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John Whitesides Alexander

1948 - 2017

John Whitesides Alexander obituary, 1948-2017, Gastonia, NC

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John Alexander Obituary

Gaston County native John Whitesides Alexander died on November 19 at Caromont Regional Hospital in Gastonia, NC. The son of the late Anne Whitesides and John McAuley Alexander, Jr., born on May 3, 1948, he was a 1966 graduate of Hunter Huss High School and a 1970 Magna Cum Laude graduate of Erskine College where he received the American Legion Award. He was student body president at both Hunter Huss and Erskine College.

He served from 1970-1973 in the U. S. Army with the 282nd Army Band, Ft. Jackson, SC and with the 8th Army Band in Seoul, South Korea. After receiving an Honorable Discharge with the rank of SP5, John earned his teaching certificate from the University of North Carolina at Charlotte in 1974, followed by a Master of Music in Jazz Pedagogy from the University of Miami in 1977.

While in Florida, John was heavily influenced as part of jazz great Ira Sullivan's group of young proteges and has extended that experience to the students of Gastonia, Charlotte, and surrounding areas since returning to Gastonia in 1992. Supporting students in their discovery and relationship with music was one of John's most significant passions. Revered and respected as an outstanding music educator, he participated with many music camps and workshops, gave private lessons, worked in many schools from middle school through the collegiate level, and obtained grants to support music education.

John knew the way music could bring a diversity of people together and constantly worked to create and participate in these pathways toward unity. He demonstrated this as a member of the cultural delegation to Gastonia's sister city of Gotha, Germany in 2000 and as the music director for several interracial unity- oriented events, such as the Harmony Services (1998/1999) and "Celebrating Unity" (2002). He was recognized for his constant work toward building bridges among communities by many.

Lovingly referred to as "the wiz" for his pure musical talent for composing, arranging and playing, John brought jazz to the ears of many. As the music director for gtownsound, LLC, he helped produce Reunion 2011, A Rhythm and Blues Revival, a DVD featuring four Gastonia bands from the 60's and 70's, including The Counts, of which he is an original member. "You Need 'Dis" and "Many Hands" are CDs featuring his own compositions. In the Charlotte music scene, some of his most beloved endeavors include membership in the Charlotte Jazz Orchestra, The Monday Night All Stars seen at Double Door Inn, Big Octave common to Blue Restaurant and, most recently, Rhythm Plus Latin Jazz at the Ritz Hotel. On special occasions, John would wow the crowd as he masterfully played both the alto and tenor saxes simultaneously.

He is survived by his wife Sandra (Sandy) Isrel Alexander, Gastonia; and daughters Julia Alexander Christensen (Adam), Ann Arbor, Michigan; Christina Marie Alexander, Gastonia; his grandson Burke Alexander Christensen; his brother Robert McAuley Alexander (Jeanie), Rock Hill, SC; and sister Mary Elizabeth (Beth) Alexander Rickenbaugh (Jim), Charlotte; and a host of other family members.

A visitation will be held at McLean Funeral Directors on Friday, November 24 between 6:30 - 8:30 p.m. All are welcome and encouraged to attend. Memorials can be made to the Veterans Administration, any music education fund or charitable organization of your choice.

Condolence messages may be sent to www.mcleanfuneral.com.

McLean Funeral Directors of Gastonia is serving the Alexander family.

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Published by Charlotte Observer on Nov. 22, 2017.

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Mike Edwards

September 3, 2018

The best saxophonist that I ever saw live, and one of the finest
men that I ever met.
-Mike Edwards

Vance Cariaga

December 2, 2017

I got to know John through his regular gigs at the Blue with Ron and Chris. He was an amazing musician and a very nice guy, and I'll miss him. Condolences to his family.

Lenny Steinberg

December 1, 2017

I was shocked and saddened to hear of John's passing. He was a man with a big heart, and we will all miss him.my sympathy
to Sandy and the family.

