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Beverly Brown O'Toole
August 8, 2017
My heart goes out to John's family. I was so sad to hear about John's passing. I knew "Clev" in college and we shared many great times at UCC. He was a sweet, funny, humble and generous guy who always had a big bear hug ready, whether as part of a friendly greeting or to provide comfort. He will be greatly missed by so many.
Kevin and Kelsey Nichols
August 1, 2017
Kristen and Family,
We extend our deepest sympathy to you. We were unable to attend John's service because we were picking Dylan up from Kanakuk. John will be greatly missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Katy and John Drewry
July 31, 2017
As Kristen's roommate in Chicago in the mid-'90's, I remember sharing fun dinners with John and Kristen. Kristen, please accept our condolences and know that I am praying for you and your family right now.
Josh Chambers
July 30, 2017
John was a great teammate and friend. I am so sorry for your loss. He will be missed.
July 29, 2017
Kristen and Family,
It was an honor to call John "our banker". He touched many lives.
Our prayers are with you.
Mike and Janet Brown
July 29, 2017
Please accept my prayer during this time of your great loss.
Sister Elaine Freund, ASC
(Newman University Board of Trustees)
Kevin and Chris McCoy
July 28, 2017
It was a pleasure to have the opportunity work and play with John in a variety of circumstances. We particularly remember his love of being in the company of family and friends while engaged in friendly (but always spirited) competition at a numerous YPO events. His smile said it all. We will miss John's enthusiasm for life.
With our deepest sympathy.
Craig Duerksen
July 28, 2017
It was my privilege to know and work with John for the last thirteen years. More than being a great boss/mentor, he was a great friend.
The highest compliment I can pay him is that he is one of the primary reasons why I chose to work for Commerce Bank and move my family to Kansas. His competitiveness, energy, intelligence, sense of humor and kindness were infectious. He was the kind of person you wanted to be around and bask in his glow.
The phrase from Psalm 23, "my cup overflows" has been on my mind. John's cup was overflowing with life and love for his family, friends and most anyone with whom he came in contact. I am a better man for having known John.
Kristen & family, you remain in my prayers.
Heidi Palmes
July 28, 2017
John was indeed a special man. I worked many years at the bank. Although we didn't cross paths often, he always greeted me by name! What a unique gift!! It always made me feel like I mattered.
Thank u for making a difference in my life, John. You will be sorely missed!
Doug Goheen
July 28, 2017
We are so saddened and sorry to hear of John's passing. We worked with him at Topeka West High School, Diane as a librarian and Doug as an Honors Sophomore English teacher. We remember John as kind, respectful, self-disciplined, intellectually curious, and very intelligent. Our prayers are with John and his family.
Aurora Mendia
July 28, 2017
John was a very kind man. He took the time to cheerfully and respectfully help me straighten out a credit card problem on the credit card side of Commerce even though that function was not under his direct supervision. Saddened to hear he has left us.
Todd Dow
July 28, 2017
Words are not adequate to express my condolences nor assuage a shared sense of loss.
Nor are words adequate to address the sincere gratitude I feel for having benefitted from knowing John so well during my Princeton and Kellogg years. He was a force of nature who favorably influenced the lives of many, including mine ... and for that I am forever thankful to him and to his parents & family. I feel sincerely blessed to call John my friend.
I am truly sorry my travel plans fell through and am unable to attend in-person Friday as planned to celebrate John's great life and profound impact on others, but please know my thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Warm regards & love,
Todd
Laura Matthews
July 27, 2017
I was privileged to know John in high school and early in college. The world has lost a true gentleman. I haven't seen John in 27 years, but I will always remember his smile, his intelligence, his kindness, and his drive to contribute....to show up...to be involved. Even when it was hard. My thoughts and prayers are with you all as you embark upon the seemingly impossible act of laying him to rest. I lost my husband unexpectedly nearly 2 years ago. Life is just not supposed to happen this way. Especially to someone who meant so much to so many. John made the world a better place, and it feels a little more lonely now. I wish you strength as you try to figure things out. I hope you can find some peace in these words by the poet Mary Elizabeth Frye.
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.
July 27, 2017
Prayers for your wife and kids and the rest of the family
Gary Kempinski
July 27, 2017
John, aka "Clev" was one of the great, positive forces in our circle of friends. He always had a smile, a kind word, and was eager and ready to mix it up in whatever was at hand, be it the 6am party or a charitable cause. He'll be making Heaven a better place until we all reunite. We love you and miss you good buddy.
