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Monet ARMENIA Obituary

ARMENIA - Monet Rachelle (nee Caputy) Early this week, Monet Armenia sat in her bed at her home in South Orange, NJ, writing out future birthday cards to her two sons, Aidan, aged 9, and Jackson, 7. "This one is for when Aidan turns 21," she said, looking perplexed. "Should I tell him to be safe, or suggest he order my favorite drink?" She paused from her writing to reach for a hug from another friend who'd come to see her, some bringing her Italian cookies, some asking where they could put the folded laundry. She pushed the cards aside to find her iPad to buy Jackson the Nike shorts he'd been begging for all morning, a cross for Aidan to match the one his brother has, and her favorite blanket for both of them, which they will get at Christmas. The doorbell rang again. This time it was the hospice nurse. Two days later, on July 19th, Monet Rachelle Armenia (nee Caputy) died peacefully at home, surrounded by her family and close friends. She was 42 years old. All members of the community are invited to come remember Monet, and celebrate the richness and fullness of the life she lived, at a Memorial Mass at Our Lady Of Sorrows Church, 217 Prospect Street, South Orange on Thursday, July 24th at 10:30 AM. Monet's family will be receiving friends at PRESTON FUNERAL HOME, 153 South Orange Ave., South Orange on Wednesday, 2-4 and 7-9 PM. In lieu of flowers, donations to Stand Up To Cancer, File 1224, 1801 W. Olympic Boulevard, Pasadena, CA 91199-1224 or St. Barnabas Hospice And Palliative Care Center, 95 Old Short Hills Road, West Orange, NJ 07052 would be appreciated. Monet, who grew up in West Seneca, NY, was a top student, a Cornell graduate, a consultant at Ernst & Young, and the type of person who got every job she ever applied for, but she wouldn't necessarily want you talking about that. As Monet liked to say, "Why stress about work? It's life that really matters." This was just one of the lessons that Monet has instilled in the people she touched, in the countless number of close friends and family she's left behind, from Buffalo to Boston to FL to NJ. Lessons like: Always remember everyone is fighting their own battle; Take time each day to snuggle in bed with someone you love (preferably on high thread-count sheets); Always dress nicely, even for the doctor; Take long naps; Use Aveda hair products and good hand lotion; If there's something you really want to do, stop hesitating, and just do it; Things are better with red wine, potato chips, and onion dip; Nobody will be your strongest advocate but yourself; Buy organic; Lunch at Swiss Chalet is a must when in Canada; If Pink is in town, gather your girlfriends, get the tickets, and dance until you can barely stand; Don't wear ill-fitting jeans; If you can't decide between the pasta or the pizza, get both; Whatever it is you're going through-even if it's metastatic breast cancer-always ask others how they are, and really care about their answer; Your family is who you love, and true friendship is not always measured in years; It really does take a village, so do your part; If you show people love and kindness, you will get it back several times over; There is always hope; And cherish the things that really matter. Above all that Monet cherished in her life-her friends, her independent spirit, travel, good music, and long conversations-the thing she cherished the most was her family. She was an adoring, wonderful mother to Aidan and Jackson, and a loving wife to her soul mate and best friend, Joe Armenia. She is also survived by her adoring parents, Frank and Alison Occhino Caputy, and her two sisters, Deanie Newberry and Natalie Burns.

Published by Buffalo News on Jul. 21, 2014.
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Remembering our beloved beautiful Godchild. Hope you are looking down on your beautiful grown up boys. Love & miss youSteve & Sharon Frisicaro

Sharon Frisicaro

July 15, 2023

I miss you more than words can express.

Mom

July 19, 2022

Our dear Godchild you are in our thoughts and prayers we think of your beauty, goodness & warm giving person you will always be! Your children are two beautiful boys ! love & miss you forever your Godparents

Steve & Sharon Friscaro

July 16, 2021

Just a note to tell you, Joey that you and your beautiful family are ever in our prayers!

