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June 25, 2015
Dear Son...Well I kept my word today.. and I visited...your resting place... the statue...and church.

I will have to wait however...to find the needed time...it will take...to express my thoughts...and views...on all that is currently going on.

Keep close watch...over your sisters.. their families...and your brother.

I love you Salvatore...and I miss you...so very much.

You are in my thoughts...and in my prayers...always.
June 24, 2015
Dear Son...Today marks the 113th Month Remembrance Day...and although I was unable to have a mass said...in your memory...because of the Father's Day Novena...which has taken up...all of this week's mass times...I still had intended to go to noon mass...the St. Joseph statue...and your resting place ...but I wasn't able to do so...and that is a first for me...on all counts ...as other serious...unexpected and pressing issues...needed attention... so I've had to put my plans...on hold until tomorrow....along with my views and thoughts...in recounting...the many ups and downs...of these last few weeks.

God bless you Sal...as you continue to watch over our family.

Just know that you are loved...you are missed...and you are in my thoughts ...and in my prayers...always.
June 21, 2015
Dear Salvatore...I wish you...A Very Blessed "GOD-father's Day." You are loved and missed...so very much.

God bless you...as you keep special watch...over your two Godchildren.

You are in my thoughts..and in my prayers...always.
May 24, 2015
Dear Sal...Today it was the 10:30 mass ...that was being offered...for the repose of your soul...on this 112th Month Remembrance Day...and to my surprise...the lector actually read... and then announced your name...aloud.

I was going to pick up the flowers yesterday...that I would bring to your resting place today...but I got a late start...and the flower shop had already closed...by the time I was ready to go there...so I got them today...after mass...and since it is Memorial Day weekend...I also ordered a red, white and blue arrangement...in memory of my brother...your Uncle and namesake...who served in the Army... during what was then called...the Korean Police Action. I left his flowers alongside yours...when I visited you today. My two very loved and very missed...Salvatore's. God bless each of you...as you rest in His perpetual light.

This has been a very trying week for your father...and me too...since so much is going on...that I wish we had no reason to be a part of...but because we do...we will try in your memory... to not lose our cool...and be as effective as we can be.

This past week...we have been to commission meetings... three nights in a row. The regular Ad Hoc meeting was on Monday...and then there were...two more sub-committee meetings...that Dad is also serving on. The Independent Oversight & Investigation committee... met on Tuesday...and on Wednesday... the Use of Force group met...along with three invited speakers...all FCPD officers...who were there to read... and then explain...some of their updated General Orders...and the SOP guidelines...that have been put in place...since 2008 and 2014. One FCPD weapons training officer...who is an appointed commissioner...said that our case...was the impetus...for the changes that were made...to the previous risk/threat assessment form.. and that now...in order to justify a request...for the use of a SWAT team.. several criteria must be met...and several officers...have to sign off on the request...before it is approved ...or rejected. Additionally, the officers fielded questions...and made attempts at answering them.

It is very frustrating to listen to... in my opinion...a lot of words...that on the surface sound promising...but in reality...and based on...what has gone wrong in the past...may not be received and implemented...in the way they are intended...or one would hope they would be understood to mean...so as to minimize tragedies like ours... and future ones...from continuing to happen...and instead...could likely leave the door open...to one's own interpretation or discretion...for their meaning....(the skeptic in me points to the buzz words they all know...and that along with other loop holes...would get them off the hook...if they did choose to do otherwise) so there is much...that still needs addressing and defining... if we are to have a truly clear understanding...of what it is that must be done...in order to ensure... that needed preventive changes to... policies...protocols...procedures...training...and...vetting...be made.

As for excessive force issues...along with those regarding transparency... accountability...consequences for actions...and a very overdue and most necessary...citizens complaint and oversight review board...for those who are sworn...to serve and protect...so that the residents of Fairfax County.. can restore their trust in...and their respect for...the FCPD...and the Board of Supervisors...well, I can only hope ...that we are all on the same page... in this effort.

