BARBARA PUTNAM Obituary

PUTNAM, Barbara A. (Spaulding) Of Weymouth, 83, entered into eternal life on Saturday, February 9, 2013, after a brief illness. Barbara was born in Cambridge, MA on June 26, 1929, to the late Anne (McAndrews) and Harold Spaulding; sister of the late Elizabeth Smemo and Leonard Spaulding. Loving wife of 41 years to the late Deacon Donald G. Putnam, devoted mother of eight children: Barbara Dolan (predeceased) and her husband Edward of Mashpee, MA; Donald Putnam, Jr., and his wife Cathy of Grand Rapids, OH; Mary Putnam-Lydon and her husband William of Riverside, CA; Brian Putnam and his wife Miriam of Ft. Lauderdale, FL; Christine Putnam Anderson and her husband Jon of Henniker, NH; Michael Putnam and his wife Cleir of Venice, FL; Stephen Chevalier Putnam and his wife Caren, of Weymouth, MA; and Gregory Putnam and his wife Allison of Stoneham, MA; dear aunt to Nancy Lemon of AZ, and seven Spaulding nephews of MA; loving grandmother of 28, and proud great-grandmother of 13. Barbara dedicated her life to serving others. She was a very active member of the Catholic Churches in the area and served in many capacities, including deacon's wife, Eucharistic minister, lector, and prayer group leader. In earlier years, along with her husband, Don, she also served as a leader of pre-Cana classes, Cursillo groups, and the Christian Family Movement. Over the years, Barbara and Donald did missionary work in North Carolina, Illinois, and in Haiti, Peru, and Guatemala. Throughout the years she was a generous donor to the poor worldwide. In the 1970s, Barbara and friends started the Weymouth Food Coop. Then in the 1980s, in order to meet the growing needs of the hungry in Weymouth, Barbara co-founded the Weymouth Food Pantry, an organization that she cared deeply for. Another life-long passion was her support of and work for the Right to Life movement and the Friends of the Unborn. She often looked forward to traveling to Washington, D.C. each January to participate in the Right to Life March. Late in life, Barbara proudly earned a Manning certificate of Gerontology from UMASS Boston. Barbara loved the outdoors: she enjoyed sitting in the sunshine, working in her garden, going to Nantasket Beach, and walking at Webb Park. In earlier years she was an avid camper with family and friends, particularly enjoying the trips she would take to Nickerson State Park in Brewster. Barbara was a woman of tremendous faith, action, and love for her Lord. She helped those who needed it, friends and strangers alike. She loved to visit with her family all over the country and was a good and caring friend to many. She had a wonderful sense of humor and was a thoughtful listener. She was deeply loved and will be dearly missed. Visiting hours will be held at the C.C. Shepherd Funeral Home, 134 Pleasant St., (Columbian Sq.) SO. WEYMOUTH, on Sunday, February 17th from 2-4 PM and 7-9 PM. Her funeral Mass will be held at St. Francis Xavier Catholic Church, 234 Pleasant St., So. Weymouth on Monday, February 18th at 10 AM. In lieu of flowers, donations in Barbara's memory will be gratefully accepted at the Weymouth Food Pantry, PO Box 890009, Weymouth, MA 02189. If you would like to leave a message for Barbara's family please visit www.ccshepherd.com C. C. Shepherd Funeral Service Inc. 134 Pleasant St., S. Weymouth 781-337-0050

Published by Boston Globe from Feb. 13 to Feb. 14, 2013.
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We first met Barbara and Don -and their eight children - on a family group visit to Sturbridge in 1971. As we only had two, they impressed us immediately with their parental skills. Later, as we became friends, we were even more impressed by their generous approach to life. Our memories of all the family remain strong, although we moved South in 1988.

Barbara was fun to be with and a simply wonderful human being. Our condolences to all.

Nina and Bill Falconer

June 22, 2013

I MISS You MoM

March 20, 2013

March 20, 2013

Reflections About Our Mom, Barbara A. Putnam

On behalf of all of our family, I want to thank you for being with us today to share the burden

of heavy hearts and to join in the celebration of our mom's life.

Knowing Barbara Putnam, you would have to agree she was a remarkable woman because

of her faith, her down-to-earth manner, her willingness to get involved and do the work she

felt needed to get done, her sense of humor, and how much she cared for people in every

sphere of her life.

The way our mom lived her life was evidence that she had a deep and abiding faith in her

Heavenly Father, as her Protector, her Sustainer. She acknowledged Jesus as her Savior,

and her heart was open to the promptings of the Holy Spirit. It was from this deep faith that

Mom drew her purpose in life. It was upon this faith that she boldly held her convictions and

carried on through many trials and heartaches from devastating losses: first her dear husband

Don of more than 40 years; then her 18-year-old grandson, Leo, suddenly; her sister Betty;

and then again, suddenly, her 56-year-old daughter, her firstborn, Barby.

