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Thomas RAY Obituary

KITTY HAWK, N.C. - Tom Ray, 78, of Kitty Hawk, has run his last race. He hailed from West Virginia and called Kitty Hawk home.
He is survived by his wife, Julia of the home; son, Patrick, and his wife, Barbara, of Hampton; and daughter, Jennifer; brothers and sisters, Lucille "Boots" Lambert, Martha Bevins, Rea Ann Shultz, Jesse Ray, Naomi Causey, Carol Williams and Thurman Ray; two granddaughters and one great-granddaughter.
He was preceded in death by his oldest daughter, Cathy.
Tom retired from civil service at Fort Monroe where he worked after Langley. He dedicated himself to helping others through alcoholism counseling and family support. He retired from active duty in the Air Force as a Chief Master Sergeant. He also worked for the Division of Alcoholism Services for a number of years. He earned degrees from St. Leo College and Hampton University and completed advanced studies at Indiana University.
Tom is known throughout the Peninsula as a runner who not only strived to compete in the thousands of races he entered but to encourage and motivate countless other runners and would-be runners, as well as volunteer whenever possible. He was very active in the Colonial Road Runners, The Peninsula Track Club as well as a member of the Outer Banks Running Club. He was inducted into the Hall of Fame for the Peninsula running clubs in 2007 for his lifetime accomplishments running.
In lieu of flowers, donations to the Duck Church Disaster Relief Fund or the Sign Fund (PO Box 8010, Duck NC 27949) in his honor are preferred.
A Celebration of his Life will be held at 2 p.m. Sunday, June 12, 2011, at Weymouth Funeral Home, Newport News, Va. View and post condolences on our online guestbook at dailypress.com/guestbooks.

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Published by Daily Press from Jun. 11 to Jun. 12, 2011.

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Massimiliano Bogge & Marco Maspoli

June 16, 2011

We will always keep in our minds and hearts Tom's joy of living, kindness, hospitality and the true friendship he showed us. During our stay in the US, Tom welcomed us in his house and was our guide through the beauties of Kitty Hawk and the Outer Banks; we spent an unforgettable weekend at his place and we'll always save the memory of this very friend of ours.

Our prayers and thoughts go to his family and loved ones.

Marco Gherlone

June 14, 2011

We will always think of Tom as a young running man, kind to everybody and full of joy. We will never forget him driving us through the Appalachian Mountains and showing us the Kitty Hawk Memorial. Our prayers go to his family. (Marco Gherlone, Massimiliano Mattone, Torino, ITALY)

William Knox

June 14, 2011

I am sorry to hear about your Father passing. May God bless him and your family.
William L. Knox

Bruce Sims

June 13, 2011

Pat: I will always remember Tom for the friendship & support he gave me when we first met in 1975 & thru our years working together at PAS. My condolences to you & all of his family.

Leone Harrison

June 13, 2011

Tom was always a friendly person to see and run with at the races. I have many fond memories of the different races run on the Peninsula.He loved to run.Many years ago, I was his partner in one of the couple race with the PTC. We did not win an award , the competition was though in our age group, but he was very happy about that race.
My condolences to his family.

Phyllis Flanders

June 13, 2011

My life changed the day Tom asked me to volunteer at Social Actions at Langley AFB in 1976. Supervisor, friend, mentor, confidant - he was all of these things to me. I will miss knowing that he is in this world - Julia you are the best thing that ever happened to him and your love for him allowed him to continue to love and help his friends. Peace.

June 12, 2011

Pat,

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your father. I never had the chance to know him but I know he raised a terrific son. Our hearts and prayers go to you and your entire family at this time of such a great loss.

Chris and Kevin Gallagher

Marlyn Shugrue

June 12, 2011

Tom was a great boss, co-worker and friend. He was warm, caring and generous, doing all he could to help soldiers transition from the Army. Our thoughts and prayers are with the Ray family. Tom will be sorely missed.

Gary Pruitt

June 12, 2011

Tom was a co-worker, mentor, sponsor and a great family friend. May he rest in peace. Our thoughts and prayers are with the family

Quincy Daniel

June 11, 2011

On behalf of the City of Hampton Public Works Drainage Division we would like to extend our sincere condolences to the Ray family. May our thoughts and prayers be with the Ray family during your time of bereavement.

Rita Sheppard

June 11, 2011

Tom was a warm and generous man with a zest for life and running. He was a good friend to our family and will be greatly missed.

FRED PEET

June 11, 2011

TOM. our W VA heritage and AND PEACEFAA guaranteed a friendship that locked in almost immediately in 1977 at a meeting. I COULD SEE THEN YOUR SOBRIETY AND PEACE WERE REAL YOU TAUGHT ME THRU THE YEARS GUIDING AND SHARING. GOD BLESS RIP FRED P

John and Donna Westemeyer

June 11, 2011

Our thoughts and love are with you at this time. Ray ran a fine race through his whole life and we were happy to be a part of his journey. We will miss him and we will miss hearing about what his latest awards were for his running.
Our reward was his stories, laughter and generous heart. Love, John and Donna

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