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Bernard Thacker Obituary
He was born December 6, 1942, in Louisville, son of the late Frank Thacker and Christine Lewis Thacker. He was a graduate of Bellarmine University and received his Doctorate in Psychology from Heed University. He completed his certification in psychoanalysis from the Psychoanalytic Center of New Jersey (now the Academy of Clinical and Applied Psychoanalysis). Inspired by his mentor, Dr. George Frank of New York, with Dr. Paul Adams, Tom founded The Kentucky Psychoanalytic Institute to train mental health professionals to serve the Louisville-area community.
He is survived by his loving wife, Dr. Judith A. Payne; daughter, Dr. Erika Boland (Davis Sr.); grandchildren, Gerald Davis Boland Jr., Grant Thomas Boland and Eliza Katherine Boland; and brothers, Mark Thacker (Michelle) and Terry Thacker (Brenda).
Tom was a man of broad interests and deep loyalties. His commitment to those he loved and the people he treated was complete. His impish smile revealed his playfulness and curiosity; his kind eyes communicated his compassion and gentleness. He enthusiastically embraced life, with the Buddhist understanding that compassion is the antidote to suffering. He loved his dogs and cats, travel, adventure and beauty in every form in which he encountered it. At the end of his days his courage was remarkable; he exercised it both to live life on his own terms and to protect those he loved from distress.
His funeral Mass will be at noon on Tuesday, November 26, 2013 at St. Martin of Tours Church, 639 S. Shelby St. with interment of his ashes to occur later at a private service in Calvary Cemetery. Visitation will be 4 to 7 p.m. Monday, November 25, 2013 at Ratterman Funeral Home, 3711 Lexington Road. Also on Monday there will be a vigil service including a celebration of Tom's life at 6:45 p.m.
Memorial donations in Dr. Thacker's memory may be made to The Kentucky Psychoanalytic Institute (1326 S. 3rd St., 40208) or Hosparus (3532 Ephraim McDowell Dr; 40205; http://www.hosparus.org/donate-now.php).
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Memories and Condolences
for Bernard Thacker
Mary Chase
November 22, 2024
Tom, we miss you so very much! You were Larry´s best friend! I hope you have found Judy´s spirit and live on in your daughter and grandchildren!
Susan Connors
October 11, 2014
Tom you are the epitome of what a psychoanalyst is. Thank you for "re-raising" me. I shall never forget you. How you taught me to let others into my life and to be brave enough to get close to others. I will miss you but your voice will always be with me.
Chaplain Rita
November 28, 2013
Please accept our condolences from the Hosparus in Patient Care Center.
Frank Binford
November 26, 2013
Dear Judy and Ericka,
Tom and I had many good times, mostly on the golf course. I know you will miss him, and so will I. He lives a legacy in both of you, his grandchildren and the Kentuckiana Psychoanalytic Institute.
Dodi Lacey
November 26, 2013
Erica, I am so sorry to hear of your father's passing. Reading his obituary, he sounds like a wonderful man. I hope your memories will help you through this dificult time.
Molly Boland
November 25, 2013
Erika,
Thinking of you, and hoping all the wonderful memories will carry you through.
Love ya,
Molly
November 25, 2013
Dear Erika, I am thinking of you at this difficult time. With love,
Helen Sweitzer
Melissa Martin
November 25, 2013
Erica, So sorry to hear of your Dad's passing. I am sending good thoughts and prayers your way
November 24, 2013
Thank you for helping and sharing.....will always appreciate your kindness and caring.
Pam, Dave, and Becca
Mary Chase
November 24, 2013
Tom, you will be missed by so many because you touched so many lives with your kindness.
Love, Mary
November 24, 2013
Dear Judy, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Sincerely, Carolyn Miller
Kim Reynolds
November 24, 2013
Enjoyed my many years working with Tom while I was at Seven Counties. Sorry for your loss
Daniela & John
November 24, 2013
Dear Judy and family,
We are so very sorry that Tom is gone. We will always remember his impish smile, delightful humour, and razor-sharp insights. A formidable man, a lovely man.
Rose LaVoice
November 23, 2013
Dear Judy,
Please accept my sincere sympathy for the loss of your beloved husband, Tom. My prayers are with you and your family during this time of sorrow. God Bless, Love, Rose Pfalzer LaVoice
MY CLIFTON FRANK THACKER......20YRS
TERRY WAYNE THACKER
November 23, 2013
MY JASMINE ....................... 2 YRS
TERRY WAYNE THACKER
November 23, 2013
PASSIONS.........COLLEGE....MEMORIES
TERRY WAYNE THACKER
November 23, 2013
MY VALERIE .............. 22 YRS
TERRY WAYNE THACKER
November 23, 2013
MY MELODY......... ..VALERIE 6YRS
TERRY WAYNE THACKER
November 23, 2013
MY MALIEGHA...... ..VALERIE 2YRS
TERRY WAYNE THACKER
November 23, 2013
LIFE........HAPPINESS...............FUN
TERRY WAYNE THACKER
November 23, 2013
FAMILY..................LOVE
TERRY WAYNE THACKER
November 23, 2013
MY GIFT TO YOU....BEATIFUL LIFE
TERRY WAYNE THACKER
November 23, 2013
MOTHER......CARING ,MISCHIEVIOUS
TERRY WAYNE THACKER
November 23, 2013
Terry Wayne Thacker
November 23, 2013
sadness is in my heart today
i wish life could have finished better.
i don t know why you couldn t speak to me one last time while you where stricken with your illness,
i ll miss you , and hope you are happy where ever we go.
with love and found memories of our years of sharing , past. present, and future,
good bye to my big brother. tom bom(tommy)
love you
terry wayne
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