As small and fragile as Mom appeared, she was a force of prayer. She prayed for her family

daily, she prayed with and for her friends, for the unborn, for our country, for the poor.

She also prayed for a stronger faith, to be forgiven her doubts and discouragement. She

championed the sanctity of all human life, especially for the unborn, or those without a voice,

and that each person is made in the image of God, whether they are an embryo hidden in

a woman's womb or someone lying in a bed in a coma. Mom and I shared some precious

moments praying together in the hospital and rehab, which I will treasure always.

This past week I came across many of our mom's writings, jotted down in little notes here

and there. They were all over, on various scraps of paper, on the back of bank statements, in

small memo books, and in journals.

Many of these notes reflected a close relationship with God, thanking him for the day, for

the blessing of a dear friend's visit, for the way a problem had been resolved. I found a little

book on her bedside table by the title of The Practice of the Presence of God, Being

Conversations and Letters of Brother Lawrence. This book sums it up. She did just that,

she practiced being WITH God.

Mom taught us and encouraged us kids to pray often as well, before meals, at bedtime, in the

morning, and throughout the day.

In an effort to “train up” her children, our mom also made us do A LOT of things we didn't

want to do: When we were 7 to 12 years old, we had to spend every hot summer day up at

the park. She let us come home for lunch, then we had to head back up there from 1 o'clock

till 3 or 4. There was not a lot to do except make gimp bracelets and weave pot holders. No

shade and a water fountain that only sometimes worked. And this was before the “discovery”

of plastic water bottles.

Also in those days the philosophy of child-rearing and discipline, at least in our house, might

include Mom chasing us around the kitchen table with a wooden spoon. We broke a wooden

spoon or two; but with eight kids, parenting, at times, must have been maddening. I guess

that's how many of us kids came to excel at running.

At 13 we had to volunteer as counselors Monday through Friday 9 to 3 during most of the

summer at St. Coletta's, a camp for kids with all kinds of disabilities, which was terrifying at

first, but then lots of fun when you got to know everybody .

The day after Halloween we had to bring all of our Halloween candy up to the nursing home

to give to the residents, which was far scarier than any night-time Halloween trick or treating

ever was. I bet there are still candy wrappers in the insulation of the eves of the attic at 189

Pleasant Street.

We also each had to stand up and do a speech after Sunday dinner before the harshest

audience a speaker could ever face -- your own siblings! We then had to vote on the best

speech and why. The winner would be awarded a quarter; the runner up got a dime. I think

we all dreaded Sunday dinner.

As kids coming home each day, we never knew who might be at our house. Mom opened

her door to many people. For example, we would share our Sunday afternoon and dinner

with an elderly woman from the nursing home up the street who had no family, or a Maryknoll

missionary priest just back from the Sudan. Two black kids from the city stayed with us for a

few weeks over successive summers, and troubled teenagers and foster children stayed with

us for short times while things settled down in their relationships at their home. And when you

invite people into your home, situations sometimes get messy and are not without a price, but

our mom and dad were willing to get involved and take risks in reaching out to others.

At home our telephone often rang with calls about homeless families staying in a shelter at

a hotel in town. Mom and her friends would scramble to get them groceries, a hot plate to

cook on, and the basics to get by for a few days until the family could get settled somewhere.

Because these scenarios were all too common, our parents were prompted to become

involved in feeding the hungry and were instrumental in starting the Weymouth Food Pantry.

After handing over the reins of the pantry, Mom volunteered at the pantry, doing what she

could. Our parents also worked on a project to secure and fix up a house in town for a

homeless family.

As you can see there are countless stories. Mom left a rich legacy to her kids, grandkids,

and great grandkids. She also left a legacy as a dear friend, a member of the community, the

churches where she attended. She lived out her faith in service and generosity to others less

fortunate in Weymouth and around the world.

But most importantly, through some deep conversations with Mom it was clear that she knew

she couldn't earn or work her way or be good enough to get into heaven. She believed that

Jesus died on the cross for her as a sinner. And this act of Jesus' love, to die for her sin, my

sin and yours is a free gift, which she chose to accept to be right with God. So having lived IN

Christ, she now has eternal life with Him. We each have the same choice to make. Choose

eternal life with Him.

I want to read a handwritten letter our mom left her kids, grandchildren, and great

grandchildren.

Dear Children,

I am sorry to have to leave all of you. I have loved and enjoyed each and every one of you.

