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Verla DeLois "Pat" Murphy


01/25/1926 - 09/25/2015 Obituary
Verla DeLois "Pat" Murphy Obituary
Born in Sweetwater, Oklahoma to Charlie Edgar and Bessie Smith, Verla DeLois ("Pat") moved to Wasco in 1935 with her parents and siblings and their spouses. Like so many others at that time, her family worked together under difficult circumstances to improve their lives in a new land. Pat lived most of the rest of her long and productive life in Bakersfield. She is mourned by her sons and daughters-in-law: Michael & Milady and Timothy & Corinna. She also leaves behind her beloved granddaughter, Kristen, and grandson, Joe, as well as many nephews, nieces, extended family members and friends. She was preceded in death by her parents, by the love of her life, her ex-husband John, and by her siblings and their spouses Don (Allie), Bonnie (Henry), and Lucille (Curtis), as well as by her nieces Velda, Darlene and Trudy.
Throughout every phase of her life she sacrificed her self-interest for the good of her family. Even when the debilities of old age caught up with her, Pat worried more often about inconveniencing others than she did about her own discomforts. In her prime, she was the bedrock of her family and she was frequently called upon by the rest of us for guidance and comfort. She always gave both in full measure.
Her work life started early and she put herself fully into it. Whatever it was she was doing at the time, whether that be picking cotton as a young girl or supervising nurses in the orthopedic ward of Memorial Hospital, where she worked for 33 years, she approached life with dedication, thoroughness and a great regard for the feelings and well-being of everyone around her.
Beset by Alzheimer's disease in recent years, she progressively lost the memories of a long and eventful life, but she recognized the members of her family up to her death, for which we are very grateful. We would like to express our deep appreciation to Jasmin Yatco and all of the people of Arcadia Family Care for enriching Pat's final months with such skill, consideration and good cheer.
So, Pat's big California adventure, begun exactly eight decades ago to the year, has come to an end. The last person alive in her family to have made the trek from Oklahoma to California, she keenly felt the absence of her parents, her ex-husband, her siblings and their spouses, and a host of other loved ones. Now it is our turn to mourn. But at least as long as we retain our own memories, this wonderful human being will continue gently to guide us by her inspiring example.
Pat's funeral service will be on Thursday, October 1 at 1:00 pm at the chapel of Hillcrest Memorial Park with a reception following. All are invited to attend.
Published in Bakersfield Californian from Sept. 29 to Sept. 30, 2015
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