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for Carl Dephouse
November 18, 2012
The memories come flooding back as we remember the first time that we met you at 14th CRChurch when we were both members there and all of the times that we saw you throughout the years in Holland. Carl will be remembered for his musical excellence and his kindness toward students and friends. Our sympathy and prayers go out to you, Marg and your family. Jack and Ann Prins
Daniel De Kok
November 16, 2012
I knew him as a teacher, a fellow Wolverine, even as a colleague. During my first few years out of high school, whenever I attended a music function and the conversation turned to our homes, I'd mention Holland, and people would knowingly smile and say, “did you play for Henry Vander Linde?”. When I said no (which wasn't precisely true--I did play a couple seasons in American Legion Band), I went to Holland High School and played for Carl Dephouse, they'd almost act disappointed. They shouldn't have. I had the privilege of playing in a great high school band led by someone who cared deeply about the music and who inspires me to keep playing even today.
I learned of Carl's passing at 3:00 pm on Thursday afternoon after a day of meetings. The time is significant because at 6:00 pm, I was scheduled to audition for the principal trombone chair in the orchestra I've played second trombone in for seven years. Up to that point I hadn't felt up to the task. My solo sounded sloppy, and my excerpts ragged. No matter. After I recovered from the initial shock, it was clear what I had to do. I packed up my horn and my music, went to my audition, and knocked everyone's socks off on the solo (Visions of Light by Eric Ewazen) and the excerpts (Mozart Tuba Mirum, Mahler 3, Ride of the Valkyries, and Bolero).
Yes, the music matters. Deeply.
Thank you, Mr. Dephouse.
Daniel J. De Kok Sr.
HHS class of 1978
Bachelor of Music, 1982, The University of Michigan
Master of Music, 1987, Western Michigan University
Principal Trombone, Southeast Pennsylvania Symphony
Principal Trombone, Warminster (PA) Symphony
Principal Trombone, Doylestown (PA) Symphonic Winds
Julia Rausch Fetters
November 14, 2012
I remember Mr. Dephouse so fondly . What a great teacher! I had him for band and have thought of him so many times through the years in raising my own children. I have confessed to them that Mr. Dephouse would call me "Jaws" since I talked out of turn so frequently. Now in reading of his going to be with the Lord, I can see where his kindness and patience stemmed from - his relationship with Jesus. Now he sees Him.
I still play my clarinet and can see him teach me in my minds eye... May God give your family peace at this time.
November 14, 2012
Mr.Dephouse played a big part in my life.I had him for a band teacher at E.E.Fell Jr.High and at Holland High. He "pushed" me as well as other band members to bring out their musical talents in them.In my eyes he was a perfectionist and very dedicated to his students. I also had great respect for him as he did for every student he would teach.I think I seen him once since High School, but always thought of him when I would pick up and play the "Ole Trumpet" My deepest condolences to the Family.
John Vasquez
Class of '77
Holland High
Linda Oltmanns Vogel
November 13, 2012
Dear Mrs Dephouse & family, I am so sorry to hear of Mr Dephouse's passing. My family lived down the street from you (West 15th) in the early 70's & I babysat your 2 older boys a few times. Mr Dephouse was a wonderful man & I have many happy memories of being in band my one & only year in the HHS band (1971-1972). He made us work hard and helped us understand how worthwhile the effort was. When I've had the opportunity to reunite with HHS class members, Mr Dephouse's name always enters the conversation. He made such a positive impact on so many students throughout the years.
I pray that you will have the comfort of our heavenly Father during this sad time in your lives.
Linda (Oltmanns)Vogel
Lee Nykamp
November 13, 2012
Dear Marg and Family,
We have many fond memories living on Birchwood. Our kids playing together and swimming together. The time we got together and watched "Roots". When we got together for bible studies with the Moms and kids. Carl had parkinsons for many years he is free at last in heaven. You and your family are in your thought and prayers.
With our sympathy,
Lee and Helene Nykamp and Family
Rose (Truitt) Wiersma
November 13, 2012
To Carl's wife and family,
When I was in high school I had no knowledge of the possiblities of a career in music. When I was invited to be part of the MSBOA State Honors Band, my band director arranged for Carl to give me a ride to MSU for the rehearsal. Henry VanderLinde was conducting; this was a wonderful experience made possible only through the ride given me. The following year, again invited, again without transportation, Carl picked me up to give me a ride to the rehearsal. The conversation was so encouraging. I so appreciate Carl helping to open the doors to music education and performance to me. I can only say "Thank you". God bless you all.