Bob and Joan Fitzgerald

July 15, 2021

our dear Godchild, we miss you and are always in our thoughts and prayers.Love Steve & Sharon July 15,2020

Sharon & Steve Frisicaro

Friend

July 15, 2020

I miss you every minute of everyday.
Mom

Alison Caputy

Family

July 15, 2019

Remembering you and your beautiful family in my prayers.
The Fitzgerald Family

Joan Fitzgerald

July 15, 2019

Dear Family of Monet,
My sincere condolences. I have kept Monet's obituary on my refrigerator over the years. I did not know her, but when I read of her then passing, she was described in a such a beautiful way that it resonated with me. I also have two sons and Monet seemed like an amazing mom! Her boys should [I am sure that they are] be so proud! I often read the words written in her obituary to remind me to cherish each moment even in the what seems like the most stressful, but isn't even close, moments!
I read it again this week, as my oldest son turned 21 on February 15th. Monet wondered, "Should I tell him to be safe, or suggest he order my favorite drink?" :):) I was just as perplexed! He ordered bottomless mimosas over brunch;)
Thank you for Monet's spirit, braveness, and inspiration. Sometimes, we have an impact on those we wouldn't expect, and she had one on me. Her memory will remain posted in sight to continue serving as a reminder of the important things in life; to continue to remind me to "cherish the things that really matter"!

M Robinson

February 24, 2019

Frank, Alision, Deanie, Natalie,

You are in my thoughts and prayers. Heaven has a very bright star and you have your own Special Angel to watch over you.

The tribute to Monet is also a tribute to you as parents.

Love, Hugs and Prayers,

Gail Stockinger

August 20, 2014

My dear sweet sister Monet. I love you with all my heart. I miss you so much it hurts. Life will never be the same. My heart is broken. I never knew what real heartache was until I lost you.

Deanie

August 20, 2014

Will always remember Monet and Deanie from Lancaster JV Softball. I am so sorry to hear of this terrible loss. Monet will always be remembered as a wonderful person. My deepest sympathy goes out to this great family. Monet's words are truly inspiring! Tracy Gnagnarelli Rozler

August 7, 2014

May fond memories of Monet bring you peace during this very difficult time.

Catherine Marusza Rakowski

August 6, 2014

Frank and Alison, sending you love, thoughts and heartfelt prayers in your time of sorrow.

Ann Lupo

August 2, 2014

Dear Frank and Alison, I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your beautiful daughter Monet. In reading the obituary, seeing that she was such a wonderful and loving person pays tribute to your love and guidance as parents. It has been many years since we have been in touch, but I have good memories of life on Reserve Road and later your wonderful baby girls. A terrible loss. Hold her love and memory close to your heart. My sympathies to you and your family.

Burnel Patterson

July 28, 2014

i did not know this beautiful young lady, but I love her spirit and may it forever be remembered in all her family and friends do...may we all learn from her and love each other, unconditionaly. may she rest in peace. prayers for her family and friends.

robert rajnisz

July 28, 2014

steve & sharon frisicaro

July 27, 2014

steve & sharon frisicaro

July 27, 2014

steve & sharon frisicaro

July 27, 2014

Rest in Peace...

July 27, 2014

Joey, our hearts and prayers go out to you and your family. We can't imagine the loss your heart feels. Hold onto the beautiful memories and those precious children. You will remain in our prayers.
Don & Pam Haisman

Pam & Don Haisman

July 26, 2014

I was just thinking about the Caputy family last week . We used to play ponytails together. I did not know Monet was ill. I just lost my sister in law to cancer this past December.. I am sorry for your loss. Monet was a wonderful person. She will be missed.love and prayers to all her family and friends

July 25, 2014

I was lucky enough to have met Monet years ago and have nothing but fond memories. The tribute to her was amazing and I just wanted to send my sympathies to all families involved. God Bless

Dennis Stotz

July 25, 2014

I am sorry to hear about Monets passing. Prayers go out to the Caputy and Armenia families.

brian cox

July 25, 2014

You are the sunrise, you are the sunset in each and every day.You are the glow in every firefly that glows.You are the peace we see in each wave we will see as we think of you at the beach.You are the beauty in every rose petal. You are the twinkle in every star as we gaze up to heaven.You will always be our dear Monet our dear guardian angel in the sky. It was such an honor to be your Godparents. We will love and think of you each and every day.
God Bless You and keep you in His arms forever. Godparents Steve & Sharon Frisicaro

July 24, 2014

Sending so much love your way! We were just touched by your story! May Monet rest in peace! Much, Much love to you! God Bless you All!!!