On a more pleasant note...May has been a busy month...as your Godchild turned twenty-one...a little over two weeks ago...and your oldest nephew was seventeen on Monday Another of your nieces....received the Sacrament of Confirmation... this past Tuesday...and will graduate in early June...from elementary school. Your oldest niece will be twenty-four in a couple of days...and it seems like only yesterday...that they were all babies. They are all good kids...in some cases I should really say young adults...and you would be very proud of each of them.

It is a quiet Memorial Day weekend... and while some...only view it as the beginning of summer and cookouts...I would hope the real reason for this holiday...is remembered...as we pray for...and honor those servicemen and women...who made the ultimate sacrifice...while defending our country...in order to protect our freedoms. God bless each of them...as they rest in His eternal peace. May they never be forgotten.

Sal...please watch over your sisters...their families...your brother...and all of our dear friends.

I love and miss you son...and I wish you could have been here...with us...to celebrate these happy family occasions.

God bless you Salvatore. You are in my thoughts...and in my prayers...always.
May 10, 2015
Dear Salvatore...If not for them... this wouldn't be...the Tenth Mother's Day without you...and as I count... every step up the path...to your resting place...you know...what's going on...inside my head...and I don't see...my thoughts changing ...when it comes to them.

Right now we are re-reading reports...and dredging up...due to the formation of this commission...many of the same questions we had...in 2006, '07, '08, '09, and '10. Who knows...if there will ever be answers...sufficient enough to explain...why and how...the same type "incidents"...since your loss to us...have taken place again...and if in fact...the changes to the three P's...plus any issues with training ...and officer accountability...in an unjustifiable shooting of an unarmed citizen...that we were led to believe ...were made...actually were addressed ...implemented...and then followed.

Hopefully...these next weeks of meetings...will be both enlightening and productive. But...I won't hold my breath...since blue is not my color. I know...it's my glass is half empty view...or is it...as the engineer would say...the glass is just too big.

On a more pleasant note...we did have a nice brunch today...with your sister and her family...but for me...and here I go again...I continue to think...of how things could have been...and should have been...if not for them.

Keep watching over your siblings... your nieces...your nephews...and Dad.. who is trying to do his best...while dealing with a difficult situation... in addition to me.

I love you son...I miss you...and I pray for you...always.
April 24, 2015
Dear Son...This 24th...marks Month Number One Hundred and Eleven...as I keep counting. I heard Mr. Geer say he had been tossing and turning...for about 500 nights...as he lay awake...wondering who shot and killed his unarmed...non-threatening son...why...and how could It have happened. I guess counting is what we parents do...for a host of reasons...and as we do...the days turn into weeks...then months...and years. I don't know why there is a need to mark time...I only know that there is.

Both Dad and I...attended the 8:15 mass...being offered in your memory...and since it happened to be...the students' regular Friday mass...a 7th grade girl...announced the intention for the mass...and said your name loud and clear. Afterwards...I left flowers at both your resting place...and the St. Joseph statue. I guess this too...along with my written thoughts to you...have become parts of a monthly ritual...for me.

This past week has been a particularly trying one. Although the news about the Geer tragedy...has been in the spotlight...for the last several weeks...it was on our Tuesday...that I read...the County settled with John Geer's two daughters. So once again...in my opinion...they have managed to walk away...because the wording in these settlements...do not contain any admission of wrongdoing or guilt on their part...so they get to view a pittance of dollars...as being equal to the loss of a life...that was precious...unique...irreplaceable...and priceless.

I suppose they think it was a generous offer. I think otherwise...as this family not only lost a son...and a father...but then were jerked around...far too long...as they sought answers to their questions. It was a complete fiasco...until a Judge court ordered the FCPD...to provide the requested and entitled to information...to the family and their attorney.

The Board of Supervisors was completely ineffective...and were it not for a Senator's letters...the tenacity of a WAPO reporter...a grassroots group calling itself Justice for John Geer... and the outcries of disgruntled FFX County citizens...regarding the mishandling of this incident...(for lack of a better word)...up and down the chain of command...to include the County's legal advisers...and to the point...of what appeared to be a cover up...or a potential obstruction of justice...this stalling of information...might have gone on...much longer...as it did with us...in our efforts to seek the justice...that was owed to you.


