Adam Bluestone
1964 - 2007
Adam Bluestone
1964 - 2007
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1964
DIED
2007
Adam Bluestone Obituary
Adam is survived by his wife, Angela, and sons, Zachary and David; father and stepmother, Dr. Rodney and Elizabeth Bluestone; brother, Simon Bluestone; sisters, Courtney and Kate Bluestone; mother, Jean Bluestone; and many other family members, friends and colleagues.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to a trust fund established for Zachary and David Bluestone at Washington Mutual Bank. These donations should be deposited for: Zachary and David Bluestone, Acct # : 492 243 1400. Donations to the Adam Bluestone Autism Education Foundation may be sent to Greenlawn Mortuary, P.O. BOX 1726, Bakersfield, CA 93302, attn: Marina, to benefit individuals and families impacted by autism.
A memorial service celebrating the life of Adam Bluestone will be held on Friday, September 14, 2007, at Greenlawn Memorial Chapel , 3700 River Blvd. at 10:00 a.m.
This obituary was originally published in the Bakersfield Californian.
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March 14, 2013
It has been some time now since you left us all, however your spirit continues to enter my thoughts from time to time, and it reminds me of our times spent together.
Although your life was cut short, you showed us how to live with passion and live outside of ourselves. You taught me much.
Tedd Gerstenfeld
Barbara Holmes
March 12, 2013
Today I was cleaning out my wallet and found Adams business card. I sit for a while and just looked at it. Tears came to my eyes. Then I remembered Adam. I smiled. Remembering Adams love for other and the smile he carried, fills my heart with joy. I will put his card back in my wallet and wait until I need it again. Then I will pull it out and remember the greatest person I have ever met. You will always be in my heart Adam
Barbara Holmes
Jean Bluestone
February 19, 2013
My love forever to Adam, one of the two PERFECT sons I was lucky enough to have had. My children (Stefanie) and grandchildren are always in my heart...forever!
Mum (Grandma Jean)
February 18, 2013
My brother would have been 49 years old today - your memory lives on, Adam...and we miss you very much. Love to your spirit and your family, Simon
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October 10, 2012
Miss you adam.
From David and Bobby
R.I.P.
shandiz Mehdi Zandi, Mostaedi
September 6, 2008
One year now, Adam has left. No doubt.. somewhere peaceful and surrounded by love. He senses, sees and feels his loving family and friends... he touches us all daily. However, we still gaze at the sky, endlessly, asking the universe, why, why? Answers, we will never receive. Wishing serenity and peace for all who love him so much. May golden healing rays shine on the Bluestones forever. Just know, we are always here for you.
Tedd
September 3, 2008
I'll be thinking of you this weekend Adam!!!
Jennifer
April 23, 2008
I miss you, friend.
Sara Holmes
December 19, 2007
Its been four months since Adam's death, and boy has he impacted so many people's lives. We are all going on with our lives, but its so different without Adam in our lives. I drive past where Adam's family lives and makes me think of you all. I was sitting at a red light and looked over and there is a shiny bald man looking exactly like Adam. He was smiling. It was Adam and made me think of what a wonderful guy Adam is and how much I miss him and seeing how he made family, friends, and people off the street smile. I really miss Adam and am really sad for his family.
December 18, 2007
Not a day goes by that I don't think about you and your family and the loss we all have suffered. I pick up the phone to call you and remember...... Everywhere I go you are there. I pass 24th street cafe and you're there, I pass the skate park and your there, I pass the coffee shop and your there, go to a basketball game and your there. Everything reminds me of you. Life is so quick. It's been 3 years since the day I met you and I am so glad that I did. I have learned so much from you. I have learned to not take life for granted. I make sure to tell everyone I know that I love them and how special they are to me!! I miss you Adam.
shandiz, mehdi zandi mostaedi
November 1, 2007
It is the love one spreads that defines the value of a life. Adam's life, cut so short, was worth a thousand lives. We see him and feel him daily. We are so lucky to have Angie, David & Zachary to contiue to love. We are always here for you anytime, anywhere, anyhow.
MARIE (COSKO) GULDBECK
October 21, 2007
DEAR ADAM,
I THINK OF YOU OFTEN, AND AM SO SAD THAT YOU ARE NO LONGER ENJOYING THE WONDERFUL LIFE THAT YOU HAD. YOU WERE SO ENERGETIC, FUN, AND EASY-GOING. I CAN STILL PICTURE YOU BAREFOOT SKIING AT LAKE ARROWHEAD...YOU WERE AWESOME. YOU WILL BE FOREVER MISSED. MY THOUGHTS AND PREAYERS ARE WITH YOUR FAMILY.
Kate Bluestone
October 14, 2007
This is for my brother Adam. Life is so much dimmer without you.
Whenever you walked into a room, I couldn’t help but smile. You’d come over and wrap me in a bear hug and pronounce to all how lucky you felt to have such a beautiful sister. But really I was lucky to have you as my brother. My wonderful and kind and big-hearted older brother who would always sign “I love you” with hand language across the dinner table or take me on amazing ski trips where you made me feel like I was finally part of the adult members of the family. You made me a very proud aunt for the first time, a role that means the world to me, and your happy face would always be the first to pop in my mind when I talked about how much I love my family. And you will never lose that place in my mind and in my heart. You were such a positive force in this world and that is why we are all struggling so deeply with your passing. Life will never make sense without you, brother, but I will try to carry on your legacy of love along with the boys and Angie. I miss you everyday and I love you more than you could ever know.
Courtney Bluestone
October 14, 2007
There are so many things I could say about my brother Adam, but it would take up this entire book. Adam was a huge presence in my life. He was so many things, but above all he was the most loving, caring, adoring, and self-less person I've ever known. He touched so many people's lives and I just feel so lucky that I had the most amazing person in the world as my brother. He brought a smile to my face every time I saw him, and he always found a way to brighten up my day. He had confidence in me and what I would do with my life, and that confidence still lives in me and always will. I am confident that I will make him proud. My brother and I were very close, and I cherish the relationship we had. He meant the world to me and I will always remember Adam for his kind, warm, and gentle heart. He will always be remembered for the enthusiastic spirit be brought to everyone and every thing in his life. I hope that Angie, Zachary, and David know that there are so many people in this world that are there for them whenever they need anything, and love them just as dearly. I love you guys with all of my heart.
Derek Winn
October 11, 2007
Adam,
I will miss you dearly. You were clearly one of the most beloved people I have ever met in my life. Everyone wanted to be around you with your smile and patience that so many of us wished we had. The best way to describe my feelings of your passing is when the Indian in Dances with Wolves pounds his chest and declares "Can you see that you will always be my friend?" I promise to take the boys on adventures when they visit and remind them of what a remarkable man you were.
Derek
Chris Hoehl
October 10, 2007
When I think of Adam, I will always recall the first time I met him at Rodney and Liz' house a long time ago. He looked in great shape, so imagine my surprise when, while shaking hands he gave me a huge bear hug. Needless to say that was the first time I encountered "The Hug". So now when I see friends and family I give them "the Hug" and tell them I love them. And each time I do this I remember Adam and his wonderful greeting even to stangers. I am still working up to giving a stanger the Adam Bluestone hug and greeting. Maybe, Someday.
The one Adam Bluestone story that I always marvel at was the one he told me at Rodney's 70th Birthday party. On one of their first dates, Adam and Angie were having dinner at a restaurant when a piece of food blocked his wind pipe. Thinking quickly, while not being able to breath, Adam rushed off to the restroom, determined to dislodge the food from his throat by ramming his chest against the edge of the bathroom sink repeatedly. He didn't want to screw up the best thing that had ever happended to him in his life -- Angie. And she proved it by waiting patiently for 20 minutes for him to emerge from the bath room all sweaty and disheveled but breathing. Angie told me she was shocked by his appearence,but decided to hang around. Lucky for Adam as he told me later.
We all have our share of obstacles to overcome and Adam overcame his with his incredible passion for experiencing life. He loved Angie, Zachary and David with all his heart determined to be the best husband, father and son he could be.
God speed, Adam.
Stacie Allen
October 10, 2007
Adam was my friend. Even though I saw Adam only on ocassion, every time i saw him he greeted me with the same beautiful smile and sparkly eyes. I miss him. Since attending the service I have walked away with a better sense of who I want to be. Thank you Adam. All my love.
Lindsey Jamplis
October 10, 2007
Adam, I am so grateful that you were a part of my life and I was able to enjoy the company of a kind and loving human being like yourself. You are an inspiration to so many, and touched the hearts of everyone that me you. You hold a special place in my heart, and you inspire me to be a better person. I admired your warm heart, and dedication to Angie and your beautiful sons! I know that you will be looking down on all of us, guiding us each with your heart. I will love you forever Adam and never forget the gift you have give me.
Jamie Allgood
October 10, 2007
Dear Angie,David and Zachary
May God heal your hearts with all the love that you shared as a family.
I was privileged to of worked with Adam for two short years and that is not a lot of time to really get know him. But what I do know is how much he enjoyed sharing about you all, and what adventures went on the weekend before that you shared as a family. I know that he loved the work he did, and he loved and respected each and every child. He was a master at making me and others truly believe and want to share his vision. I am grateful for the very short time that I was part of the dream he had for his business. I get to say that I will go forward with the knowledge that I worked with and for Adam Bluestone a man that loved his family and was a teacher to all that all children need respect and to be understood.
