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Mark Jarman
May 14, 2025
Much loved and much missed.
Robert McDowell
May 14, 2025
Thank you for 'visiting' me this past year. You are loved & always celebrated.
Robert McDowell
May 14, 2024
Thank you, Patty, for bringing the Aurora Borealis to our locale the last few nights! Sweet soaring to you!
Robert McDowell
May 16, 2023
Dear Patti, what Andrea said. Thank you for Being.
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Andrea Plate
May 15, 2023
I am writing this a day early for a variety of reasons. I will never forget my dear childhood and lifelong friend, "Patti," with whom I went to elementary, junior high and high school and then college. I have nothing poetic or interesting to say, except that I will always feel her loss and never forget her magnificence. I can never not have had her.
Sydney Lea
May 14, 2023
Never out of mind, dear Patty; it was a blessing to know you!
Sydney Lea
May 19, 2022
Ten years later, I still remember you with as much fondness as I can muster for ANY student I knew in 43 years of teaching. Lovely, talented, and ultra-decent.
Andrea Plate
May 17, 2022
The best and the brightest. Always and forever.
Robert McDowell
May 17, 2022
Happy 70th, Sweet-Nose
Andrea plate
May 17, 2020
Heres to you my best friend
Ayan
May 15, 2020
It is the day before your passing and how I would love sit with you and tell you of your children and grandchildren. They as l miss the quality of your voice, your style and love for learning and travel. Ayan needs a purple cat so if you are not too busy exploring the universe please look into this as l know your special gift for finding just the most exceptional animals. We love you and miss you always your Michael
Sydney
May 15, 2020
Dear Patti: Gone but never forgotten. So gifted, but more importantly, such a noble character. Greatly missed.
Robert McDowell
May 14, 2020
You traveled through the portal the day after Emily Dickinson (though she departed many days before). I imagine you've met up with her & delight in each other's company! Love, peace & adventures to you forever.
Robert McDowell
May 16, 2019
'Arise and bid me strike a match
And strike another till time catch.'
You are loved, Patti, by the many whose lives you touched with your beneficial magic. You are like the poppies--beautiful, inspiring, surprising and always reliable, year after year. What adventures you must be enjoying now!
andrea plate
May 14, 2019
To Patti, my lifelong best friend. I wrote now so that I can distract myself on the actual day of your death. Seven years! Know what I miss most? The chance to share old age: the feet that hurt so in heels; the times wondering what you went to the kitchen for; even the grown up offspring who love us but leave us. You would have laughed at it all. And that would have been just dandy. Always in my memory, you Atoll Avenue battle buddy, Andrea
andrea Plate
May 17, 2018
From the heart of Maximus: "You would have been my fairy godmother."
Love,
Grandma Andrea
Maximus Pierce Keys
Andrea Plate
May 17, 2018
Six years later. We tell our children about their Nanny Pat, how she was a brave, smart, funny woman who loved her family. We miss you, Mom.
Erin Aakhus
May 16, 2018
Robert McDowell
May 17, 2017
Thinking of you as you turn 5 years old today...after crossing the river 5 years ago yesterday. I imagine you're having a grand time among your fellow Immortals. Your love & light still warm and illuminate our realm here. Is Sheriff John personally singing his birthday song to you today? Yes, that just be what I'm hearing...
May 15, 2016
Dear Patti,
Four years ago tomorrow.
Remember the time we ran about in a frenzy, at Coldwater Canyon Elementary School, because your mother was in labor? (with the youngest, I believe). I remember being in the "main office." They allowed you to use the phone: "She still hasn't had it????" you asked; the "secretary" (this was long ago, of course) smiled. We were in sixth grade. So hopeful and expectant.
Of course we never could have expected this...a fourth "anniversary" of this sort.
And I don't see why I will turn 64 soon (I think) and you will not. They call it survivor guilt.
