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Funeral Flower Messages: What to Say

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By including a thoughtful message or card with the flowers, you can make one of life's most difficult experiences a bit easier to bear.

This article was contributed by Sympathy Message Ideas, a mother-and-son-operated website dedicated to helping users find the right words for sympathy, bereavement and funeral cards. Visit to find everything from religious verses to ideas for how to sign a sympathy card.

When someone suffers a loss, one way to show you care is to send flowers. The act alone demonstrates compassion and gives you a chance to offer sympathy. By including a thoughtful message or card with the flowers, you can make one of life's most difficult experiences a bit easier to bear. But finding the right words for that note can be a daunting task for some of us, especially since you may be feeling a whole host of emotions.

What to Say

If you're sending flowers directly to the bereaved, a personal message will let them know you are thinking of them and wish to support them through their sorrow. These examples may give you some ideas of what to write.

• May these flowers in some small way express the sympathy we feel for you during this difficult time.
• May these flowers serve as an expression of my deepest condolences.
• Please accept these flowers and hear the words we are not able to speak.
• With hope that it helps you know we care...
• With deepest sympathy...

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If you're sending flowers directly to a funeral, it may be more suitable to send a message or card expressing your respect for the deceased. Perhaps you could acknowledge how grateful you are to have known them and how much of an impact they had on your life, or just say how much you will miss them now that they’re gone.

The examples below may offer some inspiration if you're having trouble writing a message in this situation:

• You will be sorely missed.
• Rest in peace.
• You always remembered us — we will never forget you.
• Memories of you will never die, nor will they fade as time goes by.
• There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.
• Our hearts are filled with sadness and tears, but our memories are filled with smiles and laughter for the good times we shared together.

The length of the message you choose to write will depend in part upon how well you knew the deceased (as well as the size of the card). Sticking with something short and simple is usually the most suitable. However, if you feel a longer message is apt, that's fine — use your own judgement.

When writing your message, be thoughtful — during someone’s grief, even a simple few words have the power to raise their spirits and provide a sense of comfort and reassurance that they aren’t alone. Having someone there to offer support and appreciation will be appreciated immensely when struggling with a loss. A message expressing the love and feeling you had towards the deceased can bring the family comfort, knowing how much joy and happiness they bought to the people around them.

Even though you may struggle to find the right words, know that as long as whatever you say is from the heart and meant with sincerity, it will almost always be warmly received and appreciated.