David and Beth Lanphere

July 24, 2014

Sending love, hugs and peaceful energy to all who were touched by Monet's special spirit !

Nancy/Louie&family San George

July 24, 2014

Alison & Frank, I am so sad and so sorry for your loss. You and your family, especially Monet's sons & husband, are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending love.

Karen Felicetta

July 23, 2014

My deepest thoughts and prayers are with your family.
Verot 1994

Danielle Louth Kendall

July 23, 2014

My deepest condolences to your family. She was a beautiful young lady and I am sure everywhere she traveled she sowed love. I am reminded of this quote, "Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal"... May the joy and happy moments she brought in your lives bring you comfort and peace.

Raffaele Palumbo

July 23, 2014

Our prayers are with you and your family, Joey.
With deepest sympathy,
Bob and Joan Fitzgerald
Fort Myers

Fitzgeralds

July 23, 2014

Rest peacefully, friend. I will miss you.

Marie Slater

July 23, 2014

Joe and family,
That was so beautifully written. My deepest condolences to you and your family.
Cristina (Verot 1990)

Cristin Gomez Sperandeo

July 23, 2014

Wishing you hope in the midst of sorrow, and comfort in the midst of pain. Praying your tears turn to smiles and laughter as you remember Monet. She was an amazing friend and will be deeply missed.

Wendy Bernard (Formanek)

July 23, 2014

I grew up in Lancaster schools, with Monet.. She was always a wonderful sweet person.. Sending her family my heartfelt sympathy and prayers.. This is a very sad loss..

Kim Donner (Litwak)

July 23, 2014

Monet will now be with her friend, Heidi. Monet was always a happy little girl and became a beautiful wife and mother.
A loss so precious is hard to understand. There is comfort in knowing Monet is now at peace. Our heartfelt sorrow & prayers.

Joan & Marty Baum

July 23, 2014

I have been an "extended" member of this family for most of my life and have had the honor and privilege of being in Monet's company on more than few occasions. Although I didn't know her well, it doesn't take long to understand the profound strength she possessed and like a looking glass, see the love she had for her family, reflected in her eyes. Monet was special and she will leave an emptiness behind never to be filled. I love you all and share your sadness. Hilary Friedman

Hilary Friedman

July 23, 2014

FRANK & ALISON,
SO SORRY FOR YOU LOSE SHE WAS A BEAUTIFUL PERSON. MY HEART GOES OUT TO U AND THE FAMILY.GOD BLESS!

VINNY CARDINALE

July 23, 2014

I, along with numerous others here, happened upon this wonderful tribute and did not get the chance to personally know Monet. Her words are an inspiration to us all. I am so sorry for your tremendous loss and will be holding space for your families.

July 23, 2014

What a wonderful person. I like others just happened on her obit looking for another. WOW!!! I pray for heaven to smile on her family in her loving memory.

M T

July 23, 2014

Alison and Family,
I am so sorry for your loss. This was such a beautiful tribute to Monet. I never met her, but she was always a part of Alison's stories as you spoke with such pride about your girls. Monet was so accomplished and a beautiful person. She has left all of those gifts in her boys. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers as you navigate this difficult time.

Courtney Cieplinski

July 23, 2014

Monet and I were great friends in elementary school until she moved away. That was a sad day for me, and now I am so sorry to hear of your family's loss. She was a wonderful friend so many years ago, and I will keep her family in my thoughts and prayers. My deepest condolences to all of Monet's family and friends.

Janet Casheba (nee Tyx)

July 23, 2014

I wish I knew her in this life. Hope to know her in the next go around

Jennifer Menagia

July 23, 2014

Frank & Alison,
It has been many years but I remember doing travel arrangements for you & the family. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Always keep happy and loving memories of Monet. You are all in my prayers.

