To my Friend;
John F Palmer, IV, Army Veteran, Purple Heart and Bronze Star recipient, which means that he was a "giant among men", as well as being one of the most decorated men in York, Pa.
I came to York in, in 1997; I first met J.P. at the American Legion Post 794, where we had our first, of many conversations about our life's experiences.
I quickly learned that he had some special topics and interests:
1. His wife, Ruthie
2. His children and their
3. His family & friends
4. York, Pa
5. Being a postal worker
6. His Country
7. His service in the U.S. Army,
especially the 101st Airborne
Both of us, being Vietnam Veterans, were able to exchange a few war stories. I knew that he was awarded a purple heart, for wounds he sustained in Vietnam. We talked of the time he spent in Colorado, recovering from wounds and why he became a Denver Bronco Fan.
J.P. had a strong interest in military history. When I did research for different projects like, The Buffalo Soldiers, The Tuskegee Airman, the desegregation of the US Military, I would share the information with him, because he loved the military along with his and the service of African Americans.
J.P. was a life member of the American Legion #127 & 794, Veterans' of Foreign Wars # 556, as well as a member of his 101 Airborne Association.
J.P. wanted every one to know and remember the contribution of African Americans in this countries conflict.
He was the organizer for the 127 and 794 Vets to attend the annual veterans' day breakfast, he made sure we all had tickets, which I missed this year, because he didn't call, as a result, I missed the event for the first time since 1998.
We will all miss our brother, our friend, our neighbor and our comrade, but we will always remember his smile, gentle manner, his love for his family, and the pride of his children's accomplishments.
His legacy is one that cannot be duplicated, but one we all should honor and remember.
Rest I peace my friend and comrade!!
You were like one of my brother's to me. And I will miss you deeply. And now you are in a better place.
Never to be forgotten
I can not believe you have been gone for a year Johnny. I am so grateful for the time I got to know you, to be friends, to be part of your family. Michael and I think of you every single day. Your personality shines through in Junie. I am sure you are up in heaven looking down and laughing as we throw the ball for him for the thousandth time that day. You will never be forgoten.
Where do I begin, You will be always be OLD MAN, to me. I Loved you then and I will miss your caring way that you had for Shannon and I.
love you always, Margo and Shannon
Hey dad , it's hard to believe that a year has gone by, I'm missing you so much. Still feels so fresh to me i often find myself wondering why you had to leave. I think of you all the time, your smile, how proud you were of me, our breakfast dates our lunch dates and our yard cleaning days. We had a special father and daughter bond. We liked the same things, and if something made me mad it made you mad too, you were always on my side. No one will take your place. I'm not one much for words but I love and miss you . Your daughter.
It has been a year today that God has called you home. There is not a day that goes by that you are not thought of in a loving and funny way. I often think of all the conversations we shared. I could always talk to you about anything. Thank you for always listening to me and providing me with positive guidance. Today at the VFW Post 556 your friends and I reminisced about all of the good times we had with you and how you were full of life and fun. Myself and Shonna laugh about all of the times we would try to buy you a new movie as a gift and how you would already have the movie. We will always love you.
Carl "Lil Johnny" Williams III and DaShonna Hedgepeth
How time flies. I can't believe it's been a year already. I remember all the times you made me laugh. All we had was good times together. There was never a dull moment around you. My sisters and I still talk about you, and how funny you were. Making us smile and giving us your love was more than we could of asked for. You will always be in our hearts. We miss you all the time. We will always be grateful to have had someone as amazing as you in our lives. Its still not easy. Things like this aren't meant to be. But you will live on in us until we meet again. We love you so much Uncle Johnny.
It has been almost a year since we said our final goodbye, I remember it as if it were yesterday. Although it has not been easy, the many good memories we have of you bring about smiles and laughter. Thank you for always making me feel like a daughter, laughter at my expense only made me feel more like one of your own :-) I love you and I miss you but your memory will forever live on.
Never to Be Forgotten
Never to be forgotten is....
The smile upon your face
Never to be forgotten is......
All the pain you help to erase
Never to be forgotten is......
Your heart and love so true
You had to leave but will never be forgotten
For our lives are richly blessed
To have had the pleasure of knowing you
"Gees O Boom"
Rest Easy Mr. Palmer
This is a poem you gave to me;
When you've loved someone for as long as you can remember, and you can no longer imagine an unshared tomorrow, you have discovered the meaning of forever......
I miss you everyday and everyday after that. My life has surely been blessed with you in my life. Love you
Your Wife, Ruthie
Good afternoon everyone;
I would like to first thank you all for coming today to show your respects to my Father and supporting my family and friends. Today is a special day and as I may not know all of you, today, I consider everyone apart of our family during this time of grief.
With that being said, this is a celebration of John F Palmer, IV's life and his achievements. My Dad was a special and loving man. And looking out at all of you here today he has touched many lives. Growing up, II looked up to my Dad. I was always amazed at what he has done and his selflessness. I didn't quite understand the magnitude of this as a child, but as a man, I understand all he has done and represented very well.