November 13, 2012
Dear Marj and family,
So sorry to hear of the passing of your dear husband and father.He lived with his illness for a long time and is now perfect in heaven.
We have very good memories of our time with you on Birchwwod Ave. Lot's of playtimes for the kids and coffee for the moms:)Would love to do that all over again!
Know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.
With our sympathy,
Harv and Sherri De Roo
and family
Ronald Walker
November 13, 2012
Carl's family and friends will be in my prayers as you deal with the grief of the passing of a family member and friend. I worked on the equipment staff with Carl before the Russian trip. Unfortunately, I was unable to attend the trip due to family matters. I will always remember his pleasant attitude and eager helpfulness.
Charles Martyn
November 12, 2012
Our personal regrets and condolences to Carl's family. He was a member of the finest band ever assembled at the University of Michigan. Our 1961 tour of the Soviet Union, Middle East and then a return to Iron Curtain Countries set a benchmark which will never be equaled. A special group of people who achieved a remarkable mission. Deepest regrets, Charles and Ruth Martyn, 1961 Tour Band Concertmaster.
November 12, 2012
My deepest sympathy to Marjorie and the rest of Carl's family. Carl played such an important part in my Rich's life as his mentor during his student teaching days. I fondly remember going over to your house for fun and lots of good talks as well. Sending you hugs!
May you feel the love and comfort of friends/family at this time,as well as the blessings of the Lord!
P.S. I can see Carl, Rich and Henry V.L. already making beautiful music in Heaven!
Esther VandeBunte
David Wolter
November 12, 2012
Dear Margie
We members of the Russian Tour Band remember fondly the enormous amount of work Carl did as equipment staff person and as a performing musician in the band. We are so sorry he is gone.We always missed him when he could not attend our reunions.
Dave Wolter
Chuck Hasseldahl
November 12, 2012
My deepest sympathies to Marjorie and all of Carl's family. I learned of this sad event from Lucille Weick Maxson who had learned of it from Dr. Don Dephouse. May the Lord keep you strong and may the Holy Spirit give you comfort in the knowledge of the sure resurection. Blessings!!
November 12, 2012
To Carl's family and friends--11/12/12
I was privileged to know Carl from our 15 week tour through Russia, the Middle East, and eastern Europe with the University of Michigan Symphony Band in 1961. Carl was a fun-loving guy, a wonderful musician, and a friend. My deepest condolences to his family. Marty Gurvey, Highland Park, IL.
Lynn Hallacy
November 11, 2012
Dear Jen, and your wonderful family,
Please know our hearts are aching for you all. I know how much you loved your dad. He is so happy with his perfect body right now. I just wanted you to know I'm thinking about you at this sad time. I know how tough this is.
GOD BLESS YOU, HONEY!
November 11, 2012
Mr. Dephouse was my band teacher at E.E. Fell Jr. High School and Holland High School. Everyone loved him. Sure, we gave him a hard time, like kids do... talking and laughing... making noise when he was working out kinks with one singular section. But, all the kids liked and respected him. He was extremely kind. I have many fond memories of those years in band. Hearing of his too soon passing makes me very sad. Please accept my sincere condolences.
Cathy Carr Van Eck
HHS Class of 1975
Scott Behrmann
November 11, 2012
Dear Mrs. Dephouse,
Please accept my deepest sympathy in your loss. Mr. Dephouse was one of my most cherished teachers in both Junior and Senior High school band in Holland. Both my wife Debra and I were saddened to hear of Mr. D's passing. May God be with you and your family during this time of sorrow!
November 11, 2012
Dear Margie, Sympathy to you and your kids. Its been quite a journey for you all. Thinking of you and Carl with many fond memories. Jim & Margaret Becksfort
November 11, 2012
We were sad to hear that Carl had left this earthly home but we know that he is in the presence of the Lord. We are praying for Marge and their children.
Jim and Angie Brown (former next door neighbor)
Betsy Blackmore
November 11, 2012
We are thinking of your family here in Holland, Michigan. Carl was a wonderful friend and teacher and will continue to be missed. I hope your hearts heal more and more everyday knowing how sweet your memories must be. Love, Betsy Blackmore
November 9, 2012
I am so sad to see him leave us but I am happy that he is no longer suffering and is now in the presance of our Lord. Marge, you and the family are in my prayers.
Love, Linda Dunlap
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