Still, I will honor you on your birthday. I will remember your thick brunette braids and bangs flapping in the schoolyard wind; the great checked outfits made, I think, by your grandmother; and how we hid in the bathrooms at recess, reading, because we loved reading and, besides, no one wanted us on their teams.
Forever on your team, forever thinking of you and forever loving you, Andrea Plate
May 1, 2016
Isabelle's Mahogany Box
In Isabelle's mahogany box lies Hera.
Wrapped in pristine white tissue
For years now, half a life she has laid.
At her side rests Hermes both pressed by hand
Some 2000 years ago into molds,
A soft clay, of fine silt scooped from some pocket
laid down by ice melt of the late Pleistocene.
They were fired hard, red hot and not touched
by the luster of glaze or ground mineral for color.
Ordinary gray brown course votivos
Of a Greek household engulfed
In the volcanic dust of Vesuvius.
For a long time they slept in her veiled ash
visited only by the persistent roots of the lemon grove.
Pushing their probing tentacles into the rich black vomit
of Naples double coned mountain entombed
for so long in the dark moist silence.
A night two millenniums long until
the curious probing trained hands
swept back the dust with shovel and brush
to once again light their brown bodies with sun.
At their side lies the marble head of Venus
and a delicately rendered head of a Greek dancer
elegant but without a body to express its nature.
No movement of a hand, hair or feet to arouse the eyes
with opportunity to fall upon such beauty.
No longer hidden by Vesuvius's ash in their box
sleeping from time to time, wrapped and unwrapped
held by their admirers that when pressed
again by flesh awaken and transcend time
so that their brown course bodies awaken
and bring to life their makers.
It has been years since with them was put to rest
a wave of such silky beauty that mane
severed from the center of my life
which I by chance have rediscovered.
It is a voice that calls up her name
her sent and her desire to keep from death
something of her essence, electric, a soft pulse
that shocks the hand that lifts her from her sleep.
You in a rainy morning!
Norma Rosas Mayen
April 30, 2016
My dearest Patty,
One more year... Like the water that runs through the river, your memory is still in my daily prayers. Why? I don't know. I got up this morning, a rainy day, finding your smile in the the face of my flowers' garden. Too much love, norma
Eric P
April 28, 2016
Dear Patricia,
I did not know you in your life, but I found your novel The Voyage of Mael Duin's Curragh as I was finishing my thesis on the Lebor na hUidre. Your re-telling of this myth was a magical event for me, and I felt compelled to search you out. My heart broke when I learned that I was four years too late. As I read through this guest book and learned more about you from the entries left by your family and friends, and as I re-read your novel, I realized that I can meet some part of you each time we climb into that boat together. Thank you for the part of you which you shared in this story..."No, not angelical, but of the old gods, Who wander about the world to waken the proud heart that all the angels, Leaving nine heavens empty, would rock to sleep."
andrea Plate
May 17, 2015
And...the May 16, 2015 entry is from her lifelong LA-based friend. We used to hide in the bathrooms during physical education and read novels until we got caught. I am still reading like crazy and still hiding out with you.
Norma Rosas Mayen
May 17, 2015
My unforgettable spiritual friend,
Three years have passed since you take the eternal flight.... In spite of, you continue in my daily prayers every morning. I am sure that you are doing well, always taking care of your GREAT FAMILY and friends. Continue flaying around our hearts and giving us courage in difficult moments. In Mexico, we celebrate the Teacher Day on May 15, I seize the opportunity to wish a HAPPY TEACHER DAY! Thanks Patty for all that you have done for all the USI students... Your smile is still missing at LA. Too much a love!
May 16, 2015
May 16,three years later. I have gotten used to missing you. That is the difference. In place of yearning there is warm remembrance. I say this because I can never forget how I first learned of your illness---via an email---in which you profusely apologized for your own tragedy. You knew how hard it would be to live without you. And that concerned you. So rest, please, knowing that you are always honored, always loved, and that, as far as I can tell, the family you married and helped create is doing great justice to your memory.