I have had the honor of knowing him as a Father, Friend and Brother in Arms. He was always strong and there for family and friends. And though I wasn't ready for this time to come, he fought his fight many years ago and stood tall. And again, he went once more into the fray and showed me what heroism and bravery really means. I will never forget my Father and will always honor his name. After all, he was always proud of me, even when I wasn't proud of myself. I told him that I was ready when he was ready, and that I will see him when I get there.
Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Nurture strength and spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. Do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. And whether or not it's clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Love you Dad,
Your Son, Jaris
What happened? And what happened to our time together? Hind site can really set ones mind to re-live the sequences of your life.
I, everyday for maybe a year have been really thinking about us - where we live and if we'd stay, the thought of having a new grandson, would we move closer to them, the only thing that never changed, is that we would be together.
Well, since the destiny of avenues are not ours, I can think back to see I was being prepared for where we are now and so were you. People always say, "God won't give you more than you can bear". Well, I'd like to say, "God prepares us for the things we will have to bear".
Looking back all I can say is, I was forced to drive more, make decisions more, handle our finances, just forced to do things that I never had to worry about before. Consequently, practice makes perfect.
My life will never be the same. I married and loved my best friend and I thank God for the union. Johnny you while sick was able to say to me, "honey no regrets" and I replied, "no regrets", and at that moment you were actually not thinking of you but of me. I thankyou for that love and thoughtfulness.
You made loving another person worth sharing with every other person what love really means.
So babe, no more pain, no more sorrow, I will love you past all the tomorrows. Till I see you, Ronald, Jamere again.
Your wife Ruthie,John V, Portia, Jackie, Jaris and Grandkids
It got harder and harder since the day you left but still people keep telling me everything shall be okay
I know deep inside that it's better up there but we're not together which makes it unfair
Seems like yesterday that we were together then I opened my eyes to realize gone means forever
It hurts and it aches its slicing my heart for the rest of my life we shall be apart
I'm waiting for the future hoping to see you and I know your're fly
I hope that when I die you'll open up the gates for me
Having a Pop Pop with a heart made of gold...your're my favorite treasure which will never grow old
Family reunions will never be the same
Now that you're gone I have no one to turn to
I don't understand the meaning of Life
but I know God will assist me and make everything alright
You are officially gone but forever in my heart
You and me Poppy together, yet apart
Love you PopPop, your Grand-daughter
I remember all the times you told me to make the best of situations. You always made me laugh, and brought nothing but a smile to my face. Words really can't express how much I miss you. You were so good to my sisters and I. We will always love you. All I have is happy memories of you. It hasn't been that long... I just still can't believe you're gone. I miss hearing your laugh and seeing your smiling face. I know you're in Gods hands and you're being taken care of. I love you so much Uncle Johnny.
Time is certainly not waiting for my heart to feel better. It's been 4 months already and I still feel like it was yesterday. However, time is allowing me to review in my mind all the things we've talked about over the years. It's funny how it all comes flooding back. You've taught me so many things over the years.
Honey, I am so grateful that you loved me and I loved you back. It certainly made blending two hearts as one a lot easier.
Everyday I would sing to you our song: God will take care of you - through everyday - all of the way - he will take care of you - God will take care of you. I took care of you NOW God is taking care of you.
No regrets babe, no regrets.
I love you Johnny, and will see you again.
Your wife, Ruthie
To The Family:
Please accept our condolences. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all during this difficult time.
Earth Has no sorrow that Heaven cannot heal. Although it's difficult today to see beyond the sorrow, may looking back in memory help comfort you tomorrow.
With Deepest Sympathy
The Barnes Family
Dear Palmer Family,
Grief can be so hard during the holidays ,but your special memories will help you to cope. Johnny Bupp was a friend, neighbor ,and classmate(66).I will always remember his smile and the good times we shared growing up on West Princess Street.
To the family of Johnny:
Our deepest condolences during this time of bereavement. May you find comfort and peace in knowing that Heaven has a gentleman that is up there opening doors, pulling out chairs, and always offering an act of kindness with a friendly smile.
God Bless you all.
Our hearts are heavy with sadness at the thought of your light no longer shining on this planet.It seems like yesterday that all the kids in the neighborhood were running up and down Princess Street laughing and playing. It was such a special blessing to have Jack and Jaris and Jared laughing and playing together like we did as kids!!!
To Ruthie and family, remember that GOD is only a prayer away
We will always remember with kindness and laughter our days spent growing up on W. Princess St. in York. Johnny "Bupp" will always remain in our hearts and memories. To Ruthie and Family our prayers are with you as we know his Light will forever shine.
"Stevie Harley"(Stephanie Terry)
As the days and weeks pass, and as you return to life's routine, may you continue to feel comforted by the love and support of family and friends.
