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Yamille Issa
December 27, 2024
Joan was a very fine lady with lots of class . She is sorely missed .
FR. PHILIP PARHAM
January 14, 2011
MEMORIAL SERMON FOR JOAN HELENA QUARM
Father A. Philip Parham, Rector, St. Alban’s Episcopal Parish
Saturday, January 15, 2011
This is a bitter-sweet time. Bitter tears. Sweet Gratitude. A bitter loss to suffer. A sweet life to celebrate.
Some losses are huge, heart-rending and leave deep wounds that stagger us. Such is the loss of Joan. The pain is mostly the pain of her absence. We rejoice that she suffers no longer. Our pain is comforted by the real presence of Christ, our healer, to whom we turn for consolation – beseeching him to fill the emptiness, lessen the loneliness and heal the hurt. Joan is sorely missed and will continue to be. Her departure has left a big hole – which we believe God in Christ will fill.
Yet we also have a life to celebrate. Some lives leave enormous blessings. Joan’s life provided many. Moments to savor. Memories to cherish. Her life was significant, worthwhile, important and is due the tribute we pay her this morning at this memorial mass and again this afternoon. She was such an exceptional lady. A wise woman of intellect and deep spirituality – she served her beloved St. Alban’s as a vestry leader, lay reader and devoted parishioner, who was always here to worship her Lord as long she could. Everyone who knew her knew she was devotee of music and the arts. She was a teacher and mentor to so many. We thank God for her long life among us. We are better for her time with us. I am so grateful to have had her as a friend.
So, we mourn a great loss. Yet we celebrate a great life. May today reflect the reality of both: the loss and the life. The best blessings are in the hearts and minds of her family and friends here today. Our choir, our priests, our readers, acolytes and worshippers offer this tribute to God and to Joan. Before we sing, pray and commune with the body of Christ the bread of heaven and in his cup of salvation, others have a word or two to share. May we hear them now? Amen.
Nicole Geissal (DuMond)
January 14, 2011
I had the rare honor of performing with Joan in four shows. She was billiant, funny and kind. I will never forget her. My condolences to her family and close friends. You will always be my one and only Madame, Ducky! I love you.
James Ruby
January 8, 2011
I knew Joan from St Alban's Episcopal Church, where she graced our Sunday Mass with her beautiful reading of the Old Testament lessons. Her love of the Church and the Sacraments was an example and inspiration to all of us her fellow parishioners. May she now rest in peace.
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Elizabeth Marshall-Archut
January 5, 2011
It was an honor to know Joan. In 1998 I became a part of the Gillbert and Sullivan company, and we got along famously. I remember her strong wit, her jokes, her laugh, she was an amazing woman, and I am honored to have had her in my life, even though it was for a short time. She has always had a special place in my heart. My condolences to all the Quarm family and friends. God bless each and everyone of you.
Chuck Etheridge
January 5, 2011
I knew Joan my whole life--as a friend of the family, as a professor, as a director, and as a friend. Her warmth made me want to learn, her encouragement made me want to try, and her keen intellect made me want to develop my brain. Not mentioned in her obit was the fact that she was the only critic ever to achieve certification in theatre, music, and dance.
We literally will never see her like again. Vaya con dios, mi buen amiga.
Michael R. Villalobos
January 5, 2011
What I remember best about Joan is her brilliant intellect and rapier wit. When she displayed them in tandem she was hilariously funny. Her recollections of life in London during the Blitz were powerfully riveting. Her willingness to take in strays of every stripe proved very fortunate for this writer. She is loved and will be missed.
Diane Marie Ellis
January 3, 2011
My deepest condolences to the Quarm family. I had the privilege and opportunity to work with Joan in the G&S productions of the Mikado and Pirates of Penzance. I learned so much from her. She was articulate and passionate. She will be very much missed.
wayne thornton
January 3, 2011
I had Joan Quarm in college at UTEP back in the glorious 1970's and she was so full of vigor and life it made you want to learn, and even more so not to let her down.
Even after graduating she was a woman I admired from a far for laughter and charisma and I wish I had spent more time with her as she made all those around her lead a more fuller life.
Thank you Miss Quarm, reading Shakespere will never be the same.
I miss you already.
wayne thornton
January 3, 2011
I had Joan Quarm in college at UTEP and she was so full of vigor and life it made you want to learn, and even more so not to let her down.
Even after graduating she was a woman I admired from a far for her laughter and charisma. I wish I had spent more time with her as she made all those around her lead a more fuller life.
Thank you Miss Quarm, reading Shakespere will never be the same.
I miss you already.
Desiree & Don Long
January 3, 2011
We have had the privilege to know Joan for the last approximately 15 years and worked with her in the G&S Company for the last 10. She was a great lady and she will sorely be missed. It was a privilege and an honor to have gotten to work with her. She really touched our lives in a big way, Thank you and Goodbye Joan, We Loved you
Bob Jensen
January 3, 2011
My condolences to the family. I met Joan in 1992 when she directed the "Pirates of Penzance". It was my first show. She helped me a lot. She did a lot for El Paso in her life. Thanks, Joan!
Daniel Sass
January 3, 2011
A loss for the city and its people - mourned for her continuing belief in and life-long work for those same people, as well as many others world-wide.
Cynthia Bostick
January 3, 2011
My condolences to the Quarm family; the loss to El Paso is irreplaceable.
January 2, 2011
Miss Quarm, you will be sorely missed !! You live forever in our hearts. I, too, thank you for the memories. I had a lot of fun.
Milly Issa Nabhan
James Ezell
January 2, 2011
I was honored to have known Joan Quarm many years ago. In the early '60s, I was active in the theatre scene in El Paso. At Texas Western College (now UTEP), and in a charming little venue that I helped inaugurate called The Theatre located on Oregon Street as I recall, Joan was always a welcome presence -- to befriend, to respect, and to review. In fact, until recently I kept copies of several of her opening night reviews of shows in which I appeared. She was an intelligent and witty lady of imposing countenance and dignity, always nice to me in person and on the page. I had not seen her for many more than 40 years, but I've never forgotten her.
To her family: I am so very sorry for your loss.
Doug Meyers
January 2, 2011
Having Joan Quarm as my colleague in the UTEP English Department was a total joy. Her wit, intelligence, and kindness were unfailing, and her reputation as an excellent instructor lives on in the thousands of students she inspired. What a life!
Lori Zavala
January 2, 2011
I had the pleasure of meeting Ms Joan about 6 years ago as she voluntered in the Medical Records Dept at Hospice El Paso. We always enjoyed hearing her stories of her many travels and looked forward to her coming in every Friday morning. I also enjoyed her speaking of her family as i drove her home on Fridays. On behelf of the Medical Records Staff, we will miss you Ms Joan.
John Scott, M.D.
January 2, 2011
A life long friend to the Quarms since childhood, I have always considered this most charming and elegant woman family. Memories of her politely running me off from the family refrigerator still bring a smile to my face. Such an endearing lady!
Nicholas M Quarm
January 2, 2011
As one of the only members of her Family residing in England, I was devastated that I never got to say goodbye to my Grandmother.
I am delighted to be associated with her, and to be mentioned above. She was the Jewel of the US, and I miss her terribly.
Pat Thompson
January 2, 2011
A grand "dame" of the Southwest, a wonderful teacher and a classy lady. A former student says thanks.
Will Brown
January 2, 2011
El Paso has lost a genuine treasure. Heaven now has another great director, producer and actress supreme. My condolences to the Quarm family and my thanks for the great memories.
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