May 19, 2014
Patty, thank you for your spiritual support even if you are in heaven...I know that you take care of all of your wonderful family and friends in a daily basis... I know this because your memory is a burning and eternal flame that is with me when a pray my daily rosary. ¡TE QUEREMOS Y EXTRAÑAMOS MUCHO!
May 17, 2014
It is the second anniversary of your death. I hold you close to my heart, forever.
May 17, 2014
It has been two years. Today would have been her 62nd birthday. I have not written anything here or anywhere about her since her death. There were no words to express how much her loss affected my life.
I do not believe in an afterlife. Before she died, we had talked about this. She said- in more elegant ways, I'm sure- that she did not believe death was the end, but that whatever comes next will "certainly be very different." Typical Mom.
There are times now that I speak to her directly, asking her opinion, which was always so valuable to me. I don't believe that she can hear me, but I know that if she could, she would be happy to listen.
Mom lived more intensely than anyone I have ever met. She found great beauty, tragedy, or intrigue in the smallest and most unimportant experiences. This often annoyed me while she was alive. But now that she is gone, I have realized how incredibly unique and special was her perception of the world. She was a magic mirror that reflected technicolor in place of a sometimes drab reality.
In re-reading this guestbook, it is clear that her vision helped and inspired those around her. Despite my ongoing grief, I am struck with the joyful truth of her existence. I am grateful that I was able to spend so many years basking in her warmth and creativity. She was my dearest and most patient friend. I miss her darkness and her light, her sharp wit, her childlike and tireless curiosity. There is no one who can comfort me or make me laugh as readily as she did.
Thank you to all of you who have shared your kind thoughts here. Thank you to Andrea for making this guestbook permanent. It has been a great comfort to me over the past two years, and I'm sure that it will continue to be in the years to come.
May 17, 2014
Patti,
It is now two years since your death. I still dream about you, and think about you. No one can take your place and I will never stop holding you close to me.
God Bless You!
Norma Rosas Mayen
May 19, 2013
Patti,
Pentecost is a Day in which everybody those on heaven and on earth become one in Spirit. I'm sure that you are full of happiness , peace and God's love. Continue being my daily prayer friend day after day, as you have been throughout the last year. Let us be glad and one in Spirit. Continue taking care of your beautiful family and of all us yours friends forever. ¡TE AMO!
May 18, 2013
As I wrote to Michael recently, I will always remember she of the long dark braids, loving strength and marvelously unyielding sense of irony about life...After a cocktail waitressing stint at Benihana's many decades ago we had a late Mexican dinner and laughed uncontrollably...stone sober...I told her that my father thought cocktail waitressing was "one step away from being a prostitute and Patti responded, "Yes, but you don't have to take that step!" No wonder she got into the highschool/UCLA program and I did not! I know that Professor Michael Warren, Janis Winogradsky and Kathy Bundock, all of whom of course remember Patti from the early years, were also moved by both her memory and her passing. Patti, it is not the same without you---just as it was enormously different with you. Forever missed and loved.
Robert McDowell
May 17, 2013
Happy Birthday among the angels and saints. Oh, the magic you know now! Blessings & love to you always.
"The innocent and the beautiful have no memory but time./Arise and bid me strike a match, and strike another till time catch." --William Butler Yeats
Robert McDowell
May 17, 2013
On this first anniversary, thank you, dear Andrea, for sustaining this gathering place for those who knew and loved her.
Jared Dwyer
August 20, 2012
Learning when Patty had passed on it was almost as if I had lost a dear friend. As an INST student, she was my adviser; and not just academically. As nervous as I was to ask her to write a letter of reference to graduate school for me, she was more willing to do so and incredibly supportive of my efforts.
From all of her students past, she will always be with us. With Patty, there has never been a former student. Only those who could no longer attend her classes.