Andy and Jeannie Disney
October 9, 2007
I met Adam through my wife Jeannie, who was an aide in his classroom. One day we went sailing on Brite Lake in Tehaphapi. Adam and myself on the catamaran, Jeannie on the shore reading an novel, when out of nowhere, here comes Angie with great sandwiches and cold drinks. Boy, that was a great day. I took Adam on a few Jeep trips, and those were good times.Thanks for the memories.
Tedd Sievers
October 9, 2007
My Friend Adam-
I’ve had the honor of personally knowing Adam for quite some time. I got to enjoy his friendship for a brief 27 years, but it wasn’t long enough. Not even close. You see Adam was the kind of guy who you could sit down with and talk to about anything. We could have gone for a few months without talking to one another and pick up our conversation like it had just happened. He had a very genuine quality to his personality that let you know he cared.
Like many of us who grew up surfing in southern California, adrenalin was a way of life and it was easy to find ways to reproduce it. Adam knew how to enjoy it and still grow in his family and professional life and responsibilities. Believe me that this is not a simple feat to accomplish, as the pitfalls are many and difficult to escape from if you fall in. Adam found a way to make it work in his favor and actually excelled at it. His enthusiasm for life was quite infectious and he got me inspired to do things that I most likely would not have even considered doing if not for him. Recently I got to return the favor as I got him to go golfing with me for the 1st time last year and in typical fashion he charged ahead with that same spirit! Go golfer Adam!!!
While his adventure achievements were noteworthy and perhaps even astonishing, to me they were really just background material for Adam’s life. Things he did to keep from getting bored or into too much trouble. My own insight into what inspired him was his love for his family and his love for helping children. I feel that that is what really drove Adam and let him achieve some great things. I am convinced that the two best things that ever happened to him were meeting Angie, and starting his own business. Even though it made him very busy and hard to get a hold of, I always knew that he was doing good things for people who needed his help. For this alone he will be sorely missed.
I learned of Adam’s health issues on the morning of my birthday. As I got more information about what was going on, I was lucky enough to get through to Angie’s brother Josh at the hospital. He filed me in on his current status and was kind enough to get my contact information for Angie. I learned the next day that Adam passed away later that night.
It’s been a month since that day and I am still trying to grasp the entirety of it all. At first all I could think of was the time misspent, near misses when I drove by their home in Bakersfield either on my up to the Kern river or to Tahoe for some camping and romping around in my truck. Far too many times that can never be retrieved and were taken for granted. I have since come to realize that Adam left me a very special gift- for the rest of my life I get to celebrate my birthday with him. I’m sure he will enjoy it as much as our friends and I will!
I love you Adam and miss you immensely. I know that you are in a very special place reserved for only a few, my brother.
Jennie Stuart
October 9, 2007
Dear Angie, Zach & David,
I have known Adam for many years and I was lucky enough to have seen him during some of his most joyous moments. First, when he came to tell me about this 'amazing' girl named Angie and again when he brought his baby boys to show off in the office. I must admit, he scared me the way he held them up over his head like the Lion King, but, as you know, he loved teasing us older folk.
He was there with comfort during a difficult time in my life and he was there with laughter in so many more. I remember how he calmed me (sort of) when he took my son for a tandem jump. He knew I was nervous when he headed for the plane, so he put his hand on my shoulder and told me not to worry, this whole thing would take only a few minutes. When I asked him if ‘that’ was all he had for me, he smiled and said, ‘no, but it was the best.' That day, along with the video, remains a favorite family memory.
When there is such a loss as this, it seems the first question always seems to begin with ‘Why.’ Why was he taken from us? Why now? Why such a wonderful person? And though those questions are appropriate, they never seem to bring an answer that satisfies us.
I wonder if a different ‘why’ question might help.
I believe that we are all here for a purpose. It may be to do great things, bring love or share joy. I don’t think it is as obvious with some as it is with others, but I believe Adam had a fabulous mission and he accomplished so many things for so many people on his road to achieve it? His life was shorter than some, but I believe he lived it with passion and did what he chose and was meant to do.
He shared his love and joy wherever he went; with family, friends and ever stranger he met. How giving can one man be? I hope as you continue from day to day, you feel the love he left with others reflected back to you. I believe that is why it is there.
My ‘why’ question is ‘Why were we all so blessed to have had him in our lives?’ And you, Angie, Zach and David…how special you must be for him to have chosen to share his life and deepest love.
My prayer for you is that you find some comfort in every moment that you need it and that you call if there is anything I can do to help.
Angie, we all miss you every day at work. You, and your boys, are in our thoughts always.
All my love,
Jennie Stuart
Agnes Lopez
October 9, 2007
Dear Angie, boys,
Know that having known Adam has been a blessing for me. He certainly showed me how to honor, respect and see the beauty each person holds no matter what. This is a difficult lesson to learn, but knowing that he did, makes it possible for us all.
I will always remember him in having honored me with, as he would say, "saving his life and being his guardian angel". He would be so proud and never hesitated in telling the story to anyone who would listen. I, of course would look at him and attempt to shy away while thinking, "gosh it was only his finger"(smile). But now I realize the magic of it all. How he wanted to help me understand that I should never be hesitent in letting others know how they have impacted, helped or affected my life no matter how trivial it may seem.
Angie, it's nice to know we are all guardian angels to one another. This is his legacy to me,to us all. I thank you for sharing him so beautifully with all who came to know him. I'm so happy our lives have crossed. There are no co-incidences.
My thoughts and prayers always and a hand to hold, if needed, as you journey this path.
Philip J Carnevale
October 9, 2007
Adam was a good friend, a great father, husband and person. Even though I would only see Adam on occasion I already feel the void of not having him here with us anymore. The memories that I do have of him are of his big smile, warm heart and the sparkle of enthusiasm in his eyes. Since attending the service he has inspired me to be a better person. My heart goes out to his family. Adam Bluestone was a great man.
Suzie Winn
October 8, 2007
Angie, Zachary,and David,
I have been thinking of you all everyday, many times. A laugh, a smile, or even a bald head I see, will make me think of Adam. The tears start to form in my eyes and then a smile emerges. I always picture Adam laughing and smiling.
I have many wonderful, laugh filled memories of Adam. I can't think of a time we all shared together that you did not see smiles all around. One that stands out is our trip to Lake Almanor and sledding down the hill. What a beautiful time that was for our family.
I have been praying that time will bring peace into all of you hearts and that your wonderful memories of Adam will give you strength as you face life without him.
I Love You,
Suzie
Kendall Winn
October 8, 2007
Uncle Adam,
I remember Uncle Adam somehow like a Dad. I think Uncle Adam was a great, nice person because whenever he came to visit me he would always say "I LOVE YOU!"
Love,
Kendall
Carter Winn
October 8, 2007
Uncle Adam-
I remember Uncle Adam because he was like a big kid.
Love,
Carter
Judy Hanson
October 8, 2007
If you are lucky in your lifetime, you will meet an exceptional person who inspires you far beyond all the normal people in your daily life. It may be the person’s courage. It may be the person’s gifts, or the person’s skills. It could be the person’s work ethic or accomplishments. It may be the person’s commitment to his family or to his beliefs. It may be the person’s ability to balance life… to be able to cherish family, have fun, work hard, promote good causes, have a relationship with God. It may be the person’s character, the person’s positive attitude… or it could even be the way the person gives you an increased sense of worth.
In Adam, he had the whole package. So much… that he was a source of inspiration for many, many people. Adam’s loved ones will suffer in their loss of him. Yet, the love, the optimism and vision he had and gave to those around him, will give them strength for their lifetime. A part of Adam will be in every single person that knew him…and will be carried and passed on to the people they have in their lives.
I did not know Adam well enough to know what imperfections he had. But, those normal human fallacies, whatever they may be, will never diminish his legacy.
I did know him well enough to know that his legacy will be vast. People will remember to show love and kindness. People will remember to treat others with the attitude that they have value and worth. People will remember to give back to others less fortunate than themselves… to give help when it is needed. People will remember to work hard. People will remember to balance their lives.
The world will be a better place because Adam existed. He was an inspiration to us all.
Allyson Hoehl
October 7, 2007
My favorite Quote is
"Life is not measured by how may breaths we take but by how many moments take our breath away." Never have I seen a life so breath taking. I wish I could say something to make everything better. I deeply love all of you and am sincerely sorry for the loss of Adam. I will miss his warm welcome and our talks over drinks at family parties. Always in my heart, I will miss you Adam
Kristi Townsend
October 7, 2007
I first met Adam when he was a teacher at Rafer (when the school was across the street). I don't think I have ever met anybody with such a constant smile and a bright greeting for everybody.
The best was when Adam was with his students. That was a sight to see, because they were all smiling and trying to hold his hands. It was clear to me that he loved them, and they loved him back.
As a therapist I was surprised to see what clever activities Adam had for his students to do outside of class. They would count coins from the coke machine, pick vegetables from across the street, and my favorite, wash his little pick-up on the school grounds. These were all great functional activities and the children loved every moment.
After Adam left Rafer he went on to do more wonderful work with autistic children.
