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Sr. M. HELEN BENDIK O.P.

M. BENDIK Obituary

Sister M. Helen Bendik, O.P. Sister Helen Bendik, a Dominican Sister of San Rafael, died peacefully at Our Lady of Lourdes Convent in San Rafael on November 16, 2010. Helen was born in Youngstown, Ohio, the youngest of five children. Her family moved to San Francisco where Helen attended Sacred Heart Grammar School and graduated from Immaculate Conception Academy. Older than Helen by three years, her sister, Marie, was already a Dominican Sister of San Rafael. Helen entered the convent and became Sister Aloysius. For twenty-three years Sister Aloysius taught and was principal at Catholic elementary schools in San Rafael, Napa, Stockton, Antioch and Oakland. In the late 1970s she received special training in spiritual direction which enabled her to minister in the Archdiocesan Tribunal Office and as Director of the Santa Sabina Retreat Center. In 1983, Sister Helen earned a second Master's degree in Religion at Seattle University and served as part of the campus ministry team from 1984 until1995. Sister Helen was a beloved pastoral associate at St. Cecilia's Parish in San Francisco for eight years, coordinating senior activities and supporting the RENEW program. She was predeceased by her brothers, John and Joe Bendik, and by her sister, Sister Jeanne Marie, O.P. Sister Helen is survived by her brother, Tom Bendik, her nieces and nephews, Maureen Killpack, Cathy Davis, Tom Bendik Daly, Anthony Bendik, Caroline Bendik Nguyen, Michael Bendik, Lorraine Mitralsky, Judy Taylor, Jeanne Bendik, Maya and Stefan Bendik and Jennifer Bendik Kovacs, and by her Dominican Sisters. A vigil will be held at the Dominican Sisters Center, 1520 Grand Avenue in San Rafael on Monday, November 22 at 7:00 p.m. The funeral Mass will be held at St. Raphael Church, Fifth Avenue and A Street in San Rafael on Tuesday, November 23 at 11:00 a.m. Burial at St. Dominic Cemetery in Benicia will take place on Wednesday, November 24 at 10:00 a.m. Memorial contributions may be made to: Dominican Sisters of San Rafael, Development Office, 1520 Grand Avenue, San Rafael California, 94901. Monte's Chapel Of the Hills San Anselmo ~ 453-8440

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Published by Marin Independent Journal on Nov. 21, 2010.

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michael mullen

December 9, 2010

Thank You for seeing more in me than I ever saw in myself, guiding me back to my faith and being the friend and mentor when I so desperately needed one. I hope I can reflect the love and wisdom you gave me to others and be present to all of those who have yet to realize that "All Is Gift" Helen you were beautifully flawed and your grace and love live on in my heart. I will still count on your prayers as I have for 25 years. Veronica, Madeline and Baby Joe will miss their Grandma Helen but you live on in our nighttime prayers.

Jayme Silva

December 6, 2010

I was privileged to have had Sr. Aloyisus as a teacher at St. John's in Napa. When she was transferred to another Dominican apostolate, we corresponded. After college, we reconnected at Santa Sabina.
I sent her a note on the occasion of her jubilee and treasure the thank you note she sent to me, seeing it everyday on my desk at work.
For me as a child, Sr. Aloysius--I continued to call her that in loving fun--embodied the Dominican Spirit, the loving arms of God Himself.
==>Jayme Silva, St. John's '69.

November 21, 2010

Ivan and I will remember her with love. Sr. Helen's unique way of speaking right into your heart will remain with us always.
She was the best teacher I ever met.
Judith Jasko

November 21, 2010

Sr. Helen will be greatly missed. She had a generous heart and kind spirit. I was fortunate enough to begin my long teaching career under her guidance. She was my first principal at Holy Rosary Elementary School in Antioch. She was wise and always helpful. I have so many warm and wonderful memories of her. She was a joy to live with in community. Her good work on earth is done. May God richly bless her. Judith Depew

November 21, 2010

Sr. Helen will be greatly missed. She had a generous heart and kind spirit. I was fortunate enough to begin my long teaching career under her guidance. She was my first principal at Holy Rosary Elementary School in Antioch. She was wise and always helpful. I have so many warm and wonderful memories of her. She was a joy to live with in community. Her good work on earth is done. May God richly bless her. Judith Depew

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