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April 01, 2014
Dear Dad,

Well Dad today's the day 1 year ago that you left us. It was actually 8:00 a.m. when you began your journey to Heaven. You looked so peaceful. All the water in your tummy and legs you had been retaining along with all those red blisters disappeared. You looked perfect Dad. I just stood there touching you, caressing you and placing a Kleenex over a cut you had on your arm. You were so warm to the touch. I kept thinking today is APRIL FOOLS DAY, are you playing a joke on all of us? I know you weren't, it was just wishful thinking. A lot of family came by to say their goodbyes. I felt like my heart had broken into a million pieces, but I could also see that you weren't in any pain anymore. You looked so handsome and so restful. So I had to let you go. In the meantime dear Aunt Mary was getting ready to start her journey into Heaven. Aunt Mary left us at 10:00 a.m. I couldn't believe that you both left us on the same day 2 hrs. apart. For 2 siblings to pass on the same day, I don't even know what to call it. Knowing that you both were together did comfort me. Being the gentleman you always have been you chose to go first so your older sister wouldn't be alone. You accompanied her and then stepped aside as Uncle Joe came for his wife. As I've said before, what a celebration all of you must be having in Heaven. You know Dad, I'm still waiting for you to come to me in my dreams. It hasn't happened yet. I haven't seen your vehicle since last October and I'm still waiting to see it again. I look for it every time I go to Napa. As Loretta has told me, I'm sure your telling us to get on with our lives and we have. But a day doesn't go by that you aren't in my heart and mind. I LOVE YOU and MISS YOU SO MUCH!

Love,
Your daughter, Saundra

P.S. Hey Dad how did you get the S.F. Giants to win? Everyone knows it was a miracle. I know you were there. The rain finally stopped so the Oakland A's were able to play their home opener, they looked good but I think they needed you too.
March 31, 2014
Hi Dad,

One year ago today we were celebrating Easter, our last holiday with you. You were now asleep on your way to Heaven. You put up a good fight, hung on for as long as possible, but your body was so tired Dad. We knew we had to let you go. Even though it was Easter, God Bless our family, they still came to see you and spend this holiday with us. Loretta in the kitchen making breakfast. The rest of us being with you in the living room making you as comfortable as possible. What an awesome family we have Dad. I know you could feel and see our presences. At the same time, Aunt Mary was also on her way to Heaven. Kathy and her family were having to experience exactly what we were all going through. I really don't think any of us knew that day was going to be our last. I know the rest of our family in Heaven were patiently waiting for the both of you. We got to have you both 1 more day, Aunt Mary in Napa and you Dad in Vallejo. I know you both were communicating and what you both had in stored for us was going to be a big surprise. When leaving that evening was one of my hardest nights. I didn't know if that was going to be my last night to say good night. You'd been asleep for 2 days and I knew I was never going to hear you whisper to me again, "Saundra go get me a "Sneaker" I'll eat it later when your mom is asleep." Of course I would comply, I would tuck it in your pocket and tell you, if you get caught "don't volunteer any information." Your words Dad, I live by them. I felt like 2 kids trying to get away with something. One night mom heard the candy wrapper, you got busted. Boy did we hear about it the next day from her, you denied it. Another memory I wanted to share with you Dad and there will be many more to come. I LOVE YOU and MISS YOU as always. Give Aunt Mary an extra big hug and kiss for me and to the rest all of our family in Heaven. Until tomorrow Dad.

Love,
Your daughter, Saundra

P.S. Hey, Dad. It's opening day today for baseball. It's raining right now. The S.F. Giants home opener is next week so they are playing out of town today, but the Oakland A's home opener is this evening here in Oakland and it's really coming down and windy. I hope you're playing some baseball in Heaven. There is more than enough of you to form some teams. Show them what you've got. Get behind home plate and show them that fantastic catcher you are. "Throw them out in Heaven, Dad!" Jonathan is back to playing baseball this year, after recuperating from his ankle surgery. Please keep an eye on him Dad. I know I give you alot of work, but it's out of LOVE!
March 31, 2014
Hi Joe,
Tomorrow is one year that you and Mary left us. I miss you both and remember you both in my prayers every day.
I know you have a lot of family in Heaven so you are not alone.
Mary Abeyta
March 29, 2014
Hi Dad,