Even though I would only see him occasionally, there was always that wonderful smile and greeting.
I am going to treasure that memory.
Linda Freeman
October 6, 2007
Dear Angie, The memorial service was so beautiful. I miss seeing you and will be glad to see you again. Adam was always so sweet and friendly to me. Memories of him and the work he did with the children will always be with me. He used to always greet me so warmly, many times with a big hug. He teased me when I used to be upset and overwhelmed and made me laugh. That was mostly when we were across the street, I think before you were at Rafer. At any rate you will have memories forever, to comfort you and make you smile. Love and hugs Angie, Linda
Mike and Debbie Abdi
October 6, 2007
Bluestone families:
We are so sorry to hear of Adam's passing. He was instrumental in our son Alex's educational treatment (Alex has autism)and Adam was willing to travel to our high desert city numerous times; and offered an excellent behavioral program that was high energy and positive focused. At the end of the day we could always be assured Adam's reward program was working because Alex would come home at the end of the day like it was Christmas! i.e., gardening gloves, tools for the garage, squishy toys, etc. etc.
We had the utmost respect for Adam and were very excited for him as he ventured into his own business. We once suggested he needed to be the next "Nanny" TV show.
We hope all of you will be well. Although his death brings a great depth of sadness, Adam's smile and laughter is a lasting and embedded joy. Adam was a beautiful man and we know his heartfelt love will exist within you forever.
You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Mary and Paul Batelaan
October 5, 2007
Dearest Angie, Zachary and David...
Words can never begin to express the sadness and pain we have experienced because of Adam's death. What great loss for all of us but especially for the three of you. The reality of our loss is still too hard to even comprehend.
Angie, you introduced Adam to us and how profoundly glad we are that he became part of our family. He brought such love and acceptance and it touched each of us. Because of his gifted way of living and expressing this, we were richly blessed. We will forever carry this with us. What a special man!
We pray that moment by moment, as the days unfold, you will be given the strength and courage to carry on - not any easy task - but made possible because of God's comforting love and grace.
Angie, Zachary and David, you are each so very precious to us. We love you. Adam taught us to be open about saying that and we want to carry that lesson with us forever and live it!
Much love,
Aunt Jody and Uncle Paul
Bob Turner
October 5, 2007
I first met Adam June 18, 1989. I know this date because it’s the first time that Adam signed my log book, it was my 88th jump. At that time, we were both skydiving at the Cal City Parachute Center in Mojave.
Since I was told about Adam’s passing, I’ve been doing a lot of remembering…and there is a lot to remember. As I have been going through my old log books, I realized that Adam was a huge part of my young adult life. His passion, energy and fearlessness were contagious and it was Adam who gave this rookie skydiver a chance to jump on the Bimblemen Light skydiving team. As Bill Eberly pointed out during his written eulogy at the funeral, “we were legends in our own minds,” but, we were still the coolest thing on the drop zone.
The Bimblemen spanned nearly a decade and existed at four different drop zones…Perris, Cal City, Arvin and Taft. During that time the names on the team changed many times, but two remained the same…Adam Bluestone and Tony Cosko. They excelled at canopy relative work, base jumping, demonstration jumps, AFF, tandem and my favorite, 4-way formation.
During this time I saw my friend Adam grow. He met the love of his life, Angie, he became very serious about his education and his work with disabled children…and through it all, he continued skydiving.
Adam was always extremely confident and focused in freefall. Every time I looked at him he would have a smile on his face, even when things weren’t going so great. And in skydiving, things don’t always go so great. Whether it was an out of control freefall student or formation skydive gone awry, Adam would not panic, he would stay focused. He once confided in me that he actually liked it when a student in freefall on a “release dive” went tumbling out of control so he could dive down and catch them. This was Adam at his best and I felt confident with him as an AFF partner and teammate.
Although it’s been several years since I’ve seen Adam, the times we shared have always been in my thoughts.
To Angie, Zachary and David,
I will say I loved Adam like a brother and I will never forget him.
Love and support,
Bob Turner (aka Beakman)
Rhonda
October 4, 2007
Jean and family, You are in our thoughts and prayers. We are here for you Jean. We love you! Jay, Rhonda and family
Brandi and Payton Huggins
October 3, 2007
I had the wonderful opportunity to meet Adam 2 1/2 years ago when my little boy, Payton, was diagnosed with autism. This one person brought the hope back into our lives. He spent a lot of time working with our son and helping set up a great home program. He had such a way of working with him. I will never understand how he had the time to do everything he did in his jam packed days! I feel so blessed to have been able to share in Adam's life. He was such a wonderful man with extraordinary talent and knowledge. Eventually, I had the opportunity to work with him. I considered that such an honor. We had a blast working together. We both loved working with kids. I don't know how many times he would say, "Don't you just love this?" He had such enthusiasm for his work. It was so much fun to be a part of that and be making a difference with him. He was trully a great friend and colleague. I miss him greatly and hope to carry on his life's work.
Angie, Zac, and David...Thank you so much for sharing him with us. He made such a huge difference in the lives of so many little boys and girls. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Jeff Brehmer
September 30, 2007
Adam always welcomed me into his life and expressed his love. A time which stands out in my mind was when I told Adam of my new love Lisa, several years ago. Lisa and I had planned a road trip to Southern California with a trip to Disneyland. Adam invited us to stop by in Bakersfield and that he would take us skydiving. He also promised to do a tandem jump with Lisa, which he did.
Adam has obviously jumped out of airplanes many times, often with another person strapped to him. My wife Lisa has a spinal cord injury and is paralysed from the waist down. Adam knew that the experience would have an impact on Lisa and that was his gift. Lisa talks of this experience and Adam whenever there are challenges or conversations of good times.
The following words from a recent obituary I read express my experience of Adam: 'what matters is not what we leave behind. What matters is what we do now.'
I will truly miss Adam and hope to use his example as a guidepost for my life.
Ian Gilbey
September 29, 2007
Adam would say "Attitude is a choice" and boy did he have the Best Attitude Ever. I will miss you mate, you were One in a Million to Me and So Many.
My times with Adam, Angie, Zack and David were time's of Love, Family and Fun. Whether it was a Holiday, Dirt Bikes, Ski trips, Scuba "Any One For Scuba" Adam would say in his best French accent, cracking him self up with laughter, or just popping in to say Hello at Taft drop zone, Adam would greet you with a Big smile and Love. Before you knew it, he had you suited up and in a plane, making you feel like the whole day had been planned for weeks and you were the guest of Honour.
He Lived Life and Loved Full Time. I will be forever grateful to you Adam, for all that you have shown me.
Karen Rowles
September 29, 2007
Bennett says "Thank you, my friend."
Josh Hewes
September 28, 2007
Adam was my brother-in-law, and I think one of the things about Adam I hope to take with me is his love of people and ability to relate to just about anyone. In conversation, Adam made people feel completely comfortable and genuinely cared about what they had to say. He accepted people for who they were and without judgment. He was a people-person, and it was this characteristic that allowed him to bring together people from all different backgrounds – the quality that initially brought us all together. Adam was the common denominator.
Adam lived more life in his 43 years than most people do that live to see a 100 birthdays. We all know he loved extreme sports and the rush of adrenaline that accompanied them. He always loved the water, and I just recently learned from his father that he was swimming laps in the pool by age two. He windsurfed, sailed, scuba dived and water skied. Then came skydiving – a sport at which he excelled and became renowned for. I never did take the opportunity to jump tandem with Adam, and now I wished I had. Adam also loved snow skiing, dirt biking, fishing and hunting. In the last few years of his life he became a student of the guitar, and he threw himself into it in the same way he did skydiving. Adam, lived life at full-speed ahead.
Adams greatest passion in life was loving my sister Angie, and the depth and expression of that love was surely his greatest achievement. Angie and Adam were designed for each other, and their relationship was not just the sum of two parts. Something much greater than each of them on their own was created in their marriage, and each would have said that the other made them a better person. Adam loved Angie with all his being and she always knew it. He made sure of that in a variety of ways, but one that stands out to me is the special jewelry he picked out for Ang. I once visited Carriage Jewelers here in town to find something for my wife and found they knew Adam by first name because of all the time he’s spent shopping there for Angie. Adam was an amazing husband to my sister, and I could not have wished for a more perfect man for her life.
Adam was also an incredible father to Zachary and David, and having a son of my own, he serves as a model to me on how to love Luke. He told Zach and Davey everyday how much he loved them, and he loved just hanging out with his boys. I can imagine that to Zach and David’s friends, Adam was a “cool dad”. He also displayed such a great love for my son, and Luke loved to be with his uncle Adam. I know all of his many nieces and nephews will miss their Uncle.
I don’t remember the first time I met Adam, but I think from the beginning that each of us felt completely comfortable around each other. I could just be my goofy self around him and I think it was the same for him. It must have been our common love for Angie that made it so easy and natural. Adam was not just a brother by law, but one by action. He always included me in whatever he, Ang, and the boys were doing and I will truly miss those times of just hanging out as a family. I’ll truly miss hearing Adam say “Joshie – Boy". I knew I loved Adam prior to his death, but it wasn’t until he passed away that I realized the extent of that love.