Children are gifts from God, and He sure did bless me abundantly with so many, wrapped in

all kinds of different packages. I wouldn't trade any one of you and love the uniqueness of

each of you, which has certainly helped me so much through the later years of my life. It has

all been a trip that I would not have wanted to miss and am thankful to my God who gave you

Please stay close to each other as a family; love and encourage, and always forgive one

another. Pray for me. I leave this favorite quote of mine with you:

“If I left my Christian religion, but not a penny to my children they would be rich.

If I left them the whole world but they had not the Christian religion, they would be

poor.”

Author Unknown

May you feel the love that I have for all of you. May it be with you forever.

(Signed) Mum, Grammy, Great Grammy

March 20, 2013

Oh Barbara, how I shall always remember your winning smile,
your friendly nature and your indomitable spirit. It was a
privilege to have known you.
My condolences to all the remaining family. You were
indeed blessed to have had her in your life, as was I.

Norma McKenzie

February 21, 2013

Dear Family, Barbara was such an inspiration to me. Wherever there were people in need - there was Barbara with big heart and open hands ready to do whatever was needed. She was so tiny in body yet sooooo big in spirit - and wherever did she get all that energy!!! She left us this legacy and we all must carry on.
In gratitude,

Marge Kearney

February 18, 2013

Finding solace in memories of happy times spent together. My sincere and heartfelt wishes of comfort and peace are extended to all Barbara's family and friends on her passing.- Laura J. Palmer (Putnam) Cosgrove

Laura Cosgrove

February 16, 2013

My condolences to the Putnam family. Barbara always had a smile and a kind word for everyone, a keen sense of humor and a heart of gold. I'll miss seeing her as she tended her garden of beautiful flowers. She was a good neighbor and I'm glad to have known her.

Diane Tavares

February 16, 2013

My condolences to the Putnum Family. I will miss Barbara's wit and humor. She was so lively and energetic! She was a good neighbor and friend...Rest In Peace Barbara.

Robyn O'Donnell

February 16, 2013

My condolences to the Putnam family including spouses and grandchildren. Barbara is a lovely lady - I enjoyed her company very much when went on the bus trips to Washington with the Friends of the unborn. she was a true friend. Barbara is a Beautiful Lady! God Bless...

February 15, 2013

the dolan family, i cant express enough how sorry i am about grammie, she really was a wonderful person and enjoyed seeing her at all the dolan gatherings, i dont think she missed one! well now she is with mom and are talking away about everyone and enjoying all the lives they created. i know i will miss her deepley. sincerely debbie mckenzie

February 15, 2013

We would always see her outside on the warm days taking care of her garden; Many times, picking some of her beautiful flowers and giving them to my two little girls. I enjoyed chatting with her and seeing all her family pictures. We will miss her smile and treasure the great memories of her. She was a wonderful woman. May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Crissy Sutter

February 15, 2013

Barbara,I'll always remember celebrating the Mass together in Pompano Beach,Florida. She told me how much she loved her children and how very proud she was of all of them.

Lou Cristadoro

February 15, 2013

Barbara was a dear friend and will be missed very much

Joyce Purslow

February 15, 2013

My condolence to all of Barbara's family. I was so sorry to hear of her passing. Both our Mothers were such good friends and Barbara always continued to check on my Mom and help
her long after her own Mom was gone. We
all had many good memories back in good
old Weymouth. In loving sympathy,
Helen (Myott)LaFayette

February 14, 2013

Barbara was a loving lady and would surprise you with her quips, will miss her greatly she was a true ray of sunshine with a beautiful smile and I am so happy to say she was my friend.

Doris Gill

February 14, 2013

our condolences to the putnam family. your mother was good friends with our mother for many years. lots of good memories. the sances family

February 14, 2013

Barbara was a wonderful lady who always greeted you with a beautiful smile. Our thoughts and prayers are with her family.
Ray and Ann Blake

Ann Blake

February 14, 2013

Barbara, always had a pleasant smile and friendly conversations after the 9 am mass ,which she loved to attend, I am so sorry to hear of her passing, May she rest in peace with her Donald who was also a nice person. Ruthie Linehan

Ruthie Linehan

February 14, 2013

Thank-you for being a kind and loving mother and friend. May you rest in peace

Sandra Graves

February 13, 2013

Barbara will be very much missed by her friends in the prolife community. She was very close to us at Friends of the Unborn, home for homeless pregnant young women. She traveled with us to Canada, retreats in Kennebunkport Maine and the March for Life in Washington, DC. We loved her joyful spirit and wonderfully positive attitude. We express our deepest condolences to her beautiful family.

Marilyn Birnie

February 13, 2013

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