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Ellen Ciok Obituary
Middletown
Ellen Ciok, of Middletown, NJ, passed away peacefully on March 12, 2017 at Riverview Medical Center in Red Bank. She was born in Jersey City, NJ and lived in Middletown since 1947. Ellen worked as a legal secretary for Himelman & Himelman Law Firm. She later worked for the Red Bank Borough Municipal Court presided by Judge Himelman as Court Administrator. Her greatest joy was spending time with her grandchildren and large extended family.
Surviving are her devoted husband of 50 years, Michael Ciok, son and daughter-in-law, Peter and Tammy Ciok; two daughters and son-in-law, Amy and Bud Zaouk, and Erin and her partner Thomas Braun; 5 grandchildren, Kayla, Evan, Kaled, Eamonn, and Ayla; three brothers and sisters-in-law, Gary and Gloria Dethlefsen, Walter and Cheryl Dethlefsen, Michael Dethlefsen; two sisters and brother-in-law, Linda and Jack Armstrong, and Irene Dethlefsen. Also surviving is her best friend, Ruthie Rye; and several nieces and nephews.
Ellen was preceded in death by her parents, August and Edna Dethlefsen, and her grand-niece, Megan Hartigan.
Visitation will be held on Wednesday, March 15, 2017, from 4-8 pm at John F. Pfleger Funeral Home, 115 Tindall Road, Middletown. A Funeral Liturgy will be offered on Thursday, March 16, 2017 at 9:30 am at St. Catherine's Church, 110 Bray Ave., N. Middletown.
In lieu of flowers please consider a contribution in Ellen's name to the Anne Arundel County ASPCA at aacspca.org or the American Cancer Society at cancer.org. For more information, to send condolences or for directions, please visit www.pflegerfh.com.
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Jordan Rivera
August 22, 2024
As a young kid at the time getting into a few run ins with the law. I would walk into the police station to pay my fines and she was always there with a warm and welcoming heart and kind words. She was so happy for me when I joined the service and came back to say hello. She wanted good things for everyone. March 12th 2017 is a date I'll never forget. Truly one of the most beautiful and kind souls to ever walk this earth. The whole world would be a much better place with more people in it like Ellen and it was a privilege to have known her.
Barbara Schneider
March 8, 2023
I lovingly remember Ellen as the most sincere and kindest woman I ever knew!! Her courage inspired me to fight my own breast cancer battle when I was diagnosed. She gave me encouragement and was a source of strength for me always. Her family was her life and I grieve with them today and she will always be in my heart. God bless her and all those she loved!!!!
Barbara and Dean Schneider
March 8, 2022
Remembering Ellen with love and she is in our hearts forever!!! The most wonderful person to know!!!!
Barbara Schneider
March 9, 2021
One of the nicest people I ever met. She is an angel now. Missed terribly forever!!!
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Roz Majewski
March 9, 2020
Dear Michael. Can't believe it has been 3 years since Ellen's passing. I think of her often. Wishing you and your family peace and joy in your memories of this lovely and caring women
Roz Majewski
Barbara/Dean Schneider
March 8, 2019
Ellen will be remembered as the most beautiful person we had the good fortune of knowing for many years. May all her family and friends find comfort and strength at this time. She will always be with you.
LisaMarie M
March 29, 2017
Michael, I was so sorry to hear this news. I cared for Ellen on so many different occasions. I will always treasure the late night conversations we shared about things as insignificant as our favorite pudding flavor (we bonded especially over the butterscotch, as I'm sure you remember) to topics as serious as families, jobs and friendships. Ellen never failed to have a smile on her face even in the toughest of times. There were numerous late nights that you'd be sleeping on the cot/chair (or trying to) and I'd sneak in to have our nightly talks when she couldn't sleep. I quickly learned how witty, wise and selfless she was. I will never forget the stories she told or sarcastic jokes she made. She always spoke such beautiful words to me that I will never, ever forget.... Ellen was an incredibly amazing human being and she truly will always have a special place in my heart.
Al Franklin
March 25, 2017
I'm so sorry to hear of Ellen's passing, Mike. I always liked Ellen. She was so kind to everyone in school. I've lost my Dad, only Sister and recently, my Mom all within the last 10 years but my wife and I still have each other. I can't imagine losing a loving wife. 50 years is a long time but still too early in life to be taken from you. My heart goes out to you and your family, Mike. Al Franklin - MTHS Class of '61
Roz Majewski
March 15, 2017
Dear Mike. How saddened and shocked I was to learn of Ellen's passing. Although I have not seen her for a while I always considered her a good friend. My heartfelt sympathy to you and your children and grandchildren. Roz Majewski
lynn randazzo
March 15, 2017
Dear Mike and family
So sorry to hear of Ellen's passing. Always enjoyed being in her company,she was a lovely woman.
You are in our thoughts and prayers.
So sorry,Lynn and Frank Randazzo
March 15, 2017
Ellen will always have a special place in my heart. She brought a smile to everyone that she met. Her kind heart and loving spirit will live on forever. My sincerest condolences, hugs, and prayers go out to her loving husband, family, and friends.
Louise Sampson,
POMCA 2015
March 15, 2017
Sincere condolences to all....I will always remember Ellen for her smile and hugs and her loving personality - will truly miss seeing her in Red Bank during lunch.....she had the biggest heart and always willing to help.....RIP Ellen - you will be truly missed.
MCruz and Family (Red Bank NJ)
Janet Upton
March 15, 2017
I am truly saddened by this news. This was a beautiful woman with a pure heart.
I hope it gives you peace to know that she touched everyone she came in contact with and she will always be remembered.
Dennis&Patricia Vaspory
March 14, 2017
Mike, our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time. Wishing you comfort and peace. God bless you
Dennis/Patricia Vaspory
March 14, 2017
May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.
Barbara Schneider
March 14, 2017
Dear Michael and family
We will always remember Ellen for her never ending thoughtfulness, warm smile, friendly personality, and most of all how much she adored and cherished her family. So sorry for all of you. She will be thought of often with love.
The Schneider family
Dorothy LaVergne
March 14, 2017
My sincere condolence to the family on their loss of such a lovely Wife, Mother, and Grandmother. I met Ellen at a Bridal shower For Teresa Wells many years ago and loved her immediately. She was such a warm and lovely woman. I know how much she meant to my son in law John and his wife Erica and their children. She will be missed and remembered with love for many years by all who knew her.
S. B.
March 14, 2017
To the Ciok Family,
Please accept our sincere condolences on the loss of your dear one. May the " God of all comfort " be with you and fill your hearts with wonderful memories of Ellen to cherish.
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