I think unfortunately that this is common – that we take for granted the people we treasure and don’t realize until they’re gone how great they are. Adam was truly AWESOME. I wish I would have made sure he knew that’s how I felt. Adam was larger than life. I hope each of us here today make his passing into an opportunity to change for the better. I can’t comprehend why tragedies such as this occur, but it is my prayer that through our mourning and suffering we allow positive things to happen. That might mean telling someone you love how much you really care about and love them. It might be that you need to forgive somebody for something you’ve been holding onto for years, or that you forgive yourself for something that you’ve not yet been able to. Or, maybe there is something in your own life that needs to be changed – examine yourself. Maybe you need to reach out to God and ask for his help and presence in your life. Let’s honor Adam by not letting this tragedy leave us unchanged in some profound way and meaningful way.
Suzanne Hoehl
September 27, 2007
Dearest Angie, Zachary and David:
There are no words to express the sadness and unfairness of losing your beloved husband and dad, Adam, at the pinnacle of his life. It’s so wrong and my heart breaks for all of you. If we could only turn back the clock and re-write this beautiful man’s life story so that he could be with you all forever. Your loss is unimaginable but I know he will live on in your hearts.
Adam was an extraordinary man. He was almost too good to be true. And yet he demonstrated time and again a goodness that few possess. He never failed to greet me with genuine warmth and love radiating from his whole being. Adam made me feel special – as if I was the only person in the room and what I had to say was the most important. This was his unique gift to all who came to be in his presence.
Angie, Zach and David, I know your grief is overwhelming but please know Adam’s legacy would be for you to live a happy life; to rejoice in his memory and his love.
You are forever in my thoughts and I send my love always,
Carol Brehmer
September 26, 2007
My dearest Angie, Zach and David.
There are no words to describe the incredible sense of loss and sadness that numbs my heart. For you, the entire family and countless others, Adam left a huge imprint on the sands of our heart. They will never be washed away!
As I reflect upon Adam's life, I marvel at the extraordinary gifts God blessed him with...gifts that Adam generously used to impart hope, encouragment and a non-judgemental spirit of loving acceptance. There hasn't been a person encountered over the last few weeks that hasn't commented on his unique ability to convey warmth, respect and acceptance. Whether family, friends, colleagues or acquaintances at the local bank or gas station, we've heard the same comments from them all..."We miss him so much!" "He really made a difference here." "We'll never be the same because of Adam." "Every time I talked with him, it was like I was the only person around." "His smile just engulfed us." The comments go on and on.
On a more personal note, I know that Adam loved you deeply. He made no bones about it, either. It was like he had found a secret treasure in you and he openly declared his love and affection. It was a treat to behold and it never ceased to warm my heart! My daughter and grandsons so deeply loved! No mother or grandmother could ask for more.
On another note, I know that Adam didn't expect recognition for anything he did or accomplished. Instead, he looked for reasons and opportunities to affirm others around him. It's almost like Adam wasn't yet convinced that he was so special! Isn't that just like him!
Adam wasn't perfect...he had first-hand experience with hard times and yet through it all, Adam's determination to make a better life for himself and You far outshines any slips along the way. His courage to tackle the hard stuff was one of his greatest and most admirable qualities.
Adam packed a lot into his short time with us. He lived life to the hilt with exuberance and passion. We would all do well to stop and consider...Is there a lesson to be learned from the unabashed generousity of soul and spirt with with Adam lived? I suspect so.
Know you are loved, dear Ones! Trust in God's desire and ability to heal the hurt! Hear His heatbeat...It beats for you as it does for us all!
Much love,
Mom...Grandma Carol..."Rol"
Eleanor Escalera
September 25, 2007
Angie,
The Lord has a variety of ways to comfort our grieving spirits. A friends embrace, a song, a poem, or maybe a special verse in the Bible. Angie you, the boys, and the rest of the bluestone family will heal but a scar will always be there. Remember the verse, "He comforts us in all troubles" 2 Corinthian 1:14. I will never forget Adam's special smile and hugs. Adam is a garudian angel now. Angie keep your head up and keep a smile on your face. You are such a kind hearted person. I know Adam would want you to keep that smile that he fell in love with.
Your Friend,
Eleanor
P.S. I am sorry I wasn't able to attend the memorial service. I plan on going to the tribute to Adams sky diving. I will be getting in toch with you soon.
To Zach and David
I am rally sorry about the lost of your father. I Know you miss talking to him, but remember your dad may not be there physically but his spirit will always be there for you to talk to. No one can ever take the place of your Dad but you have lots of people who love you here on earth. Your Mom loves you both so much and you also have grandparents, uncles, aunts, and many other family and friends to help you when you feel sad. Zach and David remember the happy times you spent with your dad. Your Dad is a super hero helping God help others like you both and many others on this earth.
Karen Koeppe
September 25, 2007
Dearest Adam and all the Bluestones,
To be vibrantly alive to your moment of death is to grow to the fullest possible extent in a lifetime.
The connection of love for all of you and Adam will never be broken. The golden chain of love is eternal and when there is genuine need the soul is called wherever it may be. Even if the soul has reincarnated, the soul will come.
There is mercy, balance and love in the universe.
With Our Love,
Edward, Karen, Lauren and Noelle Koeppe
Pacific Palisades 9/2007
Jean Bluestone Bluestone
September 24, 2007
My darling Adam, I love you and will miss you forever. You have made a huge impact on people who were fortunate enough to have met you in your lifetime.
I am most proud to have had you as my son and I am sure, the effect you had upon your boys Zachary and David will have a lasting impression, so that they will grow to be men you would be so proud of.
You went on to a highly successful career, proving you were able to enjoy life as well as compete with the best of them academically!
You will be so missed by your brother Simon and sister Stefanie, also your neices Samatha Gilbey, Audrey and Anna Bluestone and Oliver Waxstein.
Our lives will never be the same without you Adam. Love you always sweetheart.
Mum....Jean Bluestone.
Liz Bluestone
September 24, 2007
Suffering and Grieving
I have finally come to understand the difference between these two incredibly intense emotions. I have witnessed my husband, Rodney Bluestone, Adam’s father, and my beloved Angie, Zach, and David, suffer the loss of their husband and father. Suffering is what we experience when we feel shock and disbelief that we have lost Adam. We cry, express rage, and go to the depths of hell in our despair. We ask why over and over again with no answer. Is there something we could have done to prevent this tragedy? And the answer is always no which increases our helplessness even more. We try to make sense out of the senseless.
After awhile, I observed a change in Rodney’s emotional response to Adam’s passing. It occurred at my desperate need to help Rodney and myself cope with our unbelievable loss. As a psychologist, I tried everything I could think of to help us both in our suffering. Finally, several weeks later, did I remember the emotional key to help us both transfer from a acute suffering to chronic grief. As tears poured down his face one evening I suggested something that I do which has helped me greatly in coping with the many losses I have experienced in my life. I said “Rodney, talk out loud to Adam and not just in your thoughts. He is right next to you and he will hear every word you say. “
As a scientist and doctor, you can well imagine Rodney’s reaction but he amazed me and promised he would try. Much to his surprise, he found this helped him cope with his suffering and brought him great solace. Soon thereafter one beautiful morning while walking his dogs in the park he spent the entire time talking aloud to Adam. As he was ready to exit the park he heard the sound of many crows behaving in an agitated and loud manner. He looked up into the sky and saw a young hawk gliding and swooping down closely above his head. The hawk then settled on a chimney no further than a hundred feet from Rodney. They both stared at each other for several minutes. All of Rodney’s children knew how much their father have always admired that bird and was enchanted by their gracefulness.
Upon reflection, I have come to believe that Adam was making his ultimate sky dive on this earth to let his father know he was alright and at peace. After that, the hawk soared once again this time straight up into the sky towards the beacons of life where his spirit will rest for eternity in peace and serenity. Rodney came home exalted and uplifted. It was then that I knew the suffering was over and that the healing process of grief could begin.
I hope with every ounce of my being that Angie, Zach, and David can reach that point in their own time and way and also begin their process of healing. Then they will begin to see the many signs Adam will send them, bringing them comfort and acceptance in times of great sadness. Only then will they really begin to know the grieving and healing process has begun for them too. I truly believe we will all be reunited for eternity and will join Adam in the light. After having two daughters, Adam was truly the son I never had. I loved him so much and my grief will also live with me forever. Goodnight my sweet young man, I will see you soon.
kingsley jack
September 22, 2007
Dearest Angie,
So many private tears, for each other, and for ourselves, I love you dearly...so dearly.I think of the wonderful memories of our trip to Umbria.The hillside warriors make me smile!
When I am sad or fearful my mantra becomes the words of this quotation, I hope it brings you peace.
"When we walk to the edge of all the light we have and take the step into the darkness of the unknown, we must believe that one of two things will happen. There will be something solid for us to stand on - or we will be taught to fly." Kingsley
Rodney Bluestone
September 21, 2007
Following is the eulogy that my father, Rodney Bluestone, read so eloquently at Adam's memorial service:
I AM ADAM’S FATHER. HE WAS—AND IS—MY SON. PLEASE FORGIVE MY TEARS AND FALTERING VOICE.