Pat Kaufman

July 23, 2014

I was sent this article by a vendor of mine and I'm so happy he shared. Monet is certainly Fighting Pretty. She has touched my heart through her strength. Thank you Monet - you will forever live on in the hearts of your family. Especially your children. Rest in peace.

Kara Skaflestad

July 22, 2014

My deepest condolences to your families and especially to Joe, John and Lucy. The mark of any person is how they live and act when things aren't going their way. Monet lived a courageous life , died with dignity and left us with a wonderful message. What a marvelous legacy she left for her family .

Chris Shields

July 22, 2014

I'll always remember that no one could ever hit your fast pitches! Deepest sympathy to your family.

Becky Pokorski

July 22, 2014

Monet touched my heart and soul today, thanking you for sharing a little bit of this beautiful woman with us, even in your sorrow...her spirit, her essence will live long in those who loved her, and those who were touched just by her words here...today. I am sorry for the loss of a very special woman, mommy, wife daughter and friend.

July 22, 2014

Joe, my heart is heavy learning of Monet's passing! She fought so long and hard and the 2 of you were such a wonderful couple. My prayers go up to heaven for you and the boys during this difficult time. May you always know your EY Buffalo family is here for you to support you. Deepest sympathies and prayers, Laurie (at reception)

Laurie Lettieri

July 22, 2014

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Sharon Majchrzak-Hong

July 22, 2014

My sympathies to the Caputy and Armenia families. Many memories of elementary school and Ponytail baseball. What a beautiful girl she was. Thoughts and prayers are with you all, especially the children.

Sandy Pacer

July 22, 2014

May you all find strength and comfort of The Lord during this very difficult time. Continue to celebrate Monet's life through the memories you've created together and may she live on through her boy's spirits..God Bless.

Melissa Wroblewski

July 22, 2014

monet was my cousin.i live in las vegas for 28 years.my best memory is when she visited las vegas and came to see me at the mgm.i remember i thought what a beautiful lady she grew up to be and how very nice and well put together she was.i wish i could have spent more time over the years bonding with my cousin i hardly knew.i know she is in heaven where she belongs and waiting for the time we can all be together and really truly spend eternity as a family.i leave with a quote from a song."my eyes adorned you although a million miles away from me you shoud've seen how i adored you".may god bless your family.love cousin danny and family

daniel aquilina

July 22, 2014

Count me among the many who didn't know Monet but, after being so touched by this loving tribute, wished we did.

My sincere sympathy to all lucky enough to know and love Monet.

Diane

July 22, 2014

I will always cherish the memories I have growing up alongside Monet and her sisters and reflect upon those memories often. Her wonderful spirit will remain with me forever.

Jimmy Occhino

July 21, 2014

My Condolences to the family.

Todd Porter

July 21, 2014

Dear Joe, Aidan, Jackson,Frank, Alison, Deanna & Natalie: We were so very saddened to hear about the passing of Monet. Our prayers will be for all of you at this time of grief.

Jim & Bonnie Occhino

July 21, 2014

Although I did not know you, I was so moved by your heartfelt words and beautiful photo. The light in your face is captivating. I wish your Family much Peace & Love during this difficult time. RIP Monet.

Renee Palladino

July 21, 2014

It can be so hard to face the first year without your loved one, but the love of family and friends can carry you through.

G. Freeman

July 21, 2014

Please accept my deepest sympathies on the passing of Monet. My prayers are with you during this time.

Lynn Talty-Carsrud

July 21, 2014

I do not know Monet's family, nor did I know Monet, but, I am so deeply touched by her obituary and the very special person that she was. Having lost a son, I want to express my deepest sympathy to her husband, her sons, parents, and her entire family. God Bless all of you and know she is smiling down on you!

Linda Morella

July 21, 2014

I also did not know this beautiful and wise young mother, wife, daughter and sister, but my heart bleeds for her family, especially her young sons. How wonderful to provide future memories for them as they grow. My sympathies to all of you - another angel in heaven.

Corinne

July 21, 2014

Our hearts and prayers are with the Armenia Caputy, Newberry, and Burns families during this very sad time. May God's grace give you strength.