The officer who shot and killed Mr. Geer...was reported to have said...it was a good shoot. It was not accidental,'...and...No, it was justified. I have no doubt about that at all. I don't feel sorry for shooting the guy at all. He evidently believed he saw something no one else did. However...according to other officers who were there...it did not happen the way...the officer who shot and killed John Geer...said it happened...and they spoke up...and contradicted what the officer who fired his weapon...cited as the reason for him to shoot. He unnecessarily took another's life...but still seems to feel justified in what he did.


I remember in our case...another one saying he squeezed one off. Do these officers even care...or realize how inhumane they sound...after having just unjustifiably taken the life...of another human being...and I repeat...who was like you...also unarmed...and non-threatening. How can they sound so flippant. What has happened to these people...that allows them to be so callous...and cavalier...in choosing words...that are so hurtful...for the victim family to hear or read. It may be police jargon to them...but it sounds so disrespectful...and devaluing...of human life...and even if it is to them just buzz words...I think it adds to what may be...a profession and mentality...that has been so desensitized...that some officer's have lost sight of their humanity.

So now...the Board of Supervisors...after all the negative outpouring...has formed an Ad Hoc Commission...to examine best practices...and send forward their recommendations...where and if needed...to FCPD policies...protocols...training ...excessive force issues...the use of SWAT teams...and to address the issues of transparency...accountability...consequences for officers' wrongful actions...and perhaps a Citizen's Oversight Committee...where civilian complaints about officers...may be filed and reviewed.

Good luck with all of this...as I am very skeptical. Way back when...I was just looking for some good...that could come from what happened...to you and our family. How naïve my thinking was. Perhaps they would consider...an addendum to one of their SWAT policies or protocols...some sign off sheet...that would control what they are used for...and name it for you. I also was waiting for some apology...but that would be an admission of wrongdoing...ie. guilt. It never came in any form. Oh sure...the TV blurb...offering sympathy to the victim family...but in the same breath...extolling the record of this fine officer...who was as sorry as anyone could be...according to the then Commonwealth Attorney...who then decided not to convene a grand jury...to look into the facts of what happened. In all this time...the same players...are still at it...only the victim names seem to change.

Oh wait...it was decided that a special grand jury be convened...to hear the facts of this case...and to investigate...so as to ascertain whether alleged criminal...or corrupt conditions existed...which may have impacted...all that has taken place.

Ok...I've ranted again...and probably will continue to...as all this goes forward.

May John Geer rest in peace...and God bless his family.

Son...I still can't forgive myself...for not getting into that courtroom. Whatever the outcome would have been...at least their tactics would have been exposed...and I could have kept my promise to you.

God bless you...and keep watch over your sisters...their families...your brother...and Dad.

I love you Sal...I miss you...and I pray for you always.
April 05, 2015
Dear Son...Dad and I went to 10:30 mass this morning...and then visited you at your resting place. I left a lily plant at the statue...and white tulips in your vase.

It's hard to believe...that this is the Tenth Easter...that we have spent...without you...and the second one...that was celebrated in a most unusual way...for us...considering our heritage...and our customary traditions...of family gathering all together...to not only enjoy each others company...(minus a few minor meltdowns)...but also the holiday fare ...that we were raised with...and came to expect...but times have changed... along with the menu...and so many more things.

We have learned to make accommodations as family has increased...and taken on other necessary obligations...that preclude the opportunity...for everyone to be under one roof. Despite the changes...we did manage to have...a nice time...at our dinner out ...with 2 of your 3 siblings...and your three nephews...and one niece.