George Sarcevich
July 27, 2017
I was one year ahead of John in college and we played the same position on the football team. I remember a tough competitor and a warm, proud Midwesterner. RIP John, I am certain you will be missed and remembered by many.
Bob Pugh
July 27, 2017
As a classmate and teammate of John at TWHS, it was clear from an early age that John was an exceptionally bright and talented individual. While I am deeply saddened to hear of John's untimely passing, I am happy to learn of his incredibly fruitful and impactful life.
God bless you all in your time of sorrow.
Minerva Toloza
July 27, 2017
My Thoughts and Prayers to the Clevengers.
I Knew John from working with him at Commerce Bank. One of the most respectable and humble executive officers whom I dealt with!
Rest In Peace John.
Robb Cummings
July 27, 2017
I am so very saddened to hear about John's passing. Like Lynn, I fondly remember our grade school years at Most Pure Heart of Mary. While we didn't see each other a great deal after high school, I certainly followed John's academic and professional accomplishments. To say he was a nice guy is a tremendous understatement. He has left an amazing legacy. I wish peace and comfort for the Clevenger family today and in the difficult days ahead. Rest in peace, John.
July 27, 2017
You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
Joan, Coy, Madison, and Grace Martin
Phil and Joyce Glasser
July 27, 2017
Kristen and family...we join our Wichita family, Todd and Kim Anciaux, in expressing our sadness at John's passing. We have shared so many happy times with you all through Ella's friendship with Katey and we know how John loved our Nick! That feeling was returned by Nick especially who is grief-stricken with your loss too. We are thankful for John's friendship and guidance for Todd during their years together in the bank in Wichita. We pray that God in his grace will strengthen and lift your family in the days, weeks, months and years to come and that His love will comfort you. Our prayers and love are with you. Please let us know if we can ever do anything to help you, even for just an hour or a day.
Patty Koehler
July 26, 2017
Kristen and family, Our hearts and prayers go out to you. John was a great friend and mentor. We severed on a number of boards together, he was a great servant leader to all. A wonderful person that will not be forgotten. God Bless your family
Ed and Patty Koehler
John Simon
July 26, 2017
My deepest condolences to John's family. I am so sorry to hear of his passing. John always made me smile when I saw him at College and the few times I saw him thereafter. He was a big guy with an even bigger heart.
Tara O'Connor
July 26, 2017
Clevenger family I am sorry for your loss. I remember John from college as a warm and wonderful person. I know he will be missed.
Sharetta Simmons
July 26, 2017
We are sorry for your loss. Jacob was extremely heartbroken to hear about Coach Clevenger. We will keep your family in our thoughts and prayers.
Scott Laughlin
July 26, 2017
Our thoughts and prayers are with John and his family today. I remember John fondly from our days together in college. I can recall sharing many a meal and activity at Cottage Club, as well as time sharing the football field as well. I am so sorry for your loss.
July 26, 2017
To Johns beloved Family. You were the best of the best.You have a
wonderful family and a life filled
with friends and success.
I knew you before you were born!
Always in my heart, Donna Adams
Ruth Holliday
July 26, 2017
Kristen, Maggie, Thomas & Katie, Holding you close in our thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. It was truly a pleasure working with John and his bicycling passion over the years, his smile and positive outlook will never be forgotten. He will be deeply missed.
Jan Stuhlsatz
July 26, 2017
Prayers for strength and peace. God bless you all.
Jeff & Susan Washburn
July 26, 2017
So sorry for such a great loss, praying for your wonderful family
Father Sean J. O' Shea
July 26, 2017
My prayers and thoughts are with the Clevenger family at this time of loss and grief. May the dear Lord comfort and console you.
Dana Bain
July 26, 2017
may God's grace be sufficient during your time of grieving. So sorry for your loss.
July 26, 2017
Kristen and the Clevenger Family, we are saddened to hear about the passing of John.
He was such an inspiration to everyone.
I remember our ongoing community interactions in Wichita community when we lived there and his great leadership during the time I (John R.) served on the Exploration Place board with him. He was a true leader with compassion. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers and we will continue to be in the future.
God's Blessing to you.
Felicia and John Rolfe (Houston TX, formerly of Wichita, KS).
matt wendling
July 26, 2017
Our thoughts and prayers go out to the family and friends. John will be missed greatly. Our deepest condolences.