A year ago today was our last day to enjoy your conscience sparkling personality. Thank God cousin John stopped by to see you the night before. When he walked in he saw how hard of a time we were having trying to wake you up to take your much needed medicine, he immediately took over. John with his loud rugged voice said, "Uncle Joe wake up!" You barely opened your eyes but you heard him and replied, "Hey John" and you tried so hard to swallow your medicine, and you did. That medicine is what kept you alive Dad for the entire month of March. I will be eternally grateful to John for what he was able to accomplish, he gave us you 1 more day. What a wonderful family we have Dad. We are so lucky to have such a large family and that's what you always wanted, to always be together. A year ago this month of March was such a whirl wind ride being with you. You gave all of us a reason to be together. We had so much fun and did we have some wonderful meals and the sweets, um what can I say. Dad you were like a little boy in a candy store. How you loved your strawberry milkshakes and your "Stogies" cookies that resembled cigars. We got to celebrate Loretta's and my birthdays and our last holiday, Easter. Every day was a celebration of life. So many family and friends came over to be with you. When they'd walk in your eyes would light up. Everybody loves you Dad! When the girls and I came over that morning wondering if we were going to have 1 more day with you, boy did you surprise us. You were awake. I knew the end was near. I didn't want to think beyond that day. You had woken up in the middle of the night like you did every night hungry, wanting to eat your oranges and your "Sneaker" candy bar. Complaining to us mom wouldn't let you have your candy bar. We were going to enjoy every minute with you, not knowing that was going to be our last day. That day Patricia gave you a little shower that you enjoyed so much. You came out of the bathroom in the transport, you wanted to be in the family room that you had built. You told me for the first time that you were scared, cold and you asked me to hold your hand. We covered you in the beautiful hospice blanket that was given to you as a gift and I put your hand in my hand and I held on for dear life. You slept a lot Dad that day and you did eat for the last time. I think in away we girls knew that today was going to be our last day with you. This time you asked to go to bed which you never did before. You hated sleeping in your hospital bed, but you promised 1 of the hospice workers that you would. You were always a man of your word and you would tell us, "Why did I open my mouth and promised her that." Anyway Dad, I'm just reminiscing our day together a year ago. I LOVE YOU and MISS YOU SO MUCH! Thank you for giving us this wonderful month of March, it was and honor and such a pleasure to be with you.

Love,

Your daughter, Saundra

P.S. Hey, Dad. Spring training is over the season of baseball is about to begin. I'm sure you know that the S.F. Giants lost the 2 last games playing in the exhibition games against the Oakland A's. Today was their final last game and it was rained out. I hope the S.F. Giants do better this year than last year. A little help from heaven would help.
January 01, 2014
Dear Dad,

"Happy New Year's, Dad!" Today is the beginning of a new year but also today it's been 9 months since you and Aunt Mary left us. I can't believe it's almost been a year without the both of you. Last night we were invited to Mary Jones home. Now that Loretta and Li'l Michael are staying with her, Loretta made one of her delicious Mexican meals. I know you would had been there with us to celebrate the new year. You may have not stayed till midnight, but I know you would had wanted to be with us like you always do, in my heart. Being together as a FAMILY has always been so important to you and it will continue through us. We had such a great time being with Mary and her family. Last night was Uncle Joe Torres 8th Anniversary of not being with us. Yesterday, Kathy, Arturo and their family were at the Grand Canyon celebrating Uncle Joe's and Aunt Mary's life by releasing some of their ashes together. What a beautiful moment it must have been to have done this and on one of the most difficult days of Kathy's life, to have lost her dad on this day will now be remembered by this special memory. You know Dad, Uncle Vidal's Anniversary is this Friday, the 3rd. It's going to be 39 years for Aunt Mary and my cousins to have been without a husband and a dad. That has got to be so hard for all of them. Uncle Vidal missed out on so much of all their lives. He was taken from them at such a young age, but he should also be so proud of what a wonderful job Aunt Mary has done being a single mother in raising all 6 of her children and alone at that. I shouldn't even complain, I was so lucky to have had you with me for 54 years. Doesn't mean I don't miss you, I always will. Let's see what 2014 has in store for all of us Dad. This year Alyssa will be graduating from college and on to graduate school, Jessica from high school to college and Li'l Michael will be leaving St. Basil's to go on to high school. Adelina (Addy) will be turning "1" on the 14th. In some ways this past year has flown by so fast, because life goes on living. But a part of me died right along with you Dad. I don't know how to explain it. I just want all of us to stay healthy and succeed in our careers. I know you're always keeping an eye on all of us. Please don't take anyone else in our family to Heaven right now. There is enough of you in Heaven to keep you busy and entertained. Happy New Year's to all of you and please give my love. I LOVE YOU DAD!

