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Joanne (Hubensmith) Davidge passed from this life on September 27, 2016 after a brief illness. She left this earth on her terms - surrounded by family, music, stories and laughter. Mom leaves a legacy of a life well lived - four children, nine grandchildren, eight great grandchildren, and many more 'adopted' children that she supported with her charity. Speaking of charity, Mom never met one she didn't like. She was a prolific giver - financially and with her heart. Her mail box reflected this - 90% of the mail she received was from various organizations that she gave to copiously.
Mom had some interesting wishes and habits - she desperately wanted a red headed grandchild. Sadly, her best chance of that with her daughter Julie and Dan Proffitt went unrewarded. She loved to rub your hair - she called it "suzzying." Anybody within arm's reach was at risk of a suzzy - without fail. All you could do was sit patiently and wait for her to finish. Though not a Catholic, Mom would always promise to "rattle her beads" if you ever had a big test, job interview, or were going through a rough time.
She was a prodigious letter writer. Her quirky left-handed, downhill-slanted scribble was always challenging and fun to decipher. She would send ten letters to every one she received. An analog dinosaur in a digital world. As much as we tried to get her on to Facebook, she professed ignorance and only ventured online when a child or grandchild could shepherd her.
While she was raised in extremely challenging circumstances, Mom proved to be resilient and always made difficult circumstances better for those around her. Even though money was tight growing up (remember powdered milk?), there are many fond Christmas memories with everyone's special wish under the tree. She started a Brownie/Girl Scout troop for elementary school girls who lived in the migrant farm labor camps near Coalinga in the early 1960's. She also served in numerous PTA capacities to help enrich the lives of many children and stay involved in her children's education.
Mom was a great communicator - no matter the generation gap. She always had time to listen to you, without judgment. Her counsel was always balanced. When any of us were facing a life event or big decision, she would say "for every door that closes, two more will open."
After her marriage of 40 years ended in divorce, Mom was lucky enough to meet the love of her life, Lauren. They enjoyed 8 years together and she came to share his love of live theater. After Lauren's passing, she missed him tremendously and we are comforted knowing that they are together once again. Mom had a funny saying about time spent apart. Whether the absence was one day or many weeks, she would say "I missed you very, very much." Mom... we will miss you very, very much.
Mom did not want a formal memorial or funeral service. If you are interested in making a memorial donation in her name, please consider the Assistance League.
Published in Bakersfield Californian on Oct. 16, 2016
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