You have funeral questions, we have answers.

What is the difference between a memorial service and a funeral? What should I say to the deceased's family at the visitation? Does it matter what I wear?


Should I consider funeral planning in advance for my family’s sake?


Legacy offers advice from experts to help answer all of your funeral etiquette questions.

What is a Memorial Service?

"What’s the difference between a funeral and a memorial service? I plan to attend a memorial service for an old college classmate, but I’ve never been to one before. What should I expect?"

Memorial Service Etiquette

"My brother’s funeral was in another state and my immediate family was unable to attend. I’m coordinating a memorial service for him in our hometown. How can I make it appropriate for all in attendance who have many thoughts and religious beliefs?"

Should I Attend the Service?

"When is it a 'must' to attend a funeral or a wake, viewing or visitation? I’m confused about how close you have to be to the people involved, and what is and isn’t appropriate." 

Attending the Funeral — What's In It For Me?

Will it matter if I don't attend the funeral? Only you can weigh the pros and cons for yourself. But the following considerations may offer a new perspective. 

When Not to Attend a Funeral

A funeral is a time when family members can find forgiveness or compassion for each other and heal fractured relationships—or cement rifts that began far in the past.

Who Pays for the Funeral? Defining "Immediate Family"

Money is always a touchy subject, whether you're requesting financial help or being asked to provide it. Friendships and family relationships have fractured over money issues because expectations and boundaries can vary widely.

Visitation Etiquette

Funeral director Stuart Clark, owner of McClelland & Slessor Funeral Home in Ontario, Canada, shares some of the current options in visitation, funerals, and memorial services.

What to Wear to a Funeral

What is appropriate funeral dress—and what you should never wear when attending a funeral, memorial service, visitation, or wake.

What NOT to Wear to a Funeral

When it comes to funerals, most of us sense that there are some rules of protocol that should be followed. Dress in a way that shows respect so it’s safe to err on the conservative side

Sympathy and Condolence Advice

When someone you care about is grieving, it's hard to find the right words. What should you say in a condolence message? What common sympathy expressions should you avoid? What else can you do to comfort a bereaved friend? To help you support a grieving colleague, friend or family member, Legacy offers advice from condolence experts.

What Not to Say When Someone Dies

Even those with the best intentions might say something inappropriate to the bereaved. Hurtful sentiments can damage relationships; so many individuals stay away, fearing they'll say the wrong thing. So what can you do?


Learn whether funeral pre-planning could protect your family