Joseph Charles Flay

Joseph Charles Flay obituary, State College, PA

Joseph Charles Flay

Joseph Flay Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Jul. 1, 2014.
Joseph Charles Flay February 16, 1932 June 27, 2014 Joseph Charles Flay, Professor Emeritus of Philosophy at Penn State died June 27, 2014. at State College. He was born on February 16, 1932. in Reading, the first of six children of Joseph Michael and Martha Irene Flay (nee Widmyer). He grew up in Reading and graduated from Reading Senior High School in 1949. During his youth and for several years after graduation he was a part of the musical scene in Reading as a violinist. In February 1952, he enlisted in the United States Air Force and served in the Communications Security Service. He was discharged in September 1956 with the rank of Staff Sergeant. His overseas time was spent in England from June 1953 through September 1956. He was preceded in death by his wife Bonnie Joanne Stout. He married Bonnie on October 30, 1954. Bonnie was also a resident of Reading and was a registered nurse. After his discharge, he pursued a B.A. in philosophy at Penn State under the GI Bill, entering in 1957, and graduating magna cum laude in 1960. He was elected to Phi Beta Kappa, Phi Kappa Phi, and Pi Gamma Mu. He then pursued his Ph.D. in philosophy at University of Southern California. He received his degree in 1965, having been awarded an NDEA Fellowship and a Woodrow Wilson Dissertation Fellowship for his graduate studies. In September 1963, he took a position as Instructor of Philosophy at Penn State, where he remained until he retired in 1994 as a Full Professor. During his tenure at Penn State, he taught both undergraduate and graduate courses, served on college and university committees, and directed dissertations. He also served for many years as the Graduate Officer of the Department of Philosophy. His research and writing focused on the 19th century German philosopher G. W. F. Hegel, but he also published on Marx and Marxism, John Dewey, William James, the New Left movement of the 60s and 70s, French post-modernism, and the Greek poet Nikos Kazantzakis. In 1974, he was awarded the Class of 1933 Award for Outstanding Contributions in the Field of the Humanities, and in 1981, he was awarded the Lindback Foundation Award for Distinguished Teaching. In 1995, after his retirement, he was awarded an Alumni Distinguished Teaching Award. He participated in many professional organizations and was a visiting lecturer at colleges and universities in the United States, Canada, and England. He was devoted to his wife and children. He and Bonnie had three children: Sarah, Christina, and Gregory. His favorite pastimes were travel with the family, collecting and drinking fine wines, and collecting French postage stamps. His best memories were of summers on Cape Cod and time spent in Paris. Joseph is survived by his daughter, Sarah Derber of, State College, his daughter Christina Sullivan and husband, Arthur Sullivan, both of Harrisburg, and his son, Gregory Flay and wife, Jovita Flay, both of Austin, Texas. Joseph is also survived by six grandchildren, Rachel Wamp, Justin Derber, Patrick and Lauren Sullivan, and Janelle and Joseph Flay. He is also survived by one great-granddaugh- ter, Charlotte Wamp. He was preceded in death by his siblings, Robert Flay and Nancy Levan; and is survived by his siblings, Martha Thomas, Anne Smith, and Timothy Flay. A visitation will be held from 10-11 a.m., on Saturday, August 2, 2014, at Koch Funeral Home, 2401 S. Atherton St., State College. Memorial service will follow at the funeral home with Life-Cycle Celebrant, Jackie Hook, officiating. Interment will be private at the convenience of the family. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to Pattee-Paterno Libraries, The Pennsylvania State University, 510 Paterno Library, University Park, PA 16802. Arrangements are under the care of Koch Funeral Home, State College. Online condolences and signing of the guest book may be entered at www.kochfuneralhome.com

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April 24, 2015

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Michael Hayman

April 24, 2015

Dr. Flay was an inspiring teacher. He assigned the most thought provoking task I ever had in college. The class was reading Marx's "German Ideology" and Locke's "On Civil Society." Dr. Flay told us to first write a Marxian critique of Locke followed by a Lockian critique of Marx. The discussion and debate in class was truly epic. A wonderful teacher and person.

