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September 24, 2014
Dear Salvatore...I attended today's noon mass...that I had scheduled in your memory...on this..."8 Years and 8 Months Remembrance Day." I brought flowers to your resting place...and to the Saint Joseph statue...since it hasn't been removed yet.

The sacred spaces people...are suppose to cast a new statue...because the one that has been there...for the last 3 years...was ruined by their attempts to seal its finish...but so far the damaged statue...has not been replaced ...by the promised new one.

Sadly...Dad had to give up on your car. I remember the night you brought it home. Cousin Anthony was visiting us ...and we all went outside...to see your new 2000 Dark Navy Blue Pontiac Bonneville...and you were so happy to show it to us. I have a photo of you and “Father” Anthony...standing in front of it... right after he gave you...and your car ...a blessing. I also remember...by Christmas in 2005...you had asked us...to go with you...to start looking...for a new car...right after the holidays... because you felt the mileage...you were putting on it...going from one office in Warrenton...to the other in Manassas...was becoming a wear n tear issue...for it...and since Dad also wanted to get a new car...you could both go looking at the same time.

After what they caused to happen...to you...and us....our world came to an end...and Dad just kept your car... and although I didn't want him to drive it...he did...up until this past Thursday...when it broke down on the beltway. He had been throwing money into it...repair after repair...over the years...and now...the transmission he had already replaced in 2009... conked out on his way to work He entertained the idea of replacing it once again...but I think I surprised your father...when I told him to let it go...because everybody knows...that I don't like to part with anything that was yours...and the reason...I didn't encourage him to have it fixed...was because...you had wanted a “new car”...way back then...so I felt it would be more than ok...to now give up on it. After I cleaned it out... wiped it down...and vacuumed it very thoroughly...we donated it to a veteran's charity. I took one last picture of it...as it was being towed away...but the one I'll cherish...is the one of you...with Anthony... smiling so broadly...and looking so happy.

I love you Sal...and I miss you...each and every day.

Keep watching over your sisters..their families...and...your brother.

God bless you son. You are in my thoughts...and in my prayers...always.
September 09, 2014
Dear Salvatore...Today is the 450th Tuesday...and although I did visit you today...I must confess...that there have been a few times...when our weekly Tuesday's...had to become Wednesday's or Thursday's...over these years...because of that very last thing...you said to me...about getting my knee issues resolved...which I still have not done...and now they have become...the very reasons why... some of our Tuesday's...have been missed.

This past weekend was a hectic one... as Dad wound up in the ER...because he over-extended himself...with "do it yourself" tasks...in and out of doors ...on a particularly hot and humid Saturday...and since he's never one to pace himself...or stop to take a breather and a drink of water...he managed to become very dehydrated...to the point of almost having to be hospitalized. Although all the tests he was given...proved to be negative ...his symptoms...of dizziness and constant vomiting exhausted him...and kept depleting what he tried to drink ...so he spent the balance of his time sleeping...only waking to take in sips of fluids...that he hoped would stay down. He saw Dr. F on Monday...and he ordered an electrolyte panel...and we are waiting for the results. In the meantime...he is trying to replenish his potassium and salts. I personally think...there was a bit of sun-stroke involved...but alas I don't have a shingle...so my diagnosis fell on deaf ears. Gatorade has been suggested for the moment...as the cure all.

After I had already read the newspaper article...a few days ago...leaving a comment too...re the lawsuit filed by a Springfield family...against the FCPD...ML phoned the house...wanting to touch base with us...knowing that the Jackman article...on what happened at the hands of the FCPD...to the Springfield man...would certainly be upsetting to us. We spoke for a while...and I wished him...and the involved family..the justice they deserve...since it appears...that the FCPD hasn't learned much...over these last 8 years 7 months and 16 days... especially when they are dealing with ...an unarmed person.

Our world keeps getting sicker...and sicker...on so many levels...and yet there are those...who remain quite unprepared for that time...when all their wrongs...will be accounted for..and their consequences realized. Until then...God help all of us.

I love you Sal...and ask that you... watch over our family...especially... your sisters...your nieces...your nephews...and most importantly...your brother.

