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Thomas Cray Obituary
Rochester: Passed at home at the age of 67 on the 10th of November, 2017. He is preceded in death by his father Gerald Anthony Cray. Tom is survived by his mother, Adeline (Francis) Moracco, daughter Lindsay Cray, her mother Jean and son-in-law Nicholas Brown, sister Debra Cray-Sloane, brother Steven (Carma) Cray and several nieces and nephews. Special Friends; Bill, Lori V, Mary and Katie S. and many more.
Tom was born on the 17th of January, 1950 in Lyons, NY. A graduate of Newark High School, he entered into the Naval branch of the military, serving two tours in the Vietnam War between 1969 and 1973. After returning home, he began his crusade for veterans with the Veterans Outreach Center where he continued ceaselessly for the next 40 years. Tom's contributions went beyond his immediate community; Tom knew great devotions and spent himself in a worthy cause in his lifelong service to his country and it's veterans.
Calling hours will be held on Wednesday 4-8 PM at Falvo's Funeral Home, 1295 Fairport Nine Mile Point Road, Webster, NY.
A celebration of Tom's life will be held on the 18th of November at Monroe Community College Theater at 11:00 am with a reception immediately to follow. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Tom's name to the Coyote Veteran Wilderness Rehabilitation program at www.earthworksinst.org.
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Ed Murphy
November 16, 2017
With gratitude for your life, friendship, service and dedication to veterans. Tom, you were a pioneer in this country. I still hear your laugh and feel the force of your advocacy. With love, Ed Murphy .
Dave Maddalena
November 15, 2017
I was lucky enough to coach and play with Tom during his short softball career. Great teammate, highly competitive and high energy individual. We had many great tournament successes always supported through his determination to achieve victory. Many laughs over those early years. His positive characteristics I am sure helped Tom to achieve success with the Veteran Outreach program. Good friend RIP.
Phyllis Dann
November 14, 2017
I worked with Tom at Veteran Outreach Center in 1988 and 1990 and admired him a great deal. I am sadenied by his death. I wished I had been able to see him before he died. Blessings to his family and friends.
Phyllis Dann
Lori (Perri )Carder
November 14, 2017
My heart goes out to all of you. It has been years since I have seen any of you but my thoughts and prayers are with you always.
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Jane Stets
November 13, 2017
That smile, those gentle eyes, the shining soul. Angels sing now that you are in heaven. Thank you for your service. Thank God for your life. Wishing you could have stayed longer, but I really now know your heart did not simply stop, but that you had finally given everything you had to the world. May God bless you Tom.
Steve Becht
November 13, 2017
I have fond memories of Tom and the greatest work crew in Shakey's history with Cliff, Zip and Murph. Tom had a good heart and we are honored to have known him.
November 13, 2017
Rest in peace my dear friend. You have provided light in the darkness. Thank you for your service.
With much love,
Gail Van Auker
David Memmel
November 13, 2017
I first met Tom while attending MCC in 1974. Tom was the Editor of the Monroe Doctrine the school newspaper. I began writing sports and saw Tom as a calm and natural leader that was funny, warm and a take charge guy. He cared about people and wanted to do things the right way all the time. People like Tom are treasures to have in your life. i am glad i knew him and will pray that he is now at peace and will be watching over his loved ones.
Steve Stanton
November 13, 2017
A better man for the cause of supporting veterans could not have been found....thank you Tommy.
Connie Converse
November 13, 2017
He fulfilled his purpose and completed the mission. A remarkable man with courage and fortitude; his heart towards others had no boundaries. Lives were transformed and opportunities were created under his leadership
We are grateful for his service towards others.
Nick DeLeo
November 13, 2017
Thank you Tom for recognizing the need to provide counseling services for your fellow Vietnam veterans and providing dedicated service for over 40 years.
Nick & Donna DeLeo
John and Mary DeMeyers
November 12, 2017
RIP Tom, you will be missed very much!
Mike and Julie Chamberlin
November 12, 2017
Forever in our hearts. Your smile and your laughter will fill our hearts. Your selfless drive fills our souls. Until we meet again.
Vivian Phillips.Plank
November 12, 2017
A question all of us have....what is our purpose in life? Tom found his and did a wonderful job of it. Be proud of him.
Gail Safford
November 12, 2017
For Tom.....this candle burns like the "drive" in your heart and soul!
John McCormick
November 12, 2017
Rest in peace Tom, A true champion for the men and women vets after the Viet Nam war, I thank you for all you've done for me when so many others turned their heads in a different direction. You will never be forgotten. God speed on your journey home and may God bless you.
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