The Sachse Family

July 21, 2014

Dear Frank & Allison, My thoughts and prayers are with you. So sorry for your loss. Love and Peace, Cousin Jo Occhino Paolini

Josephine Occhino-Paolini

July 21, 2014

Rest in peace what a beautiful person to leave this world way to early......

July 21, 2014

I Never knew Monet or anyone in her family however I was so touched and moved by her obituary today that I shared it with my office today . Such a wonderful positive women. My deepest sympathy to her family cherish her memories.

JoEllen Popola

July 21, 2014

What a beautiful tribute to a beautiful person. My heartfelt thoughts and prayers go out to you and your whole family.
Alison, I did have the pleasure of meeting your daughter.... NYC...Years ago...early December running into you both Christmas shopping at Bloomingdales !!!
Hold on to all the beautiful memories and let them sustain you and your family.
Eternal be her memory.
My sincerest sympathy !
Mary Ann... from CCSD

Mary Ann Malagisi

July 21, 2014

This is the most beautiful and poignant tribute I ever have had the privilege to read. Thank you for sharing so much of Monet's beauty and wisdom with us. I will try to learn from her. You all are in my deepest prayers and thoughts.

Tara Ragone

July 21, 2014

Monet - you will always be remembered.

Rich Drzymala

Rich Drzymala

July 21, 2014

Though I have never had the pleasure to meet Monet, I read her obituary and feel a closeness to her. Today would have been my mother's 80th birthday -- she died 30 years ago due to metastatic breast cancer. I often think about how I would handle a breast cancer diagnosis. I'd like to believe that I'd be like Monet -- living each moment, leaving behind a legacy of love for my 2 sons, and leaving my family and friends with memories that exude the love I feel for each of them. Heaven has another angel that will guide those known and unknown to her. My sincerest condolences to her family.

Victoria Flood
Monroe Township, NJ

July 21, 2014

Thoughts and prayers to your family, hopefully they will have the strength and courage to live life to the fullest, just like Monet did.

AJ Wroblewski

July 21, 2014

My condolences.......

Connie Younger

July 21, 2014

To Frank and family,
Although as childhood neighbors we seldom saw each other as adults. We were with you at the Per Niende party at Christmas. You and your wife were so great to talk to and when Diane told me of your tremendous suffering I wanted to tell you what wonderful parents you are to have raised such a beautiful and exceptional child. My thought and prayers go out to you and your whole family.

Dolores Nasca-Sweet

July 21, 2014

I did not know your loved one, but what a beautiful tribute given in her notice. My sympathy.

glenda phillips

July 21, 2014

I did not know Monet or anyone in her family. Everyday, I look in the Buffalo Obituaries for my Dad who is 90 years young and still living in Buffalo. I do this because I am living in AZ. Something captured my attention on Monet and when I read about her, I was in awe. What a wonderful daughter, sister, wife, friend and mother she was. The letters she wrote to her children still with a wonderful sense of humor. God Bless her and what wonderful memories she leaves with everyone - ones to cherish.

Penny Sikorski

July 21, 2014

I never knew Monet, but after reading "her words" of inspiration, and how to live and be thankful, she filled my morning with uplifting thoughts. Please accept my condolences in her passing, and may the entire family, and children know how she has touched a stranger. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Linda

July 21, 2014

What a beautiful expression. prayers to the family's lucky enough to be touched by a beautiful soul.

July 21, 2014

Dear family - I didn't know Monet as well as her sisters, (I traveled to France and Spain with Deanie and Natalie). Both my daughter Rachel and I have formed a lasting friendship with Nat - if Monet is anything like her sisters - she will truely be missed.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time of your greatest loss. Peace be with you and your family and know, Monet is only a thought away.

With tears and love,
The Cooke Family

Marianne Cooke

July 21, 2014

Eternal be her memory...

July 21, 2014

What a beautiful tribute. We need more people like her in this world. I was very sad to hear the news and there really are no words to make anything better but I wish I knew her. My heart goes out to the Family and friends who did know her. She is still beautiful inside and out.

jess rautenstrauch

July 21, 2014

God Bless.

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