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The family of Justice David Marshall Borden is saddened but honored to announce his passing, at the age of seventy-nine, after a battle with pancreatic cancer. He was a wonderful man who spent his entire life working to do the right thing and inspiring others to do the same. Justice Borden - more affectionately known as David, Dave, Dad, Grandpa and Grampsie - leaves us after an extraordinary life and distinguished career as marked by achievement as it is by depth. David was born and raised in Hartford where he played football at Weaver High School, good enough to start at quarterback but, thankfully for the legal community, not good enough to pursue much further. Bordens are quick of mind but somewhat slow of foot. David graduated from Amherst College and Harvard Law School with high honors and he first entered the professional world in 1958 in then Senator John F. Kennedy's Washington office. Dave made the best move of his entire life when he asked Judith Holland to marry him in 1962, despite some minor culinary misgivings. Judy was his muse, best friend, inspiration, tether, confidant, relentless rock and the love of his life until the day he passed. David moved into private law practice under the shingle of Borden and Borden with his father, Harold, in 1962. In 1966, Dave and Judy gave birth to their first child and named him Douglas Lawrence, a name that puzzled both sets of Jewish grandparents. In 1968 another son, Thomas Matthew, arrived still somewhat puzzling but at least there were Thomases and Matthews in the New Testament. Tommy would stand in his crib yelling every afternoon until Dad came home from work and calmly told him about his day. David was the principal architect of the 1969 Connecticut Penal Code, a set of laws he would end up spending much of the rest of his life applying and interpreting. In 1970, daughter Katherine Elizabeth was born and the Borden puzzle was complete. Dad donned baby blue footie pajamas and performed the role of Michael Darling in the Morley Elementary School parent teacher musical production of "Peter Pan", bringing down the house with a rousing rendition of "I Won't Grow Up!" He followed that with an uncanny performance as Uncle Albert in "Mary Poppins", knocking "I Love To Laugh" out of the auditorium. Dave and Judy threw great cast parties. In 1977, David first became known as Judge Borden, with an appointment by Governor Ella Grasso to the Connecticut Court of Common Pleas, a court that was absorbed into the Connecticut Superior Court the following year. Six years later, Governor William O'Neill appointed Judge Borden as one of the original five judges to sit on the Connecticut Appellate Court. Judge Borden wrote that court's first majority decision, at four pages the briefest decision he ever drafted, colleagues might even say by a longshot. In 1990, Governor O'Neill appointed Judge Borden to the Connecticut Supreme Court, where Justice Borden served for seventeen distinguished years, including his final year as Acting Chief Justice. By the time he retired in 2007, the breadth of his legal and judicial experience had few rivals. Justice Borden felt a deep responsibility as a custodian of the law and he took his work as seriously as anything in his life. He also knew that life was not all for seriousness. His close friend and colleague, Justice Richard Palmer often recounts a story from the high court that illustrates Justice Borden's marriage of rigor and wit. During arguments for one case, Justice Borden launched into an elaborate hypothetical, sub-hypothetical and meta-hypothetical that lasted all of ten minutes, leaving the entire room exhausted. At the conclusion, the young bewildered attorney replied wryly, "Can you repeat the question?" Borden deadpanned, "I'm sorry, you're out of time." David Borden was an active community servant and advocate. He sat on numerous boards of directors including that of the Justice Education Center for twenty-eight years, and he was a board director for the Hartford Foundation for Public Giving until his passing. He received the Raymond E. Baldwin Public Service Award in 1997. Dad was particularly proud of his work as chair of the Connecticut General Assembly's Eyewitness Identification Task Force, a task force he was instrumental in creating. A firm, lifelong believer in the power of love and commitment, Justice Borden had the honor of performing the wedding ceremonies of all three of his children, as well as those of many relatives and close friends. Dad loved hiking New Hampshire's White Mountains and the Appalachian Trail hut system. He read voraciously, with a special interest in non-fiction. He was always there in the stands, sidelines or audience for his children and kissed us before bed every night. Judy and David enjoyed theater, movies, taking long walks and traveling together all over the world. The Boston Red Sox renaissance in the 2000s was one of the most exciting, satisfying and surprising eras of Grandpa's life, after seven long decades of pain and frustration. Governor David Borden was named Connecticut Governor of Red Sox Nation in 2008, but he respectfully declined because of the potential impropriety of an active Appellate Court Judge Trial Referee endorsing a professional sports team, even though he had been doing just that, and loudly, for his entire life. Grampsie had crinkly smiling eyes. High technology furiously flummoxed him to no end. He preferred hugs to handshakes. Dad played classical piano beautifully, despite having only nine and a half fingers. And he loved to laugh. David Marshall Borden is survived by his: wife of fifty-three years, Judy; his older brother, Walter; sons Doug and Tom; daughter Katherine; daughters-in-law Tara Gordon and Amy Hoffmann; son-in-law Bruce Perkins; and grandchildren Brooks, Mason, Sebastian, Poppy and Maisy. We all miss him dearly. In lieu of flowers, family, friends and inspired strangers are invited to make a donation to a fund created in Justice Borden's honor at the Hartford Foundation for Public Giving. A private memorial and burial will be held by his family. David Marshall Borden worked tirelessly for justice and always tried to do the right thing. The end wasn't kind to him, but he was kind to the end. Rest in peace. Go Sox!

