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James Baumer Obituary
James Jay Baumer, 41, of Phoenix, Ariz., formerly of Allentown, died on Sunday, January 6, when a bus he was a passenger, tumbled down an embankment near Blanding, Utah, while returning from a ski trip to Colorado. Born in Bethlehem, Jay was the son of Kerry Baumer and the late Judith A. (Collins) Baumer. He was the companion and soul mate of Kim Bidle. Jay graduated from Dieruff High School and attended Lehigh County Community College. He was employed by Lutron Electronic Company Inc., Coopersburg for 22 years. He was a Senior Sales Representative in the Southwest since 1998. He will be remembered as charismatic, full of fun, loving, energetic and ambitious. He was a wonderful son and a treasured friend. He actively pursued photography, skiing, diving, computers and conservation activism while living in Arizona. Survivors: Jay is survived by his companion and soulmate Kim Bidle; his father Kerry A. Baumer and his wife Jean of Macungie; an aunt, Catherine Feldman and her husband Howard of Santa Fe, N.M.; an uncle, Jennings Baumer and his wife Ruby of Allentown; an aunt, Jacquelyn Kotran and her husband Paul; pets, Indi, MeiLey, and Gizmo; cousins; nieces; nephews. Services: Mass of Christian Burial, 11 a.m. Monday, January 14, at St. Francis of Assisi Roman Catholic Church, 11th and Washington Sts. Allentown. Visiting hours 7-8:30 p.m. Sunday, January 13, at the Trexler Funeral Home, 1625 Highland St. Allentown nad 9:45-10:45 a.m. Monday in the church. Interment to be in Arlington Memorial Park, Allentown. Memorial services will be held in Phoenix, Ariz. at a later date. www.trexlerfuneralhome.com. Contributions: Memorial contributions may be made in Jays name to the American Cancer Society, Lehigh Valley Unit 3893 Adler Place Bethlehem PA 18017.
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Memories and Condolences
for James Baumer
Phillip Vermeys
Phillip Vermeys
February 13, 2008
This man was a hard working man.
He cared about the people he conducted business with.
He was very careing and real.
I am sorry his life had to come to such a tragic end!
The only reason I could ever imagine why? Is, GOD wanted him in a better place than we all may be heading for!
Rest in peace my friend!
Phillip Vermeys, a dedicated Lutron Associate.
Lennon
February 10, 2008
I dont know what to say other then i am deeply sorry for your loss.
Me and Jay used to have these long talks whenever i was in phoenix. he taught me alot about everything. and i will never forget him. I give my best to Kim as she probly knows these will be rough days ahead, again, im so sorry.
Melissa Henderson
January 24, 2008
To the Baumer family,
It has been a privilage to know and love Jay since him and my cousin Kim met. I know that he loved her and still does. I send to you my family's deepest sympathy at this time as we help our Kim get back on her feet.
Sincerely and with the deepest respect,
Kristin Mueller (Wilden)
January 22, 2008
Jay's mom, Judy was like a second mom to me growing up so that sort of makes Jay like a brother. While, unfortunately for me, I didn't know him very well I am not surprised to read here what a wonderful guy he turned out to be. Kerry and Judy did a great job! It's sort of ironic that my strongest memory of Jay is of him (maybe about 20 - I was 14) playing his guitar- Stairway to Heaven. Of course I thought he was the coolest thing! Again, I'm not surprised to see so many other people felt that way about him too. Kerry- know that you and your wife and jay's girlfriend are in my prayers. I hope the thought of Judy and Jay being together again gives you strength to get through this unbearable time. Lots of love,
January 19, 2008
May the love of those around you,
help you through the days ahead.
With Sincerest Sympathy
M. Lisa Forner
January 18, 2008
A Memmorial Service for Jay will be held on Saturday, February 9 at 1 pm, at the Creative Living Fellowship, 6530 N. 7th St., Phoenix. 602-906-4080. The CLF requests any flower deliveries to be on Friday.
Gloria Beckley
January 18, 2008
To the Baumer family my God bless your family at this time. It has been very hard during this time for everyone. My son was friends with Reese he was on the bus with James and he did not make it either. But just pray everyday for gods strength and ask the holy spirit to guide you during these times. Again God bless you all. .
