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Donna Gambrell
July 2, 2017
My condolences to the Barnes Family for your loss. May Tom's love for you comfort you during this difficult period.
Richard Pouliot
June 24, 2017
Anne and I are very saddened by the news that Tom is gone from us. We were not made aware of this until it was too late and we are sorry that we didn't know and didn't attend. Tom was a kind, understanding and sincere friend. Since our days at Stonier Graduate School of Banking many years ago, I have looked forward to any opportunity we would have to spend time together, including a recent visit to the Hall of Fame in Cooperstown where we laughed the whole weekend. His compassion and understanding for others, his "joie de vivre" and, his charm and wit were a treasure and a "breath of fresh air". Always considerate and courteous, he will be remembered and, he will be missed. We're so sorry for your loss MaryAnn, Regina and Michael and our prayers our with you. Dick and Anne Pouliot and Family
Bill Clapp
June 21, 2017
Recently reacquainted with Tom, we were fellow students back at St Clement I was saddened to learn of his passing.
At our reunion in the spring he was the same
as way back then, humorous and a quick wit. He spoke about his life, and family and career. Clearly he was proud of his accomplishments. Our sympathies to his
family and friends.
June 14, 2017
So very sorry to hear about Tom's passing. Always kind, considerate, humorous and a gentleman. My deepest condolensces. Alex Maroulis-Cronmiller
June 13, 2017
my deepest sympathies. a fellow grad of schs '66.he was a great guy
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Richard Oakley Jr.
June 13, 2017
Although I had a tie to Tom since birth, when my Dad asked him to be my Godfather, I formed my own love and respect for him over time. Tom would come to family parties and was a fixture of the middle Saturday in Waterboro, ME every summer. He was my godfather, and my dad's friend, and as a young man surging with testosterone and rebelliousness, people like this can sometimes be seen as undesirable conversation partners, but not Tom. He had an amazing ability to connect with me no matter what stage of life I was in, and taught me many important lessons, some of which I was not aware of until much, much later.
Although it is painful to pick just 2, I would point to: his ability to balance strength of character with a sensitive, welcoming demeanor, and also his strong, enduring friendship with my dad that I find now is the basis of which I try to model all of my adult friendships.
When my Dad left us, I recall thinking that I couldn't call him up and ask his opinion on things anymore, but also could no longer escape his watchful gaze, since he now had a better view than ever before of my life and my actions. This meant that I had only one choice on how to proceed with the highest of ethics and honor, and in constant pursuit of success. Now I think that Tom and my Dad together will likely require a higher level of effort of us all, and we need to do our best not to let them down.
Tom was, in my eyes, part of a special class of people that leave the world, and all of us lucky to fall into orbit around him, better off than he found us. I will miss him dearly, but I know that there's a red sky every night where he is, and that he's got good company.
Marianne, Regina, Michael, and Michelle, I am so sorry for your loss, and I hope that in some small way your pain can be eased by the likely thousands of stories like mine that are out there thanks to your one-of-a-kind husband, father, and father-in-law.
I love you all, and I am just a phone call away if I can ever help (or just listen).
Elizabeth Venegas
June 13, 2017
There is so much to be said about Tom. I vividly recall that he blew into our lives here at National Capital Bank like a ball of positive energy with a mountain of wisdom and knowledge. The staff here at NCB will miss him dearly and our deepest sympathies go out to his Wife and family.