Anna Martin

December 16, 2014

I worked with Joe in the months before he passed and I feel intensely privileged to have met him. My quiet hours spent with him were very special to me and I find I still think of him every day; his amazing stories, his philosophy on life, his humor, kindness, generosity, and advice. I wrote the following excerpt one day while sitting with him (I found my time with him to be very inspirational): "I'm often asked why I still write in pencil, as if it's some lost art, a media useless in the technological age. Sitting here examining my scribbles, I found more reasons to appreciate lead, or modernly, graphite. When one writes in ink, the words will dry and solidify their existence on the paper. However with pencil or charcoal the words and images will always be subject to change. I love the idea that with a small sweep of your hand my original intentions and meanings can be altered. It's as if you have as much power over my writing as I do. It seems like an intimate way to physically share and mold ideas. More than that, when you can physically engage in something I created from a distance, even when you're far from me, it's like we're together again, however limited the contact. Perhaps when your fingertips blur the lines of my script I will feel them brushing my hand. The light thread that ties us will be pulled taut, my fingers suspending in space briefly against my will, reaching toward you. I will feel the ghost gesture and wonder, then shake off the sensation and look forward once more. But the mysterious touch will linger, make no doubt; I will be comforted."
Joe, I'm still comforted by your words, and I hope that the imprint you've left on my life is never erased. "Síochán leat"

mark koenigsberg

November 19, 2014

I just came across this sad, very sad news. Joe or Dr. Flay was my teacher in the late 60's, a time of campus upheaval, yes even at Penn State. I took a number of classes with him and I remember him as a warm and generous man, encouraging honest dialogue and debate, someone who embodied courage and integrity. I remember him as well speaking to campus protest groups, both supporting the students but also urging personal responsibility for our actions. He stood out like a beacon of honesty.

I was fortunate enough to have enjoyed a number of dinners at Joe and Bonnie's home. I have such warm and fond memories of all that he taught me and all that I learned from him.

My sincerest sympathies to his children and grandkids, he was a wonderful human being.

October 13, 2014

I just heard about this, a bit belatedly. Joe was my teacher in the 1980s and on my thesis committee. More important, he taught me the meaning of decency combined with rigor. I still recall our intellectual battles, culminating in my thesis defense on Michel Foucault, where he commented, "You know the difference between you and Foucault? Foucault was smart enough not to be so damn consistent." I don't think I've yet plumbed the full depth of that remark. Thanks, Joe.
Todd May

Kevin Clark

August 1, 2014

Joe was my teacher and friend for four decades, from my discovery of his work on Hegel while researching doctoral programs to our periodic phone calls over the past several years. Lately our conversations were centered on movies he'd watched and how much he missed Bonnie. One of the most demanding experiences of my life was a study of Foucault that we pursued together one State College winter. Joe elicited an almost physical intensity in working through those texts. Joe's integrity as a scholar and warmth as a friend combined in his teaching, which was always of the highest level. He will be greatly missed. My condolences and best wishes to Sally, Chris and Greg.

Vicki and Ed Wike

July 31, 2014

We send our sincere condolences to the Flay family. Joe was our teacher at Penn State in the late 1970s and we remember fondly his enthusiasm and dedication.

Shannon Winnubst

July 17, 2014

My condolences to the family. Joe Flay, with his sharp insight and generous spirit, was the best dissertation director I could have asked for.

July 13, 2014

Joe Flay was my friend and teacher. Therefore a large portion of my life has been reflecting on his view of the weaknesses in Hegelian metaphysics. Joe was enamored of French ontologies. For him, Buddhism was “a sublimation.”
Joe could have been a stand-in for Gary Cooper. He was tall, thin, humble, articulate and friendly. He wore his Phi Beta Kappa key like some wear the cross. His opinion was sought after and sometimes found on the front page of the NY Times.
Joe responded each and every day to a world that remains less than ideal. He said, “You are for the World depending on your choices and actions; and the World is for you depending on the choices and actions of others.”
My life has been infused with the nature of his dedication. He tried to make matters as clear as he could in Greek, Latin, German, French, and English.
I feel Joe singlehandedly rewrote the lines of Shakespeare when the later wrote “The evil that men do lives after them; the good is oft interred with their bones.” Joe put the Good first and it is his Good that lives and remains powerful.