Love,

Your daughter, Saundra

P.S. Hey, Dad. This time last year we were starting to get excited that the S.F. 49er's possibly had the chance to go to the Super Bowl. They're in the playoffs this year. Will see!!
Along with Grandmas angel in the flower arrangement I made for you both I added a miniature S.F. Giant's baseball cap for you. I hope you like it, because it's you. You were an awesome cather and for the passion you had for baseball. I always wonder if you're playing any baseball in Heaven. If you are, "Throw them out in Heaven, Dad!"
December 25, 2013
Dear Dad,

"Merry Christmas, Dad!" We're spending our 1st Christmas without you. Today we got together at Patricia's home like we always do to celebrate Christmas. I bet your ears were burning. Our stories and memories of you are unforgettable. Today was a happy day because our family was together, but also a sad day because not only were you not there but neither was Loretta. She had to work, our family was incomplete. It was so hard not having you both at the table enjoying your meals that Patricia had cooked with such love. Even after eating your large meal you couldn't wait to get to the delicious desserts. Dad, how you and I enjoyed our sweets. I've totally cut back for health reasons, and actually I feel so much better. One of our topics of conversation this evening was how you loved those "Stogies" in reality they were the Pepperidge Farm creme filled Pirouette Rolled Wafers. How you had all of us in March eating them with you or should I say putting them in our mouth as if they were a cigar. Oh Dad, how we miss you so much. I still can't believe you're not here with us anymore. I hope you are having a wonderful Christmas in Heaven with the family. Always remember I need you and that I love you so very much.

Love,

Your daughter, Saundra

P.S. Hey, Dad. Please always keep an eye on us, I know you do. Loretta applied for a new job at Napa State Hospital this month. We're just waiting for the response. She needs to find a job closer to home and that is more secure. Please see what you can do to help her. Her commute to Healdsburg is way too far and her job is very unstable right now. We need some good news right now for this family.
December 18, 2013
Dear Dad,

Today, December 18, is my wedding anniversary. You did me the honor 9 years ago today to walk me down the aisle to marry the love of my life, Jonathan. You looked so handsome and proud in your tuxedo. I have been so blessed to have had 2 wonderful men in my life. I thought it was so cute when you joined Jonathan and I on the stage and ate with us instead at the guest table. It was always the 3 of us together. How Jonathan loved you so, he always will. Your the Dad he never had, that's why he called you Dad. How he wished he had met you earlier. You took him under your wing just like you did with everybody. Everybody misses you and loves you so much. Do you remember our dance Dad at the wedding? We danced to "Always Forever" by Heatwave. You were the one who showed me how to dance when I was a little girl. You took me to all those Mexican dances you and mom use to attend. You asked me if I was now happy, how could I've not been, being with the 2 most important men on one of the most important days of my life. Our immediate family was in our wedding and Michael marrying us made it that much more special. The rest of our dear family and friends were there also to celebrate. It was a perfect Christmas Wedding. Today is a happy day for me Dad, but also a sad day, because you are not here with us. Today I was in Napa picking up a case and also seeing my dentist hoping I would see your vehicle again on the road. You know my intent, if I'm lucky enough next time I'm going to follow it and hopefully meet the new owner. I need to know who he is. I get very emotional every time I drive to Napa. You still haven't come into my dreams, why Dad? I need to see you and feel your presence. It's been a little over 8 months since you left us and it's going to be really hard not to have you here on Christmas Day.
This summer Jonathan and I built our fence facing Jerry. You would be so proud of us Dad. It turned out so beautiful. It has a hidden gate and it's about 8 feet tall. We stained every board before nailing it up. If you had been here I know you would of been right along helping us like you always did. This fence is not coming down, it is so strong and sturdy. Uncle Ray came over to see it, and was amazed of the way we constructed it and built it. He said he had never seen a fence like this before. It was a wonderful complement to hear.
Dad, tomorrow is Grandma Torres anniversary. It will be 5 years since she left us. Please tell her how much I miss her, love her and also think of her everyday. All my family is disappearing on me. It's hard Dad really hard. I LOVE YOU and MISS YOU!

