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PETTITT, Robert September 23, 1922 - September 2, 2010. Robert was born to George A. and Edith Pettitt in Attleboro, Massachusetts. He died at Villa Capri in Santa Rosa, CA, at age 87. He was predeceased by his brother, George, Jr. and his sister-in-law, Louise. After graduation from high school, Robert worked briefly in a jewelry factory, then entered the U. S. Army, serving from 1942 to 1946 in the European-African-Middle-Eastern Theater Campaign and the American Theater Campaign. He received the Good Conduct Medal and the Victory Medal. The passage of the G. I. Bill of Rights allowed him to enter Boston University where he found his true calling: music. He received a B. Music and a M. Music from Boston University, where he was Sarah Caldwell's assistant in the Opera Department from 1950-1952. He was an instructor of organ at the Boston Conservatory of Music 1957-62, and assistant organist and choir director at Wheaton College 1958-60. At Emerson College in Boston, where he received an A. M. (Honorary) and a Litt. D. (Honorary), he was the Chairman of the Music Department from 1960-1973. While on sabbatical in San Francisco to study the violin, he was so impressed by the rich musical life there that he retired early from Emerson College and in 1973 moved to the city of his dreams to become a self-employed music director, vocal coach, accompanist, and organist. His accomplishments on both coasts were prodigious. In Massachusetts he was the assistant conductor and accompanist for Boston's Chorus pro Musica, and choir director of the Canterbury Choir at Trinity Church, Boston, and of church choirs in Lynn, North Attleboro, Peabody, and Melrose. He was the summer organist and choir director at Old South Church, Emmanuel Church, and Church of the Advent. On Unicorn Records he accompanied on piano the tenor Maxim Karolik's Russian Art Songs. In the San Francisco Bay Area he was Music Director of Alice Taylor's Oakland Opera 1973-mid 1980's, and Music Director of Bel Canto Opera Singers 1976-1979. For years he prepared the music and was the pianist for opera and musical comedy productions at the Manhattan Playhouse in Palo Alto. He was the organist at the First Church, Scientist San Rafael 1976-2002. He played piano in the St. Francis Hotel's Compass Rose lounge, and after-hours he accompanied myriad opera singers in the legendary Corner Grocery Bar in San Francisco's Castro district. Robert's students often became friends for life. He corresponded with them, visited them all over the world, and encouraged them in their careers. They in turn loved him for his compassion, brilliance, and verbal pyrotechnics. A private celebration of his life will be held in San Francisco. Donations in his memory may be made to the non-profit Community Music Center, 544 Capp St., San Francisco, CA 94110.

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Published by Boston Globe from Sep. 11 to Sep. 12, 2010.

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Miles Fish

September 14, 2010

I first met Bob fifty-one years ago when he was my organ teacher at Boston Conservatory of Music. On the first day a classmate asked me if I had met my instructor yet - wait until you do, "He's handsome!"
He remained a friend in Boston and San Francisco through the years, and a travel companion in Europe. On my visits to San Francisco, Bob would share with me every corner of the city. Day after day, a ride to a new area.
Many evenings were spent working on crossword puzzles, eating chocolates, and drinking wine. He was a crossword puzzle expert, even to the point of saying to me "You might want to check the spelling in 17 Down."
A treasured friend for life. I'll never forget him.

September 13, 2010

Bob was named co-director of the Wheaton College choir in 1958, where he served for two wonderful years. It was a delight to work with him and I loved his quick sense of humor. I attended the terrific muscial productions he did at Emerson College, astonished at his versatility and the obvious respect and love his performers felt for him, as had the Wheaton singers.
Bob found lots of church music jobs for me after I graduated from Wheaton, and we happily stayed in touch before he left for San Francisco, where he was so very, very happy.

Many spoke of him as one of the most gifted accompanists in the Boston area; indeed, he could read off an unfamiliar score beautifully, and to this day I can see his face set in total concentration on a fresh page of music.
Bob had an inner 'clown', which was revealed to howls of laughter. His ANIMA was music, any style. He could do it all. Boston's musical life seemed dimmer after he left.
My musical life has been similar to Bob's, and I think of him before I give a downbeat for my chorus in Woods Hole, Ma.
I am - so very grateful to have known this delightful person.

Judy Clemence Brownell

Dartmouth, MA

Ann Butler

September 12, 2010

Robert Pettitt was best man in my 1966 wedding to the recently deceased Jim Deaderick, who as a student at Emerson College had major roles in the staged musicals Bob directed. Our friendship continued. In 1968 the three of us traveled to England, spending one of our weeks at Benjamin Britten's Aldeburgh Festival. A 1970 photo shows Bob in an elegant green kimono holding baby Jennifer, Jim & my first child.
Although my marriage to Jim ended in 1975, Bob continued to be a wonderful friend to me and my children Jen & Alex. We will miss his wonderful laugh.

September 11, 2010

More that fifty year ago, a shy freshman approached the door to the music room in Emerson College. He hesitated to go in, afraid of auditioning for the choir director, Mr. Pettitt, reputed to be so exacting that he accepted only those who knew how to read music and had choral experience. The freshman failed on both counts. But, the night before, he had practiced his heart out and gave it his best. When he finished singing, it was Mr. Pettitt’s turn to hesitate. He wrote a few lines on a 3x5 card and, handing the freshman some sheet music, said, “ Learn this before the next rehearsal.” Little did the freshman know that this was the beginning of a lifelong friendship.

Years later, in San Francisco, Mr. Pettitt, now affectionately called Bob, said, “I have something to show you.” He went to his files and pulled out the 3x5 card. On it were written the words, “Tenor. Crooner. He’ll do.”

Bob had Alzheimer’s disease. Helping him on his journey for the past eight years was a privilege. Perhaps, someday, I’ll hear him whisper in my ear, “You’ll do.”

Howard Gitlin
Guerneville, CA

September 11, 2010

Bob often had Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner with Howard and me when we lived in San Francisco. After we moved to a ridge top near the Russian River (an hour and a half away) he continued to do so, but kept his visits short, arriving mid-afternoon and departing early the next morning. Bob was too much of a gentleman to say so, however, I think he was such a city person that sixteen hours without street lights, sirens and fog horns was as much as he could tolerate. It is an honor to have called Bob my friend.
Sid Smith
Guerneville, CA

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