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Arlene Calder

1938 - 2017

BORN

1938

DIED

2017

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Slattery Funeral Home - Marlborough

40 Pleasant Street

Marlborough, Massachusetts

Arlene Calder Obituary

Arlene F. Calder, 79

Marlborough - Arlene F. (Mordsfeld) Calder, 79, of Marlborough, died Tuesday, June 13, 2017 at Coleman House Skilled Nursing Facility, Northborough, MA. Born in Schenectady, NY, she was the daughter of the late Edward and Ethel (Wolfe) Mordsfeld and the wife of the late James R. Calder, who died in 2002.

A graduate of Colonie High School, Colonie, NY, Arlene was employed for many years at the Center for Better Living in Marlborough before working in the office of Dr. Abraham Hurwitz from which she retired in 1989. She had previously been employed at Stop & Shop. Her outgoing personality and endless sense of humor left a smile with everyone she met. Her generous and selfless nature was reflected in her volunteer activities. She spent much of her life giving to those in need, whether it was through her church, or local food pantries, most recently the Hudson Community Food Pantry. She brought joy to others and found joy in spending time with her large immediate family, her church friends and community, camping, and parades, especially the Marlborough Labor Day Parade.

She is survived by her sons, Kenneth J. Calder and his wife Brenda of Marlborough, Scott M. Calder and his wife Pamela of Bellingham and Daniel P. Calder and his wife Mary of Frankfort, NY, her sisters, Mavis Saddlemire of Colonie, NY and Lois Tammany and her husband Brian of Chandler, AZ, 14 grandchildren, 10 great-grandchildren and many nieces and nephews.

Visiting hours will be held on Monday, June 19 from 4-7 pm at the Slattery Funeral Home, Inc., 40 Pleasant St., Marlborough, MA. Funeral services will be held on Tuesday, June 20, at 10:00 am at St. Stephen Lutheran Church, 537 Bolton St., Marlborough. Burial will be held at the convenience of the family.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Hudson Community Food Pantry or a non perishable food item may be brought to the visiting hours or the service.

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Published by Worcester Telegram & Gazette from Jun. 16 to Jun. 17, 2017.
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Scott, Danny & Kenny,

So sorry for the loss of your mom. She was awesome and will live on forever in the minds and hearts of us "kids" in the Russell St. neighborhood. We were never able to get anything past her...her stern but loving voice was always pointing us in the right direction. Probably the greatest thing I will remember her for is organizing the neighborhood to attend VBS at your church in Westboro every summer. I will always hear her voice when I see a grape arbor ("don't hang on the grape arbor!")

Love you all,

Vicki

Vicki Poore

June 21, 2017

Ken and family,

We're so sorry to hear of the passing of your mom. She is in our thoughts and prayers, as our all of you.

Love,
Lindsey and Chris Cusson

Chris Cusson

June 21, 2017

Ken, Scott and Dan -

So sorry to hear of the passing of your mom. What I remember most about your mom was her great smile and laugh. She always made me smile. My thoughts and prayers are with you all in the passing of this wonderful great lady.

Linda Matthews.

June 20, 2017

Ken and Family,
My condolences.

Bob Landry

June 20, 2017

Please accept my condolences for the loss of your mother.

David Tabor

Friend

June 19, 2017

Love and prayers for the Calder family.

Jacob and Telana Fairchild

Friend

June 18, 2017

For 54 of my 55 years I tore open a birthday card from Aunt Arlene. Her loopy cursive brought news of my cousins, and then also their kids and grandkids; the graduations, weddings, babies, the vacations and illnesses and recoveries, all the challenge and delight of their lives.

She must have spent a good part of her every day sitting down to pay attention to her loved ones, making connections, reaching out. As much as she enjoyed conversation dad called her Gabby, she called him Baldy it was Aunt Arlene's actions that spoke most eloquently. With a whoop of humor or a cluck of sympathy, she accepted, and shared.

Arlene was a light in the window, for sure. As long as anyone who stood in the glow of her smile still breathes, she will continue to shine.

With love and deepest sympathy for your loss,
Lori and Darryl

Lori Calder

June 18, 2017

KEN AND ALL,SO SORRY TO HEAR THE NEWS,SHE AND YOUR FATHER R TOGETHER AGAIN,

DANIEL AND CHERYL MULLEN

June 17, 2017

Ken and family, I am so sorry to hear of your mothers passing. I hadn't seen her in recent years but I will always remember her great sense of humor and outgoing personality. I'm sorry she was unable to be at the 60th. reunion, I'm sure she would have enjoyed it. May she rest in peace.
Sandy Vigars

Sandy (DeVoe) Vigars

June 17, 2017

My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you. I am so sorry for your loss. May God bless and keep you.

Grace Sheldon Lyons

June 17, 2017

I didn't know Arlene that well, but when I met her I knew she had the sweetest personality!! I met her the day my grandbaby, her great-grandbaby was born!! She was so excited and just beaming with excitement! God has gained an angel!!

Lynn Foss

June 17, 2017

June 16, 2017

The last few years when Arlene and I visited, we just shared our memories of the neighborhood, our children and families. It was a good life and I am so glad she was part of my life and part of the lives of my children while they were growing up.
We are all blessed knowing her.

Boys you made your mom so proud.

Deepest Sympathy


Linda Rennie

Linda Rennie

Neighbor

June 16, 2017

I am so happy for Aunt Arlene because I am sure of where she is, but she will greatly missed by the hearts she touched. Keeping my cousins in prayer, Chris

Chris Calder

Family

June 15, 2017

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