Doris Jean Bump Dillingham was born July 30, 1928 in Bluejacket, Ok. She was the daughter of Russell Orr Bump, a farmer and Lorena Mae (Wallis) Bump, a housewife. She was the first of four children followed by Colleen, Sue, and Ron. She graduated as salutatorian of her high school class at the age of 16. She moved to the "big city" of Bartlesville to find work and to attend business school.
It was in Bartlesville that she met her future husband, J. R. Dillingham, 14 years her senior, on a blind date. They married January 21, 1949 when she was 20 years of age. Doris Jean started work at Phillips Petroleum in the gasoline department but worked her way up to a legal secretary position, the only secretary in the legal department who could manage the workload of three attorneys. She retired early at the age of 55 from Phillips on August 1, 1983, having worked there 34 years. She filled her retirement years with babysitting her grandchild Ryan, volunteering at her church, the Salvation Army and Meals on Wheels.
Doris Jean had a genuine curiosity in and attentiveness to whatever you were doing; was a loving and caring parent, grandparent, great-grandparent, sister and aunt; and a kind soul who always believed the best in people. Strangers were treated as friends after just a few minutes, neighbors were welcomed into her home as family, and friends were members of her family for life.
Doris Jean is predeceased by her mother and father; her husband J. R., who died just weeks after they celebrated their 46th wedding anniversary; and her brother-in-law Zonnie Vanover.
She is survived by her siblings Colleen Vanover, Sue Rascoe (Bailey), and Ron Bump (Sharon); daughter Jeanne Gillert (Tom); grandchildren Michael Gillert (Tammy), Katie Chapman (Ryan), and Ryan Clements (Olivia); great-grandchildren Hannah Guzman, Daxton Chapman, Cody Chapman, Gracie Gillert, Avery Clements; and 22 nieces and nephews and their families.
Visitation will be from 5-7 p.m. on April 25, 2014 at the Leonard & Marker Funeral Home in Bixby. Services are planned for April 26, 2014 @ 10:00 a.m. at First United Methodist Church in Bixby. Please do not wear black to her services as she would like you to celebrate her life not mourn her death.
Doris Jean was a very generous woman in her lifetime in both time and money, giving a substantial portion of her income each year to charity. The family would ask, in lieu of flowers, that you would consider giving a donation to Oklahoma Methodist Manor for purchase of a lift (or other similar assistive device), or Youth Services of Tulsa to their Street Outreach program for homeless youth, or Salvation Army of Tulsa to their Center of Hope, or Meals on Wheels of Tulsa or First United Methodist Church of Bixby for their Youth program.
In her own words, "The churches I have been involved with over my life, the people I have known both in and out of them, have contributed so much to my life and the joy I have experienced. This has been my heaven on earth, and I want to thank so many loving and caring people."