Dear Ruthie and Family,
We are saddened to hear of the passing of your beloved Johnnie. Our hearts and prayers are with you at this time. Thank you both for sharing special times with us and giving us great memories we will always hold close in our hearts.
Love, Janet, JoAnne, Kim, Susan, Linda and Kelly Blouse
Wonderful memories are what we have of you,our love to the family keye,chuck,minnie Lowery Sis and Lawrence Tyler.
Portia & family - I'm sorry to hear about your loss. You are in my thoughts & prayers.
John, you will be missed by many but will remain in our hearts and thought of fondly. Carol Hill-Evans
Ruthie my heart goes out to you Jack and Jaris....especially during this time of year... if you need anything you know where I am....I miss you... keep thinking/ smiling about Jackson!!! God had a different path in mind for Johnny... Love you guys!!!! xoxo
TO THE PALMER FAMILY
GO REST HIGH ON THE MOUNTAIN.HOME AT LAST WITH OUR OTHER MILITARY FRIENDS.THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE TO OUR COUNTRY.MAY THE LORD COMFORT YOUR FAMILY IN THE DAYS AHEAD. SO SORRY I COULD NOT MAKE THE TRIP . REST IN PEACE.
ruthie i will truly miss my dear friendhewas always a part of the nelsons
Gonna miss seeing Johnny and hollering, Mary Jane and him hollering back, hey Dora. We've always considered ourselves family because my Uncle Frank,his sisters Sharon(Hun)and Lydia(Sissy)Palmers dad was my Moms brother.RIP to all of them.
To Ruthie and family. Our deepest thoughts and prayers we forward to you and family. John was loved and respected by so many. May God bless your family. From: Otto Sexton, and so many friends from Post 556.
Life long friends are hard to come by and Johnny was one of them and will be sorely missed
Rev. Kenneth Newman Sr.
Palmer Family, I am so sorry for your loss. Johnny Bulb was part of the Williams family. He and my uncle Willie were always together. I feel like I lost an uncle. He will be sorely missed.
Mrs. Ruth & Family-
My Deepest Condolence to you and your Family . God Bless Always
To the family....He only took his hand. God didn't take John from you, he only took his hand. May the Lord watch over the family with his love. Never forget a smile.
Take comfort in knowing that now you have a special guardian angel to watch over you.
I grew up with "Johnny Bupp" back in our West End days! One of the nicest brothers you could ever meet. My deepest and most sincere condolences to the family.
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, but love leaves a memory that no one can steal. You will live in our hearts forever. Marty & Mary Lou Slusser
PALMER FAMILY MY DEEPEST SYMPATHY RIP JOHNNY MAILMAN PALMER
My heart is breaking for you during this holiday season. I am so sorry for your loss. Try to focus on that beautiful baby boy that is coming very soon!!!! Much Love to You!
As a proud member of The Class Of "66"Know Johnny Bubb will always be remembered I'm going to miss
U my dear friend God Bless U and may his light shine upon U rest in peace know Ruthie & Family you are in my heart and prayers God Bless you know your Husband & Father was loved and Respected that's for Sure!!
To: Ruthie, Bus and The Family my prayers are with you at this time. May GOD comfort you and hold you close to him. No words can express the lose that you feeling right now. GOD BLESS you all.
Ruthie and Family,
I am so sorry to hear about John! Such a pleasant and kind guy' You are in my thoughts and prayers,
To Ruthie and Family, My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Love you,
Temeko & Ashadaya
You all are in my thoughts and prayers.
Temeko & Ashadaya
John was a good mailman and a nice guy, I carried mail in York and remember him well. I was also a Army Vietnam Vet, condolences to the family RIP John Palmer
Aunt Ruthie and boys. Uncle Johnny will be missed deeply. You guys are in my prayer. I love you guys
My condolences to the family.God bless you.So very hard to think that John has passed. We played together so many times in the projects. He was called Johnny Bulb and I was Johnny Cake. The names stayed with us all our lives. He would always check on my father as they became friends also. Always looked forward to seeing him when at home.John will be missed.
May God Bless you and keep you through these troubled times. You had a wonderful gift in your life and We're proud to say that Uncle Johnnie was a special man that God Bless us to have a part in our lifes. Thanks for him being there for us. Love, Bobby and Melissa Beady. (Nakoya,Nakayla and Lenazia)
TO RUTHIE AND FAMILY YOU ALL IN OUR PRAYERS KNOWING GOD WILL GIVE YOU STRENGTH YOU NEED
Ruthie & Family; my heart, prayers be with you & your family; keep the faith & may God keep Blessing you. Give you strentgh. Marcella Carr-Eady & Family
A Life that has made a difference in so many other lives will be well remembered.
May you find comfort in knowing that your loved one lives on in so many beautiful ways.
R.I.P. Johnny we love and will miss you.
My PRAYERS are with you and your family
To Ruthie and family. We are so sorry to hear of the passing of John. All of you are in our prayers, as God continues to bless you with comfort & peace.