Love,

Your daughter, Saundra

P.S. Hey, Dad. Tank went to the vet today. He's 30 pounds overweight. He needs to cut back on food and also be walked. Keep an eye on him, he really misses you too! My love to the whole family.
October 31, 2013
Dear Dad,

Happy Halloween, Dad! This is my favorite holiday and time of the year, and you aren't here to share it with us. Tomorrow will be 7 months since we started missing you. I was remembering one Halloween when I was in elementary school at Steffan Manor and I dressed up as a "Fairy Princess." Back then the costumes weren't anywhere as elaborate as they are today with all the fancy accessories they have to complete your costume. I needed a wand. Do you remember Dad what you did? You took one of your old golf clubs and cut the handle off. Then you cut out 2 star shape cutouts on this real thick metallic paper you had. You glued the 2 stars cutouts together with the golf club handle in-between. You added glitter around the edges of the stars to finish it. My wand looked so pretty, Dad. I knew no one else was going to have a wand like mine. It was an original. Thank you Dad, you completed my costume for me. You made me feel so special. I came home for lunch that day to get dress with your help, couldn't wait to get back to school because we were having our Halloween parade and party. Just as I was leaving you took a picture of me standing in our driveway by our station wagon "The Comet". I'll never forget that day, Dad.
Two days ago I was in Napa again, leaving from my dentist office, guess what I saw Dad? Your Pathfinder again. I couldn't believe it. It was an older man driving your SUV this time, wearing a red black flannel shirt. He was on the farthest right lane. When he made his right turn to get on the highway that's when I saw your license plate. I was on the farthest left lane already committed to making a left turn. If it hadn't been for the 3 lanes and traffic in-between us I would had followed him to meet him. I'm praying that one of these days I'll get the opportunity to meet this family that bought your Pathfinder. Are you trying to tell me something Dad by seeing your SUV? This is the 2nd time in 2 months. You haven't showed up in my dreams yet, but I'm seeing your vehicle. I love you, I need you and I really really miss you. Happy Halloween to all of you! I hope you can now eat all the candy and sweets you want.

Love,
Your daughter, Saundra

P.S. Hey, Dad! I guess you know who won the World Series yesterday, the Red Sox. They deserved it. I know you would have gone for the Cardinals being that they are in the national league. Anyway, baseball season is over until next year. So, I'm going through the baseball withdrawal right now.
October 01, 2013
Dear Dad,