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Published by Hartford Courant from Aug. 9 to Aug. 10, 2016.

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joseph family

November 17, 2016

Dear Douglas so sorry to read about the loss of your father. Its been so many years since we have seen your family. Please accept our belated condolences and may you and your family find comfort and happiness

Mindelle Seltzer

September 6, 2016

To Judy and the family, Norton and I were your former across the street neighbors on Middlefield Drive. I just learned of David's death in the Jewish Historical Society Newsletter, and then immediately sat down to find David's obituary. I am sorry you all experienced a difficult time after a lifetime of great joy. Notice I say"I", because I also experienced the death of Norton almost 4 years ago, after a struggle with Psrkinson's. I think one of you went to school with one of our daughters, KAREN or SUSAN or JUDY Seltzer ( their maiden names). May you all continue to tell the stories of your lovely and wise dad, husband, and grandfather. My heart goes out to you all. I send a big group hug. Mindy (Mibdelle K Seltzer)

Donna Caputa

September 3, 2016

Dear Judy and the Borden Family:

I can't tell you how broken-hearted I am to learn of David's passing. I was so optimistic that he would win his battle with cancer. Now, I must accept that I won't have the opportunity to see him or speak to him or have sushi with him again. I did so enjoy my visits with David.
I first met David in the early 1990's in my step class at the Hartford YMCA, and he introduced himself as "David". There were two attorneys in class at that time, Bruce Louden and Ian Stewart (I think). I noticed that when they addressed David they called him "Justice". So, I asked them what it meant, and of course they told me that David was a CT Supreme Court Justice. The next time I saw David, I quietly asked him if I should call him "Justice", too, and he said no, because I wasn't in the legal profession. In light of his position and stature, I felt very priveleged to be able to call him "David". And, in step class I used to love to tell him "You may approach the bench!" David always got a kick out of my corny jokes.
David was so down-to-earth, so warm-hearted and so easy to like. I miss him already.
Lisa Piquette mentioned to me that there will be a memorial service for David on September 4. I would love to be there to express my condolences in person. Unfortunately, I'll be out of the country at that time. But, I want you to know that my heart and thoughts are with you at this time of loss.
With deepest sympathy,
Donna Caputa

Catherine Reuben

September 2, 2016

For many years, Judge Borden ("Dave" to us) went hiking in the White Mountains each year with a group of folks from the law firm of Robinson & Cole. He was a wonderful hiking companion -- funny, interesting, encouraging and kind. You could talk about anything with him, even the most controversial of issues, and he would kindly and diplomatically educate you, and help you to see all sides of the issue. He had a great sense of humor. He was also a good inspiration, showing physical strength, stamina and agility in his 70's, while keeping a pace that allowed other hikers of all levels to keep up. Many of his family members came hiking too, and I enjoyed being with them too. There was much love, support and wit in that family, and their happiness with life and each other was infectious. I will miss Dave, and send my love and condolences.
Sincerely, Cathy Reuben

September 1, 2016

I'm proud to say I graduated high school with a Supreme Court Judge. RIP, Dave
Bradley Cagenello, Weaver class of 1955

Joseph Visone

August 23, 2016

Justice Borden's father Harold was the attorney for my grandfather's estate. I remember as a small boy when my dad took me with him to his law office in 1959. Dad told attorney Borden that he would like me to become a lawyer some day. Attorney Borden looked at me, smiled, and said "if you want to become a lawyer, you will have to read all of these books behind my desk!" Little did I know then that some fifty years later I would argue a case before his son, David.

Attorney Joseph Visone

August 19, 2016

deepest sympathiy to family and friendsand collegues
the justice led a remarkable life and based upon his obituary contributed greatly to connecticut as well as to our usa
thankyou and rest in peace
helen f. gottesman

August 13, 2016

Judy,

We're so sorry to hear about David's passing. Your beautiful obituary captured the spirit and personality that endeared him to everyone. Our thoughts are with you and your family.

Warmly,

Rhonda and Marc Sacher

Liz and Chris Droney

August 12, 2016

Judy--David was such a great judge and friend. He was a mentor to so many young lawyers and a model jurist for all of us on the bench. He also was a wonderful neighbor, always with time for anyone and a smile. We will miss him greatly.

Laura Norwood

August 11, 2016

Tom,

Very sorry to hear about the loss of your father. He clearly had an incredible and wonderful life; leaving behind endless memories. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Laura

August 11, 2016

Judy, I was so saddened to hear of your loss. I will always remember David's wonderful smile and his kindness to me.
Janet Peckinpaugh

Jennifer Kiernan

August 10, 2016

We are incredibly sorry for your loss. David was such a sweet man- we are so glad to have know him. God bless all of you! Love- The Kiernan and Naples family.

