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Joined at the Hip

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Bob and Kay Sarver ran a mom-and-pop grocery store in Washington. They died less than a day apart.

Husband and wife Bob and Kay Sarver, who were married in 1937 and ran a mom-and-pop grocery store in Kirkland, Washington, died less than a day apart, according to the news obituary written by Jeff Hodson for the Seattle Times.

Family said the Sarvers, who met in high school, did everything together and seemed to be joined at the hip.

Kay, 93, who had amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, commonly called Lou Gehrig’s disease, was in hospice care and could no longer speak or swallow but could still write, when Bob, 92, died at 12:55 p.m. on July 12.

Hodson wrote:

When told of his passing, she wrote: “I want to see Dad.”

Her son prepared to take her to see the body.

“No,” she made it clear. “I want to be with him right now.”

Before the next dawn, at 4:25 a.m., Kay Sarver died.

Their ashes were mixed together. Some were put in a square, sealed wooden urn, which was interred in a wall Friday at Tahoma National Cemetery in Covington. The rest will be spread among their favorite places.

“We can’t separate them now,” said Susan McLeod, of Fort Peck, Montana, the couple’s daughter.

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This post was contributed by Alana Baranick, a freelance obituary writer. She was the director of the Society of Professional Obituary Writers and chief author of Life on the Death Beat: A Handbook for Obituary Writers before she passed away in 2015.