Today like any other day I smile thinking of you, but my heart breaks knowing I can't have you by my side. I
can't believe it's been 6 months since we lost you. God we miss you so! Everything I do reminds me of you. As summer has come to an end I've been reminiscing of all our summer vacations we had when we were little girls. You and mom would take us on on these wonderful "1" month vacations. What an adventure each trip was. We went to Oregon, Washington and then on on to Canada. We stopped at every sight seeing tour there was to see. I had never seen such beautiful redwood trees in all my life which have always been my favorite. Our delicious dinner at the Space Needle was fabulous and then the ferry to Canada. Then you took us to Yosemite, Las Vegas and then a tour of Hoover Dam. From there we went to Tijuana, Mexico to attend a wedding of some dear sweet friends. All our Disneyland, Universal Studios, Knottsberry Farm trips, even as we grew up as adults were so much fun. Why, because we were always together as a family. Then all the way to Guadalajara, Mexico, we got to meet mom's side of the family. You and mom bought this small trailer so we could afford to take all these trips. It was tight quarters for 5 people and 1 small dog, Sparky, but we did it. That trailer was our hotel on wheels. When it came time to hooking up the car to the trailer I would always guide you. Sometimes we'd get lucky on the 1st try, then other times it would take a couple of more trys, but eventually we'd get it right and then we'd be off to our next destination. We always met such nice people along the way. You would be driving the Lamons Pontiac pulling the trailer and I would sit in the front seat with you. You told me I was your navigator. I was in charge of keeping track of the miles from every gas station stop and also the music on our 8-track you had placed in the glove compartment. We'd be driving down the freeways listening to The Four Tops, Tom Jones, Engelbert Humperdink and so many others. Mom was always making comments about everything. You would have mom sit in the back seat and tell her to quick being such a back seat driver. Also, the great camping trips we'd take to Crazy Horse with all our uncles, cousins and friends. Wow Dad, those were the days. Also, all the drive-in movies, baseball games, party's, reunions, I could go on and on. I know you know what I mean. There's 1 place I wish you would of taken us to visit, New Mexico. I would of love to have seen your birthplace. I only get to hear the stories from our relatives, but it's not the same. Why didn't we ever go? Thank you Dad for giving us girls a wonderful childhood and such memorable memories. Dad, when are you going to come in my dreams? The girls have seen you in their dreams. I'm still waiting. I wish you could see how tall L"il Michael has grown and Jessica got her 1st job working at a restaurant called "The Habit." Time is going by, but the emptiness is the same without you Dad. Today is Michael's and Marti's birthday. Melissa had her baby boy, Jax on Uncle Leo's birthday, another new addition to the family. This Saturday we will be having our 1st family reunion picnic without you and Aunt Mary. It's going to be real hard Dad. I LOVE YOU and MISS YOU!

Love,
Your daughter, Saundra

P.S. Hey, Dad. Well I guess you know we are now entering the playoffs for baseball. The "S.F. Giants" stunk this year. They came in 3rd place. But guess who's made it this far, "The Oakland A's!" I'm really happy for them, they deserve it. The "San Francisco 49er's" aren't doing so good either. I remember when they were in the Super Bowl this year and you were dressed to the 9 in all your "49er" clothing from head to toe. You looked so handsome Dad. A true fan you were. Take care and my love to the whole family.
September 10, 2013
Dear Dad,

Today, September 10, is your 80th birthday. "Happy Birthday, Dad!" It's been 5 months since we've enjoyed the pleasure of your beautifully infectious smile. This evening a few dear family and friends celebrated our endless love for you with memories, then a toast while releasing some balloons carrying all our love to reach you in Heaven. I'm sure you are having your own celebration in Heaven with the family. Dad, Patricia in her adorable backyard has made you this beautiful "Living Garden" in your memory. Of course there's a section dedicated to your S.F. Giants along with all the other decorative metal accents with solar lights. They light up so pretty at night. I wish you were here to see it. Dad, do you remember 4 years ago we were camping at Burney Falls with some of our family and friends and we celebrated your birthday there? This was our last camping trip together. We had such a great time. You slept in your Pathfinder and Uncle George slept in our Murano. We backed the vehicles into the screen tent. This was the trip that you scared all of us 1 night when you didn't come back from the restroom. It took us an hour to find you. Being so dark at night it was so easy to get lost that one could easily loose their sense of direction. Thank God we found you. Even though you told all of us you were never lost, just sight seeing. Really Dad, at that hour of the night? So when it was my turn to go, you told me to wait, you brought out your huge flashlight. When you turned it on and pointed it up, it lite up the sky so bright like one of those lights they use when something is being advertise. You told me that I wouldn't have any problem finding our campsite, no way I could get lost now. You were always so prepared for any situation Dad. Dad, on August 27th, I was on my way to Napa (Highway 29) and to my surprise guess what vehicle was driving next to me? Your Pathfinder, I couldn't believe it was your vehicle with your license plate. A young girl was driving it very cautiously with an adult. They looked like a nice family, I'm so glad I was able to see who bought your vehicle. It brought tears to my eyes. I know why your vehicle appeared at that very moment. Thank you, you are my Angel! You were watching over me that day. I miss you so much! As always, I miss all our talks we use to have. I LOVE YOU! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

