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Robert James Frascino, MD

Resident of Los Altos

Who fought HIV professionally for 30 years and personally for 20 years, died suddenly on September 17, 2011 in Mtn. View, California. He was 59. The cause of death was bacterial sepsis. His husband, Steven Natterstad, MD, and his sister, Linda Godfrey of Glen Rock, New Jersey, were with Bob when he died. His dog, Presto, was also close by.

Bob was a physician, an educator, a tireless advocate for the HIV/AIDS community, a trustee of Oberlin College and a concert pianist. His love of life, keen intellect, sense of humor and ever-present smile will be missed by all who knew him. His boundless generosity with his time, his energy and his advocacy encompassed his family, his friends and his community alike.

Bob was born in Rochester, New York. He graduated with high honors from Oberlin College in 1974 with a degree in biology. He earned a medical degree at the University of Cincinnati College of Medicine, served his internship and residency in pediatrics at Children's Hospital Oakland, and completed his postdoctoral clinical immunology/allergy fellowship at the University of California, San Francisco.

Dr. Frascino was one of the first physicians to treat HIV-infected patients in the early 80s. He subsequently founded two medical clinics devoted to the comprehensive and compassionate care of HIV-positive people. As primary investigator for several HIV clinical trials, he published articles on evolving new treatments and quality of life issues for people living with the virus in such journals as International Journal of STD and AIDS, Western Journal of Medicine, Journal of AIDS and Blood. A Fellow of the American Academy of Allergy, Asthma, and Immunology, and the American Academy of Pediatrics, Dr. Frascino also served as Associate Clinical Professor of Medicine, Division of Immunology, Rheumatology, and Allergy, at Stanford University Medical Center for 18 years. He was a certified member of the American Academy of HIV Medicine and a distinguished member of the executive boards of numerous state and regional associations, including Past President of the California Society of Allergy, Asthma, and Clinical Immunology; the Allergy/Immunology Association of Northern California; and the Allergy, Asthma, Immunology Foundation of Northern California.

Dr. Frascino crossed the line from physician to patient when an occupational exposure resulted in his testing HIV positive. In early 1996, when his health began to fail, he gave up his HIV/AIDS medical practice and turned his efforts to HIV education and to fundraising. In his words, "I could now speak with the knowledge and authority of a physician, but with the eyes and heart and soul of a patient." That same year, he and Steve, both concert pianists, planted the seed for what would become The Robert James Frascino AIDS Foundation (www.concertedeffort.org) by performing a piano concert benefitting HIV/AIDS at their home in Los Altos, California. Due to its overwhelming success, the couple founded the Concerted Effort HIV/AIDS benefit concert series through which they performed classical and popular piano concerts throughout California. They raised over $1,500,000 for crucial HIV/AIDS services worldwide, ranging from hospice care in Los Angeles to a clean needle-exchange program in Washington, DC to the provision of anti-HIV medication to HIV-positive pregnant women in Africa, thereby helping to prevent transmission of the virus to their newborns. Concerted Effort 2011, which would have been the 17th in the series, was scheduled to take place at the Mountain View Center for the Performing Arts on September 18, the day following Bob's death.

Dr. Frascino was the recipient of the National Society of Fundraising Executives' Distinguished Honoree/Silicon Valley Philanthropy Award and the Santa Clara County Medical Association's Award for "Outstanding Contribution in Medical Education." In May 2002, as part of the International AIDS Candlelight Vigil in San Francisco, Dr. Frascino accepted the Bobbi Campbell AIDS Hero Award for which he received personal letters of acknowledgement and congratulations from both Governor Gray Davis and Mayor Willie Brown.

Since May 2000 Dr. Frascino served as an expert in two Internet-based HIV educational forums - Fatigue/Anemia and Safe Sex/HIV Prevention - at The Body, an HIV/AIDS information resource website (www.thebody.com). He posted answers to nearly 30,000 questions over the past 11 years. In December 2010 he started a blog titled "Life, Love, Sex, HIV and Other Unscheduled Events." Known as "Dr. Bob" to his global online community, he touched the lives of millions of people through his forums and blog.

In 2005 Dr. Frascino joined the Oberlin College Board of Trustees. He served as vice chair of the board for two years beginning in 2009. In the words of fellow trustee Stewart Kohl, " . . . he was the shining light of our board who on every issue - big and small - brought his keen mind, great sense of humor, appreciation for the human side of issues and an especially well developed sense of fashion relative to the rest of us schleps from Oberlin." "Bob was a wonderful trustee and friend to Oberlin," says President Marvin Krislov. "His leadership, dedication, and unfailingly positive spirit brightened our community. We mourn his loss. He leaves a legacy at Oberlin that we will cherish."

In addition to his husband and sister, Bob is survived by his parents, Jennie and Angelo Frascino of Saratoga, California and by many friends, colleagues and "eyeballs" around the world.

