BARRABEE, Brian F.
Brian Barrabee, 77, of Portland, CT died peacefully at home on May 23, 2013, surrounded by the love of his family. Brian was born on Dec. 7, 1935 in Manhattan. After spending his early years in New York, he moved to Hartford, where he graduated from Weaver High School in 1953. He attended the University of Connecticut graduating in 1957 with his degree in business. It was at UConn that he met Loretta Gaston. Brian and Loretta were married in 1958. They moved to Brooklyn where Brian began his career on Wall Street and they started their family. They moved back to Connecticut in 1964 settling in Simsbury in 1968 where they raised their family and actively participated in the community for over 30 years. In 2000 they left Simsbury moving to Glastonbury and then settling in Portland where they have lived since 2005. Brian was a self-made man who worked hard his entire life only just recently retiring in 2012. He loved running his insurance brokerage Diversified Individual Brokerage and enjoyed the camaraderie of his employees, business associates and clients. The last 25 years of his career he worked with his wife Loretta by his side. Brian also played hard. An avid golfer, racquetball and tennis player, he enjoyed competing in tournaments. He was a devoted follower of UConn basketball and imbiber of Dunkin Donuts coffee. Brian was blessed with many lifelong friends from childhood, college, and business, as well as the friendship of wonderful neighbors from Simsbury and Portland. He enjoyed an active life until the last year when his illness sidelined him. During that time he adapted surprisingly well and was appreciative of frequent visits from family and friends, most recently June and Jerry Lynne of Arizona and Bobbie and Alan Eisenstock from Los Angeles. He also was under the constant care of his devoted wife Loretta and caregiver Alison. Brian is survived by his wife of 55 years Loretta; and his children Lorraine Barrabee and her husband Alan Schwartz Ocio of San Francisco, CA, Linda Barrabee of Cambridge, MA and her partner Roger Sumner, and Diane Muller and her husband Chris of Boulder, CO. He is also survived by his grandsons, Ben Schwartz Ocio and Nathan Muller whom he adored and cherised his time with.
A celebration of Brian's life will be held this summer. In lieu of flowers donations can be made in Brian's name to the The UConn Athletics Development Fund.
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susan Goldman
May 21, 2020
So many years pass the memories and images follow Brian and then Loretta through their years as lovers, friends, partners and of course parents. When you have memories Brian still is with those who loved him, captured in a small, forever portion of your mind and heart: this can never be forgotten. That he was so cherished is a gift that like sunrise, sunset, goes on as long as we do.
susan Goldman
May 20, 2019
what is time? what is memory? six years of 12 months, each year passes. Memory is what keeps those we love in front of the eyes of the heart. We cry still because we always will, but we smile and laugh as well. that is why memory has arms that stretch out to hold us closely. Brian will never ever not be a part of our lives, he is now like music we hear if we can catch and hold it. With love to Loretta and the rest of all our family now with so many names. We all remember, how not.
June 25, 2013
Loretta and family, I was truly shocked to hear of Brian's Brian's passing. He was such a wonderful man and I am honored to have known and worked with him. I know he will be missed by the many. I will keep you and your family in my prayers as you move on through your lives without him.
Much love and condolences,
Kathy and John Harris
James Eisenhaure
June 4, 2013
Dear Barrabee Family,
My sincerest sympathy on your loss. What a wonderful man whose work ethic and love of family left an indelible imprint on me and anyone with whom he connected. Fondly,
Judy Kerrigan
June 4, 2013
Loretta & family
My deepest condolences. I've worked with you both professionally for many years and am sincerely sorry for your loss.
Brown & Brown Ins, formerly McCutcheon Burr & Sons
June 1, 2013
Dear Loretta and family, I have fond memories of Brian and you at Susan's house on Cornwall Street in Hartford and with Esther. I am so sorry for your great loss. My deepest condolences to you. Sharona Resnick-Kravitz
Susan Goldman
May 31, 2013
Dearest Loretta,
the time that you and Brian spent in my life, and earlier with your parents, I will cherish forever. Small glimmers of his illness were given me and as the burden became greater upon you, your deep love for Brian touched everyone who was aware, and strengthened all of us, even at distance. . Your devotion and loss are comforted by all your family.
I hope it not inappropriate to share my early adventures with Brian, who came to live my my family when I a toddler. My only memories are of his pushing my stroller in Keney Park, playing on the swings, and visiting Grandma and Grandpa Barrabee. Later, he became my knight in shining armour, my very own Steve McQueen before there was one. And he will always remain that for me. Time and circumstance did not afford such strong ties as my sister Barbara, who had the privilege of sharing their lives. It was enough for me to know his life was full and fulfilled. And with Loretta, how could you dobt that.
May 30, 2013
Loretta,
So many memories. My deepest condolences to you and the girls. He'll be missed.
Much love,
Arthur Goldman
Jennifer Surowiec Edman
May 28, 2013
Loretta, I was deeply saddened to learn of Brian's passing. He was a larger than life man and his easy going spirit and generosity will be well remembered. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I hope that your lifetime of no doubt colorful memories will help you to keep smiling. My deepest sympathies.
May 27, 2013
Loretta & family,
My deepest & most heartfelt regrets to you all, and may Brian rest in eternal peace forever & may G-D bless his soul.
Naftali(Noel) Sigal
Herzylia, Israel
Alison Folland
May 27, 2013
To the lovely family Brian leaves behind, you are so much stronger than you ever knew. Brian and all of you will stay with me forever. Love never dies. Blessings, courage and faith to all of you. I love you.
Joan Izzi
May 26, 2013
Dear Loretta and family,
I'm so sorry to hear of Brian's passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Esperanza Pérez
May 26, 2013
Dear Loretta and family:
We are very sorry to learn of Brian's passing. The great memories you have of him will stay with you forever. We remember him very fondly.
Raúl, Esperanza, and family
May 26, 2013
Sad to learn of Brian's passing on. We had a lot of memorable times in Weaver High school. My deepest condolences to the family.
John Carter (WHS Class of 1953)
Kim Bassett
May 26, 2013
Dear Mrs. Barrabee, Diane, Linda and Lorraine,
Your Dad always made me feel welcome and comfortable in your home. I remember him and his humor fondly and am so sorry for your loss.
Lots of love, Kim
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