I miss you...and you are in my daily prayers...always.
September 03, 2014
Dear Sal...It happened again...and the FCPD is once more responsible...for causing another family...to grieve and ...be forever changed.

Jackman wrote the article...and it was in today's...our Tuesday's..Washington Post. The victim's family...has just passed the one year mark...of their loved ones loss. The information they are seeking...has yet to be given to them. They do not know the name of the office...who killed their son...and devastated his children...nor has the family...received any answers...to their many questions.

They had been quietly waiting all this time...thinking that the FCPD...has a conscience...was doing their job...and then would be forthcoming. We thought that too...and like us...the first year ended for them too...and they learned the hard way...that the only way to get answers...was to file a lawsuit...and...it was announced today.

I do hope they fare better than we did ...since there is a new cast of higher ups...as Gerry Connolly was elected to Congress...but not with my votes... Robert Horan...the then Commonwealth Atty. is retired...I didn't know there is an award named for him...and it's bestowed yearly...to the individual ...who has demonstrated the highest level of excellence...in advancing the pursuit of justice...for the citizens of the Commonwealth of VA. We were and are citizens of VA...and now I'm wondering...if you can be the recipient of an award named for you... and if not...maybe that's why he didn't appoint a grand jury...to hear our case...he probably didn't want to be considered self serving...and yes I am being sarcastic...also ex FFX County Police Chief Rohrer...who was once a SWAT first line supervisor... not a comforting thought for me...has a new position...as deputy county executive...in charge of public safety programs...and will oversee the Police Dept...so what is that flip definition about insanity...and with any luck... maybe their lawyers...that we dealt with...are no longer involved...in county legal matters. They were an obnoxious threesome. Oh, I almost forgot the DOJ...with their bar raised ever so high...when it comes to civil rights violations...and officer's intent. Right!! And heaven help them...if they go to the Richmond Court of Appeals...since they don't really like to make decisions...but they will Deny...or Dismiss the facts in an appeal. I guess I am getting old...and I no longer feel the need... to mince words.

I hope this family...can withstand getting dragged...through all the many frustrations and disappointments...of a slow moving legal system...that seems to care less about the rights of the victim...and more about the inept badge wearers...and a department and union...that has an us vs them... attitude and mentality...even when they may be in the wrong.

Of course...something written by the reporter rubbed me wrong...and so I commented...and a usual holier than thou type...voiced his opinion...re my feelings in the matter...and somehow I managed...to not dignify his stupidity ...with a response...which is out of character for me...but I'm learning...and it was fortunate...that two other people who also commented...did check him on it.

I'm sure I will be keeping tabs...on how it progresses for them...and saying lots of prayers for ML's health ...and hopefully a victorious outcome ...with justice having been served... sooner than later.

I love you son...and continue to have a tough time...with my broken promise to you.

Rest peacefully Sal...and keep close watch over your sisters...their families...and your brother.

I love you...I miss you...and you remain in my heart..in my thoughts ...and in my prayers...always.
August 24, 2014
Dear Sal...We attended the 10:30 mass this morning...being offered for the repose of your soul...on this 103rd Month Remembrance Day.

Today is also Dad's birthday...but I doubt that it's a happy one for him... despite the attempt...to celebrate it with some friends...last night.

The news has been insane...the last few weeks...none of it good...and some of it...really hits home...so it has us reeling again...and running that gamut of emotions...that leaves each of us...wanting to scream...and scream ...until we can't scream anymore...and it has to do with injustice...”use of force” policies...and all the PD buzz words...that are off putting...a new one on me is...”social capital"... which some "expert" cites as...what is needed...to whether this “type of storm"...as another police shooting... of an unarmed person...this time in Missouri...raises the tally once again.

Reading the reported accounts...about the unarmed black teen...who was shot and killed...by a white police officer ...and what may...or may not have taken place...that put this incident into motion...or watching the news on TV... and then listening to the talking heads of radio...and their call-in audiences...who all want to voice...their thoughts and opinions... and in many cases their unfounded conclusions...and finally...the badge wearers who close ranks...and as one reporter stated...opt for obscurity... rather than needed transparency... which in my opinion...is all due to their..."us vs them" attitude and mentality...continues to strike...one too many chords with me...relative to some of the treatment we experienced.. when dealing with the "us"...in our own very unnecessary and unjustifiable loss.