A private ceremony will be held Friday, November 11 at 1 p.m. at Villa Montalvo, 15400 Montalvo Road, Saratoga, California. To follow at 2:00 p.m. will be a public reception where all who knew Dr. Frascino are invited to join in the celebration of his life and his legacy.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to The Robert James Frascino AIDS Foundation, 1000 Fremont Avenue, Suite 145, Los Altos, CA 94024. www.concertedeffort.org.

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Published by San Jose Mercury News/San Mateo County Times on Sep. 30, 2011.

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vince anderson

April 6, 2025

Thinking about you today. I can hardly believe it´s been 14 years since you left. My amazing and favorite doctor and person who always had a positive outlook on anything and everything that came my way over the years that you counseled me through. I still miss you incredibly. Fly safe and hopefully I will catch up one day.

Saved soul

March 22, 2022

Still missing you dr Bob. Your words helped me in the thoughtest of times. Ill never forget you

KIRUBEL GETACHEW

October 29, 2012

MAY GOD REST YOUR SOUL IN PEACE. YOU ARE SUCH A KIND AND GOOD PERSON I EVER NEW.THE WAY YOU GIVING A GOOD WONDERFUL ADVISE (INCREASING LIFE TIME), FEEL CONFIDENCE AND GIVING HOPE TO ALL PEOPLE. OHH DR. I AM REALLY MISS YOU.

September 17, 2012

The world has been without you for a year now but your legacy will live on forever. God bless you Dr. bob

Steve in phoenix

Júnior Bocelli

September 1, 2012

A great man!

k p

August 20, 2012

RIP , I still remember the advice you given and it cleared my worries.

K W

July 23, 2012

I admired and respected your intelligence, charisma, and devotion. I am sorry that your time was short, but you were so generous with the time you had! You are a part of us all.
Love you Dr. Bob!

June 8, 2012

A great man who's shown and educated many people on the topic of HIV/AIDS.
Thank you for all the hard work you've done, will be missed by many people.

May 16, 2012

One of a kind.........God bless

dhruva mishhra

May 6, 2012

Rest in Peace, Dr Bob...and up in the heavens, try not to be too naughty with the angels:-)....you will be deeply missed.

Rochard Trussell

May 4, 2012

A true hero that showed us all bravery comes from love, compassion, empathy not hatred and ignorance. A man I never knew but made me a better person.

Joe

April 29, 2012

Thank you for all your inspiration. God Bless You.

M J

March 25, 2012

As a new healthcare worker, I can't imagine what I would have done had I been infected with HIV the same way as Dr. Bob. He handled his situation with grace and humor. Although we've never met, I too hope to follow in his foot steps by helping those with HIV. He truly was and still is an inspiration to us all.

Greg Mech

March 20, 2012

Dr. Bob helped me several times regarding questions on HIV testing. His knowledge and compassion on the subject have made him a true hero. I wish I would have been able to thank him in real life. He was a brilliant man.

C K

March 13, 2012

I don't have the words to express how selfless this man was and the amount he done for myself and others. The light that he shone upon so many dark issues inspired me to live a better life. Rest in Peace, Dr Bob.

Frank and Marylou Nieves

March 8, 2012

We just learned of Dr.Robert "bob" Frascino passing today.We are very sad.Dr.Bob was the perfect example of a wonderful human been and a blessing for us.We will never forget his words "Not now,not ever".

Rest in peace Dr.Bob.

brendan farrell

January 23, 2012

I just learned of Dr Bob's passing yesterday. I was deeply sadenned by the news. He will live in memory as a good example of how to lead a good life for oneself and for others. Brendan frm Ireland

George L

January 20, 2012

Not enough can be said about Dr. Bob's selflessness, his boundless spirit and energy lives on in his famous words "I'm here if you need me, ok?".

J Z

December 15, 2011

Truly a wonderful man whose presence on earth was a blessing.

Chandra Kumar

December 1, 2011

The practical GOD that ever existed on EARTH. Mr. Bob, please never stop responding to my questions in TheBody if you really have Internet over there in heaven. Chandra (LV,NV)

Barry Instinct

November 30, 2011

Wow DR Bob will be missed his advice and practical advice was full of wisdom

ariel private please

November 25, 2011

I just learned of Dr. Bob's passing and believe me when I say that the world has lost an angel. He helped me during the darkest time in my life and I always think of him and his words to me and others. Thank you Dr. Bob for all your kindness towards all people. May you rest in peace.

Derek

November 20, 2011

Dr. Bob was known all over the world for his HIV advocacy, and his internet Q&A forum was an extraordinary example of humour in the face of adversity, courage in the setting of despair, and social justice in a world with far too little of it. Dr. Frascino was a special person, and he'll never be forgotten.

Alison Olsen

November 14, 2011

I had the happy honor of working with Bob and Steve through the Robert James Frascino AIDS Foundation. It was always a pleasure to email and call with Bob, and an even greater pleasure to be at a concert. It is so sad that none of us will be able to share in life, or in life's moments, or in life's missions again in this life with Bob. His life on earth, and his incredible work and love will no doubt be carried by all who knew him. I am so sorry for your loss, Steve. May the presence of your loved ones bring comfort and peace at this time, and may you return to hope and joy as you relish in the gift of your partnership with Bob.