Jerry & Barbara Fink
July 26, 2017
Our sincere condolences for your loss of John. A life well lived.
Rob and Vanessa Condreay
July 26, 2017
Our deepest condolences to John's family and friends. You are all in our thoughts and prayers at this difficult time. God bless.
Julie Farha
July 26, 2017
Kristen, I can't find words for this. I ask the Angels to surround you and your children and to carry you all from this moment on.
July 26, 2017
So sorry for your loss - he was a pillar in the Wichita community
Susayn Brandes
July 26, 2017
Our community has lost a truly great advocate. I would categorize John as an acquaintance, a person I had met through business but didn't know well. I was always impressed that when he saw me at gatherings he made a point of speaking to me. In spite of the fact I didn't know him well I am saddened by his premature death. He radiated kindness and concern. My deepest sympathy to his family and friends.
Prescott LeGard
July 26, 2017
John was a tremendous athlete, incredibly fun to hang out with, had a brilliant financial mind, and was a true friend. Fond memories of working together at Commerce Bank in St. Louis, playing in the co-ed softball tournament in Columbia, MO, parties at his first apartment in Clayton that was decorated better than any house I had ever been in, him falling in love with Kristen in front of our eyes, his stories of "Cottage Club" at Princeton, All You Can Eat Lasagna night at Rigazzi's on the Hill, playing golf with him, etc. Could go on and on. Kelly's and my heart ache for Kristen and the kids and we are crying hard thinking of him. To John's parents: You raised a true gentleman. That's the highest compliment I can give. I am so sorry.
July 26, 2017
TO THE FAMILY OF JOHN CLEVENGER , SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. 1THESS 5:17 PRAY CONSTANTLY.
Lorie Exline
July 25, 2017
I send my love and sympathies to you and your family. May God give you strength and comfort in this time of great loss.
Jay Lohmann
July 25, 2017
Tom and Linda you can't imagine how my mind has wandered over the past two days. John was such a positive influence on Mike and it's been 35 years but seems like yesterday. You have to be so proud of the life you help lay out for John and what a outstanding son he turned out to be. I really do feel a genuine hurt when I think of what you are feeling. All my thoughts and prayers to your family.
Corey Wilson
July 25, 2017
I will always remember John as a class young man. He was a super student, athlete, leader and friend to all who knew him at Topeka West High School. My heart goes out to his family... also my thoughts are with Tom and Linda. You raised an incredible boy... we were all better for knowing him! God bless you all.
Karen Combs
July 25, 2017
I am so sorry.
Lynn McGivern
July 25, 2017
My deepest sympathies and prayers for your comfort. I have fond memories of childhood with John on the basketball court and playing in his parents backyard. John was truly a fine young friend who became an amazing gentleman. My continued thoughts and prayers to all who loved him.
Rob Sweatt
July 25, 2017
I met John in the first grade and recall staying the night many times while we went to school together, usually at his house because it was more fun than mine! The description of John and all of the great things he did is absolutely true, perhaps even understated. He will be missed. God bless to all of John's family. I'm very sorry for your loss.
Lindsey Brittain
July 25, 2017
We are thinking of you Clevengers. You all will continue to be in our thoughts and prayers.
Cynthia Colbert
July 25, 2017
My sincere condolences and prayers for your family. I have great memories of working with John when I lived in Wichita. He was the board chair during my first year as executive director of Catholic Charities. He was supportive, positive, witty, and kind and I so appreciated his sense of humor! Together, we led the agency's strategic plan during that year. He was one of the best board members I have ever worked with. He so loved his wife and children and always smiled when he spoke of them. He made such an impact wherever he went. May God bless and comfort you. I will keep all of your in my prayers.
July 25, 2017
Prayers and thoughts are with the Clevenger's extended family. John was a teammate at Princeton and will be dearly missed by all that knew him.
Greg (P'89) & Donna DiFelice
Diana Weixelman
July 25, 2017
I am very sorry to hear of your loss. Your family has been in my thoughts and prayers.
-Diana Weixelman
Jennifer Halas
July 25, 2017
My deepest condolences go out to your family. Please know you are all in my heart, thoughts and prayers.
Brett Paschke
July 25, 2017
Love and support to the Clevenger family for the loss of John. A larger than life, warm, funny, generous man. I will miss my friend terribly but cherish all he added to our lives.
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