Ann Johnson-bly

August 10, 2016

Dear Judy and family, it truly saddened me to hear of Dave's passing. He was such a great guy. I have so many fond memories of you bith when we were all involved with the Morley players. However, my outstanding memory was a night when we were all helping Rhoda Babcock move to a new home. We were sitting on the kitchen floor--there were no chairs-- and Dave (and you) were entertaining us with stories about Victor the Constrictor ( who was really Victoria). And that was what so great about Dave. He could be a lawyer and a good friend and a teller of hysterical stories as well as an actor in plays for children. You all must be so proud of this wonderful man.

Con O'Leary

August 10, 2016

David did such a brilliant job when he visited my class, nearly every year lately, and held the students' rapt attention as he discussed various subjects. He made the law come alive. His kindness and gentleness shined through the lecture.

Marsha Mason

August 10, 2016

My sincere condolences to you and the family.

August 10, 2016

I had the privilege of knowing Justice Borden when he resided as Judge in Hartford Superior Court over thirty years ago. I was a secretary in the court reporters office and the "Judge" always found time in his busy schedule to visit his court reporter and thank her for a job well done; and he was a true human being who didn't find it above his station to stop and chat with secretarial staff.
Justice Borden's kindness and interest in our lives shall always remain one of the highlights of my job.
May his family find peace in their hearts as their fond memories help them through this sad time.
Sincerely,
CH

Ron Blanchette

August 10, 2016

Dear Judy and loving family,
You and David enriched my life in so many ways. Above all the two of you taught me to seek answers to life's conflicts by first seeking reflections within myself rather than defining myself by others only. It was a tough lesson! I will always remember hiking in the "Whites" with David and of course David marrying Elise and me under the old oak tree in our back yard. David was indeed a treasure.

Kumi Sato

August 9, 2016

To the Borden Family,
I was privileged to take Justice Borden's statutory interpretation class while at UConn School of Law and to continue our acquaintance after graduation. That the whole family contributed to creating such a warm and loving tribute highlights his - and your - grace and humor, and I am deeply sorry for your loss. We have lost a giant.

Elliott & Elissa Donn

August 9, 2016

Dear Judy and Family,

Our deepest condolences to you all on Dave's passing. We share your loss. Although we had lost touch for many years, we became reacquainted a couple of years ago when Elissa and I attended his talks at the ALP programs.We were occasional playmates when we were growing up -- I lived on Vine St, and he on Mansfield St. We've come a long way, Baby!!

Dave was a class act and a true mensch. He was a modest and gentle man. All who had the honor of calling him "friend" were better for having had him in our lives.

May his memory be for a blessing, and may he rest in peace.

August 9, 2016

Judy,
I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your husband. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family at this difficult time.
Jennifer Mullen Ruel Holmes

Jos. Jackson

August 9, 2016

Dave's family;

Peace be still...

JJax

Kevin & Carolyn Sullivan & Thornberry

August 9, 2016

We admired and adored David. When Carolyn was teaching, he took time to travel out to UConn and talk to her students about the judicial system. When I was sworn in, he took time out to be there and do me so great an honor. All his life, David took the time to help others in so many ways and always to serve justice. We thank Judith and all his family for sharing him with the world that he now leaves so much better a place.

Kenneth Shluger

August 9, 2016

David was a dignified, inspiring, caring gentle man. Among my favorite memories was of David and Judy at the (old) Hartford YMCA enthusiastically joining our spinning class. Although older than most chronologically, they lead the group with energy and good cheer.

Benson

August 9, 2016

When someone that is loyal to what is right for all persons he would be missed. I am sure Judge Borden was a quarterback in justice. Please accept my condolence.

Bernie Sullivan,Chief of Police Htfd.Ct.Ret.

August 9, 2016

Please accept my sympathy on David's passing. I had the pleasure of knowing him and interacting with him on many levels over the years,most recently as a Board member of the Ct.Justice education center.David was a brilliant jurist but more importantly a humble man who cared more about accomplishing good deeds than any position he held.
His contributions will not be forgotten.May he rest in a well deserved peace.

JAMES GRIFFIN

August 9, 2016

I HAD THE HONOR TO SERVE WITH DAVID IN THE CT AIR NATIONAL GUARD AND HE WAS HIGHLY REGARDED AND RESPECTED BY ALL THAT KNEW HIM.RIP DAVID

Linda Singer

August 9, 2016

My thoughts and prayers are with you, Judy,and your family. The days of the Morley plays and the wonderful cast parties at your housse bring back fond memoris.

August 9, 2016

Beloved Family,

"In God's Care"

Lovingly,

Riley and Cerise Johnson...

Weaver High School Class of 1956 (Riley)

Karen Renzulli Lynch

August 9, 2016

My condolences to Justice Borden's family. I first met then Judge Borden when he taught my bar review course in 1981. He was always a well-respected leader in the legal community. I am sorry for your loss.

Eileen Clark

August 9, 2016

Judy and family - I am so sorry for your loss. I only met David a couple of times, but feel that I know him well from listening to your stories. The travel tales were amazing and a very bright spot in a long work day. You always spoke of him with such love and respect - a terrific example for your children and grandchildren, The younger generations can learn a lot about love and commitment from you two! May you find peace ...

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