Jill Hutter
January 16, 2008
Jay was a wonderful man that was taken from us far too soon. My memories of him are nothing but fondness and one of the few people I've met in this lifetime that made me look into myself and grow. The world is certainly at a loss without his presence...and his laugh...and that qwerky smile he owned.
Dayna Holmberg
January 16, 2008
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
Tracey Hudak (Scholl)
January 15, 2008
I am speechless still..after over a week. I keep thinking some words will come...and I think about Jay and this tragedy most of each day..and truly nothing has come to me. My heart hurts so badly for Kim, his Dad, Jean and all the friends and family that are feeling this incredible pain of losing such an amazing person.
I met Jay on an interview at Lutron when I was 17. I didn't work there at that time, but Jay and I became really good friends..we were together all the time (along with Gretchen)...kareoke at least 3x a week: Rockin Robins on Sunday nights, the Green Pine Inn on Monday nights and Carlotta's (a bar in Coopersburg) on Thursday nights. We were out every night of the week..somewhere...spending time with friends, dancing, having a blast making so, so many memories, of which I have never and will never forget.
There is something Jay told me way back then, and I have never forgotten it. In fact, I have passed it on to so many with all credit going to Jay. Jay told me once, "No one can make you happy; you have to be happy with yourself first"! This is so true..and I have lived by this all the days of my life.
Although, we didn't keep in touch all the time, I always considered him a good friend. Years would pass before we'd see each other but when we did catch up, it was like we never lost touch. He truly was a very special person and a great friend to me and, I know, to so many others as well. I will never forget his friendship..and I do plan to see him again one day, God willing.
God certainly provided us with an unbelievable individual...an unforgettable friend...a kind, sweet person with a heart of gold who has made an impact on so many lives.
...and to Kim, I only met you once, at Jay's mom's funeral, but I can't begin to imagine your feeling of loss. I know what WE are all feeling and the magnitude of what you are feeling could only be unbearable. I am so very sorry. Should you feel comfort in talking with his friends, please do not hesitate to contact me.
...and to Kerry and Jean, you now know I live only one road away from you..if you ever need anything, please know that I am here for you.
May God Bless you and Keep you,
May the Lord make his face shine upon you and give you peace..not just now, but forever.
R.I.P, my dear, sweet friend, Jay!
With Love n' Friendship~
Randy Sharrer
January 15, 2008
My thoughts and prayers are with Jay's loved ones. I always will recall with fondness Jay's calls into Lutron's Richmond facility where we would "battle" over the projects that he was working on in AZ and how we could help him out. It was always a fun conversation and I will miss them. My deepest sympathy.
Peter Murphy
January 15, 2008
Jay,
I enjoyed working with you at Lutron and golfing with you in the tournament. You are a great man and will be missed.
Melissa Smith
January 14, 2008
Jay,
What can I say except that my heart aches that you are not here. The world feels your loss. May we all follow in the footsteps of your love and generousity! I know that the Lord is with you now saying "Well Done my good and faithful servant!". Love always!
STEVE & BEV BECKER
January 14, 2008
KERRY (BUTCH) & JEAN
OUR DEEPEST SYMPATHY GOES OUT FOR YOU AT THIS TIME OF SORROW. OUR FONDEST MEMORIES OF JAY WERE AT THE LAKE AND HUNTING TOGETHER . WE WILL MISS HIM AND BE IN OUR HEARTS & PRAYERS.
Diane and John Allen
January 14, 2008
Jay,
John knew you from the time you were young boys going through elementary and Jr. High school and remembers you as a special person. I met you many years later after joining Lutron. You were so gentle and sweet, whenever you called I would always go out of my way to help you. You were one of those "special guys"! If you were having a bad day (as days can go when one works in sales), I would have never guessed it. Your gentle demeanor and beautiful smile always lit up the room. I am happy that you had many wonderful moments to enjoy your life but so sad that the door had to close so soon for you. We hope God sends special blessings of strength and hope to your family and also for Kim and her mother's speedy recovery.
Nancy & Oscar Kleinsmith
January 14, 2008
Our prayers are with you during your loss.