Leslie Roberts
June 20, 2012
June: Patti my friend and sister - Alfie the whippet and I felt you with us in the Belchamp Walter Church with the medieval wall mural of Mary feeding the babe, the mural you loved when you were last here with us. We sang the kaddish for you and some Fauré. We love you. Leslie
Love to Halvor, Erin and Michael
Diana Faraone
June 12, 2012
I learned on May 18 that she had lost the battle and am comforted to find this guest book. Andrea, if you could be in touch, perhaps we can have a Los Angeles area memorial of sorts because I am in touch with David K, Murray S, & Lauren. If anyone knows of memorials planned (anywhere), please email me. Patty and I met in 7th grade and were best friends for all of jr and sr high, and yes, she was like a sister, a surely a soulmate. I've never had a closer friend since. Alas, geography got the better of us. Fortunately, we were back in touch a year before the diagnosis, but it all happened so fast. My heart still breaks and tears fall. I, too, will miss you forever and ever. My heart goes out to Michael, Halvor, Erin and all of the family.
Patty and her terrific children, 1994 (I think)
Diane Lefer
May 28, 2012
Patty, you were sheer magic. I loved you during the time we shared at Vermont College and treasured my visit with you and your family at the home I could only describe as an enchanted cottage. Thank you for gracing us with your life.
Jay and Cecelia Fredrich
May 26, 2012
We have been away and just learned today (May 26) of Patty's passing to her eternal reward. We will always remember her as a joyful fellow teacher and traveler. May her soul rest in peace.
Lysa McDowell
May 26, 2012
I met Patty as she waited for Halvor to be born. Then Erin. I painted in Michael's studio. I am deeply grateful to Patty and Michael. Thank you Patty for the compass that pointed me to Robert, Dylan, Eoghan and Jane. I cling to them and thank you for the great lesson about letting go so gracefully. When I met you Patty, the river of my life jumped its banks and set a new course. Peace be with you.
May 24, 2012
Patty, you were perhaps my favorite student ever: the best kind, from whom the supposed teacher learns as much as his or her protegé. Thank you for our lovely correspondence, for the Balinese msk that hangs in our kitchen, for the excitement of your work, and for all the laughter.
With profoundest love,
Sydney Lea
Amy Ramsden Pizzolatto
May 23, 2012
I met Patty over 15 years ago as a student at USI. She inspired me to take chances and to be adventurous, to live passionately and truthfully, and reminded me that sometimes life gets messy and complicated along the way... She was truly a remarkable and lovely person, and I feel so lucky to have met her when I did.
May 23, 2012
I am so sorry to hear of your family's loss. May your family take refuge and find strength with God who is readily to be found. Psalms 46:1
May 22, 2012
To the Family-
“May the Lord of peace himself give you peace constantly in every way. The Lord be with all
of you.” -- 2 Thessalonians 3:16
Robert McDowell
May 22, 2012
Bless you, dear Fellow Traveler, as you cross over to the world next to this one. You have found the sacred well. You were the perfect alchemist. Thank you for the many journeys we shared, for the lifelong friendship and love. You were rare.
Todd Wilson
May 22, 2012
Dear Michael and family,
My sincere condolences on the loss of Patty. While I didn't know her well, the times I had the chance to talk with her, Patty made an immediate positive impression -- obviously intelligent and accomplished, but also kind and interested in others.
May 22, 2012
Dear Michael and family,
As the Director of the MFA in Writing Program at Vermont College I knew Patty during her years with us and for a while after as we stayed in touch. I will remember her always for her lovely spirit and dedication and joy in her work. She will be missed by all of us who were touched by her in those glorious years. I send you my deepest sympathy on behalf of the program and wish you some measure of peace via the cherished memories you have of her.
Louise Crowley, Montpelier, Vermont
Lisa Lenard-Cook
May 21, 2012
Dear Michael, Halvor, & Erin,
I am so sorry for your loss--for all of ours. Patty was surely one of the most dynamic women I ever had the privilege to call friend, & our times together at Vermont College (& that weekend in Sedona) are ones I still cherish. It is hard to imagine a world without her. Sending you much love.
