Charles D. "Bud" Kalil

Kalil, Charles D. (Bud)
A life filled with love, hard work, devotion to family, farm and faith ended on December 20, 2013 when Charles D. (Bud) Kalil of Williston ND and Sun Lakes AZ died in Chandler AZ. Bud suffered a stroke in October 2013 and spent his final months under the loving and compassionate care of 's Dobson House. His Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated by Father Russell Kovash at 10:00 AM on Friday, December 27, 2013 at Saint Joseph's Catholic Church in Williston. Interment in Riverview Cemetery will follow the funeral mass. An Evening Vigil with a Rosary will be held Thursday evening at 7:00 PM at Everson Memorial Chapel. Friends may call at Everson Funeral Home in Williston on Thursday from noon until 7:00 PM and for the hour preceding the service at the church on Friday. On Saturday, January 11, 2014 there will be a Rosary at 9:30 AM and a memorial mass at 10:00 AM at St. Steven's Catholic Church in Sun Lakes, AZ. Bud's life story began on February 13, 1929 when he was born the 13th child in the blended family of Lebanese immigrants David Kalil and Rose Sayig Zine Kalil in Williston. Dave and Rose had both lost their spouses to illness and Bud's father helped support his friend and business partner's young widow who had never attended school and her six children. Bud's mother married Dave, the father of five children, and together they had two additional children with Charles being the youngest and his family's much-loved "little buddy." The earliest family pictures of him are inscribed "Buddie," because he truly was everyone's friend throughout his life. Growing up in Williston, Bud learned the value of work from both of his parents and his oldest brother Wilbur (Bill) who he said was the most positive influence in his life. His father homesteaded a farm and owned several grocery stores which supplied all of Williston and the Bonetrail area of Williams County with essential supplies. Bud delivered ice and groceries to customers in the winter and worked on the farm from an early age. Bud graduated from Williston High School in 1947 where he excelled as an athlete, earning 13 letters for sports, was class president, worked on the student newspaper, and once led a student protest and class walkout in a disagreement with a school policy that was subsequently changed. Bud's friends from his youth remained lifelong friends and he never missed a high school reunion. Bud attended the University of North Dakota and St. Thomas University before joining the US Army's Company E of the 164th Infantry from 1950 - 1952, serving in Kentucky and Alabama, where he boasted to his commanding officer that he was willing to bet his stripes that he could run a better mess hall than the current sergeant. That comment earned him a promotion to mess sergeant by morning. Following his honorable discharge, he returned to the family farm and businesses in Williston. In 1953 he married Gertrude Alice Bougie in St. Paul, MN and they began their family in Williston. Together they raised six children, Terry, Patty, David, Dan, Laurie and Michael. Bud fell in love with and married Gloria (Hagen) Hegge of Williston in 1998. Bud's career began in his family's Piggly Wiggly grocery stores and at the family farm. He joined American State Bank in the early 1960s, beginning a career in banking that spanned four decades. He successfully led Northwestern Federal Savings & Loan Association as president until its merger with Metropolitan Banks of Fargo. He retired from Metropolitan as vice president and vice chairman of the Board of Directors in 1995 after successfully completing its merger with First Banks which then became US Bank Corp. Bud represented North Dakota as a member of the Federal Home Loan Bank of Des Moines Board of Directors from 1987-1990 and 1994-1995. Bud was active in a number of organizations and civic groups in Williston and Fargo throughout his lifetime, including Rotary, the Chamber of Commerce, Concordia College's C-400, Dollars for Scholars, the Fargo Country Club and UND Alumni Association. A true civic and community leader, Bud eagerly invested his time, energy and resources in making Williston a stronger community. Youth sports programs, swim teams, schools, the downtown area and the library all benefitted from his support. He served as a Williston City Commissioner from 1970 to 1976. Bud was employed as a banker, but his greatest love and passion was the family farm. He deemed the tractor to be the most important invention of his lifetime. He would leave the bank and head to the farm to join his brother Bill for an evening of harvesting, planting or even rock-picking. At a young age, his sons began accompanying