BettyAnne Smith

November 29, 2017

Beth, Robert, and Family,

We are so very sorry to hear of Johnny's death. What a shock it was to get the news and we thank you, Beth, for sending us a note in the mail. The last time I saw Johnny was when he came to Florence to be the master teacher in a workshop and he took the time to come by my elementary school to say hello. That was so thoughtful. Y'all were like cousins to us since our parents were so close.

Abernethy Laurels

November 29, 2017

John, thank you for sharing your musical talents with those at Abernethy Laurels retirement community in Newton. Prayers for the family.

Anarah Sullivan - Henderson

November 28, 2017

Your music will be missed.

November 27, 2017

My deepest condolences to the family.May the God of comfort give you peace during this difficult time.
2 Thessalonians 2:16,17.

Patti Ragland

November 26, 2017

His music was magical! Thank you God for John and all the love he shared through his music. I pray for his family and thank them for sharing him with us, his fans.,

Ken Knox

November 25, 2017

May John Rest In Peace. Thank you for your Talents.

Annie

November 24, 2017

In God's hands is the life of every living thing and the spirit of every human. May the words of Job 12:10 bring comfort to the family during this sad and difficult time.

AC

November 24, 2017

May God's loving kindness comfort you and help you through this sad and difficult time. Psalms 90:10.

Chris Garges

November 24, 2017

What can I say about John? Working with him pretty much a few times a week for the past 18 years or so, I learned a lot about him and even more FROM him. Here are a few things:

He always tried to see the good in a person or situation.
He was AMAZINGLY patient with younger musicians, even if I thought they were full of it or couldn't play. He could find something in their playing as "potential" and would often take a lot of his own time to try to cultivate that in the folks. He spent a lot of his life "giving back."
He HATED wearing ties and on a gig that was "tie appropriate," he could totally pull off a turtle neck sweater and a jacket.
He was AMAZINGLY professional. He would start and end a gig EXACTLY on time, every time, all the time. There was never any BS with him. No surprises. You knew what was required of you, what you were getting paid, how you were gonna be treated, and no surprises got thrown at you on the gig or at the last minute. Not ever.
He loved red wine. He and Sandy often did tours of local wineries in the summer. During gigs, he would usually go to the bar on breaks and ask for "something red and delicious."
He always took care of the other employees on a gig--- bartenders, wait staff, hosts, valets, etc. He always tipped those folks and treated them as equals.
If anything weird ever happened on a gig (financially or otherwise), John would always take the hit, even though it was never his fault. He made sure everyone else got paid and got what they deserved, even if it meant he wound up working for nothing. He probably had more paid in to karmic investment than anyone I've ever known.
He loved finding new music although he was also the only person I ever tried to turn on to Los Lobos' "Colossal Head" album who didn't get it. Hahaha!
He loved good food and never took a good meal for granted.
He pretty much remembered everyone he ever played with and had great stories and great things to say about almost all of them.
He loved travel and he loved being at home. He also really appreciated the South.
He played A TON of instruments. Somewhere, I actually have footage of him playing GUITAR on our gig at Blue.
I learned a ton about a lot of musicians I never knew, just because John had known them and always had a great way of describing people.
He always cared about sound. If he was trying out a new head joint for a flute or a new saxophone mouthpiece or a new microphone, he would ask other musicians' opinions and take what they had to say to heart.
He was a wonderful composer and arranger. He wrote really smart songs with really nice melodies. He was always trying to work new stuff into compositions (especially if he thought it would drive home a specific direction), but he never did it at the expense of the song itself.
He could easily play three consecutive four-hour jazz gigs without repeating any material. He knew A TON of tunes and was always interested in playing the wealth of great material that not everyone else played. That was EXTREMELY refreshing.
He always took care of the people he played with. At the start of the gig, he'd make sure everyone had a glass of water and he always brought well-prepared and easy to read sheet music to the gig if necessary (or just for fun). He brought music stands for everybody, as well.
I LOVED it when he would try something oddball and so did he. He was able to see humor in music, which is not a characteristic that everyone has.
I REALLY loved hearing him play stuff like "Everything Happens To Me" on baritone sax.
He liked being in charge on a gig, but was never at all dictatorial about anything.
He really cared for and loved his family, friends, and the good in the world.
A lot of people say that we should leave the world a better place then we entered it. I'm certain that the world is a better place because John was here. I hope no one is "shooting him thorough the grease."

