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1936

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2021

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Lawrence Bernard Obituary

Lawrence Jackson Bernard
1936-2021
Lawrence Jackson Bernard (Larry) died peacefully on February 12th at age 84 from complications of Parkinson's Disease. Larry showed great fortitude and overcame numerous health obstacles always remaining optimistic and determined to get the most out of life. He will be remembered for his love and commitment to his family and friends and his successful career with New York Life. A native Houstonian, Larry was born at St. Joseph's hospital in 1936 to Amber and H.J. Bernard. He graduated from San Jacinto High School and the University of Texas at Austin. Larry also attained the professional designations of CLU and ChFC from the American College at Bryn Mawr. He served as a Captain in the United States Army Reserve.
Larry's storied career at the New York Life Insurance Company began in 1960. When asked why he chose life insurance as a profession he responded with "I want to be in a profession where you help people and you don't have to retire." Larry excelled as an agent right from the start, distinguishing himself as a case-rate super star. Today, he holds the unofficial and probably unsurpassed, company-wide record of 556 consecutive months - 46 years - of writing at least 10 applications a month. He was named General Agent of the year 43 times in the Houston office.
He was a charter member of the Chairman's Council and remained there for 39 consecutive years as one of only four agents to do so at that time in the entire company. The Council represents the highest achieving agents across the country with New York Life.
Larry was a charter and board member of both NYLARC and Nautilus. He was a lifetime member of the Million Dollar Roundtable and he also maintained memberships in Eagle Strategies, the Houston Estate Forum and the American Association of Life Underwriters.
He was elected by his fellow agents to represent them in the New York Life home office on the Agents Advisory Council.
In 2003 the Houston office established the Larry J. Bernard Spirit Award in recognition of his distinguished career. Later he was further honored with the designation of the Larry Bernard Conference Room in the New York Life Houston General office.
Along the way, Larry was proud to have mentored many agents who still today point to him as a major influence on their career and count him as a colleague and friend.
Less than a week before unexpectedly taking ill, a surprise Zoom celebration of Larry's 60 plus years took place with agents and company officials paying tribute to his career, influence, integrity, and friendship referring to him as a New York Life living legend and Icon. Larry referred to it as the most meaningful experience of his career. The family appreciates the many agents and company representatives from across the country who participated.
An important part of Larry's success is due to Claire Clark, his longtime assistant of 30 years. The family would like to thank her for her dedication not only to his business but for his well being .
Larry was a past president of the Houston Congregation for Reform Judaism. He served on the board of the Houston Racquet Club - where he would swim his daily mile for many years and late in life continued to maintain a vigorous exercise routine. He also enjoyed attending the Houston Ballet and Symphony and was an Astros season ticket holder for over 40 years.
A lifelong history buff, Larry noted that much of New York Life's story parallels U.S. history. His office, a museum of New York Life memorabilia, features framed policies from the 1800's, various news items on agents and employees who participated in World War I, and an invitation to the ceremony opening the Home Office in 1927.
Larry also had a deep knowledge of military and Presidential history and would often quiz friends with his trivia questions. Larry loved vintage cars. He could name any make and model. One of his favorite ways to relax at home was with a glass of wine or a scotch on the rocks followed by candlelit dinners.
Larry and his family also enjoyed their home at Morgan's Point on Galveston Bay. He loved the water and it brought him much joy. Larry was affectionately referred to as "Mr. Ambassador". A reference to the very unofficial title of "Morgan's Point Ambassador to Galveston".
Larry had a passion for travelling. He and Doris shared that with their family and friends on many different adventures around the country and world.
As a proud Houstonian, Larry loved his city and the people in it. He would recite endless facts about Houston and its families - many of whom he had both personal and business relationships. Friends recall their conversations and times spent with Larry and his special way with words and phrases that were uniquely his own. Larry was a wonderful raconteur and his sense of humor along with his detailed memory always made for an entertaining story.
Larry was preceded in death by his parents, his sister, Betty Jo Hedrick and brother, Donald Bernard. He is survived by his wife Doris of 53 years; their son David Bernard and his husband Charles D. Urstadt; their son Jeffrey Bernard, his wife Julie Chisholm and his granddaughters Sophie and Lucy Bernard; his sister Amber York and her husband Dr. Byron P. York, Jr. and his brother-in-law Howard Katz along with many nephews and nieces. Larry was also preceded in death by his beloved dogs Malcolm and Max.
The family thanks Frank Gutierrez for his friendship, compassion and care for Larry for almost five years as well as the other caretakers from the Texans Home Care staff. In addition the family is appreciative to Larry's physicians Doctors Matthew Lenz, Joseph Jankowvic and Phong Tang.
A family graveside service will be held with Rabbi Steve Gross officiating. Due to COVID-19, a gathering to celebrate Larry's life will be held at a later date.
Donations may be made in his memory to the Houston Association of Parkinson's Society(HAPS), Houston Food Bank, Houston Congregation for Reform Judaism or a charity of your choice.

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Published by Houston Chronicle on Feb. 14, 2021.