Jeff and Megan Gregoire
June 12, 2017
To the Barnes family...We are so heartbroken for the loss of Mr. Barnes. He was always full of energy, and his witty sense of humor was always admired! We always looked forward to seeing him at family events, and most importantly he treated Jackson and Madeline like his own. Slipping them $20 and his "spend half and SAVE half will always be a part of us." He always brightened the room and was always very interesting to listen to, even though we had to think twice (or more) to figure out his riddles! We are sorry Marianne, Regina, Mike and Michelle.... With Love, Jeff, Megan, Jackson, and Madeline Gregoire
Leonard Farrell
June 12, 2017
Tom was a great leader who made everyone on the team an important part of completing the mission at hand. Everyone who had the opportunity to work for him benefited greatly from their contact with such an intelligent and engaging person. Personally I considered him a friend and mentor. He will be greatly missed by many. My sincere condolences to his family
Paul Graziano
June 12, 2017
Dear Marianne and Family,
We are so sorry to hear about Tom's passing. He was a wonderful man! We met Tom through my brother in law Bob Pauly and my sister Sandra. We shared New Year's with Tom and Marianne several years and did several home improvement jobs at their home in Cape Coral. He will be greatly missed! Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you at this sad time and hope you find comfort in all the great memories you shared together.
In Sympathy,
Paul, Amie, Ashley, Michael, Nicholas and Matthew Graziano
Daniel Lacroix
June 12, 2017
My family and I first met the Barnes family ( Tom, Marianne and Regina ) when our daughter began dating their son Michael. We saw from the start that Michael was a special young man and could see that he was raised by special people. Tom set the bar when it came to respect, responsibility, devotion to family and being a gentleman. His kindness and understanding in every situation gave you a sense of acceptance and calmness. His wit and unique smile always left you with a feeling that it would all work out. My family and I will miss Tom, but will always have him with us in our hearts and memories.
Mary Ann Webber
June 11, 2017
Dear Marianne,
I'm so sorry to hear of Tom's death. My sincere condolences to you and your family. Paul would always tell me when he had spoken or seen Tom. You're both the nicest people. It was our pleasure to have known Tom. They will now be solving the world's banking problems together in heaven. Comfort and peace to you all as you navigate through this sadness.
Sincerely,
Mary Ann Webber
June 11, 2017
I met Tom in 1990 when we were co-workers at OTS; Tom walked right up to me and started a conversation. This is how our friendship started and continued until Wednesday morning when we had our last talk.
I had the privilege to getting to know him well outside the office after he became a snow bird and Marianne, Tom, my wife Sandra, and I spent many Saturday nights out joking and reminiscing about past events. Besides our normal Saturday dinners, we enjoyed numerous vacations together. Last year Tom invited me to D.C. to see the Nationals play which gave me the opportunity to meet several of his other close friends. Tom and I were always supportive of each other's family, and even though his son Michael and my daughter Julie were married within a week of each other we both were there supporting the other. Tom recommended Stephen, my son, for a bank managerial job in D.C.; a place he now calls home. Tom was not just a friend, he was family. I enjoyed his company, and the moments our families have spent together.
Those moments have now become cherished memories. Over these past few days my family and I have been reminiscing about Tom and thinking how grateful we were to have him in our life. That is the essence of Tom Barnes, he would make everyone feel comfortable and speak with you like you were the only person in a room, even if there were 100 other people around. He would joke, smile, and be happy. He would make others laugh. My family and I will miss our friend, we will miss the vacations we had planned to take, and the great guy that no one can replace.
We love you Marianne, Regina, Michael, and Michelle.
Robert, Sandra, and Stephen Pauly; Julie and David Leiendecker
June 11, 2017
I'm so sorry for your loss. Please find peace and comfort in knowing God cares for you and will help you in your time of need. Jeremiah 29:12 "you will call me and come and pray to me and I will listen to you."
Deb Oakley
June 10, 2017
Tom, my family could not have asked for a better, more supportive friend, especially since our devastating loss 4 years ago. You helped the "kids" and me in so many ways. Those now 32 year old "kids", have looked up to you as a second Dad, since they lost their own. Your love, compassion and humor have helped us through difficult times. Our hearts are broken, but we know that you will always be with us, in the special memories we have.
To Marianne, Regina, Michael & Michelle - I am so very sorry for your loss of such a wonderful husband and father. He will never be forgotten by so very many people. Our love to all of you.
Tom, I wish you fair winds and following seas.
Love,
Deb, Jen & Richard Oakley
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