Helen White (Schloss) Hickler

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Helen White (Schloss) Hickler Obituary
HICKLER, Helen White (Schloss) 88, of Wellesley, Massachusetts, died at home on Sunday, July 10, 2011, after a brief illness. "Holly" as she was known all her life, was born in 1922 the youngest of three daughters. Her mother Jean Miller Schloss worked as a department store buyer and her father Edwin Schloss was a noted Philadelphia music and drama critic. The Schloss home was full of musicians, writers, actors and painters. Holly married Courtland Yardley White in 1946. She was widowed in 1950. Later that year she met and married Frederick Dunlap Hickler, who was to be her mate for 60 years. Fred, whom she called "Dar", died February 19, 2011. Holly was a published writer and taught creative writing and literature for 30 years at the Cambridge School of Weston. Her kitchen was her "salon" where young and old discussed Tolstoy's Anna Karenina, biographies and memoirs, documentary films, psychoanalysis, child raising theories, Summerhill School. She connected with adolescents who sensed her unconditional love and her confidence that they could find their own truth and voice. Her home was often a haven for young people in need, and at various times she and Fred invited several into their home to live. She had an intense focus on the present and on the friends and family around her. She was an emotional center of countless problem-solving conversations that included sharp insights, laughter, and coffee out of mismatched cups. She detested all that was petty and mean. She rejected conventions and was open-minded and progressive. One of her favorite maxims was Tolstoy's "Talent is love. One who loves is talented. Look at lovers, they are all talented." She is survived by her five children and their partners, Peter, Carolyn, Kate, Mark, Dianne, Lisa, Steve, Fred and Harmony; six grandchildren, Sarah, Matt, Aeryun, Nick, Elan and Mian; two great-grandchildren Joshua and Kai; her large and loving extended family; her "adopted" children; her dear friends; and the many students whose lives she touched. A memorial meeting is planned for the fall. For information on the meeting, or to correspond with thefamily,email

Published in The Boston Globe on July 20, 2011
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