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Marian Patnaude Obituary

Old Lyme - Marian (Bednar) Patnaude, 84, was so gently called to heaven on Monday, March 24, 2014.

Marian was born to Michael and Suzanne (Gayara) Bednar, on Feb. 23, 1929, in Hebron. She moved to Middletown and graduated from Middletown High School in 1947. Marian began working at Sears and Robuck where she met the love of her life, "Franny" Patnaude, where they both were employed. Fran and Marian were married 61 years until Fran passed in 2012. Together they raised three wonderful children who went on to marry very special people and gave Fran and Marian five beautiful grandchildren.

Fran and Cathy (Russell) Patnaude of Bethlehem, both artist and teachers. Fran is department head of Rumsey Hall School and an adjunct professor at Western CT State University while Cathy teaches in Regional District #14, parents of Nick, who currently is teaching in Istanbul, Turkey, Nathan who resides in Pittsburgh, Pa. and Emily of Litchfield and teaches in Oxford. Steve and Betsy (Neumann) of Columbia, S.C., where Steve teaches high school English and is a musician and Betsy a video artist and program director for The Columbia Public Broadcast Station. Also, Kathy and Greg Hancock of Old Lyme, where Kathy teaches 4th grade and are owners of Hancock Pharmacy of Meriden and Long Wharf in New Haven, parents of Dr. Melyssa Hancock who is fulfilling her otolaryngology residency at Georgetown University Hospital and Matt, who is completing his master's in criminal justice at The University of New Haven this summer and pursuing a career in law enforcement. Marian loved her children and grandchildren and was so proud of all of their achievements and the people they have become. She is also survived by her sister, Carol Jarzabek of Canton; and sister-in-law, Mary Bednar of Hillside, N.J.; along with many nieces, nephews and special friends.

She was predeceased by her husband, Francis T. Patnaude; her sisters, Anne Masselli, Millie Kowalski, Ellen Lasky, Betty Mastzal; and her brother, Charles Bednar.

Early in her life, Marian worked at Sears Robuck and Topps Department Store as a bookkeeper. She then banquet waitressed and ultimately worked for Farmers and Mechanics Bank, where she retired after 15 years. Marian lived a rich and full life devoted to her faith and her church, St. Pauls Lutheran Church where she was a member of the choir and volunteered as treasurer for many years. Marian was very active in the church and helped on various committees. Marian was also an active member of the Elks Lodge Emblem Club. She was often an officer in the club and spent many hours organizing events and working at fundraisers. Once Marian retired, she was able to travel and became an active member of the Middletown Middletuners Choir where she continued her love of singing. As Marian was a social soul, she also attended Middletown Adult Day Care to continue to be around friends. In 2013, Marian left her Middletown home for the "resort" as she called it, Gladeview Rehabilitation and Health Care Center in Old Saybrook where from day one, she received personal care and attention on a daily basis. Anyone who knew Marian found a friend, she was friendly, compassionate and always willing to lend a hand. She was very social, loved to have fun and could be found often hanging out with her sisters. Marian stayed connected to her family by always visiting them and taking an active interest in their lives. She was dearly loved by so many and will be truly missed.

Marian's family wishes to thank caregivers Alicia and Sandra who helped Marian while at home, all of the staff at Gladeview who made Marian's last few months so meaningful for her and took the time to make her smile and Masonicare Home Health and Hospice, Eastern Hospice Team where in lieu of flowers, donations may be made: c/o The Masonic Charity Foundation of CT, 74 Cheshire Road, P.O. Box 70, Wallingford, CT 06492.

Funeral services will be held at 9:15 a.m. Monday from the Biega Funeral Home, 3 Silver St., Middletown followed by an 10 a.m. Funeral Mass at Faith Lutheran Church. Burial will be in Calvary Cemetery. Friends may call from 4 to 6 p.m. Sunday, at the Biega Funeral Home.

To share memories or express condolences online please visit www.biegafuneralhome.com.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by The Day on Mar. 27, 2014.