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Sylvia Pauloo-Taylor

July 11, 2014

Sending love and support to you all. I will light a candle on August 2nd and remember both Bonnie and Joe, two of my dearest friends since the 60s. It has been a privilege to be part of the "family" they so warmly gathered together.

David Karnos

July 11, 2014

Dear Sally, Chris and Greg. I just learned of Joe's death. O Kairos!
I will always cherish memories of gatherings at your home under the great avocado tree and discussions of Hegel and Kazantzakis in those early 70's.

Donna & Donald Schoenly

July 8, 2014

Our condolences to the Flay family. We will miss him in the neighborhood.

Ruth and Charlie Crawford

July 4, 2014

Our sympathy to the Flay family. We have many fond memories of Bonnie and Joe as neighbors in English Meadows. Joe was so giving, both in attentiveness to Bonnie and actively serving on our Board of Directors. We cherish the memories.

Amy Sanders

July 4, 2014

Dear Chrissie, Sally, Greg, and all your families,
I was so sad to hear about your loss. Your dad was an important part of my teen years, especially, and I'll miss him always. I have a thousand memories of his smiling generosity, so I'm sure your thoughts of him are some comfort, too. My deepest sympathy,
Amy

Debbie McMurtrie

July 3, 2014

So sorry for your loss. Prof. Flay was a wonderful instructor. Still have my notes from Phil 4 back in the 70's. Loved it!

Jaime & Emily Jamison

July 3, 2014

Please accept our heartfelt condolences. Joe was a kind and warm person - a true gentleman.

Alphonso Lingis

July 3, 2014

Joe's searching philosophical intelligence and personal integrity and care for others were a constant inspiration.

David Kolb

July 2, 2014

As a fellow Hegel scholar, Joe was insightful, kind, willing to help others with his time and advice. He was a calm and humane scholar who refused narrow specialization but could hold his own in specialized debates. We Hegel scholars were fortunate to have had him as our companion on our journeys.

Jean Kazez

July 2, 2014

I still remember a class of Professor Flay's that influenced me to become a philosophy major, way back in 1976! And then there was his two semester Hegel class--phew! Condolences to the family, and especially to Sarah, since we were buddies as kids.

John Protevi

July 2, 2014

My condolences to the family. Dr Flay was my teacher at Penn State in the 1980s. A great teacher, his warmth and intelligence remain a fond memory of mine.

William Crocken

July 2, 2014

Joe will be missed by his many friends; he was a kind and wonderful person.

July 1, 2014

my condolences to the family. As VP for Student Affairs in the 60's I encountered Joe often as he supported student groups. Although we may have differed dramatically I came to know him as a man of highest integrity and, although on opposite sides of the fence from time to time, I admired him for his openness and honesty. Penn State has lost a great figure. Raymond Murphy, Vice President Emeritus

July 1, 2014

Sarah & Family--
My condolences to you at this difficult time. May Joseph's memory be a blessing.
--Alan Benjamin

Mary-Jo Langston

July 1, 2014

I thoroughly enjoyed the brief time I spent with Joe, talking about Paris and pianos. I can only imagine the reunion with Bonnie!

Cindy Dunkel

July 1, 2014

Sarah, Chris and family, My heart goes out to you at this difficult time. With Sincere Sympathy,

Robin Robinson

July 1, 2014

Sarah and family,

I was so sorry to hear of your loss. I remember your Dad fondly...he was a wonderful person. May your memories help you through this difficult time.

Kate Barron-Avillion

July 1, 2014

Both Joe and Bonnie were two of the most remarkable people I have had the pleasure and honor to have known the past 19 years. My most heartfelt sympathies to the entire Flay family.

July 1, 2014

Thank you Sir for your service to our great country! R. I. P.

July 1, 2014

Thank you for your service to our country.

June 30, 2014

I am so sad for your loss. I know how so many loved your father, Sarah.

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