Karen Knipe, Lutron
January 14, 2008
To Kim and Jay's family,
When everyone heard at Lutron of what happened to Jay, the only words uttered were how good a man and friend he was to all. Jay's smile was infectious as well as his love for life. Know that he touched many people and made a difference. Keep close the memories as one day you will smile with them rather than cry. My sincere sympathy and prayers, k2
Ernestina Ewell
January 14, 2008
Jay was one of the best friends a person could have and I was blessed to have known him. I've been lucky enough to know him since his early day at tech support at Lutron and he's been a good friend ever since. Jay brought Kim to Houston last year and he was the happiest and most content I have ever seen him.. He was a man a Dad could be proud of and a friend I will greatly miss. He thought the world of his Family and Kim and his love for her.. I am so sorry for your loss, if there is anything I can do beside pray for peace and comfort for you please let me know.
Kim get better! You need to be strong girl and know a great man loved you! I'm here for you..
Brian Stine
January 14, 2008
Kerry and Family,
Some of my fondest memories are of my childhood days - growing up across the street from Jay and Mr. and Mrs. Baumer - I will always remember Jay's compassion for his pets, his mechanical work and dedication on his white Chevy Nova that was the desire of every kid on the block, and the loving parents that were just as passionate as he. I feel honored to have been a childhood friend of Jay's - he touched many lives and will be missed dearly. I wish you and your family the best - and my thoughts and prayers are with you!
Saremba Family
January 14, 2008
Jay it has been quite some time since we had a beer at JP O'Malleys or went out for a drink at the Flashdance in Allentown. Our memories of this fun time are still fresh and we will keep you in our memory for ever. May god bless you and your family in this difficult time.
Olivia Baumert
January 14, 2008
Jay,
Reading through this guest book made me realize how many lives you have touched, and how many more I am sure you have touched but who have not posted.
Although I only knew Jay for two years, he was a wonderful person and will be missed by many.
My thoughts and prayers are with the family and Kim during this difficult time.
Sherry Hassler
January 13, 2008
My heart goes out to the family and friends of Jay. He was a truly amazing and wonderful person and will be greatly missed. Although its been years since I have spoken with him I know the world has lost a very special person. May your memories get you through the days ahead.
Sue Brader (Wilden)
January 13, 2008
Kerry and family,
I am so sorry for your loss. I have fond memories of stories Judy shared with me of Jay from when we were little to when we grew into adults. I know how much they loved each other. Take comfort in the belief that they are reunited now in a safe place.
Karen & Art Malone
January 13, 2008
A reminder of how fleeting and precious life is. Live it to the fullest as Jay did in his life with Kim. May he be a reminder to us all. We had the pleasure of diving with both Jay and Kim on many scuba diving adventures.
Kim: We wish you a speedy recovery and know that Jay will be with you always.
Michelle Zaklukiewicz Krueger
January 13, 2008
It's been many years, but the memories still make me smile. Jay was always happy, smiling and having a great time no matter what he was doing! He was an amazing example and a truly good person who will be missed by so many people who were blessed to know him. Jay's family and Kim's family will be in my prayers for healing and peace.
Lisa Berteaux
January 12, 2008
Dear Baumer Family,
I recently also lost my brother Jeff in that same crash. Please know that you are not alone. This was such a terrible tragedy. I pray for us all.
Deb and Den Slivka
January 12, 2008
Jay had a way of making you feel like the most important person in his life. So caring, loving and giving. Jay has made a difference in all our lives and the world is a better place because of him. He recently shared the following with me:
Family
I ran into a stranger as he passed by,
"Oh excuse me please" was my reply.
He said, "Please excuse me too;
I wasn't watching for you."
We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said goodbye.
But at home a different story is told,
How we treat our loved ones, young and old.
Later that day, cooking the evening meal,
My son stood beside me very still.
When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.
"Move out of the way," I said with a frown.
He walked away, his little heart broken.
I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.
While I lay awake in bed,
God's still small voice came to me and said,
"While dealing with a stranger,
common courtesy you use,
but the family you love, you seem to abuse.
Go and look on the kitchen floor,
You'll find some flowers there by the door.
Those are the flowers he brought for you.
He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.
He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise,
You never saw the tears that filled his little eyes."
By this time, I felt very small,
And now my tears began to fall.
I quietly went and knelt by his bed;
"Wake up, little one, wake up," I said.
"Are these the flowers you picked for me?"
He smiled, "I found 'em, out by the tree.
I picked 'em because they're pretty like you.
I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue."
I said, "Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today;
I shouldn't have yelled at you that way."
He said, "Oh Mom, that's okay,
I love you anyway."
I said, "Son, I love you too,
and I do like the flowers, especially the blue."