Deborah Ball
May 21, 2012
Dearest Michael and family,
I wish for you strength, courage, and love during this time. I will always remember Patty and how she encouraged me to follow my passion in clay... such a beautiful, sweet, spirit.
Norma Rosas Mayen
May 21, 2012
To My Prayer Companion,
Lord, be Patty's guide and protector
on her journey towards You.
May Patty find in Your presence,
light, happiness and peace.
I hold Patty's hands in an eternal prayer.
Jill Kinkade
May 21, 2012
Peace be with you Michael, Halvor, Erin, (and friends, family, colleagues, students) at this time of great grief. We will miss Patty very much--what a woman! What an AMAZING WOMAN. Peace, peace, peace,
Betty Hart
May 21, 2012
This lovely flower fell to seed;
Work gently, sun and rain;
She held it as her dying creed
That she would grow again.
"To My Grandmother," Countee Cullen
I will miss my friend and colleague.
Betsy Passmore
May 21, 2012
I feel blessed to have worked and lived for a time in the orbit of this magical, vibrant, creative woman. Her passing creates a rent in the fabric of the world. My love and prayers to all her loved ones.
Jill Baker
May 21, 2012
I will treasure Patty's memory and the impression of her as a gifted, imaginative and artistic person. Her creativity inspired others, including myself. I send my warmest sympathy to those close to her who I know will deeply miss her.
Emily Synowiec
May 21, 2012
I always admired Patty's one-of-a-kind beauty and style. I am honored to have been Patty's student and colleague. Knowing such an extraordinary lady has been a blessing! Patty will be missed, but will always be an inspiration.
Marybeth Rush
May 21, 2012
USI has lost a wonderful person. Patty was awesome. Remember the great times you had with her.
prayers for the famly.
MaryBeth Rush
USI Bookstore
Kevin Allton
May 21, 2012
A woman of valor, who can find? Far beyond pearls is her value.
Her husband's heart trusts in her and he shall lack no fortune.
She repays his good, but never his harm, all the days of her life.
She seeks out wool and linen, and her hands work willingly,
She is like a merchant's ships; from afar she brings her sustenance.
She rises while it is still nighttime, and gives food to her household and a ration to her maids.
She considers a field and buys it; from the fruit of her handiwork she plants a vineyard.
She girds her loins with might and strengthens her arms.
She senses that her enterprise is good, so her lamp is not extinguished at night.
Allen Helmstetter
May 21, 2012
It was a privilege to know and work with Patty in the Center for Interdisciplinary Studies and the humanities program at USI. She had such a passion for knowledge combined with love and concern for students and colleagues. I will miss her warmth and wisdom.
wes bowers
May 21, 2012
Prof. AAhaus. Saddened reading of the death of your wife. She was a vibrant personality. An Auntie Mame.
Amy Musia
May 21, 2012
Her light can be seen in the many lives she touched and embraced. Her wisdom lives in the words she gave to enrich lives. Her spirit moves about her animal kindred whom she cared for and made part of her life and family. Her soul is now forging ahead within a new realm....excited with this new wonder!
Brenda McDowell
May 20, 2012
Aunt Pat was One of a kind; so full of life and knowledge. Just being in her presence made you feel more adventurous. She will be greatly missed, but always remembered.
The Walkers
May 20, 2012
Life takes us on many journeys, most of which we have not planned out. Patti has made her mark on the world and is now on to another journey. To the family we send our most heart-felt sympathy.
Bill Leth
May 20, 2012
My Deepest and most Loving sympathies to Michael, Halvor and Erin. Patti was a dear friend during my time at USI and will be remembered fondly and lovingly for those beautiful times. She will be missed. Michael and children my heart and thoughts go out to you!