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April 4, 2014

Pat, Stevie, Kathy & Family, I'm so sorry to hear of your mom's passing. Dick and I were away and I just heard this when we returned. She was such a great lady and I have many wonderful memories of her. I hope you'll take comfort in knowing that she has now joined your dad in heaven. Our deepest sympathy goes out to all of you.
Kathy & Dick Zions

March 31, 2014

Dear Kathy and Greg,
I am so sorry for your loss. I'll keep you and your family close in my thoughts and prayers--My deepest sympathy, Karen Geisler

Deanna Ray

March 31, 2014

To the Family of Marian,
I am so sorry for your loss. I knew Marian through St Paul Lutheran Church. I first met Marian when I joined the church in 1990 and was expecting my first child. The church and her faith in her Lord and Savior were at the center of her life. She served in many ways and was so dear to so many for so long. She was a pillar and rock of that faith community and family. If it were not for Marian and others who put their heart and soul into the church, it would not have been there for me and my family. I give thanks for Marian's life and her good and faithful service to the life of St Paul's. As you know, Marian became ill and she was not able to actively attend church services. Meanwhile, I became active in the life of the church and became the President of St Paul Church Council. At that time, the church faced challenges and choices to make. It became apparent to our church family that consolidating with Christ Lutheran Church would be the best choice for our future purpose and mission in Middletown. All the while, Marian supported and embraced this change. We certainly did not forget Marian and her love for all of us. The first Christmas time of the consolidation came upon us and I lead a group of carolers who went to various homebound church members. Marian was delighted with our presence! The familiarity of her favorite Christmas carols filled her home and her heart. We asked if she had any requests and naturally, she did. She even wanted a copy of the caroling book so she could follow along. There were tears of joy and a real presence of the joy that Christmas brings in Marian's living room felt by her but truly as a gift from Marian to all of us. Our hearts were filled and our faith was strengthened and we were grateful for the visit. I told her then, "Marian, I'll see you at church". She recalled exactly who I was and much to my surprise a few months later, Marian arrived to 300 Washington Street to the newly consolidated Faith Lutheran Church. She attended several services and all her friends were overjoyed with her presence. I can tell you her heart was full of joy at being back to church, despite the move to our new location. I believe she may have attended Easter services that year. It was a joy, an honor and a privilege to have known and shared time and the love Marian brought to so many. Take comfort in the fact that she is with her Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. She is exactly where she wanted to be and she is looking down on all of you cheering you on and continuing in her love for you. We will miss Marian and we all look forward to that day that we meet her again face to face. May your love and memories of time spent together remain close in your heart. My prayers go out to all of you.
With Deepest Sympathy and great love,
Deanna Ray

Robert and Sheri Stalsburg

March 31, 2014

Dear Kathy,Greg, Melyssa and Matt,

We were so very sorry to hear of your loss, please forgive our absence from services, we just found out this morning, after calling the Pharmacy!! We can not apologise enough we would have been there to support and show our respect. Again our deepest condolences and our love sent your way. Stay strong and know your beautiful Mom, Mother in law, and gram is now in a much better place ,with her husband and our most honoured lord. Love to you all
The Stalsburg family

Tom Turner

March 28, 2014

Fran,
Sorry for your loss

Alicia Simko

March 28, 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss Kathy, Stevie, Fran & Family, Marian was a great person. I am so happy that I was able to spend a couple years with her. We had some good laughs and shared some stories that I will always treasure. Her and Fran are together now probably at the horse races:-) Marian will be missed by me very much.

Linda (Isaacson) Dinda

March 27, 2014

Dear Fran, Steve, Kathy and Family,
I was so sorry to hear of your Mother's
passing. She was a sweet, kind, genuine lady that always had a smile for everyone. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

March 27, 2014

Dear Kathy,
Your Mile Creek School family sends you love and sympathy for the loss of your dear mother. We hope it helps to know how much we care.
Patricia Downes, Principal
Principal

March 27, 2014

Kathy,
Very sorry for your loss-
Gail Barber

Karen Butler

March 27, 2014

Kathy,
I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers

Mary Cikatz

March 27, 2014

Kathy,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. She's now with your dad.

March 27, 2014

Kathy,Greg and family, Our condolences to you after the loss of your loved one. May you find comfort in the loving memories you shared to help you through this difficult time.
Tom & Mary Ann Breininger

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