Afterwards...we came back to our house...and then the surprise jam session began. The kids brought their instruments with them...keyboard... electric guitar and amplifier...an acoustic guitar...and a ukulele...and they displayed quite a lot of talent. The oldest one plays the keyboard... writes his own music...and some of his songs...even have lyrics...which are quite sensitive...to be coming from one so young. I was impressed. The second one reads music...but also has a very good ear...can also play a few instruments...but is one with his electric guitar..so he too has talent. Your niece...is also able to play several instruments...has a beautiful voice...and her singing is a joy to listen to...truly a gift. The youngest is a drummer...but he did not bring his equipment with him...so while I'm sure he too...has rhythm and talent... since they all are so musically inclined...I was happy...to just take his Mom's word for it.

Your brother was also enjoying their music...and was encouraging them...as he too recognizes their abilities... and that made them feel good.

The rest of our family...was elsewhere ...but I did get to speak to them... and wish them a Happy Easter. So much has changed...that I wish hadn't.

So Sal...to say you are missed...is an understatement...you know how much we all miss you.

I pray that your Easter was a very blessed one...and that...you are in the company of family...and friends... have also been called back home.

God Bless you Salvatore...as you keep watch over our family...and our dear friends.

Know that you are loved...and prayed for...always.
March 29, 2015
Dear Sal...Today is Palm Sunday Number 10...so once again...I brought palms to you...at your resting place.

Dad had made braided crosses with his palms...but I just folded my palms... hoping I could slide them into your vase...and in between the flowers...but that was a no go... because of the fact...that it has turned very cold again...and that caused the other day's rain...that had collected in the vase...to freeze. So I placed the palms...into the rose bouquet... that was still there...from the 24th.

We went to breakfast afterwards...and sat opposite...a father with four children. One of the boys...a good looking nine year old...had shown the others...that he made a cross with his palm. It resembled a long...off kilter plus sign. I thought he was so cute...so I told Dad...to go out to the car...and get one of the braided crosses...and give it to him. He did that...and then showed the boy...how to make one. Funny how things happen...because Dad on the ride back from your resting place...had said that no one but he...knows how to make the braided palm crosses...and when he's gone...the crosses will be too. I suggested he pass on that skill...to one of your nieces or nephews...jabbing him a bit. Who could have known...that the opportunity to do just that...was going to be realized in short order. Dad was the teacher...and a total stranger...the student. The boy seemed very interested in the lesson...so I will assume...he will be using his newly learned skill...and his Lenten palms...from now on...to make braided crosses...for all the Holy Seasons...yet to come. I told Dad ...that he can rest easy now...knowing knowing that he at least...left "someone...to carry on...his braided crosses tradition. I don't think he appreciated my comment.

We are having a quiet day...and...are looking forward to...tonight's TV adaptation of Bill O"Reilly's book ...Killing Jesus. It's not told...from the usual religious...or spiritual slant...instead...it looks at the events in Our Lord's life...by the retelling of the political, social, and historical conflicts...that were taking place at that time...and that led to Jesus' death. With all that is going on in our world today...it looks like not much has changed...since there are those...and so many issues.. still at odds with His teachings... and...as He is being "politically corrected out of our lives...I hope in His mercy...His words on the cross are...and will still be...echoing in our behalf...when the end time does come...because the cumulative "them" ...continue to know not...what they are doing.

Son...I hope this was another...very blessed and peaceful Palm Sunday...for you.

God bless you...as you keep watching over...our family...and our friends.

You are very loved Sal...very missed...and prayed for always.
March 24, 2015
Dear Son...Yesterday I had a mass said...for Nan's 28th Year Remembrance Day. How I wish there was no need for Remembrance masses...and that things could have remained as they once were...but they aren't...so...on this...another Tuesday...marking this 9 Years and 2 Months Remembrance Day...Dad and I...were at the 6:15 AM mass...being offered...for the repose of your soul. I am now waiting for the flower shop to open...so I can get my usual order of flowers...and then I will visit your resting place...and the St. Joseph statue. I can't believe I got so sidetracked this past week...that I didn't post a reflection for you...and my brother...on March 19 the Feast Day of St. Joseph...so I am belatedly...hoping that you and he...both had a blessed name day.