YOU HAVE ALL KNOWN ADAM WELL FOR MANY YEARS, BUT I HAVE KNOWN HIM ALL HIS LIFE AND I WANT YOU TO GET TO KNOW HIM AS A LITTLE BOY BY SHARING SOME OF MY FONDEST MEMORIES WITH YOU.
AT THE AGE OF TWO, WHILE WE LIVED IN JAMAICA, HE COULD SWIM THE LENGTH OF THE UNIVERSITY POOL. UPON REFLECTION, I REALIZE NOW THAT WAS THE BEGINNING OF HIS LOVE OF VIGOROUS SPORTS. HIS TRICK THEN WAS TO SWALLOW SO MUCH AIR THAT HIS LITTLE BELLY SWELLED OUT TO PROVIDE HIM AN INTERNALIZED LIFE JACKET—SO THAT HE COULD NEVER SINK ANYWAY!
HE WAS ALWAYS A SWEET, CONTENT, AND LOVING LITTLE BOY, WHETHER WE WERE LIVING IN LONDON, KINGSTON, OR LOS ANGELES. HE LOVED TO FEED THE DUCKS AT REGENTS PARK. HE LOVED TO GO ON OUR LITTLE ADVENTURE HIKES WITH HIS BROTHER AND ME IN THE ENGLISH COUNTRYSIDE. AND I REMEMBER THINKING AS HE JUMPED OFF HIS FIRST BOULDER AT AGE THREE, WITH MY HEART POUNDING, “UH, OH—WE HAVE AN ADRENALINE JUNKIE HERE,” AND HE FULFILLED THAT PROPHECY!
BY JUNIOR HIGH, HE SPORTED A FULL-SIZE, BROWN AFRO-AMERICAN HAIRSTYLE WITH TIGHT CURLS TO MATCH HIS IMPISH SMILE. IN HIGH SCHOOL, HE WAS AN AVID ROCK CONCERT FANATIC—AND I WORRIED FOR HIS HEARING IN LATER LIFE. DURING AN INTERVIEW WITH HIS HIGH SCHOOL CAREER COUNSELOR, HE TOLD US ALL THAT HE JUST WANTED TO BECOME A ROCK GUITAR MUSICIAN. HE WOULD PRACTICE IN HIS ROOM FOR HOURS—WITH NO GUITAR! BUT JUST LOOK AT HIS HOME MUSIC ROOM NOW, AND REALIZE HE ATTAINED HIS BOYISH GOALS. HE FORMED THE FABULOUS “BAKERSFIELD BLUESTONE BOYS ROCK BAND.”
HE AND HIS BROTHER WERE SENT OFF TO THE U.C.L.A. SAILING PROGRAM AT MARINA DEL REY, AND HE LOVED THAT EXPERIENCE. HE KEPT HIS SAILING SKILLS ALL OF HIS LIFE—ONE OF HIS SLOWER SPORTS!
I USED TO PUT HIM AND SIMON ON THE BLIZZARD SKI CLUB BUS AT THE SANTA MONICA SEARS PARKING LOT AT 5:00 A.M. ON WET WINTER SATURDAYS. I’D COLLECT THEM EXHAUSTED AND SOAKING AFTER EIGHT HOURS OF SKIING AT 8:30 P.M. THAT NIGHT. HE LOVED THAT, TOO, AND BECAME AN ACCOMPLISHED SKIER, EVEN SPENDING A SUMMER AT A DOWNHILL GLACIER SKI RACING CENTER IN MONTANA.
DURING THOSE DAYS IN HIGH SCHOOL, ADAM STRUGGLED TO FIND HIS IDENTITY. I BELIEVE THAT WAS THE HARDEST PART OF ADAM’S LIFE. BUT HE STILL MANAGED TO PERSEVERE AND GRADUATE FROM HIGH SCHOOL, BUT WITH A STRONG SENSE OF UNCERTAINTY FOR HIS FUTURE.
AS ADAM CONTINUED HIS QUEST TO FIND HIMSELF AFTER HIGH SCHOOL GRADUATION, HE WENT OFF TO CLUB MED AT CANCUN AND BECAME THE WINDSURFING INSTRUCTOR. IT WAS THERE THAT HIS LIFE CHANGED. HE GAINED A SENSE OF ACCOM¬PLISHMENT AND PRIDE. HE REALIZED THAT HE WAS A BORN TEACHER. NOT A WEEK WENT BY IN MY OFFICE WITHOUT A PROUD PATIENT SHOWING ME A PHOTO OF A SUNTANNED, SMILING, MUSCULAR ADAM (RESPLENDENT IN HIS BLACK SPEEDO) WITH HIS ARM AROUND THEIR HOT, TEEN-AGE DAUGHTER, RECEIVING SPECIAL INSTRUCTION FROM MY BOY. ADAM’S OTHER ARM WOULD BE DISPLAYING HIS CLASSIC “THUMBS-UP” MODE.
ONCE ADAM REALIZED THAT HIS VOCATION WAS AS A TEACHER, HE LEFT THE CARIBBEAN PARADISE FOR THE LECTURE HALLS OF COLLEGE IN AND AROUND LOS ANGELES. HE LIVED FRUGALLY, STUDIED HARD, AND TRAVELED AROUND ON A BEAT-UP, OLD, MOTOR BIKE AND FOLLOWED HIS JOURNEY OF SELF-DISCOVERY. HE CHOSE TO FINISH HIS STUDIES IN BAKERSFIELD WITH ITS LOWER COST OF LIVING AND MORE AFFORDABLE TUITION FEES; HOWEVER, I FAILED TO SEE ANY DROP-OFF IN COLLEGE COSTS. ONLY MUCH LATER DID I REALIZE THAT I WAS CONSTANTLY FUNDING A CONTINUING CLASS OF SKYDIVING 101.
HIS PURSUITS, BOTH ON THE GROUND AND IN THE SKY, LED HIM TO THE ANGEL OF HIS LIFE—ANGIE. SHE WAS THE GREATEST ACCOMPLISHMENT AND DISCOVERY HE EVER MADE. JUST LOOK AT THEIR WEDDING PHOTO TAKEN IN OUR SANTA MONICA HOUSE—ADAM’S “THUMBS-UP” SIGN SAYS IT ALL—“LOOK WHAT I’VE FOUND!”
THE LOVE BETWEEN ADAM AND ANGIE HAS IMPACTED OUR ENTIRE FAMILY. MY DAUGHTERS, COURTNEY AND KATE, SEE THEM AS A MODEL OF WHAT TRUE LOVE REALLY IS; AND THEY FERVENTLY HOPE THAT ONE DAY THEY WILL BE AS LUCKY AS ANGIE AND FIND A MAN LIKE ADAM. THE LOVE AND AFFECTION ADAM SHOWERED ON HIS SISTERS HAS TRULY SHAPED THEIR WOMANHOOD. COURTNEY AND KATE REPRESENT A LIVING EXAMPLE OF WHAT ADAM’S UNCONDITIONAL, BROTHERLY LOVE CAN DO. HIS LOVE FOR THEM WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN AND WILL NURTURE THEIR LIVES FOREVER.
WITH MY OWN CEREBRAL WAY OF WALKING THROUGH LIFE, MY WIFE, ELIZABETH, HELPED ME FOSTER AN INSEPARABLE AND LOVING BOND BETWEEN ADAM AND ME. AND EVEN IN DEATH, THAT BOND CAN NEVER BE BROKEN. ELIZABETH ASKED ME TO RELAY HER FAVORITE MEMORY OF ADAM—WHERE NOT A WEEK WOULD GO BY THAT HE FAILED TO CALL HER TO SAY HOW MUCH HE LOVED HER AND HIS FAMILY. EVEN IF SHE WASN’T HOME, THERE WAS ALWAYS THAT MESSAGE LEFT FOR HER. ELIZABETH HAS SEEN ZACHARY IN THESE DARK DAYS CARRY ON THAT TRADITION OF SAYING, “I LOVE YOU,” TO HIS FAMILY MEMBERS AT LEAST FIVE TIMES PER DAY—JUST LIKE HIS DAD. AND SHE REMARKED TO ZACHARY THAT THIS LEGACY WILL BE CARRIED ON BY ADAM’S FIRST-BORN, HENCEFORTH. SHE WANTS TO SHOUT OUT, “WELL DONE, ADAM!” AND I WANT TO ADD—YOU WERE PUT ON THIS EARTH, ADAM, TO TEACH US HOW TO LOVE. OUR LESSON IS TO LEARN TO FOLLOW YOUR EXAMPLE ON A DAILY BASIS.
THEREFORE, WHAT WE ARE CELEBRATING TODAY IS A PRODUCT OF ALL I EVER WISHED FOR MY SON—A MAN WITH A LOVE OF FAMILY, A MAN WITH A VOCATION. AND THAT VOCATION WAS DEDICATED TO HELPING REBUILD AND RESTORE CONFIDENCE TO FAMILIES SHATTERED BY THE DEVASTATING EFFECTS OF HAVING AN AUTISTIC CHILD. HE RESTORED CALM AND PROFESSIONALISM TO CLASSROOMS STRUGGLING TO ACCOMMODATE THE CONTINUALLY DISRUPTIVE BEHAVIOR OF DISTURBED CHILDREN. HE SUCCEEDED BRILLIANTLY!