FAMILY
Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family we left behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.
And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than into our own family, an unwise investment indeed, don't you think? So what is behind the story?
Do you know what the word FAMILY means?
Family - (F)ather (A)nd) (M)other (I) (L)ove (Y)ou
Jay, we love you and will never forget you. And Kim, God speed to both you and your Mother's recovery.
Teresa Long-Szajkovics
January 12, 2008
I am so sorry to hear of Jay's untimely death. I have treasured memories of my time with him at South Mountain Junior High School and Dieruff HS. Although we lost touch over the years, anytime we'd run into each other it was like time had never passed. It is comforting to see that Jay has touched so many lives, but honestly I wouldn't expect anything less! He had the most infectious smile and unstopable spirit. Rest in Peace my friend and God bless his family and friends.
Sean McHugh
January 12, 2008
In our early days at Lutron I hosted and attended many of the Lutron Brat Pack parties. Jay was always there smiling bright. He was loved by everyone. He will be deeply missed.
Lonnie Westerman
January 12, 2008
Jay, I have many great memories in our teenage years, From Little League, cruising the circuit to going fishing in Canada. My deepest sympathy goes out to your family.
Gretchen Clay (Longenderfer)
January 11, 2008
Jay,
I don't know where to start, I can't believe this has happened, that your gone from our lives. It has been years since I have seen or talked with you but that does not mean I have not thought of you often. My family kept me informed about your life at Lutron but I am disappointed in myself that I did not make more of an effort. This is my way to reach out now, I hope it is not too late.
Since I met you on the line at Lutron when I was 16 we became instant friends. When I returned from college and returned to Lutron our friendship grew, it seemed at times like we were inseperable. You helped me through some tough times and when I needed a place to live you opened your house up to me. You were my roommate and my best friend. You helped me to live life and I am forever greatful.
We were young and we did some crazy things and met some great people. You seemed to make friends where ever you went. I was the quiet one but you helped bring me out of my shell. I will never forget the late night talks, bus trips to Pulsations, Rockin Robins, Hooters concerts and karioke("I will survive" my opening act). Mostly I will never forget how you were always there for me, ready to listen and show support.
Jay I have tried not to remember our times together because it hurt so much. But I realized not remembering our friendship meant I wasn't remembering you and that hurt even more. I will never forget you and I will deeply miss you, my friend.
Steve and Karen Hoffman
January 11, 2008
Kim and loved ones: It was a shock to see today. God help you thru this....His former neighbors at Cedar St Allentown. Memories come like his building back deck, us two on the roof to keep squirrels out and the trapping them inside, and lending us bike rack.....in friendly last days here. Maybe helps to remember fun times. Hope Kim can be at Sunday night - we'll try to stop by.
Ginger & Chester Concerned Parents
January 11, 2008
We are sorry for your loss of your son, best friend, sibling...
This poem has an unknown author:
"A child that loses a parent is an orphan,
A man who loses his wife is a widower,
A women who loses her husband is a widow,
There is no name for a parent that loses a child,
For there is no word to describe the pain."
and another unknown author:
"Life is but a stopping place
A pause in what's to be
A resting place along the road
To sweet eternity
We all have different journeys
Different paths along the way
We all were meant to learn somethings
But never meant to stay
Our destination is a place
Far greater than we know
For some the journey's quicker
For some the journey's slow
And when the journey finally ends
We’ll claim a great reward
And find an everlasting peace
Together with the Lord."
unknown
Deb and Den Slivka
January 11, 2008
Jay always lived life to the fullest! He was a true friend who was always there for you. He has left behind countless memories we will cherish forever. He is finally reunited with his Mother he loved so. Den and I will sorely miss you, dear friend. Kim, you were Jay's sole mate. Know that he never loved anyone as much as he loved you. May that give you strength in your recovery of both mental and physical healing.
Sandra Shedlock Cary
January 11, 2008
My dearest Jay,
Could you ever have imagined that you would have touched so many lives?
Well, my very dear friend, know that you did.
Know that the legacy you’ve left behind will resound in eternity in ways still not yet known.
Our tears fall, our hearts ache, our minds will forever wonder –
why?, Why?, WHY?
Yet still what you gave us will never go away,
it will live on forever…
in the memories that you made with us.
We’ll see your smile, hear your voice, and feel your presence all around. We’ll keep this in our hearts now that you’re gone.