I suppose my distraction...was due to all that is going on...in our county re the Geer case...the FCPD...and the FFX Board of Supervisors...amid the disillusion...with the later two... because of the way...they have dealt with the Geer family's requests for information...regarding the loss of their loved one. The stonewalling has been reported about in the media...along with the many negative opinions...that are critical of both the Board and the FCPD...which the residents in FFX County...have seen fit to voice...via the comments sections...of the Wash Post stories... as they continue to report...on all the latest and unbelievable actions...that are attributable to their unwillingness... to treat this victim family...with some amount of consideration...and human decency...for what they have been made to go through...and to suffer in these past 19 months...while grieving the loss of their loved one.

Last night...one day short of this Remembrance Day...Dad whose initial request to the Board of Supervisors ...for their consideration of his interest in serving on their newly formed Commission...was realized. The Board finally decided to create this Commission...in an attempt to acknowledge citizens' outrage...re what has been going on...in this county as the buck kept getting passed ...as well as in the FCPD...re matters...of excessive force issues... transparency...accountability...preventive changes...police oversight (preferably by a citizen's committee)...best practice changes that may be needed...concerning policy protocols...procedures...training...and even the education of officers...in how they should procede...when dealing with the mentally ill or physically handicapped...that the officers may come in contact with...when responding to calls.

Initially Dad's offer was declined... then he was emailed about a "maybe"... if a sub-committee might be on the horizon...so he was asked to submit his resume. He did...and finally was informed that he would be appointed to serve...and that appointees would represent various backgrounds...and concerns. It started out with Twenty-five people...and now has grown to be Thiry-eight. Thirteen of those are defined as citizens...Ten police.. Five in the legal profession...Five in media/public relations...three are academic/consultant...and two are in supporting roles.

In this first meeting of four...held at the Government center...and open to the public...they all got to introduce themselves...and tell a little bit about their background...and spoke briefly on what they thought he/she could bring to the table...concerning the many issues at hand. There was talk about budgets, and shortfalls for the different agencies...but no one mentioned that perhaps...the Board should have re-considered their 25 or 30% voted raise to themselves...as a is that a really necessary expenditure?...at least that thought crossed my mind...because I'd prefer...to see body cameras and video recorders for leos.

A friend of John Geer's...JS...and your Dad...were the only ones...who spoke to the causes...immediately related to the before...and after issues...of what led to the tragic and unnecessary loss...of our loved ones...You...and JS's friend, John... and what has been...or still needs to be done...in the aftermath...to prevent such tragic...heartbreaking... and unnecessary losses.

We were told that some changes were made...after your loss...and I even asked to be sent...what those changes were...of course...I never got anything. So now...9 years later...THEY finally have been ordered by a Judge...to turn over what has been done since 2006...and other info that the Geer lawyers requested.

Dad surprised me...I expected him to get his points across...but this time...he actually spoke from an emotional place...not true anger or rage...since that isn't who he is...but from a disgust that had it not been...for their absurd 2006 policies...practices...and protocols...YOU would still be here with us. Also...had something been done since 2006...that was of consequence...maybe John Geer...and I include David Masters...might also still be here.

My thinking leads me to believe...that without accountability and consequences for their actions...it appears that officers don't have to think twice...before pulling a trigger...and in our case...along with Masters and Geer...each of you were unarmed...and unjustifiably shot and killed...and why...because officer's know...they have not been in the past...and even now...held to account...for what they cause to happen. They hit those buzz word excuses...I felt my life was being threatened...he made a furtive move...and worst of all...it was an accident. In reality...all fabricated excuses...used by those who were sworn to protect and serve...in order to avoid the truth...so as not to be held accountable.

Ok son...here come more of my opinions...

Although the meetings are open to the public...I had to leave the room...when H began to speak. Sill standing on his 40 years...of never having any doubts...about all those halo wearing humans...(and I do know that there must be good ones among them...like the three who spoke up in Geer's case)...that he never found reason to doubt...even when victim families were left with the tragedies...or circumstances that they unjustly caused to happen. I could hardly stand to hear BR talk about his training of officers and how instrumental he was...in advisory and counseling areas...within the County. R did not acknowledge us nor did we need him to.