Until more is made known...I will try to temper my upset...but that is never easy for me.

Sal...watch over your sisters...their families...and your brother. You know my concerns for each of them...and what is in my heart.

I love you son...and I miss you. You are in my thoughts...and in my prayers ...always
July 24, 2014
Dear Sal...Just got back from the noon mass...being offered in your memory today...on this 8 Years and 6 Months Day of Remembrance. Although your name was listed in the church bulletin...it went unannounced from the altar.

After mass...I went to the florist... and had 3 arrangements made. I left the first one at your resting place... and the second at the St. Joseph statue...which is again looking like it was vandalized. Evidently the third attempt at fixing some of the imperfections on it...was definitely not the charm. It now looks all caked...and gloppy...and is two or three different shades of a mustardy color. The salesperson from the religious store...said he will have the NY artist...come down to remedy it. I think it needs to be totaled...and they should provide us with a new statue...since they are the ones who have messed it up each time.

This past week...I was on a war path of sorts. A plant I had left at your resting place earlier in the week...actually two days prior to the current visit...I was making...was missing. My first thought...was not the deer. There was no way...one could have carried it off in his mouth...at least not without leaving some telltale signs...like at least ...spilled dirt. The entire plant was gone...as though it was just picked up...and carried off. I figured... maybe someone who uses the area...as a personal jogging path...since this wasn't the first time...that a plant I've left...disappeared...while no other flowers in the area were disturbed...may have helped himself... once again...and is using them to create a garden.

I did decide to ask the caretakers..if they were told to remove plants...and when I was told...they are at times... and do...if the plants are dead...but considering that I am up there several times a week...and don't like seeing dried out flowers...which I'm sure wasn't a problem with the latest missing plant...I asked at the front office...if they would tell the crew...and the manager of the groundskeepers...to leave what I put there...alone...and I will take care of what ever is needed. It really irritates me...because no other vases are disturbed...and their flowers are long overdue for discarding...but they are never touched...so I wonder exactly what is going on. You know me...I'm no shrinking violet...and I don't mince words...so I am not expecting it to happen again...but we shall see.

The third arrangement...I also left at the statue...in Richard's memory... because tomorrow marks...his...8 Years Remembrance Day. Each time I recall what he wrote...in his letter of condolence to me...about remembering you always....it saddens me to think...that just six months and one day after your loss...he also was called back home by God. Each of you...as well as Vinny...is so missed.

On a more pleasant note...last night we got to wish one of your nieces...a Happy 14th Birthday. Time keeps passing...and your nieces and nephews ...are growing up so fast. I wish you were here with us and them.

Please keep watch over each of them...as well as your sisters and your brother.

I love you son...I miss you...and you are in my thoughts each day...and in my prayers...always.
June 24, 2014
My Dear.Salvatore...I wasn't able... to schedule a mass for you...on this...Eight Years and Five Months Remembrance Day...because...the last of the Novena of Father's Day masses.. that began on the sixteenth...were ending today...but there will be a mass...offered in your memory... tomorrow...which I will be attending.

Earlier...I visited your resting place ...and the St. Joseph statue...and I left flowers...at both locations.

Today was a beautiful...bright and warm day...one that you should have been enjoying...but there we were... with me on one side...of an inscribed marble slab...and you on the other. I know this is my reality...the new normal...but the circumstances...that have brought us to this point...are hard to believe...and even harder to accept.

The questions that were asked of them did not get credible answers...so for me...they remain unresolved...and will continue to run through my head...along with my many thoughts... regarding their lack of honor and integrity...in a profession...that should strive for nothing less...if they really mean...to serve and protect. I can't help how my thoughts and feelings surface...and God knows.. that I make no apologies...for what I think of those...who caused your loss ...and our grief.

I miss you son...so very much...and for so many reasons.

God bless you Sal...as you keep watching over...your sisters...their families...and...your brother.