him to the farm, learning to balance seed, fertilizer, weeds, equipment and manpower against the forces of Mother Nature. Under Bud and Bill's direction, the farm grew and prospered and remains a true family farm today under the leadership of his son Dan. Bud's world revolved around his family and his farm. His children grew up surrounded by the large extended Kalil-Zine family which celebrated every holiday with a Lebanese feast. Bud seldom missed a school performance, a sporting event or occasion to hunt with his sons. He chauffeured his daughters and their friends to every out-of-town Coyote game, flooded the back yard for a skating rink and supported all of their childhood endeavors. When his youngest son Michael was born with a congenital heart defect, Bud also ran the household for long stretches so Gert could be with Michael at the University of Minnesota's pediatric heart hospital. He often said that the family couldn't have made it through that difficult time without the help and love of his sister-in-law Olga Zine. Bud was a lifelong member of St. Joseph's Catholic Church in Williston. He co-chaired the fund-raising effort for the new church in the mid-1970s and when that church burned shortly after opening, he chaired the successful effort to rebuild the church a second time. During a tumultuous time when closing the school was contemplated, Bud and Father Raymond Aydt found a way to keep the school open. In Sun Lakes, he was a member of St. Steven's Catholic Church. Bud didn't have a lot of time to devote to hobbies until after harvest on the farm. Then he could be found hunting pheasant or deer with the same guys he hunted with in high school. He only learned to golf near the end of his banking career, often joking that he did so to keep up with the other bank directors during golf resort meetings. Although he relocated to a golf course in Sun Lakes, he considered Williston his real and only home. The farm, the town and the land he cherished were never far from his thoughts. Throughout his life, everything about Bud's life came back to his family. In 1989, he started an annual tradition that continues today of gathering his children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren together in Minnesota every summer to celebrates birthdays, baptisms, engagements, weddings, pregnancies and the lives of those lost. Nothing excited him more than anticipating everyone's arrival, including those joining the Kalil family as grandsons- and granddaughters-in-law. Bud lived a life of strong faith with clear moral beliefs. An early lesson he taught his children was, "if you aren't honest, you're aren't anything." His nieces and nephews often referred to him as "the pope." Like his father Dave, Bud was larger than life, outgoing and compassionate, eager to help other people. Bud is survived by his wife, Gloria of Sun Lakes, AZ; and his children: Terry of Detroit Lakes, MN; Patty and her husband, Joe Margarit of Bloomington, MN, David and his wife, Candy Kalil of Williston, ND; Dan and his wife, Kathy Kalil of Williston, ND; and Laurie and her husband, David Metzger of Charlotte, NC. He is also survived by his grandchildren: Chad (Brianne) Kalil and their daughter, Harper, Melissa Anderson and her son, Jay; Kevin (Megan) Kalil and their daughter, Kinsley, Tim Kalil, Ted Margarit, Betsy Margarit, Charlie Margarit, Billy Kalil, Thomas (Audrey) Kalil, Alex Kalil, Ian Kalil, Matthew Metzger and Katie Metzger. He is also survived by one sister, Leona Lukenbill of Sacramento, CA; two sisters-in-law, Helen Kalil of Minneapolis MN and Maxine Zine of Mesa, AZ. Bud cherished his many nieces and nephews from the Kalil, Zine and Bougie families who also survive him. He enjoyed a close relationship with Gloria's children, Kim Hegge, Johnathan Hegge and Mari Stewart and their families. Preceding Bud in death are his son, Michael who died in 2004; Gertrude; his parents; his brothers and sisters-in-law, Wilbur (Charlotte) Kalil, Ed Kalil, Solomon Kalil, Harvey (Alice) Zine, Joseph (Olga) Zine, and Mike (Ernestine) Zine; and his sisters and brothers-in-law, Rose Kalil, Adele Kalil, Sadie (Nick) Zine, Cecilia (Joe) Forzley and Marian (Jack) Knudsen.
Bud's family wishes to express their deep gratitude to the staff of Dobson House in Chandler for their devoted care of Bud during his final time with us. Memorials in Bud's name are preferred to 's Dobson House for use in their gardens, 1510 E. Flower St., Phoenix AZ 85014 or to St. Joseph's Church or School in Williston, ND. Friends are welcome to visit to share memories of Bud or leave condolences for his family.

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Published in The Arizona Republic on Dec. 26, 2013