Love,
Your daughter, Saundra

P.S. Hey Dad. I'm sure you now know that the S.F. Giant's are in last place. This was not their year. But the Oakland A's are in 1st place right now. I hope they make it all the way. They work so hard and deserve to make it to the World Series. They're long over due. I'm praying, a little help from you? My love to the whole family.
July 22, 2013
Dear Dad,

13 years ago today Dad you and I were at the Napa Nissan dealership helping me choose the right car to purchase. We actually had spent the whole week prior looking at different cars, but at the end we ended up back at the same dealership where we had always purchased our vehicles. When it came down to negotiating the price you took charge as you always have and I just sat there thinking how blessed I am to have such a wonderful Dad that still looks out for his daughter even at the age of 41. I was single, and I needed you, my Dad to help me make this big decision. I couldn't have done this without you. I always looked for your approval. You always made me feel so safe. Thank you again for always being there for me. The car you helped me pick my Nissan Sentra has been a wonderful, faithful little car. It hasn't let me down. I don't know if you remember that Mom even had the car blessed by a priest after I purchased it. I love you and really really miss you.

Love,
Your daughter, Saundra

P.S. Hey, Dad. The S.F. Giants are looking better after the All Star game. It happens like this every time. Now the Oakland A's need a little help. Don't forget about them. I know the S.F. Giants are your favorite and you always go for the national league but they are a part of us especially living in the bay area. My love to the whole family.
July 04, 2013
Dear Dad,

Happy 4th, Dad! Another holiday without you. It's now been 3 months since you've been gone from our lives. I remember you use to come over and we would have a barbecue along with our dear neighbors/friends Kathryn and Franco and you would stay until it was time to go see the fireworks in Benicia. Couldn't talk you into going to see the fireworks though, which was okay. I guess you had seen enough throughout your life. You also would say it was kind of late to stay out. The main thing was that we were altogether. In our family we never needed or need a holiday or reason to get together, because every time we are together it is a celebration. You were always the first to say, "Yeah I'm Good For It, I'll Be There." I know the last couple of years you went to the Benicia park to celebrate the 4th with your brother Leo, and some of the other family members. I know today is going to be a hard day for them as well without you being there. You just don't know Dad what an impact you had in all our lives and that's why we all are having such a hard time excepting your absence. You use to tell us that you were just an ordinary man. No Dad, to us you were an extraordinary man. Writing to you is my way of letting you know how much I miss you; love you and always, always thinking of you. This is one of my ways I can feel connected to you from here to Heaven, I guess I can call it "My Stairway To Heaven." Dad I know you and the family are having a wonderful celebration of fireworks of your own in Heaven. So happy 4th of July to all of you, until next time. I LOVE YOU!

Love,
Your daughter, Saundra

P.S. Hey, Dad. We S.F. Giants fans now really need some magical miracle. They are now officially in last place, last place Dad! Can you believe this? What happened? As you use to say Dad, "Looks Like Someone's Sleeping On The Job." They were the World Series Champions of "2012." They are literally falling apart. I can't imagine you are too busy and not watching this disaster as it unfolds. They need help. I don't know if you have any pull Dad, but if you do, now would be the time to use it, please! Right now they are in a rain delay. Maybe that's your way of giving them a cooling off period before they play their next game.
June 30, 2013
Dear Dad,

Do your remember what happened 38 yrs. ago today, Dad? Feb.'1975, I was 15 yrs. old and I had gotten my learners permit (written test) for driving. Today was the day you drove me to the DMV for my other driver's test (behind the wheel). I waited for you to get home from work that day to tell you "I" was finally ready to take the final test. I was so nervous on our drive to the DMV. You were so patient and encouraging, telling me with all the practices we had I was ready and you assured me I would pass. You waited for me to make the decision on my own with no pressure knowing that any teenager could get their license on their 16th Birthday. Even though my birthday was in March, I knew I wasn't ready. You taught me how to drive the Comet (station wagon) first. You wanted me to learn how to drive a stick shift. Automatics were too easy to drive, you said. In case of an emergency and the only car you have at your disposal is a stick shift, what are you going to do? You were right. All our practices were around the corner from where we lived at a grocery store parking lot on Oakwood Street. Sometimes we would bring Sherman (our dog) with us and he would either be in the car with me or outside chasing the car while you stood outside in the parking lot watching me drive and putting the car into gear. I remember the noise it would make. What wonderful, unforgettable memories Dad! Thank you for all you have taught me, for teaching me how to drive and remembering this special significant day we spent together, one of many. I wanted to share this special memory with you. I miss you and love you!

