(Asbury Park Press)
PHILIP EDWARD REHDERS
AGE: 22 RUMSON
Philip Edward Rehders, 22, of Rumson, son of Meg and Ken Rehders, died Sunday, Oct. 5, in Lancaster, Pa. Blessed with intelligence, talent, good looks and natural grace, Philip was a model son and big brother to David, Thomas and Marghy. Philip was a student-athlete at Rumson-Fair Haven High School and a campus leader and Dean's List student at Franklin and Marshall College, from which he graduated in May 2008. In high school, he was a three-time All-Shore swimmer and captain of the swim team. At F & M, he captained the Varsity Men's Swim Team his junior and senior years and served as freshman orientation coordinator. He holds four college and two Centennial Conference records. Philip's leadership style was motivational and nonjudgmental. He was a young man of compassion and understated support of people and causes in which he believed. While still a student in Rumson, he served as an acolyte at St. George's-by-the-River Church and participated actively in their Interfaith Hospitality Network program and REACH work camp. Philip understood the eloquent power of language. He was a journal keeper with a finely tuned ear for nuance and humor; he often entertained his family and friends as a wickedly funny raconteur. Before a standing-room-only crowd at a memorial service on the Franklin and Marshall College Campus Monday evening, Philip's favorite English professor quoted excerpts from both Philip's writing and his critiques of other students' work. When Philip died, his backpack contained two books in addition to his personal journal: "On Writing Well" by William Zinsser and a copy of collected short stories by O. Henry. Along with his passion for sports, music, reading and travel, Philip deeply valued personal relationships and was a perceptive observer of the human condition. He was spontaneous, upbeat and demonstrative, expressing his affection with great bear hugs and a winning smile.
He was predeceased by loving grandparents, Margie and Ed Kelly and Otto Rehders. In addition to his parents and siblings, Philip is survived by his beloved grandmother, Florence Rehders; 12 aunts and uncles; and nine cousins.
Friends may visit from 2 to 4 p.m. and 7 to 9 p.m. Friday at Thompson Memorial Home, 310 Broad St., Red Bank. The funeral will be held at 10 a.m. Saturday at St. George's-by-the- River, 7 Lincoln Ave., Rumson. In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to the Philip Edward Rehders Memorial Scholarship Fund, c/o Franklin and Marshall College, Office of College Advancement, P.O. Box 3003, Lancaster, PA 17604-3303, or go to the Web site of http://secure.fandm.edu/give.
Published in Asbury Park Press on Oct. 8, 2008