I wanted to share with folks the words I spoke at Sean's service today. This will allow people unable to attend the service to still share in the experience.
Thank you to all who have posted kind words or stories. They have gone a long way towards helping his family heal.
Like all of us here today, Sean had many facets to his personality. But he had three very distinct qualities that made him special.
One was his ability to offer his family unconditional love. After his death, when I was trying to qualify how he loved his family the phrase unconditional love came to me. In my life I have aspired to it, but find it terribly hard to truly let go of all the conditions that can be attached to love. For Sean it was easier to just love, in its purest form, unburdened by judgment or restrictions.
Another gift of Sean's was his ability to put others wants and needs above his own. When we were writing Sean's obituary and came to the part of how he was known for selflessly always being ready to help someone, we were all a little run down and some wanted to know why the word selflessly was so integral to the sentence. Well, I think we all like to help other people and at times we may be able to do it selflessly….., but for Sean it came naturally….all the time.
The third quality of Sean's I have a special appreciation for. As my son Basil can tell you, I am often a grumpy mommy.....
No matter how short time was, there was always time for the child and nothing was more important then protecting their tender souls.
The memory of Sean's extraordinary patience with children will always be with me. It will inspire me to be a more patient Mom.....although he always said how proud he was of me and how I was with Basil.
As a family we are loving, learning and growing so much through the loss of our precious brother. Sean is the first of our family to leave. We don't find it hard to believe that in his final act he again put our needs above his own. Being the first to leave so that we might learn, once again, to come home to our roots and to cherish what really matters.
Through all the adversity that life threw at Sean, he never faltered. When we talked, no matter what challenge he was facing he would always say………”It's all good.”
To which I would often say ”No Sean, it isn't all good.” And this is definitely not “all good”. Your family is heartbroken…., but we are allowed some comfort that your pain is at an end and that you will be there waiting for us when our time comes
I saw a quote at Father Mike's rectory that captured Sean's being.
This is what it said:
I've seen and met angels
wearing the disguise
of ordinary people…… living ordinary lives.
Sean was….. and now is…… our Angel.