Love,
Your daughter, Saundra

P.S. Hey Dad. What's going on with the S.F. Giants? Can you work some magic? Mom bought a new car yesterday. It's a Versa 2014. It's perfect for her and for safety reasons it was the right choice. She traded your Pathfinder and her Altima for the new car. I know you would have given her your stamp of approval. I miss seeing you drive up behind the wheel of your Pathfinder with your infectious smile you always had. When you bought your SUV I was the one that drove it home for you sitting by my side. Yesterday, I was the one who drove it back to where you bought it without you sitting physically by my side. It was one of the hardest things I had to do, because I was loosing another part of you again, Dad. I was talking to you all the way there. Please forgive me. You worked so hard to finally get the vehicle you deserved. The girls and I wanted to keep your vehicle, but we just couldn't afford it. I hope who ever buys your SUV has as many wonderful experiences, memories that we all did in your SUV. I took a lot of pictures with your license plate. Please keep an extra eye on Mom in her car. It's all new to her. Always give my love to everybody and everybody behave in Heaven.
June 16, 2013
Dear Dad,

"Happy Father's Day, Dad!" Just a little message to tell you how much I miss you and love you. It's been a little over 2 months since you've been gone, it's our 1st Father's Day without each other. Today we would of been watching the S.F. Giants baseball game together and having a barbecue with the family. The family is getting together today to celebrate your day, Father's Day. As you instilled in all of us Dad, it's all about FAMILY and your legacy continues in all of us. It was 9 years ago today we embarked on that wonderful "Mexican Riviera" cruise. What a great time we all had and I'm so glad I got to share that with you, the family and our friends. Not a day doesn't go by Dad, that I don't think of you and miss you. It's hard Dad, really hard. "The miracle of your love is that it is never farther than a memory away." I LOVE YOU!

Love,

Your daughter, Saundra

P.S. Hey, Dad. You better be having the time of your life with the family in Heaven, that's the only way I'm able to cope without your presence. Give my love to everybody and everybody behave. What a party you all must be having. I feel for Grandma and Aunt Mary. Dad, Tank sends his love too! He misses you so much.
May 03, 2013
Dear Dad,

Today, May 3, is yours and Mom's 55th wedding anniversary. "Happy Anniversary, Dad!" I miss you, love you and will always need you. My heart aches for you, but knowing that you and Aunt Mary walked into Heaven together is what consoles me. As the true gentleman you always were, you stopped on your way Home to call on her and take her with you. I can feel the warmth of your souls as you both embrace the rest of the clan. I can only imagine the family reunion you must all be enjoying. FAMILY is one of the important values you taught us, and spending this wonderful past month of March together with you was an incredible gift that you gave all of us. We will always treasure it! I have been so blessed to have had you throughout my 54 years. You have given me so many precious memories that I will cherish in my heart forever. Dad, I will miss seeing you; hearing your voice, your cute sayings and comebacks; playing your harmonica; and last--but not least--feeling your love. Thank you for being my Dad, my confidant, my best friend, and the best dad in the world. Eat all the sweets you want now, Dad, especially your "Sneakers" and those "Stogies." Enjoy all the sweet oranges, and drink all the strawberry milkshakes you desire. The word "moderation" doesn't exist anymore.