MY SON BECAME A BEACON FOR HUMANITY, AND THAT LEGACY WILL ALWAYS LEAVE ME PROUD AND GRATEFUL FOR THE PRIVILEGE AND HONOR TO HAVE HAD HIM IN MY LIFE—ALTHOUGH I WILL ALWAYS WONDER WHATEVER HAPPENED TO MY CLASSIC ROLLS ROYCE HUBCAPS THAT SUDDENLY WENT MISSING FROM MY GARAGE ONE NIGHT!
I WILL LOVE YOU FOREVER, ADAM. REST WELL AND IN PEACE, MY SWEET BOYCHICK
Darin Wooldridge
September 20, 2007
I was looking for Adams new web page and email address and found this page.
I couldn’t believe what I was reading.
I have been crying for the last hour. The more I read, the more I cry.
I know this is wrong to say, but what was God thinking.
Adam was the best! I cant think of a better person. He was truly gifted!
We met about 10 years ago at the drop zone while my wife and I were learning to skydive.
I did my first skydive with Adam. A tandem with a reserve ride.
I remember it like it was yesterday.
After the reserve opened he said " YAAAHoooo! That was awesome. You should have to pay twice for that ride."
He was so kind, fun, and the best teacher.
My wife and I have twin girls, April and Brooke.
In 2002 Brooke was diagnosed with autism.
Little did I know our skydiving teacher would be the greatest teacher of our life.
Adam drove from Bakersfield to L.A. several times for Brooke's IEP meetings and to give us advise and support. I tried to pay him every time and he would not take a dime.
Adam gave us hope and guidance when we did not know what to do.
Brooke has shown so much progress using Adam's methods.
She is now in junior high, getting good grades. Thank you ADAM!
My heart goes out to the Bluestone family. I cant imagine the pain you are feeling.
Your husband and father was a true hero!!!
I am so sorry for your loss.
Darin & Kyla Wooldridge
B O
September 20, 2007
Dearest Family. I was at Fedx Kinko's over Labor Day when I spied Adam working on his folders
for his staff. He had the folders spread out all over the floor trying to get them ready for the upcoming workshops that he was to present at for the month of Sept. He mentioned to me that he was very busy and had lots to do for the school year. I could see that he was very dedicated to his profession and was willing to be away from his family on this holiday. All the while he expressed great care about the children, their families and his desire to help educate all who work
with the special needs students to further give them a better quality of life. What a great man, who knows the heart of a child.
Mary Tigner
September 20, 2007
Dearest Angie, Zach & David
We still are having a hard time accepting this. Adam will always be the image of vitality and a loving, caring spirit. I can't express how sorry we are. Adam was always the parent I could count on to help with class parties, jog-a-thon etc. I wouldn't blame him if he cringed every time I called, knowing I needed help on some school event. But, he always greeted me with a warm smile and an answer of...of course I'll help you! I'll never forget at the jog-a-thon set up, when Adam came early to help. I had 300+ "sea creatures" attached to fishing line which all became entangled with each other. I was ready to throw them all away, when Adam said "I skydive, I'll take care of it." Which Adam did to my amazement in a matter of minutes. This is just one of many wonderful, warm memories that we will cherish and hold dear.
With love and deepest sympathy.
Mary, Brett, Nick & Alex Tigner
Sheila Coop
September 20, 2007
Dear Adam,
Your life has ended, but your light can never be extinguised. It continues to shine upon all of us even in the darkest nights and illuminates our way.
May God bless you as you have blessed us with love, grace, good humor and optimism. Amen.
Teri Ede
September 19, 2007
Dear All,
I worked closely with Adam over the last two years as he assisted our district in supporting children's needs. I will be forever grateful for his indefatigable nature and generosity in sharing his craft.
Zach and David,
I want you to know how proud your father was of you. Everyday that we worked together he was eager to share some accomplishment or adventure that included you two. Unfortunately, I too lost a parent at a very young age and I spent most of my childhood and much of my adulthood trying to come to some acceptance and understanding of it. Today, I would like to give to both of you some of what I learned and wished another had shared with me. First, cry. Cry today and tomorrow. Cry months and years down the line as you begin to develop into young men and fathers yourselves. It is a strength not a weakness to embrace and express your emotions. Second, get all the stories you can! As you can see by this book and the blog your father had a lot of family and friends and each one of them has a wonderful story to tell you about your father, so write it down. Or better yet, ask your mother, grandfather, uncle, etc., to sit with you and record them. Record them telling you their stories in their own words and voices so you can listen whenever your heart desires. Remember, it is within these stories that your father lives on. Third, when you're ready, take one awesome characteristic that your father possessed and embrace it for yourself. For it is also within you two that your father's spirit lives on.
"Do not wait for leaders. Do it alone, person to person."
Mother Theresa
Tonia Cody
September 19, 2007
I was fortunate to meet Adam and Angie 17 years ago as they were beginning their journey together...the two of them both working at SEED/NAPD and I, at KRC. My husband Mike and I were invited to his father's home down south for a party years ago and we felt the warmth of this wonderful couple and their family. Throughout the years we had professional contact and It never ceased to amaze me how gracious and kind they both were. Angie, I am truely saddened by his sudden passing....everyone's loss of a young, vibrant, and amazing man. You are loved and know that we are all here for you.....lean if you need to.....Mike and I pray that you and the boys find peace and reminders of Adam when the wind blows, the sun shines, the birds soar, and the rain falls....
Sara Holmes
September 19, 2007
Well, its been a hard road that we have all faced the last weeks. I know for me, it was really hard to say goodbye at the funeral. I see Zach and all the family too. I feel for them and wish we all could do something to help, but all I can say is it gets better. Adam was a great guy and I miss him so much. Our family had not had a lot of time together these past year or two, and I wish we had. For me, keeping busy and remembering Adam for who he was is how I will cherish the memories of Adam. I just wish he didn't have to go so soon. Keep your head up high Zach, your dad will be there looking down on you boys and your mom.
Sara Holmes
Tony Kelemen
September 19, 2007
My deepest sympathies and prayers go out to the entire Bluestone family.
Unfortunately, I had not kept in contact with Adam since high school, but I have many great memories of the fun times we had growing up in Santa Monica, going on ski trips to Mammoth, Malibu jumping rocks, ect. Adam was an athelete. At age 15, he could shred as well as any ski instructor at Mammoth.
It is wonderful to know that Adam has a family, and that his boys adore him. Having boys of my own, I know what a blessing it has been for Adam.
I have a testimony that God lives, and that Adam is in a good place.
Kelly Moore
September 19, 2007
Dear Angie... my heartfelt thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Adam was such a great influence and touched everyone he met. I feel blessed to have known him and I pray that you, Zachary, David, and your family find peace and comfort. Love, Kelly
rob jamplis
September 19, 2007
Adam was one of those people who truly had a gift for touching people's hearts. From the smallest child to the eldest adult, Adam's kindness never went unfelt. It truly is an unjust pain that we have suffered in losing him. But Adam's light will continue to shine through you Angie and your two boys. It is evident already that they also possess that light that made Adam so special. I will miss Adam deeply as we all will, but my memories of his shining smile will never dim.
I love you Adam
zach bluestone
September 19, 2007
adam was my dad and i miss him so much! I can beileve that i can call my dad on the phone or talk. my dad was a great man and i will never forget him.
Simon Bluestone
September 18, 2007
Since losing Adam in such an unjust and untimely manner, I've been reflecting on what we are put here on earth to do. As a parent myself, I've also been contemplating my value system and considering what I should impart upon my children, Anna and Audrey, as they grow up.
I’ve concluded that we define ourselves by what we do. If we can make a positive impact in the world, then we have done well and should feel good about our lives. Adam has accomplished a myriad of wonderful things, made a huge difference in the lives of the people whom he touched, and lived his life to the full. He has left an indelible, positive impact on all those who had the privilege of meeting him. He has helped me define my value system, which I will teach to my children, my nephews and niece as part of his tremendous legacy. In this sense, the good that Adam has contributed to the world will continue on in his image.
Adam had an astounding zest for life and navigated seamlessly from adrenaline junkie to family man to champion of those less fortunate. He was an incredibly loving human being: a devoted father, son, husband and brother, amongst his other tremendous accomplishments.
I am privileged to have Adam as my brother. While our lives were divergent for many years as we each pursued our individual goals and developed our identities, we’ve come back together to share a wonderful relationship. However, I feel robbed of the opportunity to have grown together more, to have shared more adventures and to have raised our families together. I am saddened to know that we could have and should have been closer – and if we had more time, our relationship would have blossomed into an ever closer bond. Nonetheless, Adam gave me a final gift of hanging on and spending his last few living hours in my arms - allowing me to tell him how much I loved him and how proud I am of all that he has accomplished - before passing peacefully, yet tragically, on the evening of 6 September.
There is no diminishing the pain and anguish that we each feel today. However, Adam has taught me much that will live on as his legacy. We never know how much precious time we have on this earth and perhaps one of the most important lessons Adam has taught me, is to express our love while we have the blessed gift of life to live. I hope that everyone here continues to cherish Adam for who and what he was, for the good that he has done, for the positive impact he has made in the world and that we each carry his fond, loving memory forward throughout time.
