. My prayers go out to her family.
TO THE FAMILY,
DEEPEST SYMPATHY TO YOU ALL I GREW UP WITH MICHELLE, FROM ELEMENTARY TO HIGH SCHOOL. SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR LOSS. PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU ALL AT THIS TIME.
Hello Stan And Lynn
Mike and Jean Day would like to express our sincere sympathy in the loss of your daughter.
I will talk to you later OK??
Mike and Jean Day
Michelle- I miss you girl. Galaxy wont be the same without you. I loved watching you in there. You were part of the group no one will ever beable to replace you. I will always remember how long your legs were next to me. And I could never forget when I had to be your mom for a day. Those were great time. I miss you tons.
I met Michelle two years, upon my arrival at LarsonAllen. She interviewed me for a company bio. From that moment on, everytime that I encountered Michelle, she was extremely friendly and always offered a warm smile.
My family and I would like to offer our sincerely condolences.
As I only knew Michelle after graduating from the University of Minnesota, where we were officers together for the Twin Cities Alumnae Chapter of Alpha Gamma Delta. Michelle was a hard-working, dedicated, and devoted young woman who stood her ground on issues and efforts she believed in. She had a wonderfully warm personality and always carried a positive self-assurance. I know I will think of her often as being a person who truly cared about others. Michelle and her family will remain in my thoughts and prayers.
I got to know Michelle back in college at the University of Minnesota. She was dating my good friend and roommate at the time. She was fun, energetic, and a joy to be around. I don't remember a time I didn't see a smile on her face. She had a passion for music and dance, and she was very talented at both. Michelle, you will be missed. God Bless, DGUS.
Lynn & Stan - my sincere sympathy on your loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
I was deeply saddened to hear of the news of Michelle's passing. Growing up with her as my classmate and cousin Angie's neighbor and best friend it is still unbelieveable to me that this has happened. My thoughts and prayers are with all the family, friends and loved ones whos lives were touched by knowing Michelle.
We did not know Michelle, but our son works at Larson Allen and told us of this tragedy. We will pray for the family. May you know God's strength at this time.
I probably knew Michelle best back when we were in high school, but really, that doesn't seem so long ago. She always kept us laughing with her ditziness, for lack of a better word! Michelle was a genuinely funny, fun and loving person. Even though we didn't see eachother much after high school because of geography, the times we did hang out were like we never missed a beat. About a year ago, the girls took a trip to Arizona and we had such a great time catching up and reliving old memories. Over the past 10 years, Michelle has touched my heart and my life and for that, I am extremely grateful. My prayers go out to all of her family, friends and loved ones. With love and sympathy....
MY SINCEREST CONDOLENCES TO ALL THE FAMILY AND FRIENDS OF MICHELLE. WE ALL LOVED HER AND WILL SADLY MISS HER.
We are so sorry for your loss. You are all in our thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.