Andrea Plate
May 20, 2012
I have known Patti longer than anyone, besides my parents. We met in first grade and remained soulmates, if not always up-to-date friends, for our 59 years. She was my heart, my history, and the sister I never had. She was also one of the most brilliant persons I have ever met. Sadly, all of this is true. She had the same birthday as my husband of 32 years and I see that she died the day before her birthday. Our only consolation is that she lived with such passion, gusto and conviction that it was actually more life than many of us will ever know. I love you, Patti, and I will miss you forever.
Jake Kohlmeyer
May 20, 2012
Patty was truly one of a kind. When I entered mythology class, I was a bit overwhelmed, but it turned out to be one of my favorite classes all because of her. Her passions were evident in her teaching, and I'm ever so thankful for knowing her, if only for a brief while.
Barbara McDowell Campbell
May 20, 2012
What a beautiful life taken too soon heaven is rejoycing at your arrival as we weap here on this earth. Your life was so full and many will miss you. God spead and blessings to you and yours.
Robin Wright
May 20, 2012
I hope Patty's family will find comfort in the love and memories Patty left. I knew her as a teacher, and her words of encouragement continue to inspire me.
May 20, 2012
Patty was one of the most interesting, strong, kind, beautiful women I've ever had the good fortune to know. She inspired me, and my daughter Hannah, and we loved her deeply. Our hearts are with her family who will surely feel the immeasurable loss of her light. Leisa Belleau
May 20, 2012
In memory of a Woman & Mother who loved Life and lived it to its fullest. She created "Memories" that will never pass away.
From all of The Kula's (FL.TN. & WA)
Mary H
May 20, 2012
Patty can now begin a new journey as she travels the heavens.. Sadly she was taken to begin this new journey too soon. Enjoy your new adventures Patty, for some day you will be reunited with your family and pets, and will have many stories to tell..
Jinx Halburnt Hooper
May 20, 2012
Patty was a truly an inspiration to her students and to me... My thoughts and prayers are with the entire Aakhus family.
May 20, 2012
To the Family-
“May the Lord of peace himself give you peace constantly in every way. The Lord be with all
of you.” -- 2 Thessalonians 3:16
Evon Hawkins
May 20, 2012
Patty was one of the most beautiful people I have ever met, inside and out. She welcomed me to the USI faculty with open arms and was always, always there to listen, or just to chat in the mailroom. Pam is right: Our community will never be the same without her, but I am so thankful for the time we had with her. Blessed be you and yours, Patty.
MT Morris
May 20, 2012
Some of my best memories are from traveling through Peru with Patty and her family. She always made me smile.
Pam Moore
May 20, 2012
This is a beautiful and most fitting tribute to a truly beautiful person and friend. She lived an extrodinairy life and filled it with her passions. USI, especially Liberal Arts, will never be the same without her.
May 20, 2012
Patty was a truly remarkable woman and I am privileged to have known her..
J. Wayne Rinks (USI)
Jessie Hellmann
May 20, 2012
I never had the pleasure of meeting Patricia but from what I have heard, she was a wonderful woman. My deepest sympathies to her family and those who knew her.
Marla
May 20, 2012
Patty,
You will be missed and cherished by many. May you rest in peace that passeth all understanding. Michael, Erin, and Halvor, May you continue on and find comfort in this journey of a new normal holding onto the sweet memories of Patty's amazing life.
LennyandAnne Dowhie
May 20, 2012
With saddness and fond memories of volleyball parties, cookouts and general mayhem in the early days of our tenure at USI (ISUE), we offer our thoughts to Patti and her family. Patti had a wry sense of humor, often joining in the fun with a twinkle and a wink. She will be missed by her many friends here and around the globe.
Julie Armstrong
May 19, 2012
My prayers have been with you as you journied into this land of death and now healing in the after life. Letting go of those we love is diffiuclt on both sides. those sides being those who remain behind in this life and htose who must journey on before us. May God be with your family and thankfullenss for the blessing that Patty was to you.
Thinking of you and understanding as I lost my first husband to the hideous disease of cancer.
Julie Turner Armstrong
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