Michael Banducci
September 18, 2007
Occasionally in ones life you get the opportunity to meet a special person. Adam was one of those people. His love for his family, truly genuine positive attitude, and sincere caring compassion where some of his many qualities one should admire and wish to emulate. His life was an-example for all of us to follow. He will be dearly missed. My heart and sympathy go out to Angie, Zachary, David, and the rest of his family. Their time with him, as well as ours, was unfairly cut short. I will always think of him; especially the next time I’m standing on top of a mountain, peering down the ski slope below. I know his spirit will be there with me---taking one more run.
Anna McMurtrey
September 18, 2007
Our children will always have great memories of their "Uncle Adam"! They will never forget the love and compassion they were greeted with each time their paths crossed. So many memories, so much sadness in his passing. It truly seems so surreal.
Angie, Zach & David, we love you, hurt for you, and are here for you no matter day or night. Let's keep his memory alive and remember all of our good times.
All our love, Jim, Anna, Mason, Hayden, Corbin, Logan & Addisyn
Wilbur- Ellis Co.
September 18, 2007
Thoughts & prayers are with the family. Your friends & coleagues from Wilbur-Ellis Co.
Melissa Benavente, RN
September 18, 2007
I learned how special Adam was through those that knew him best. I may have only known Adam, his family, and friends for a brief moment in time, but I will always remember how special he and those who surrounded him in his time of need are. My prayers are with the Bluestone family and friends.
Lucia Wolfe
September 17, 2007
Dear Angie, It took today for me to build the courage up to confirm what I had heard in church yesterday morning. When I heard Adam's name in prayers being offered before the Eucharist, I didn't want to believe that it was Adam Bluestone whom I had the great opportunity to work with & learn from through the Bakersfield City School District some years ago. He was so gracious & taught me so many things about the special children we worked with and they were things that I was able to use with my own daughter who has Asperger's Syndrome. I remember asking him some questions about it when she was first diagnosed and he was so helpful in the information and assistance. I can't and won't pretend to imagine your pain as you move through this difficult time but just know that he was a good man & loved by so many people. God holds him now & you must draw strength from this. I met you quite briefly one summer school session out at Ceasar Chavez School some years ago so I know you are a kind & compassionate woman who needs our prayers now. Please accept my sincere condolences.
Tate Williamson
September 17, 2007
Adam, I will miss our experiences that we had together. You are the only person I knew who kept their car cleaner than I did. We often discussed whether or not your Mustang could beat my Corvette in a race...given that the horsepower was comparable. I will miss seeing you on Monday and Friday night. I have lost a lot of dear friends in the fellowship, and it never gets any easier. You passed way too early for your age, but god must have a plan for you greater than our imaginations could ever dream. You will be greatly missed, and even though we only knew each other for a year, you made an impact on me that can’t be expressed in words. Thank you for showing me a better way to live, and I’ll see ya when I get up there buddy. God bless the family of Adam, I can’t imagine what you’re going through. I didn’t get to meet you, but I hold a special place in my heart for you during your grievance.
David Sonderegger
September 17, 2007
Adam and Family,
I would like to express my sincere condolences for your tragic loss. I grew up 4 houses down from Adam and we spent many of our early days together. Adam always loved adventure and in particular Skiing Mammoth."Hang Mans Braa it's such the kind" Adam you will be greatly missed.
Judy Searle
September 17, 2007
Dear Angie
We cant imagine the pain you and the boys are going through. I am sorry we never came over to see and meet you all, I only remember him in my youth, we love him and will miss him very much and can not believe this has happened. My family's thoughts are with you all.
Love Morris, Judy, David and Janine (Adam's Uncle and cousins in England) xxxx
Brandon Neal
September 17, 2007
Farwell Brother.
The Love, Friendship and Family we had will not be surpassed.
You were my Brother and Family. This will not change and we will continue with what you would have wanted. Every ski trip, skateboard park and walks to the park will be with you. Enjoy each and every one just as we did. I’ll be there for them just like they knew. They are what you were and none of us would ever prevent them from following in your footsteps. Supporting the love for family and the legacy you would have wanted your boy’s to be is my goal.
Three Words, Eight Letters and One Meaning!
I Love you,
Brother, “Brandon”.
Brandon
September 16, 2007
Farwell Brother.
The Love, Friendship and Family we had will not be surpassed.
You were my Brother and Family. This will not change and we will continue with what you would have wanted. Every ski trip, skateboard park and walks to the park will be with you. Enjoy each and every one just as you and I did. I’ll be there for them just like they knew. They are what you were and none of us would ever prevent them from following in your footsteps. Supporting the love for family and the legacy you would have wanted your boy’s to be is my goal.
Three Words, Eight Letters and One Meaning!
I Love You, Brother.
John, Addy, Arianna and Johnny Rodriguez
September 16, 2007
Angie,Zack,and David know that we love you and we are here for you when you need us. We too will miss your dad he touched our lives with his wonderful smile and beautiful spirit.
Susan Pishinsky
September 15, 2007
I had the privilege of working with Adam several years ago at Rafer Johnson School. Oh, how he loved his students...and they LOVED him! It touched my heart every time I saw them interact. The positive energy he brought to that campus was amazing. Adam was simply an exceptional human being...a ray of sunshine. So, Angie, to you and your precious boys (and Adam's entire family), may his light (and love) always shine upon you and guide you. I wish you strength and peace always. I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
SHIRLEY COUCH
September 15, 2007
I'M THE MOTHER OF A VERY GOOD FRIEND OF YOUR FAMILY AND I KNOW HOW MUCH MY SON BRANDON LOVED ADAM AND YOU AND THE BOY'S. I THINK OF THE TIME OUR SON HAD HIS ACCIDENT AND WHO WAS THE ONE THAT WENT AND PICKED HIM UP AND TOOK HIM TO YOUR HOME TILL HE COULD MAKE IT ON HIS OWN. HIS DAD AND I KNEW THAT HE HAD A SPECIAL BOND AND THERE WAS SOMETHING SPECIAL IN THERE FRIENDSHIP, ALMOST A BROTHERLY BOND. WE ARE SADDENED THAT ADAM WAS CALLED HOME TO EARLY. HE LOVED THE SKY AND THE FEELING OF FLYING, SO WE ALL KNOW THATS WHAT HE'S DOING KNOW AND ALWAYS. OUR HEARTS ALSO GO OUT TO OUR SON'S AND HIS LOSS OF A GOOD FRIEND.
BRANDON'S MOM
Patti Warren
September 15, 2007
Angie,
I don't know where to start, I hurt for you and the boys. They say it gets better. but I am not going to try and make you feel it will happen today, or tommorow. It could be years from now. But how ever long it takes. I and many others out there are here for you. You were given a great gift from God and he gave you Adam. Your Adam was not just loved in his own community but from hundreds of miles away. People will talk and remember Adam not just today or tommorow but years and years to come. There will be a happy spot in everyons heart when they think of Adam, and a smile will apear on there faces. Thank you Adam for touching our hearts. What a wonderful man.
Patti Warren (NAPD)
Kris Gutierrez
September 15, 2007
We little knew that morning
that God was going to call your name.
In life we loved you dearly, in death we do the same.
It broke our hearts to lose you,
you did not go alone;
For part of us went with you
The day God called you home.
You left us peaceful memories,
your love is still our guide,
and though we can not see you,
you are always at our side.
We will miss you Adam.
From myself and all the families of kids with ASD that you touched.
Marsha Schuh
September 15, 2007
I knew it would take an exceptional man to be worthy of my niece Angie’s love. She deserved nothing less than one perfectly suited to her sweet and gentle spirit. When I first met Adam, I wondered if he was “for real.” It did not take long for me to realize that yes; he was completely without guile and the gentlest, most loving man I have ever met--truly.
We and all who knew Adam were blessed to have been touched by his compassion and kindness. He taught not only his own boys and the children he worked with, but also the rest of us, his family and many friends (for he had no acquaintances, only friends), how to live life to its fullest—in giving fully of himself to others.
It was not simply Adam’s exuberance for life nor his expertise in teaching that inspired me as they did, but above all his genuine interest and love for everyone he met, both great and small. He was a man at home in the world, and I know he is now at home with the LORD. We will miss him until the day we see him once again.
I would have lost heart, unless I had believed
That I would see the goodness of the LORD
In the land of the living.
Wait on the LORD;
Be of good courage,
And He shall strengthen your heart;
Wait, I say, on the LORD!
--Psalm 27:13-14
Luanne Aakhus
September 15, 2007
Angie,
My prayers and thoughts are with your and your sons. You were the heart of Adam's life.
Adam has touched so many people with his love and enthusiasm in every thing he did. He was a good mentor for me at Chavez. His love for his work and dedication for the students was infectious. He is one of the reasons I am now working on a Master's in Special Education.
All of us who had the unique opportunity to work with Adam will always have him in our hearts and minds when we walk into a classroom.
John Cohrs
September 15, 2007
Adam helped me & my wife, Kelley, to communicate with our son, Jack, who has autism. Adam did this with great expertise, and completely with love. I remember Kelley telling me about the first time Jack met Adam at Angie's classroom. Normally, Jack would not engage quickly with other people, but he could not help but engage with a personality like Adam's.
