Ruth Dolores Bender
Feb. 21, 1933-Aug. 20, 2013
Resident of San Jose
Ruth passed away at her home surrounded by her devoted husband, Roger, and her loving children, Roger, Brenda, Pamela & Nancy. Also present were her beautiful grandchildren, Chris, Geoffrey and Blake.
She is survived by her cherished brothers, sisters and many nieces and nephews. She will also be greatly missed by the Bender family, Jeff, Deb, Stephanie, Janie, Clare and Ian. She was very proud of her time as Eligibility Supervisor at VMC, and loved all her co-workers. Flowers may be sent to Darling & Fischer, 471 E. Santa Clara St., San Jose on Aug. 26 or to Santa Teresa Church, 794 Calero Ave., San Jose, before 9am on Aug. 27. Viewing will be at 10am and the Funeral Mass at 11am, Aug. 27. In lieu of flowers make donations to the Paralyzed Veterans of America.
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I still remember and miss you...Steve y.
Yvaska
Friend
August 19, 2020
Mom, it has now been six years since the night you left us. Time hasn't diminished the loss. I'll love you always.
Your son, Roger
Roger Miles
August 21, 2019
Always in my thoughts...
Steve Yvaska
Friend
August 19, 2019
Cousin Ruth , from the Cresencio Pérez Roa familia in Woodland CA. We are sad to here of your passing. May you rest now. Our hart go's out to your family .
Chrissie Roa
December 2, 2017
Dear Mom:
It has been two years, and I miss you no less. You know how I feel about you. I'll always love you.
Your son, Roger.
August 22, 2015
Blessings and love to all of Ruth's family. She was quite a gal!
August 21, 2015
Dear Mom,
It has been two years since you passed. I think about you every day and miss you so much. You were the best Mom in the world. And you were also my best friend.
I miss hearing your voice. I miss the sound of your laughter. You had such a zest for life. You were so brave and loving. I was blessed to have you for my Mother. I will always love you and miss you.
Your daughter,
Pamela Miles
August 20, 2015
Dearest Ruth:
Not a day goes by that I do not miss the best thing that ever happened to me. If ever there was a perfect wife...you were it. I have forgotten just how many things we did together, and always accompanied with your loving smile and the cute little "cackle."
Love you always, your loving husband
Roger
August 18, 2015
Mwa Cat - Please keep Chiquita, Farrah, Sandy and Cha Cha company. I love you
August 20, 2014
Mwa-Cat - All your hard work, worry, patience, and love was rolled up into Blake and made him the compassionate, loving, kind, wise, and compassionate young man he is today. He gave his research presentation yesterday at UCR, and I know that you were with him - you wouldn't miss it for the world. I miss you every day, especially on my drive home from work. I want to talk to you so badly! Thank you for loving our boy so deeply. We miss our dear little Mwa Cat.
Tiger Toes
August 20, 2014
Dear Mom,
One year ago we lost you. Every single day I think about you and miss you so much. I wake up every morning to your photo on my wall. It was taken of you at Christopher's graduation and shows how happy and proud you were of him. You loved your grandchildren so much. And your children. You were the best Mom in the world. You had an apron that said "Our Mom's the Greatest!" And you were the Greatest Mom in the World. I love you.
Love, Pamela
Pamela Miles
August 20, 2014
Mom, it has been a year since you passed, and I miss you every day.
I will always love you.
Roger Miles
August 20, 2014
Ruth, you were very kind to me on those occasions when I visited, and you meant the world to Roger. You will remain in my memory as a kind soul with a wonderful sense of humor.
~ Michael Miller
Michael Miller
August 20, 2014
I just learned about Ruth's passing on Christmas. And I'm so very sorry. Ruth was a true lady with a wonderful laugh and sense of humor. My sympathy goes out to her husband and my friend, Roger, and the entire family. May God keep and comfort you always.
Steve Yvaska
December 26, 2013
Roger and Family:
We share your loss and send our sincerest condolences and sympathy.
Ursula and Paul Oostmeyer
Paul Oostmeyer
August 26, 2013
Ruth:
I'll miss sending you cards, photos and things from myself and the cats. I'm sure you have a pile of kittens with you up there.
Mark Yerger
August 25, 2013
Dear Ruth, You have a very beautiful spirit and I will miss you greatly. Love, Gary
Gary Pearson
August 25, 2013
Ruth, You were a wonderful person and a great friend and co-worker. It was always a fun time to go and do things together - going to the Republican Convention, taking dancing lessons with you when you met your dear husband Rodger. You had a zest for life and you will be missed.
Ann Van Bezooyen
August 25, 2013
It is with truly saddened hearts that we learned of this event. Pat and I send Roger and rest of the family our deepest sympathy in this, your time of profound loss. In heartfelt friendship.
Jack Hatter
August 25, 2013
Grandma,
Thank you for making me always feel like your other daughter. I'll always remember what a wonderful grandma you were to the boys. Please put in a good word for us.
Love,
Kathy
Kathy Miles
August 25, 2013
Aunt Ruth,
You are so special to all of us. Kind, loving, strong and generous. I will never forget your wonderful laugh and sense of humor.
With All My Love,
Kelley Petty
August 25, 2013
To my beautiful Mom. Thank you for being such a loving presence, not only in my life, but in everyone's life who met you. You loved your children and your grandchildren so deeply. I will always miss you, Mom. I love you.
Pamela Miles
August 25, 2013
Mom, thank you for all of your love you gave your children and grandchildren, and thank you for all of your sacrifices. You are greatly missed, and we will always love you.
Roger Miles
August 23, 2013
Offering our deepest condolences during this difficult time.
Darling Fischer Garden Chapel
August 24, 2013
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