Pinky and Mike Bender

November 23, 2017

So sorry to learn of Johnny's death. We have. ..and cherish. ..his first CD.

November 23, 2017

I am sorry for your loss. I will pray for the family. 2 Corinthians Chapter 1 verses 3 and 4

CHERYL MCMANUS

November 22, 2017

Sandy and Family, I was so sad to hear that John was gone. The community has lost an amazing musician and even more an amazing man. He will be missed by many. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Praying for God's peace upon your hearts.

Debby Dobbins

November 22, 2017

I was fortunate enough to work with John on several occasions throughout the years. I will never forget the beautiful arrangement of "Stormy Weather" he wrote for me to sing; it was phenomenal! May he be blessed and welcomed into the Kingdom of Love and Light, and may all who love him be comforted by happy memories. <3

Bill Dunlap

November 22, 2017

Sandy, I had been a fan of Johnny's for many years since the old open mic nights at Amos' in Charlotte. Even though we barely knew each other in those days, he always recognized and remembered me whenever we saw each other. I am so happy to have had the privilege of playing with him and the Counts earlier this year in Winston-Salem. He was an outstanding musician and a kind soul.

November 22, 2017

I remember a dance at Huss where Rufus "The Dog" Thomas performed and Johns band "The Counts" backed Rufus.
Rufus took a break and stepped off the stage and stood beside me watching as the Counts continued to play. Rufus said "That band has soul!" as he hit himself on his chest with his fist. He continued to watch and listen until he went back on stage. That was the first time I heard the term "soul".
That was high praise from someone of the stature of Rufus Thomas at the time, especially for a band that consisted of teen age high school boys.

Remember John playing guitar when the Counts played "Teasing you"?

Stephanie Reid

November 22, 2017

R.I.P John. I was always blessed when I heard you play. Your soulful sound will definitely be missed.

The Stornaiuolo family

November 22, 2017

We lost a phenomenal musician and a fine gentleman, Mr. John Alexander. Heartfelt condolences to his family, the Charlotte Jazz Orchestra and everyone that knew him. We are so fortunate to have met him and Aron is thrilled to have shared the stage with him at the Community School Of The Arts end of summer camp performance and occasionally with the Charlotte Jazz Orchestra. John Alexander's legacy will live on forever!

Raspanti

November 22, 2017

I am so sorry for your family's loss. John Alexander touched so many people through his music. He will be missed, but will live on through the joy of music he has spread through Charlotte.

Jeanne Whitesides Karagias

November 22, 2017

Beth A, You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Johnny was such a sweet man. He has gone too soon. He's playing his music in heaven. Love you.

November 22, 2017

I'm so sorry for your lost. May the God of all comfort strengthen and comfort you.

Matt Bonelli

November 22, 2017

This is very sad news indeed. I was fortunate to know and play with John through out his Miami years. Truly a gentleman, talented musician, and a great friend.
Our condolences to Sandy and the family.

November 22, 2017

I'm so sorry for your loss and the pain death causes. Maybe the God of comfort, comfort you during this hard time. ( 2 Cor 1:4 )

November 21, 2017

Please find peace in knowing that God understands our grief and he cares. 1 Peter 5:6,7. With sincerest sympathy.
MEG

Kathy Wheeler

November 21, 2017

John was a friend. We worked together on CD covers, he gave my son private saxophone lessons, and in general was a talented soul. He was a wonderful person and friend and will be missed not just for his musical abilities, but as an incredible person. My thoughts and prayers are with his family.

Susan Howard Pearce

November 21, 2017

Robert, Beth, Sandy and families, i am so saddened by this news. Many prayers of thanksgiving for Johnny's talents and deepest sympathy from our family to yours. Thinking of you all. With love, Susan Howard Pearce

Toni (Cloninger) Noblett

November 21, 2017

The heavens celebrate the arrival of a master musician while those of us on earth
grieve. He was such a gift to those of us who knew him as his brilliance grew.
Sending sympathy and love in gratitude for having known him

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