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"Do I Have to Cry?" (And Other Common Questions About Grief and Loss)

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Grief brings a multitude of emotions—and a lot of questions.

Grief brings a multitude of emotions—and a lot of questions. If you are grieving the loss of someone important, you may be experiencing feelings you've never felt before. Some may be surprising or disconcerting, or even cause you to wonder, "Is this normal?" While each person's grief is unique, many of the questions people have about the grief process are not. Find answers below to some of the most common questions about loss and grief.

Do I Have to Cry to Grieve?

Crying is not a measure of your sadness nor proof of your grief.

If I Start Crying, Will I Be Able to Stop?

Grieving people sometimes hold back their tears based on the fear that if they start crying, they won’t be able to stop.

Do Men and Women Grieve Differently?

No two people—no matter their gender—grieve alike. But research suggests there is a “male model” and a “female model” of grief.