Love,

Your daughter, Saundra

P.S. Hey, Dad. Don't forget. Even in Heaven, "Don't volunteer any information!" I LOVE YOU!
April 27, 2013
Miss you my Daddy! Thank you for being the "BEST DAD" ever!! My heart has a hole....love you so much!!
April 09, 2013
May you draw close to God.at this difficult time.James4:8
April 08, 2013
Trish, you and your family have my deepest sympathies with the passing of your Father. It's never easy losing a loved one and the hurt is so deep. I will be praying for you and your family during this difficult time. May God Bless you!
April 08, 2013
Dear Hope, Saundra, Patricia and Loretta:
Our hearts go out to all of you on the loss of your beloved Joe. Gianfranco and I will always remember him as a wonderful, funny and compassionate man whose sweet smile and gentle disposition endeared him to all. What a pleasure it was to have counted him as a friend for 25 long years, along with all of you who have been such an integral part of our lives. We have shared so many memories, so many good times, and so many sad times. Thank you all for having welcomed us into your warm and kind-hearted family. It was a privilege to have been among Joe's friends.
April 08, 2013
Dear Hope & Family,

I am so sorry for the loss of your dear
husband and father. You are all in my
prayers.
God Bless,
Pat McCoulf
April 07, 2013
were sorry for the Abeyta family's loss. Joe has always been a great neighbor and friend. Our love goes out to the family.

Love, Lee & Denise Whitney
April 07, 2013
Uncle Joe, My Mom is the luckiest person in the world to have been escorted to Heaven with you by her side.Your smile will never be forgotten..We had so many good times together. Saundra,Trish and Loretta together we will be sad,yet joyful, most of all we will know we were loved. Mom and Uncle were very special!!
Uncle Joe Rest in Peace
April 06, 2013
Our condolences to the Abeyta Family. Joe was a good guy who always had a smile on his face. He's playing the course up in heaven with George and Jamie is driving the golf cart..
April 06, 2013
My condolences to the family, Joe was my Brother-in Law for 27 years along time ago. He was a good man & truly loved his daughters. He will be missed by many. RIP
April 06, 2013
RIP OLD TIME FRIEND.
April 06, 2013
I certainly enjoyed seeing my Dear Uncle Joe on my last few visits to Vallejo. I had an enjoyable and memorable golf game with him at Blue Rock Springs with Cousin Kathy and of course "The Gang." I can remember when the brothers played poker in Grandma's back room and Uncle Joe gave us a nickel (maybe it was a dime) to stand behind him and bring him good luck. What a sweetheart.
April 05, 2013
So sorry for your loss. My prayers will be with your family.
April 05, 2013
Joe,
You have been a great brother-in-law. I will miss you. You have such beautiful daughters and they showed their love by taking such good care of you at the end.
Mary
April 05, 2013
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sure my parents (Cayetano and Margaret Maes) were waiting there to greet him and show him the way. In life they were such close friends and I'm sure they are together again.
April 05, 2013
My deepest heart felt sympathy to Hope, Saundra, Patricia, Loretta and all others of the Abeyta family. The Abeytas have been family friends since we came to Vallejo, over 40 years ago. "Brother Joe", as the group from Blue Rock Golf Course called him, was a great friend with a true kind heart. He always had a funny comment to make and managed to always keep the golf group "in line"(which many times was no small feat). It is obvious, Joe, that you will be dearly missed by many, we especially miss you on Sunday mornings at the golf course. I have very great memories of the time spent with you, Joe, and am very thankful to call you my friend. "Fore!" and "Go 9ers!" Rest in Peace, Brother Joe.
April 05, 2013
We're sorry to hear of your loss, Hope. Pleas accept our sincere condolences. Marie, Morris And Glenn Coats
April 05, 2013
My husband, Joe, and I remember many happy afternoons serving and visiting with the Abeyta family on Thursday afternoons. We are saddened to learn of Joe's passing followed by Mary just 2 short hours latter. Our love and sympathy to the whole family. Joe and Carol Klingensmith...formerly from Chris' Club 1970-2001.
April 05, 2013
What a truly great man my Uncle Joe was. He was always so kind and had a great personality. He was always a pleasure to be around. He will be greatly missed by all.
April 05, 2013
To Hope, Saundra, Tricia and Loretta: Thank you so much for sharing you amazing father with me the last couple of months. He was such a loving man and I love him and will miss his infectious smile.
April 05, 2013
I cannot find the words, as they could never explain how special you are, nor how grateful I am to have had the honor and privilege of knowing you. Always treated like one of your own, I will never forget how you always protected us and how you were always there and you will always be in my heart. To Hope,Saundra, Trish, Loretta and all of the family, may God comfort all of you. I love all of you so very much.
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