Aleda Shirley

Aleda Shirley

Aleda Shirley Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Jun. 19, 2008.
Aleda Shirley died Monday, June 16, 2008, after a long battle with cancer.
She was the author of three collections of poetry, Dark Familiar (Sarabande Books, 2006), Long Distance (Miami University Press, 1996), and Chinese Architecture (University of Georgia Press, 1986), which won the Poetry Society of America's Norma Farber First Book Prize. She published poems in many magazines, including Poetry and American Poetry Review, and received, among many other awards, fellowships from the National Endowment for the Arts, the Kentucky Arts Council and the Mississippi Arts Council.
The publication of Dark Familiar was met with enthusiastic reviews, with Publisher's Weekly declaring that Shirley had "crafted a powerful return to poetry." Her work was deeply admired by readers and fellow poets, including Lucie Brock-Broido, who wrote of the poems in Dark Familiar, "These narratives are harrowing, and hallowed, striking, dark, familiar, strange, and beautiful, and wise."
Shirley was an extraordinary teacher who inspired students at the University of Mississippi and Millsaps College with her wicked sense of humor, her sharp perception about their intents, and her thorough knowledge of the popular worlds in which they traveled. She was the first Poet in the Schools in a Kentucky program that served as a national model through the National Endowment for the Arts. She helped establish and direct All Write!, a Mississippi Arts Commission program that places writers in community literacy programs and correctional facilities to teach creative writing to students working toward their GED.
She was an omnivorous reader who might in a single day turn from Proust to People magazine, Shakespeare to true crime, Joan Didion to James Ellroy. A brilliant conversationalist, she could discuss with passion, wit, and steely conviction the paintings of Mark Rothko, Manolo Blahnik shoes, the Kennedy family, late-night talk radio, the music of Joni Mitchell, the O.J. Simpson trial, the presidential campaign, how to cook coq au vin, and most other topics. Though she was the most interesting guest at any party, she was happiest at home in Belhaven with her husband Mike and her beloved cats.
Aleda Shirley was born in Sumter, South Carolina, May 2, 1955, to Guy and Betty J. Shirley. Her father served in the air force, and she moved frequently as a child but considered her homes to be Kentucky, where her family has deep roots, and Mississippi, where she lived from 1990 until her death. She earned her B.A. from the University of Louisville in 1975 and remained a passionate Cardinal basketball fan the rest of her life.
She is survived by her father, Guy Shirley, and her husband, Michael McBride, of Jackson, as well as aunts, uncles, and cousins, and a large and devoted group of friends, readers, and students.
A memorial service will be held Monday, June 23, 2008, at 4 p.m. at the Mississippi Museum of Art, 380 S. Lamar Street, Jackson.

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Hepsie Roskelly

July 2, 2008

What a funny, smart person we've lost. I am so sorry for Aleda's family and so sad for all of us who knew her.

Susan Helgeson

July 2, 2008

I'm stunned. I just heard. The world is a poorer place without her.

Janet Clark

July 1, 2008

I met Aleda when she and I were assigned to the same shift for abortion clinic defense in South Jackson. I picked up a stranger and delivered home a friend -- always witty, irreverent and interesting. What a loss!

Bin Ramke

June 30, 2008

I still remember the delight I felt when I began reading the manuscript of "Chinese Achitecture"...I was happy a whole week because of it. I have not been in touch with Aleda for years, but I have admired all her books, and I treasure the memory of the one time we met.

Renee Murray

June 30, 2008

Although it has been years since I met Aleda, she lives on in the work of my former students. Her KET poetry writing workshop helped my middle school students complete some wonderful verse to share in a public forum, way back in the 80s. You were a gift to many.

Shannon Buckley

June 27, 2008

I will always be grateful to Aleda for her passion about writing. She made me take my craft seriously.

Paula Dickerson

June 25, 2008

My life is a richer one for having known The Shirley's~all three~
and the world is a better place for their contributions while here.
Thank you, Mike, for what you have done to make them happy, proud and well cared-for.

Norma Baxter Brown

June 25, 2008

Dear Mike,
Aleda will always be Betty and Guy's "precious child" .
We have called her that sinse she was 1 year old, to her face and behind her back...smiles...
God bless you for being her "precious husband".
Love,
Norma

Angela Ball

June 24, 2008

I first met Aleda through the terrific poems she sent us at MISSISSIPPI REVIEW in the early 80's. It was evident then that her work was like no one else's--how lucky we are to have it permanently, and how unlucky to have lost Aleda's vivid and endearing presence among us. Mike, I'm so sorry.

KMS

June 23, 2008

Though I never met Aleda in person, I was a lucky and grateful recipient of her warm and welcoming nature and her tremendous wit. I will never forget her, and my thoughts are prayers are with her husband and many loved ones.