So Sal...we get to be there for three more meetings...before these findings/recommendations...that are non binding findings...at the hands of this commission...and whatever sub-committees they choose to form... go forward for the Board's consideration. Of course this is before the Nov. elections.

My bad though...because the skeptic in me keeps coming out...and maybe that's because...whatever they claim to have changed since 2006...amounting to these past 9 years (7 prior to the Geer shooting)...and the recent SWAT raid on the unarmed poker players in Great Falls...with whom the FCPD...struck a deal...according to the article I read...and then split (though unevenly) the monies from the game...between the county...and the players...has left me somewhat jaded...unbelieving...and distrusting of...even what I have seen...read... and am now hearing.

Another surprise after Dad's comments at this meeting...was the spontaneous applause...he received...in support of what he said...that evidently hit upon ...what many in the public audience... were thinking...and feeling should be said.

I almost forgot...one of your friends was there...CS....but I didn't recognize him at first...and actually had to ask him his name. He told me you were the nicest of guys...very trusting...who had friends from all stations in life...and as a result of what happened to you...he has become somewhat of a civic activist. I am grateful that he hasn't forgotten you...and your caring nature.

So my dear son...maybe this is a beginning...too late for you...us... ...David...and John...but it's a start ...hopefully well intentioned...and more importantly...culminating in recommendations...worthy of their of consideration...and implementation.

Sal...you are loved...you are missed...and I pray you know...what we are all hoping to achieve...even though it's long over due.

Please keep watch over your sisters...their families...your brother...and your father. It's a stressful time. Extended family...and friends...too...also need some special thoughts.

I hold you close in my thoughts...in my heart...and in my prayers...always.
February 24, 2015
Dear Sal...This 24th...once again is falling on a Tuesday...as we mark the 9 Years and 1 Month Remembrance Day...
of the new normal...that has changed all of our lives...and that we know to be...anything but normal.

As we begin the first week of Lent... the mass being offered in your memory today...was at noon...and as I have have come to expect...without Mr. P being there...your name was not read aloud.

The Gospel and the homily...emphasized the forgiveness of one's transgressors...if you yourself expect to be forgiven...by God...of your own transgressions. It looks like I have a long way to go...on many levels...to come to terms with that.

Today when I visited your resting place...the path was clear...thanks to the slightly elevated temperatures... from yesterday...which melted what had been a snow packed entry....when I visited on Sunday. There was still some ice...on the lower portion of the path ...which the ground crew could have cleared...but didn't...and so another irksome item...not exactly requiring forgiveness...but still irritating...is added to my many levels list...but at least I was able to leave the flower there...and at the statue...when I left mass.

There is still on going news about the FCPD...Bd of Supervisors...a Commission called for...to advise them ...about transparency etc..."face washing" going on...in an attempt to calm the natives who have finally had...their tolerance level for steer droppings...maxed out. The Bd should have been watching them...well before 2005...and holding them to a standard befitting...their oath of serving and protecting.

When I read the latest WP article on Feb 21...titled: Fairfax County creates commission to review police policies and procedures...and also in hindsight...I have reassessed my belief...which at the time...of your tragic loss...had put faith in the system...and my thinking that there may have been... among those there that night...honorable people...who had a conscience...and would have...after being party to such an unjustifiable...and reprehensible plan...that resulted in such a wrongful act to take place...would then come forward...in truth...but instead they circled the wagons...and put up their blue wall. I guess we as a family...were using our own values...as the measure...and standard...with which...to assess others...thinking they were more like us than not. So wrong.

As I keep hoping...and praying...ever since 2006...when we were led to believe...that changes would be made...although I never saw anything first hand...this Commission... although too late...to be of consequence or benefit to you...and our family..with God's blessings...may be helpful for others.

Sal...you know you are loved...and missed...and a song...I recently heard...that had a few minor lyrics changed...from the original..certainly spoke to me...and how I feel...I Can't Let Go.

Watch over our family...you know the needs and concerns. God bless you son.

You are in my thoughts and in my prayers...always.

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