By: Legacy.com Staff
4 months ago
What is the difference between a memorial service and a funeral? What should I say to the deceased's family at the visitation? Does it matter what I wear? Legacy.com offers advice from experts to help you answer these questions and more.
Q: "My brother’s funeral was in another state and my immediate family was unable to attend. I’m coordinating a memorial service for him in our hometown. How can I make it appropriate for all in attendance who have many thoughts and religious beliefs?"
Q. What’s the difference between a funeral and a memorial service? I plan to attend a memorial service for an old college classmate, but I’ve never been to one before. What should I expect?
Q. When is it a “must” to attend a funeral or a wake, viewing or visitation? I’m confused about how close you have to be to the people involved, and what is and isn’t appropriate.
A funeral is a time when family members can find forgiveness or compassion for each other and heal fractured relationships — or cement rifts that began far in the past.
To get a better understanding of what we may expect, I turned to a funeral professional, Stuart Clark, owner of McClelland & Slessor Funeral Home in Ontario, Canada. He shared some of the current options in visitation, funerals, and memorial services.
Advice from experts on what is appropriate to wear - and what you should never wear - when attending a funeral, memorial service, visitation or wake.
We live in a world where anything goes. And yet I’m still surprised at some of the things people wear; jeans and sweatshirts to church, shorts at a fine restaurant on a Saturday night, and flip flops for all occasions.
When someone you care about is grieving, it's hard to find the right words. What should you say in a condolence message? What common sympathy expressions should you avoid? What else can you do to comfort a bereaved friend? To help you support a grieving colleague, friend or family member, Legacy.com offers advice from condolence experts.
Even those with the best intentions might say something inappropriate to the bereaved. Hurtful sentiments can damage relationships; so many individuals stay away, fearing they'll say the wrong thing. So what can you do?
More advice on funerals and memorials from Legacy.com experts.