I love you Sal...and you are in my thoughts...each and every day...and in my prayers...always.
June 15, 2014
Dear Son...I wish you a very blessed “GOD-Father's Day...as you keep watch over your two Godchildren...as well as your sisters...and your other nieces and nephews.

God Bless You Sal.

I love you...I miss you...and you are in my prayers...always.
May 24, 2014
Dear Sal...Today marks...the 100th Month Remembrance Day...and I will once again...be receiving communion for your intention...at the 8:30 mass...being offered for you this morning.

One would think…from what I term as remembrance days…that all the other days...in between the twenty-fourth of one month...to the next month's twenty-fourth...are just regular days for me…but they aren't. Thoughts of you... come to mind...every day...and throughout my day. I could be in the midst of a mundane chore...or in a grocery store...or out with friends... or watching TV...or just waiting for a light to change...and in an instant... despite what is going on around me... or what I am doing...you suddenly pop into my head...and I suppose that is because...you are with me all the time...as I carry you close in my heart. I love you...and I miss you.

This past weekend...we were at West Point...for Dad's 50th...Class of ‘64 Graduation Reunion. The turnout was impressive...with over 300 “Old” cadets...their spouses...and in some cases...even their children and grandchildren...in attendance.

I regret...that we never visited West Point...with you or your siblings... when you all were younger. It is an impressive service academy...as well as a national landmark...and yet we took it for granted...as native New Yorkers...and it became...just where Dad went to college...besides...when- ever we were in the NY area...it wasn't to sight-see...but to spend time with our family...now in hindsight...who knows...maybe if you had seen...what a beautiful setting it was...and remains...in addition to its discipline...that forges young boys... into becoming strong and responsible men...who value the principles of... Duty...Honor...Country...it may have influenced your choice...when it was time...for you to consider colleges. I do believe...you could have met...all the requirements...for acceptance..but then I think back...and remember what you said...as a little boy...about the “most dangerous things" in the world.. that you wouldn't want to do...one of which...was to be a soldier...and now I'm thinking...at least a soldier...had a fighting chance...but a non-threatening...compliant...eye doctor...standing in his own driveway ...facing an armed SWAT officer...may have fared better...as a soldier...see Sal...this is how my head goes...from one thing to another. Back to what I was intending to write.

We stayed about 35 minutes from the Point...and rode in buses...that dropped us off...door to door. It was very well organized...and we had a really good time...as we reconnected with so many old friends...and got caught up...on where our years have taken us...and our families. There were lots of laughs...stimulating conversations...Dad's singing...two nights in a row...and which I must admit...was enjoyed by everyone...of course he really enjoyed...all the positive comments and compliments he got. There was also a beautiful and heartfelt...memorial service...for all the fallen members of the class...and then the graveside visits...to those of them...who are buried at the West Point cemetery...so along with the laughter...there were also tears...and with that in mind...on this Memorial Weekend... may all of our fallen servicemen and women...defenders of the freedoms...we still are enjoying ...rest peacefully...in God's eternal light.

Please watch over your Godchild...she is abroad...and I for one...won't rest easily...until she gets back home. There are also other matters...that need special attention...and you know what they are...and for whom.

You are loved...you are missed...and you are in my prayers...always.
May 06, 2014
Dear Son…Today your Goddaughter turned 20…but we can't celebrate her birthday until tomorrow…because she is at UVA...taking the last of her sophomore end terms.

Her ambition to be a high school Math teacher...is underway. This is year two for her…with three to go…since it is a five year program…and despite carrying …more than the required credits...she is doing quite well. God bless her!

The changes in these last 8+ years…are most evident…as I see how much…your nieces and nephews…have grown. The oldest...will be 23…in just a couple of weeks. How I wish you were here…to see who they are becoming.

I must say...I was both surprised and grateful...to read that Michael too... is praying for you.

Sal...watch over each of them...as well as their parents...and your brother...too.

I love you Son...and you are in my prayers...always.
April 27, 2014
Uncle Sal,
You are in my prayers. If you are in purgatory at this moment, I hope that you can get out as soon as possible, so that you can enjoy the fullness of heaven in all of its GLORY! It is Divine Mercy Sunday. I will be going to Adoration at 3:00 and will be praying for you today.

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