Thank you my very dear friend…
It’s definitely been my pleasure!
To Kerry and Kim and the rest of Jay’s family, my heart felt sympathy to all of you.
Mary Lou Wilden
January 11, 2008
To Jay's family and loved one's. Helm and I were deeply saddened to hear of Jay's death.
Hopefully, he is reuniting in hevan with his mother, Judy, who loved him so much.
Please be comforted by thoughts of the wonderful son and friend he was
Sadallah (Saad) Awad
January 11, 2008
My thoughts and paryers are with all Jay's family and friends during this difficult time.
I am in a state of shock that such a young man full of energy and fun is now gone, but that is how life is "God Gives and God Takes".
Gisela Spieldenner
January 11, 2008
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2008
Laura Hastings-MacKay
January 11, 2008
To the families and Kim and Ginger:
Jeff has valued all the times together.I am shattered to hear of this.I hope some hearts can heal.
Daniel Koernke
January 11, 2008
I only knew Jay for about six months, but everything he did was an inspiration to me. He was so driven to make a difference in everything he did. I will miss Jay as a friend and a mentor. My thoughts are with your family and friends. Thank you for showing me what it means to truly live a passionate and purposeful life. May you rest in peace Jay.
Lorelei Dignoti
January 11, 2008
Hello, my name is Lorelei Dignoti. I go to Stone Creek Church. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My prayers are with you and your family at this mose difficult time.
Brian McKiernan
January 11, 2008
Please accept my deepest sympathy for your loss. Jay was a friend and co-worker who I can only describe a great individual.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, your family and Kim.
Kathy Yons
January 11, 2008
It is with great sadness that I extend my sympathy and prayers of comfort to Jay's family. Jay was always a joy to work with and he always wore a smile that would light up your day. He will be sorely missed.
Bill Franz
January 11, 2008
My deepest symapthy goes out to the Family. Jay was a great spirit, who allways seemed to make others around him smile. He will be greatly missed.
Jimmy Compoz
January 11, 2008
To: The family, friends, town of Bethlehem and the Lutron family of James J. Baumer
Please accept my deepest sympathy. I will always remember Jay's great stories of life's journies. He was a good man and impacted my views on life.
Jeff Zemanek
January 11, 2008
Kim, I'm so sorry...Jay always spoke of you and the love you share. I'll never forget the first time I met Jay in 1993, and the instant positive impression which he made on me.
All of us at Lutron will greatly miss him, his energy, his thoughtfulness, his passion and that great smile!
I miss him and will think of him often.
Penita Pratcher
January 11, 2008
To: The family of James J. Baumer
May you find comfort during this time of grief. May the love of friends, family, and God embrace each of you. Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Paul Benner
January 11, 2008
In the 10 years that I had the pleasure of knowing J he showed me what a person with a good soul acts like. He was always there for me and treated me like family even before I became family. He truely was a great guy.
Clark and Roberta Wotring
January 11, 2008
Kerry and family
Please accept our deepest sympathy on the loss of your son Jay. We saw him in Nov. and had a good chat with him.
He was a wonderful man and will be deeply missed. I'm sure he is now with his mother in a better place.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.
Ritchie LaFaver
January 11, 2008
Kerry,
Many thoughts and prayers are with you from the LaFaver family in this time of sorrow. I am glad to have spent many a days with Jay while growing up in the Mountainville Little League and those memories will always be with me.
Jane Leonard (Snyder)
January 11, 2008
Kerry and Family,
I don't know what to say. Jay and I grew up together on the south side of Allentown. I lived on Brookdale St and our friends included Mark and Mike Young, Deanna Kehm, etc. This was shooking news. You and your family are in my prayers!!!
Take Care of Yourself.
Nikki Moss
January 11, 2008
My condolence to Jay's family and Kim.
Sharon & Bob Boyles
January 11, 2008
Kerry and family,
Pleae accept our deepest sympathies. We are so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you in this time of sadness and always.
John ONeil
January 11, 2008
Kim
Jay was one of the most positive people I knew. My prayers are with you for your loss and recovery. Jay will be missed.
John & Sean A'lee Bevell
January 11, 2008
We are truly sorry to hear of the tragedy of losing Jay. We enjoyed seeing him at business meetings as he was always so willing to visit and meet new people. We feel blessed to know him. We offer our prayers of peace and comfort for all those who knew him so well and feel the loss that comes with losing a loved one. May you be surrounded by love and support.
