Bob and Laura,
Losing a child, no matter how old they are, just isn't supposed to happen and being a member of the parents-who-have-lost-a-child club is not something I would ever wish on anyone. Please know that the numbness you feel at this moment will ease, a bit, with time. In the meantime, don't be afraid to mention RJ's name around friends. Don't let him become the "elephant in the room." Just some advise that helped me from a classmate of TJHS '77. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.