I thought that Adam's affection for my son was unique. I have found, through reading this guest book and attending the memorial service, that Adam magnificently gave each person he came in contact a dose of his love.
I will be eternally grateful for Adam: for his desire to help my son; his singular encouragement that our son's diagnosis of autism was not to be a burden; that in the very limited time I spent with him he impacted me as a man.
I met Adam one day when he came to our home to work with Jack. He noticed my guitar has a broken string. The next day, he was at my door, handing me a bag of guitar strings, and as he walked away, he said, "take care my friend". To Adam I say, "Take care, my friend".
Anonymous
September 15, 2007
Angie, Zack and David,
What an unusually caring friend your husband/dad was. I met you at Village Grill on at least one occasion and I remember distinctly Adam beaming as he introduced all of you to me. We had talked on occasion about skydiving and he would assure me that he would help me. I think that's what Adam has left us. Love and take care of one another. Also, Carpe Diem
Boys, I just want you to know that I lost my father when I was 10. Because of that I wanted to say a little something to let you know that I know, you are going to be okay. You will miss him, ALWAYS, but please go forward in your life knowing how very much your father loved you.
Cherilyn DenHerder
September 14, 2007
To the Bluestone family:
My name is Cherilyn DenHerder I am now 21 years old and I remember both Mr. & Mrs. Bluestone from when I was in elementary school at Cesar E Chavez school! I was a student there and for my recesses you both let me help in your class! I still to this day remember how both of you impacted my life. I want you all to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Your entire family is wonderful! I am very sadden to hear this news.
Cherilyn DenHerder
Joanne Boras
September 14, 2007
Dear Angie & boys, so sorry for your loss, Adam seems to have been very well loved by all that knew him, unfortunatly for me I only ever knew him as a child and now too late, I wish we'd all taken the time to keep intouch!
I was 9 when I last saw Adam, and can only imagine the wonderful good he has done since then, I just wish I had been lucky enough to have known the man! Joanne Borsa (cousin of Adam)
Michele (Carolyn's daughter)
September 14, 2007
To the Bluestone Family, I am sorry for the premature loss of your loved one. I knew Adam many years ago, in fact about 15 years ago Adam took my husband on his first and only tandem skydive. I send you my deepest condolences.
Jean, knowing you through your working with my mother, I can not even imagine the sorrow you must be feeling. I hope that you are able to find a peace, knowing that one day you will again be with your little boy. Know that you have many prayers with you everyday, to help you through this hard time.
Valerie Walker, RN
September 14, 2007
Angie and Boys,Adam was always at my doorstep when I needed him the most, it seemed. My doorstep is at the Blood Bank. Somehow he always knew when we needed him and there he would be with his wonderful smile and kind words. Having him in our chair for a hour each time he donated, we were able to see how much each of you meant to him. I know he is saddened to leave you, Angie, with all the struggles of parenthood and that he will miss all the joys that those wonderful boys will bring. But always remember, he is with you. Watching. Coaching. Supporting. Loving. I will miss his smiling face. Bless you.
Kay Robert
September 14, 2007
Angie - the Memorial Service today was so beautiful. It captured Adam's lust for life and his caring spirit.
Marni Bavuso
September 14, 2007
I knew Adam for only a short time but he definitely touched my life. He was a man with a kind soul. You could tell that just by seeing him. He was always the first with a warm smile on his face and a hello. My heart goes out to his wife, children and other family members. Take comfort in knowing Adam truely did touch everyone he met. God bless
Steve Simpson
September 14, 2007
While I never had the opportunity to meet Adam, my good friend and coworker told me the unfortunate news of his passing and further explained what a wonderful person he was. I would like to say that Adam's family will be in my family's thoughts and prayers for their loss and we feel for you deeply. Obviouly, Adam Bluestone did what every person in the world should aim to be: A loving, caring individual that leaves a mark of greatness and meaning behind them when they are gone. Peace be with you all.
Monica Simonson
September 14, 2007
I'm still shocked and saddened to hear the tragic news of Adam's passing. I met him during his service on the Kern Regional Center Board of Directors and was immediately impressed by his obvious passion for teaching. I remember watching his eyes light up when he talked about his wife and boys, and one could only see how proud he was of his family too. I haven't had the opportunity to meet you Angie, Zachary or David but I wanted to send my deepest condolences and hope you don't feel alone in your grief. It's apparent by all the entries, that Adam made a positive difference in many people's lives. I hope the messages and memories give you strength.
Take extra good care of each other.....
David Brown
September 14, 2007
Dear Bluestone Family ,
Adam has been our "Autism" consultant in Antelope Valley Selpa amd Palmdale School District the past few years. We have had absolute trust and confidence in our working together. Adam was profrssional ,passionate and so enthusiastic in his work. He will be dearly missed by our staff , students and parents. I want you to know that I know that "Families are forever" in Heavenly Father's Plan and relationships go on after our sojourn here. May God bless you all with assurance and comfort during this difficult time. Thank You for sharing Adam's talents and wisdom with us.
David Brown , Assistant Superintendent
Palmdale School District
Christie Ludlow
September 14, 2007
To the Family of Adam Bluestone...
My heart aches for your loss. I feel truly blessed to have had the opportunity to have known Adam. Adam's smile, friendliness and comapassion standout as most memorable qualities. My prayer is that the God of Heaven would comfort your hearts and that you would experience the peace that passes all understanding through Christ Jesus. My continued thoughts and prayers are with you through the coming days...that God would continue to wrap His loving arms around your family and reassure you that He is with you and that He will never leave you nor forsake you.
With deepest sympathy and respect...
Lindsay Jones
September 14, 2007
I had the pleasure of knowing Adam over the last year. There are quite a few people in Bakersfield who's heart he touched deeply in our fellowship. I will cherish every moment of laughter that he brought to me and remeber that everytime I saw him he always was the first to ask "How has your week gone". From my experience he put others first and the will always be remembered. We miss and love you Adam. "It works if you work it".
Beth Kuney
September 14, 2007
Angie - Both Scott and I are devestated for you and your boys. Adam was the picture of vitality, energy and life in addition to being one of the friendliest and most engaging persons I had met. We will be praying for you, Zacharay and David in the days, weeks, months and years to come. I know today will be difficult, but I will be praying for moments of laughter and sweet memories. We are so sorry. Beth and Scott Kuney
Stefanie Bluestone
September 14, 2007
We want you and the boys to know that you & your husband are in our prayers. One more angel for you and the boys in Heaven.
Isaac & Stef
Vanessa Castro
September 14, 2007
Zac, & David,
There will never be enough words or the right words to truly express how sorry I am for your loss. Your dad was an amazingly wonderful person. He really was an ANGEL on earth. He will always be on our mind and forever in our hearts.
Miss Vanessa Castro
Troy Davis
September 14, 2007
Angie, Sheree and I will always remember how proud Adam was bouncing about the drop zone with his newly adopted son and how very proud we were of his accomplishments. Then a beautiful second son made him glow with endless pride. What a great feeling he made us feel. We were so fortunate to have known him. To know his passion for life was inspiring. Sheree was pursuing her Masters Degree at about the same time as Adam and the many conversations we shared will always be remembered and are imbedded in our memories. There is so much to share. I hope to share Adam's passion with as many people as I am able. We feel so blessed to have known Adam and I will always remember what an amazing individual we had in this world and the feeling he made us feel when we were with him. We are certainly better people because of Adam. He taught us to Skydive but that was just a flicker of the light that Adam's inspiration shined upon our path in life.
Tedd Gerstenfeld
September 13, 2007
Sitting at a table with Gene Rink and Philip Stumpus as we reflect on our times we shared together as kids growing up in Santa Monica...... many great memories. Your enthusiasm for life was and still is so inspriing. Wishing your family strength during this time of your departure from our lives........ I will see you on the other side.
Tedd Gerstenfeld
Gene Rink
September 13, 2007
To Adam and family,I had the good fortune to grow up with Adam in Santa Monica Ca. We went to middle and high school together and he was like a brother to me. Adam had a special ability to bring out the best in everyone around him.His friends from Santa Monica will miss him forever..... Gene
Joe Jennings
September 13, 2007
Angie and Family:
I feel a lot like the others who signed this book and can hardly express my condolences. I jumped with Adam at Taft and filmed a few projects with him. I remember more than anything, his positive and bright nature, how fun he was to be around, and I imagine he was wonderful with the kids he taught too. All the very best and warm wishes.
Barbara Holmes
September 13, 2007
Adam was a wonderful man who always had a bright smile. He always had encouraging words and seen the good in everything and everyone. My family will truly miss him and our hearts go out to Angie and the boys. God took Adam way too soon, and he will be missed by all. At his difficult time, I depend on my memories of him and know others share great memories also. May these memories stay alive as we celebrate the life of a true legend.
JoAnn VanPelt-Sasso
September 13, 2007
Angie, I am truly sorry for your loss, Adam was my tandem master at Sky Dive Taft, and one of my former husband's Norm's best buddies.He was also a co-teacher mentor for me back in 1997. I taught Sp. Ed., My little Amanda looked up to him as he had such a god given talent with children. Adam loved you and the boys, you were his rock and safe place to fall. I am deeply saddened, please cherish all the good, rich memories and hang on to those to get you through.. God Bless you and your family now and everyday.
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