David J Bhaltazhar Esq
January 11, 2008
I'll never forget the times we had at the Top Diner.
What a Blast!
Good Bye my Friend
R.I.P.
Maria Scarcia Schwindenhammer
January 11, 2008
Kerry, Kim and family,
I am so terribly sorry for the loss of Jay. Even though I haven't seen him forever he was always truly one of my favorite people. I have so many happy memories of all the fun we had in our early 20's from just hanging out with all our friends and family, playing games, playing softball, having parties and hanging out Christmas eve. We had so many good times that I will cherish forever. He will deeply be missed. And everyone is right...Those HUGS!!!The best!!!
Maria(Scarcia)Schwindenhammer
Suzanne Butterweck (Shedlock)
January 11, 2008
Jay,
We will never forget you. You will always be loved and missed by our family.
Gretchen Clay
January 11, 2008
Kerry, family and friends,
This is a poem that has helped me with difficult times such as this. I miss Jay very much and regret terribly that we have not kept in touch while he lived in Arizona but when we did catch up it was just like old times; great laughs, great smiles and great hugs.
You are all in my prayers and I hope this helps comfort you as it does me.
To my Dearest friends and family,
some things I'd like to say,
But first of all, to let you know
that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven.
Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness;
Here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy
just because I'm out of sight
Remember that I am with you every
morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you
when my life on earth was through.
God picked me up and hugged me and
He said, "I welcome you".
"It's good to have you back again,
you were missed while you were gone.
As for your friends and family,
they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly,
you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do,
to help our mortal man.
God gave me a list of things,
that he wished for me to do.
and foremost on the list,
was to watch and care for you.
and I will be beside you
every day and week and year
and when your sad
I'm standing there to wipe away the
tear.
And when you lie in bed at night
the day's chores put to flight,
God and I are closest to you
in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth,
and all those loving years,
because your only human,
they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry,
it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers,
unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you
all that God has planned.
If I were to tell you,
you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain,
though my life on earth is o'er
I'm closer to you now than
I ever was before.
And to my very many friends
trust God knows what is best,
I'm sitll not far away from you
I'm just beyond the crest.
There are many rocky roads
ahead of you and
many hills to climb:
But together we can do it
by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy
and I'd like it to be yours too;
That as give unto the world,
the world will give to you.
It you can help somebody
who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night...
"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented...
that my life was worthwhile.
Know as I passed along the way.
I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody
who is sad and feeling low,
Just lend a hand to pick him up,
as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street
and you've got me on your mind,
I'm walking in your footsteps
only half a step behind.
And when you feel the gentle breeze
or the wind upon your face,
that's me giving you a great big
hug or just a soft embrace.
And when it's time for you to go...
from that body to be free.
Remember you're not going...
you're coming here to me.
And I will always love you form
that land way up above
Will be in touch agian soon.
P.S. God sends his love
Ruth Ann Mahffey(author)
Copyright 1998-2005
Donna and Keith Apgar and Family
January 11, 2008
I will always remember the good times, searching for your first house, the shore,you playing with the twins. I'm sure your Mom is waiting for you with open arms! Our family will greatly miss you my friend. To Kerry, Kim and the rest of your friends and family know our thoughts and prayers are with you. My heart is saddend but the sky is a little brighter with your star shinning in it...
Kim Carter
January 10, 2008
Kim~
Words seem inadequate to express the sadness I feel
for you and Jay's Family.
Jay and his great smile will be missed.
With Sincere Sympathy,
Peace, Prayers and Blessings.
May 2007
Erik Anderson
January 10, 2008
Kim,
I know written words can not sooth what your soul is feeling so shortly after this tragedy. I can only extend my deepest condolences and say you are not only in my thoughts but within the thoughts of countless more. It was a delight to have had the privilege to meet such a person with the character “Jay” possessed. I can assure the impression he has left on me as well as others he touched will be passed along.
Hammond Meuer
January 10, 2008
Jay will be missed terribly and will not be forgotten. May God Bless Kim, Jay's family, and all who struggle with this loss.
Rosa Cala
January 10, 2008
I am truly sorry for your loss. Jay was an amazing person and the nicest man I've ever met. My thoughts and prayers are with Jay and Kim's families. Jay, you will forever be missed.
