Martha Jane Stafford
March 1921 - November 2013
Marty loved music and gardens and butterflies, lovely jewelry, stained glass windows, clocks and classic movies, and the colors pink (flowers, clothing, and even a bicycle) and cobalt blue (slender vases and delicate bowls and a tiny glass monkey). She was an avid reader. She loved to reminisce about the time we flew kites on her birthday. She wished she could have traveled to France.
Marty especially enjoyed being with her family, and she loved the times when her beloved family — including four children, four grandchildren, and three great grandchildren — could all be together.
The daughter of Henry and Olive Ketcham of Indianapolis, she was named after two of her favorite aunts, Dr. Jane Ketcham and Martha Hawkins Norman, both also of Indianapolis. Marty wished her parents could have adopted another child, too, so that she could have enjoyed having a little sister. And she wished, also, that she could have learned something about her own birth parents.
After high school in Indianapolis, she attended DePauw University in Greencastle, Indiana, where she became a member of the Alpha Gamma Delta sorority. She met and then married Robert M. (Jake) Jacoby and left DePauw to work and help Jake finish his studies at Wabash College in Crawfordsville. But war intervened and Jake volunteered for the Army Air Corps. Marty and their new young son traveled to be with Jake while he was in training in the U.S. but returned to Indianapolis when Jake was posted to the Pacific. Marty and Jake were pleased that another child was on the way, but late in 1944 Jake was declared MIA following a mission from the Mariana Islands as a B-29 Central Fire Control Gunner.
Marty later met and married C. Edward Stafford, a graduate of Wabash College and Indiana University Law School, and a veteran of WWII service in North Africa as an officer in the U.S. Army. Marty and Ed welcomed two more children, and they moved into a lovely home in Indianapolis where the whole family enjoyed working and playing in the yard and the kid-sized playhouse. They continued to make many visits to family and friends in Indiana after their family of six moved to Battle Creek, Michigan, where they enjoyed their new home and gardens, family, and friends for many decades.
Marty's work life included time with the telephone company as a newlywed in Crawfordsville. She later became an employee of the Kellogg Company of Battle Creek, where she made many friends and retired after 25 years of service.
After Ed's death, Marty moved to a condo in Ann Arbor, Michigan, to be near her two youngest daughters. In that home she loved creating and tending her large flower garden and was also active with her condominium association.
She had enjoyed many years of volunteer work — in Battle Creek with the Emmett Rescue Squad and with the Fort Custer National Cemetery, and in Ann Arbor with the police department and the Ann Arbor Citizens Police Academy.
She was a member of the Fairview Presbyterian Church in Indianapolis, the First Presbyterian Church in Battle Creek, and the Westminster Presbyterian Church in Ann Arbor.
She is survived by son Robert (Robin) Stafford of Battle Creek, daughter Janet Stafford Myers of Dayton, Ohio; and daughters Sharon Stafford (Dan) Struble and Linda Stafford (Joe) Domeier of Ann Arbor. She also leaves her much-loved grandchildren — Erica Myers of Dayton, Brad Myers of Dayton, Rob Stafford of Battle Creek, and Trevor Stafford of Battle Creek. Marty was also proud to have three great grandchildren, Riley and Carly Stafford and Ian Myers.
A family memorial service in Indianapolis is being planned for a later date.
As her family, we wish to give special thanks to the kind and caring staff of Arbor Hospice Residence in Ann Arbor for helping to make Mom's last days happier and more comfortable.