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Bette Marie Pancoe

1938 - 2013 Obituary Condolences
Bette Marie Pancoe Obituary
Bette Marie Pancoe
Sept. 30, 1938 - Oct. 16, 2013
Resident of Alameda
Bette was born in Bridgeport, Connecticut in 1938 to John and Helen Pancoe. She was blessed to be part of a large family, including siblings John, Lucille, Patricia, and John. Bette spent many years living and working as a nurse on the east coast in New York, Boston, and then on to California to fulfill her dream of being near the Golden Gate Bridge in the beautiful sunshine.
Bette graduated from the University of Rochester with an Associate's degree in nursing in 1959, where she was presented with the Dorothea Lynn Dix award for excellence in psychiatric nursing. She began her nursing career in the field of psychiatry, then moved into emergency room nursing, and eventually found her passion in the operating rooms as a scrub nurse. She was able to touch many lives and spread her love and care to many people throughout her life, and in 2009 was presented with a medal from the University of Rochester, honoring her 50+ years of nursing service. She retired from Summit Medical Center in Oakland (formerly Providence Hospital) in 1996.
Bette is the daughter of the late John and Helen Pancoe, and is survived by her daughter Jennifer Helen Pancoe, her beloved cat Miss Kitty, sisters Lucille Felicetti, Patricia Pancoe, sister-in-law Ellen Pancoe, and many nieces and nephews.
Bette had many loves one of which was travelling. She was baptized in the Holy Lands in 1972 in the river Jordan, she took the Sound of Music tour through Austria, Hungary, and Germany, and spent many weekends on shorter trips learning all there was to learn about where she lived and the surrounding areas.
She was very active in Lakeshore Avenue Baptist Church in Oakland for decades. Bette chaired the Hunger Task Force, was the parish nurse, began a Thanksgiving program to feed the needy, a Christmas program called Adopt-A-Family, as well as becoming a very active supporter of the homeless and hungry. Bette spent the majority of her retirement doing what she could to offer her endless supply of love and support to those less fortunate.
Bette was affectionately known as Mommy Dearest by her daughter and her daughter's friends. She was very popular among her circle of friends and extended family and was always ready with jokes and laughter, even in the darkest of times. Bette spent her last weeks with her daughter Jennifer cheering on Team Booby Trap as they walked their second 39.3 mile Avon Walk for Breast Cancer in her honor. After the walk, she celebrated her 75th birthday with 25 of her friends, then headed to Disneyland to continue on the celebration with Jennifer and her wonderful friend Maria Cam.
Her last days were filled with her favorite things: Her daughter Jennifer, her very good friends and family, and trips to the Golden Gate Bridge, Disneyland, and riding her scooter around Alameda. She was able to be surrounded by many as she was made comfortable in her favorite nightgown, covered with her leaf blanket, and surrounded with stories of love from colleagues, friends, and family. Her daughter was baptized at her bedside, then was able to exchange wedding vows with Chad R. Gurney so that Bette could be a part of those important milestones in her daughter's life. She passed away peacefully in her daughter's arms with her last words being I love you, I love you, I love you.
Memorial services will be held in the form of a potluck picnic/BBQ at Crown Memorial Beach in Alameda in the spring of 2014, please gather your old photos of Bette as well as your best memories and stories and send or email them to Jennifer at jpancoe21@gmail.com, you may also contact her for more details. In honor of Bette, memorial gifts may be made to the Hunger Task Force at Lakeshore Avenue Baptist Church, or to Jennifer's 2014 Avon walk team as Jennifer will walk once more in her mother's honor.
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Published in Inside Bay Area on Dec. 31, 2013
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