Much Love, Rosa
Susan Cala
January 10, 2008
Wow It's true when they say "only the good die young". Jay was an amazing person and I am sure he will be an even better ANGEL. I guess God really needed him now, and unfortunately we must go on and try to live the way he did. His Smile his Love and best of all his Hugs. I'm sure you will all agree we were so Lucky to have known a man as GREAT as he was. May condolences to all of us, but especially his Family and Kim. Thank you Jay for having known you!!!
Love, Susan
Dede Milkey
January 10, 2008
Jay and I were able to get to know each other through our Thursday night events with the company we both work with and I am still numb from the news that we have lost such an incredible human being. He was so generous and enthusiastic about life and helping others. Kim and all who knew and loved Jay, Peace and thoughts of courage for you during this difficult time.
Mac Saunders
January 10, 2008
My prayers and sympathy are with the family. A life well lived is a life well remembered. Kim we love you and if there is anything you need please call.
Lou Ann Brennan
January 10, 2008
Kim and Family - I only met Jay two weeks ago - he and Kim were choosing windows from Home Depot and I had the great good fortune to be their sales consultant. I learned of Jay this morning. This has rocked my world - myself, the entire Home Services staff and the Home Depot employees at Cave Creek and Cactus send our warmest heartfelt condolences. Jay - you were one in a million and will be greatly missed. Because of you the world is a better place.
jim retter
January 10, 2008
kerry my thoughts are with you at this sadtime in your life.jay will be missed and stilled loved thru the memories he leaves behind.I remeber the times at your house and his if we were justsitting around or fixing up the back yard. mymemories of jay will be forever.Iwill miss him and think of you as well.
Kim my thoughts are with you at this time and very sadden,if there is anything I can do please call me an Iwillbe there for you ,
Jim retter602 516 8739
Dave and Carrie Skilbred/Petrucciani
January 10, 2008
Our thoughts and prayers are with Kim and the family, friends of Jay. You will be greatly missed by all of us at Scuba Sciences.
P. Licata
January 10, 2008
Jay you will truly be missed. As a friend, co-worker, and a leader. Wishing everyone the best and stength during such a dificult time.
Jeanne Shedlock
January 10, 2008
Jay, we have known you since you were a little boy. Your wonderful smile and great sense of assurance will always stay with me. You'll be with your Mom now.
Our heartfelt sympathy to Kim and your Dad. We will never forget you. You will always be in our prayers.
Marta & German Berrio
January 10, 2008
Jay will be missed by all. He was a ray of sunshine, always had a smile. Our deepest sympathy to Kim and to the family.
Justin Done
January 10, 2008
My thoughts are with Kim and your family.
Your friend from SLC, Utah.
Lisa Platton
January 10, 2008
I have many great memories of our younger years. Mountainville stand at the fair, times with your family, your 3hour haircut at beauty school, and many more. I always knew how you were doing through your dad's haircuts.
Unbelievable how this could happen to a wonderful person. Kim, my deepest sympathy to you and get well soon. Kerry, my deepest sympathy to you and I will always be here for you.
Sean Dempsey
January 10, 2008
I was truly saddened to hear about the loss of Jay. He was a great guy that could always get me to smile, either from his stories or just his infectious smile. His presence will missed. My heart goes out to his friends and family in this trying time. To Kim & her mom - a speedy recovery. To Jay - rest well my friend.
Chuck Bauer
January 10, 2008
My thoughts and prayers are with your family and friends. Even though we lost touch through the years, I have many great memories of growing up together in Allentown. Kerry, I am so sorry for your loss.
Misty Atkins
January 10, 2008
I know one thing for sure, and that is the fact that Jay was accepted into Heaven with open arms. He was a wonderful person. Always when I thought of Jay, the words, "He is SUCH a nice guy," would come to mind. He will be missed dearly.
January 10, 2008
Jim & Rebecca Miller
January 10, 2008
There are very few people that come through your life that make such an impact, Jay was one of those people. I always looked forward to our conversations of work, fun, investments, and of course wine. Jay was a tremendous human being, I miss him terribly.
Our thoughts and payers go out to the family.
Mark Greenawalt
January 10, 2008
Even though I only met with Jay a few times, I instantly connected with him on so many levels (living in PA, SCUBA diving, lighting, same age, etc.) I considered him a true friend and I will miss him.