Patricia Fargnoli

June 23, 2008

I knew Aleda only online and in her wonderful poems from Dark Familiar. But she emailed me with help and encouragement when I was trying to know the best way to help a friend who had terminal cancer and wanted to publish her own poems as a legacy. Aleda shared the news of her own illness with me then...and her words helped me help my friend. I treasured her courage and treasure her poems. They are on my bedside table at this moment.

Mitzi Streepey

June 22, 2008

Aleda, I wish you hadn't left the party early, but you always had so much more style than the rest of us. I am deeply sorry you are gone. Mitzi Streepey

Jef Brenda and Nick Judin

June 22, 2008

Mike,
We're assuming there is Tab in Heaven since the sky has not fallen since Aleda arrived. She was a true original.
Our thoughts are with you.

Mary Neuschwander

June 21, 2008

Dear Mike, We are very sadden to hear of Aleda' passing. God has his hands full now. Can't help think that she's reading her lines to him now. She was an impact on our family, as she was our son's third grade teacher. Robb, has said, many times, he learned a lot from one of his favorite teachers. We will miss seeing her from time to time. Thanks for your friendship, Aleda.
Mike, we'll see you soon.
Jack and Mary Neuschwander and Family

Amy Buchanan

June 20, 2008

Ms. Shirley created the fonder memories I had at Millsaps College four years ago. I never missed her class and I loved how she could make everyone double over in laughter, and yet she was such an inspiring, thoughtful poet as well - she made such an impression on everyone she met, and was such a fun and warm personality. I have missed her and thought of her often, and I was deeply sad to hear this news. I know for certain that everyone at Millsaps in her creative writing classes will remember her as someone who changed and impacted both their work and their lives.

Audrey Ward

June 20, 2008

The world has lost a truly brilliant woman. Aleda, I will miss your wit, wisdom and most of all, your steadfast friendship. I am so very saddened by your loss.
I will always remember you.
Love,
Audrey

Vicki Peterson Weitzel

June 20, 2008

Aleda, you were an original, always stylish, always smart, always interesting. I'll miss you more than you know.

God Speed and condolences to your family.

John Hoppenthaler

June 20, 2008

After admiring her work for years, I finally had the chance to meet her when our mutual friend, Jim Harms, brought us both in as faculty at the West Virginia Writers' Workshop. Her wit, candor, and and good nature enriched the experience for all who attended, and I'll miss her.

Juliet Bowler

June 20, 2008

AJ was an amazing woman - full of life, wit and talent. Though I only knew her "online" I counted her as an important friend. Her family is in my thoughts.

She is already missed.

Robert Miller

June 20, 2008

Who could have had a more gifted, charismatic student than Aleda? She was a joy to have in class and a joy to know. She is gone, but her lovely poems stay with us.

Jennifer Dellapina

June 20, 2008

Aleda and I may not have seen eye to eye on which was the best basketball team in Kentucky, but we did share a long online friendship and I will miss her. My thoughts are with her family and many friends.

Claire in SF

June 19, 2008

Aleda was always an informative, fun, and supportive friend with an inspiring eloquence and flair for living artfully. She helped me survive grad school, find the best lip pencil, ever, made me laugh, and took great cat pictures. Aleda's live and virtual presence and point of view will be missed by many friends.

Hillary Hamblen

June 19, 2008

Ms. Shirley,

I'll always remember you as the hippest teacher at Millsaps. I deeply regret that I never got a signed copy of your poetry. Thanks for everything.

Stacy Ferguson

June 19, 2008

Aleda, I'll miss you. I had to call 8 different liquor stores to find one that carries Boodles. Raising a glass to you!

Love,
Stacy

David Gartner

June 19, 2008

AJ, it doesn't seem possible that you're gone. The world will never be the same without you. I miss you terribly. Love always.

Marcie Ferris

June 19, 2008

Dear Mike--we are sending you all of our love. We loved Aleda so much. A huge light has gone out in Mississippi this week---we are so saddened by the loss of such a beautiful voice and a beautiful, passionate woman--Marcie and Bill Ferris

Judith Rogow

June 19, 2008

She was a dear friend who I never met, a wise and funny lady, and a wonderful writer.

The world has lost some sparkle today, but somewhere an angel is wearing Manolos and carrying a red Birkin.

Priscilla Barlow

June 19, 2008

I am deeply saddened by Aleda's death. She put up an incredible fight, and was always so strong, hopeful, and appreciative of life.

I hope that Mike and Mr. Shirley find comfort knowing how many people loved Aleda. I will never forget her.

God bless and keep you both.

Diane Hardin

June 19, 2008

oh Aleda! I have been missing you, but remembering you is much better. I hope that you are having good hair days forever.

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