As we approach the holidays, your absence is felt more deeply. You would be sharing your excitement to have everyone together "under the same roof." We would know what the weather is looking like for everyone's travel days, and you would be planning meals and downloading new apps for the grandkids. Iowa beat Michigan today, so you'd have some positive things to talk about despite their overall season. Maybe you had a hand in the victory so Dustin and Troy could justify the cold. Thanksgiving is a time of remembrance and gratitude. I could not be more grateful to have had you as my dad. You would be glad to know that Eli is a Packers fan, and Hayden practices standing on her head almost every day. I miss our winter vacation mornings with coffee and sweatpants. I will miss losing (sometimes) at Trivial Pursuit because of you stepping in when the boys were struggling. I miss your smile, I miss your hugs, I miss our conversations. You were the only person I could call before 7 am. You were the mitten that held the fingers together, with a soft hand and a tucked thumb. When you read what your friends and colleagues say and know of you, it is amazing to feel that they really did know who you were. You were you, and you were absolutely one of a kind. I miss you terribly, and I love you with all my heart.