Ann Feigl-Johnston
January 10, 2008
When
I think of Jay, I think of a person who loved life and had his
priorities in the right place. I always looked forward to catching up
with him and trading adventure stories when he came back to Lutron
headquarters. I wish peace and joyful memories to all of his family and
friends. The world has lost a beautiful soul.
Paul & Kimberly Baca
January 10, 2008
Our thoughts and prayers are with Kim and Jay's family. He was a very compassionate and good friend. Kim if you need anything please let us know.
Deborah & Bill Mitchell
January 10, 2008
Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort. Jay was a unique person full of fun and love.
Kim we pray for you and your Mom as you both recover. We are here to help.
Amy Rieg
January 10, 2008
Tragic that this would happen to someone who loved life and loved people so much. Jay always made a point to say hello, take time to give a hug and ask about others. He will be missed and I wish his loved ones and friends comfort and peace in their memories.
Pablo & Janet Moralez
January 10, 2008
Kim, we haven't done a good job of keeping in touch but know that we've thought of you guys along the way, just as our thoughts and prayers are with you now. Jay is a really good person who will be forever missed. We wish you well...
Barbara Eschler
January 9, 2008
Kim you are in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry for your loss.
Liz Aker
January 9, 2008
Kim,I've only met you a few times with Esther and Kurt. You and Jay are a wonderful couple. Jay's spirit will live on in your friends memories and the lives you've touched.
God Bless,
Molly Antonio
January 9, 2008
You don't know me, but we travel that road at least once a year with youth and our family is feeling the sorrow of this tragedy. Our hearts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.
Joseph & Marci Cush
January 9, 2008
Jay touched our lives and so many others with his generous spirit, far to many to ever be forgotten. He has certainly set the bar high for the rest of us. We are grateful for the gift of his friendship and having known him. He will be missed more than words can say.
Godspeed my friend.
Kim -
Wishing you a strong and healthy recovery. May you find strength and comfort in the love that you and Jay shared, and the memories that are yours to cherish. Know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Steve Pancheri
January 9, 2008
I will always have fond memories of Jay. He always had a smile on his face and something funny to say. My family sends our deepest symphathies to his family.
Frank Baker
January 9, 2008
Kim,
I was deeply saddened to hear of your loss of Jay. It was a pleasure to work with you both on your house. I will miss his wit and humor.
Please accept our condolences.
Jay Skardon
January 9, 2008
Kim,
I just found out you all were on the bus, and I am very sorry for your stunning loss. My heart goes out to you and Jay's family. He was so obviously a special person.
May you have the fastest and best possible recovery, and never forget to call on me, or the rest of your many, many friends, if you need anything at all.
Christine Masteller
January 9, 2008
You were a good man and a great friend and I will miss you more than I can say. The thought of never hearing your voice on the other end of the phone again or hanging out when you're in town is unbelievable to me.
Kim, I'm so sorry for your loss. Please know there are alot of people praying for you right now. I hope knowing how much Jay was loved brings you some comfort.
Mic and Dawn Fisher
January 9, 2008
Our thoughts and prayers are with the families of Kim and Jay. We are so saddened by the news! I will always remember Jay's big SMILE and awesome hugs! We will miss him at the Indy 500 this year! Kim, we wish you a speedy recovery. Thinking of you!
Stacey Daniels
January 9, 2008
My thoughts and prayers are with you. Memories are extremely powerful and I hope they help guide you through this tragic loss.
Joanna Lowenthal
January 9, 2008
With utter sadness, I write this. Jay was the most incredible and unforgettable person I have ever met. I admired his passion for everything he did and how everyone around him smiled in his presence. As he always told everyone, Kim, you were his soul mate. He will be missed by many and forgotten by none.
Rebecca Benner
January 9, 2008
Jay brightened any room he entered. He was one of the most loyal, loving, kind, and forgiving people I have ever known. He wasn't just my cousin, but he was my friend. He loved Kim so deeply, and I hope that love will help Kim heal, both physically and emotionally. Kim, please know how incredibly sorry we are for your loss.
Susan Fox
January 9, 2008
Jay was a bright spark in my life and will remain so forever. I will always remember his huge smile, kind and generous nature and his fantastic hugs! I am a better person for having known him. Kim and his family and all his friends are in my thoughts and prayers.
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