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Amy Ardington

February 8, 2023

Though our family moved away from Morgan´s Point in 2021, we still think back so fondly on our friendship with Larry and Doris, who were welcoming hosts and the best neighbors. Larry´s perspective and sense of humor were unique and surprising; I will always miss our conversations and laughter. Just last week while walking in the backyard of our new home, I got to thinking about Larry and how much I miss our hilarious exchanges. I send our love to Doris and to the rest of the family. No doubt he is much missed, but all those warm memories are a comfort.
All our love,
Amy, Tom, Jack, & Joe

Amy Ardington

July 29, 2021

Our family just moved away from
Larry´s beloved Morgan´s Point. When I think about it, maybe it´s not a coincidence that we moved away from MP in the same year that Larry left us because Larry was a big part of our Morgan´s Point experience, especially during our early years there. So, it was fitting to make our departure when we did.

While sorting through things during the packing-up process, I came across a letter from the Texas A&M College of Veterinary Medicine informing us that Larry and Doris had made a donation to the college in memory of two pets we´d lost and in honor of the one we had. So, so thoughtful and so typical of Larry and Doris!

I will always remember Larry for his unique phrasing; his tart commentary on the occasional lapse of good taste; his unpredictable, unusual, and ever keen sense of humor; and his caring ways. Our family was blessed to be neighbors with the Bernards and to have the chance to know the special Mr. Larry Bernard. Words aren´t adequate somehow, try though I do.

We loved him, we miss him, and we will always remember Larry with tenderness & fondness.

Amy Ardington & the Sheffield "boys"

Amy Ardington

May 9, 2021

We were blessed to have Larry as a dear part-time neighbor and full-time friend after our family moved to Morgan’s Point in 2005. Larry and Doris were the first to welcome us to the place Larry loved so much, where he was always so happy to be relaxing and enjoying conversation in congenial company.

Larry regaled us with many an amusing tale, and we always enjoyed his perspective expressed in his inimitable Larry way. Larry was not lacking in knowledge or in opinions, which made conversing with him a great pleasure and a battle of wits. Lots of laughter is what we will remember when we think of our dear Larry.

He was a considerate and thoughtful man who loved serving as our Ambassador; we still have our tee shirts from our stint on his security detail. They have been hanging in his memory in a place of honor in our home.

Our young sons were blessed by Larry’s kind attention to them over the past 15 years, and they will remember him fondly all their lives.

Tom and I were equally blessed by Larry’s friendship. We thank God for his life, and we send our most sincere condolences to Doris and all the family. The world is a more bland place without Larry and his utterly delightful perspicacity. He will be much missed by our family.

Tenderly, the Ardington-Sheffields

Carlos Di Cesare

February 26, 2021

I did not have a chance to meet Larry personally but have been blessed to hear of his care and love for his family, city and clients. He live a life of purpose. May God bless you and fill you with peace in this time for the Bernard family.

Melissa Dyches

February 19, 2021

How enriched my life is, being able to say I knew Larry Bernard. He was an exceptional man who led an even more exceptional life. Larry, you will be missed. To Doris and Claire, I send my prayers and hugs to you. "Well done, thou good and faithful servant" Matthew 25:23

Jim Pappas

February 19, 2021

I've known Larry for over 40 years, going back to the Post Oak Ymca, and now the Houston Racquet club. Always loved messing with him, always had a witty, great insult back to me, always that little smirk...even when he was in the grips of his affliction, always the twinkle in his eye, threatening to kick my butt....what a funny, funny guy....I will miss him dearly.

Michael Sowell

February 18, 2021

What a wonderful friend Larry was.
The kind of friend that always made me laugh and never made me cry.
Until now.
You will be missed my friend.
In so many ways.
Michael

Irene Weaver

February 18, 2021

Larry Bernard. My first boss in my 20's. I worked with him for six years and it was never a dull moment. I learned so much from him. I am so saddened to hear this news. Doris, you and the boys are in my thoughts and prayers. I have so many wonderful memories that I will hold onto forever. RIP Larry.

Bob Bennett

February 18, 2021

An extraordinary man and my friend. Doris and family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Margarita Villafranca

February 18, 2021

What an amazing life Larry! Such a sweet sweet man. Always ready to give you a good word of advice and encouragement. Such a beautiful smile and twinkle in his eyes. God bless you! We will miss you tremendously!

Toby Myers

February 15, 2021

I remember him as one of the waiter in the dorm at SRD where his sister Amber also lived. Even then he was efficient, hard-working, pleasant though not invasive, and an all around nice human being. Reading this, all those qualities continued. May his memory be blessed and may family and others close be comforted.

Phyllis Nabonne-Alexander

February 14, 2021

David & Family, your father’s beautiful legacy lives on through each of you! I’m praying for your peace & strength today & always!

Lynn Lemoine

February 14, 2021

RIP sir and know that your son David is dearly loved here in Louisiana.

Rob Masson

February 14, 2021

What a life! Sympathies to David and the entire Bernard family.

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