Kirsten Stasney

November 14, 2011

Steve, we didn't know Bob but wish we had. We celebrate his life and contributions and send you our sympathy at this time of great loss for you and Presto and all who loved Bob.

Kirsten (Cyndi Meldahl's sister) and Joe Stasney

Tom

November 14, 2011

I have followed Dr.Bob's comments and advice for many years now on the Body. I admired his wit and intellect. I will truly miss him!

Peg Miller

November 10, 2011

Bob is my cousin and I admired him so much. His work with HIV/Aids was inspiring. His music brought tears to my eyes. He was so fun, so kind, and always the life of the party. The thing I admire most is that Bob lived every day to the fullest. He touched so many people and made their lives - and their world - so much better. He will always be my hero.

steve gray

November 8, 2011

Such a wonderful man.....he is always with us. Such a caring soul. We love you Dr. Bob.....

Dennis

November 7, 2011

The only man who could ever calm me down about possible HIV risk was Dr. Bob. I'm am glad he made light of my absurdity. He was a wonderful human being who didn't let this disease stop him from spreading light around the world. We'll miss you Dr. Bob <3

Alex Magaña

November 6, 2011

a great loss. outstanding human being, he will be greately missed, we need more like him to make this a better world. he will be missed, and needed. thank you Dr. Bob.

Roger & Cindy Hector

November 5, 2011

Bob has been a welcome member of our family and he will truly be missed by all.

Carrie Sullivan

November 5, 2011

I have been following Dr. Bob on the body for almost 10 years now. He was a hero and will be greatly missed. - Carrie Sullivan

Chris F

October 31, 2011

Such a caring man. Rest in peace.

Jim Balzer

October 30, 2011

Dr. Frascino answered one of my questions about a year ago, when I first found out I was positive, and that support was a big help when I was feeling lost. Even though I never met the man I feel the loss very strongly, and my sympathy, like all those he's touched, is with his loved ones.

Javier Estrada

October 20, 2011

Mis mas sentidas condelencias, y agradecimiento a todas aquellas personas que dia a dia luchan por mejorar la calidad de vida de las personas con vhi, especialmente al dr. Steve, a quien agradesco, toda su ayuda

Gail Kaitschuck

October 12, 2011

Like others who have posted, I have been reading Dr. Bob's forum at TheBody.com for a number of years. He tirelessly answered enormous numbers of questions, often with his own type of humor that still makes me laugh. The world is a little sadder place without his humor, his knowledge, his grace and his winning smile. Thank you Dr. Bob.

Alison Mauro

October 11, 2011

I have been reading Dr. Bob's forum at TheBody.com for five years. His responses to people's questions (including mine) were a true comfort to me. He personified intelligence, humor, and compassion because he so assiduously combated ignorance, unwarranted anxiety, and deliberate obtuseness to the AIDS epidemic. His responses in the forum are still making me laugh. But I'm also crying for him, a guy I never met. He had an impact on my life. I feel like addressing him directly, wherever he may be. Thank you, Dr. Bob.

October 10, 2011

For all his friends and Family ---David Douglas ERSKINE

Peter Fox

October 7, 2011

My deepest condolences to the many loved ones and friends of this incredible man. We never met in person, but spoke often on professional matters, and I had such a deep respect for Bob's years of writing and musings on an upbeat life in otherwise dim circumstances. Thank you for your wit, your service to probably MILLIONS of people who needed a lift and some guidance, and for your friendship.

Katie Rubin

October 6, 2011

The kindest and most patient man! Thank you for being my friend in one of my darkest hours. Late at night it was me and the computer and you. You helped calm my worries when no one else would listen. It may not seem like much but it was everything. That was almost 10 years ago. I will never forget how you helped me. I am so sad that you are gone from this world. Rest peacefully, Dr. Bob.

Bob Piecuch

October 6, 2011

Sincerest sympathies to Bob's family. Certainly a huge loss for all.

Mario Velazquez

October 5, 2011

Im so sad, I hope the best for all of us.

Kim A.

October 4, 2011

Your smile will always be in my heart touching it sweetly. Thanks Doc. Bob for being there for me and so many like me. You _lived your life for so many bodies! Kudos! ~ Forever~ love, Kim A. (Baldwin Ga.)

October 4, 2011

An inspirational man, full of humanity. Will miss you (J, Spain)

October 4, 2011

Im so sorry to hear of his passing. He was a caring, dedicated professional in the precention and education of HIV

Steve Bolarinwa

October 4, 2011

May God bless your soul with rest in eternity

BEN M

October 3, 2011

RIP friend.

Candi Avlakeotes

October 3, 2011

Dr. Bob, you were a talented, caring, and giving man. Your family and community will miss you dearly.

Ann-Marie Miller

October 1, 2011

Thank you Doctor for all you did for helping me with my asthma and that winning smile. RIP

Bri

October 1, 2011

Dr. Bob was a hero to thousands, if not millions, of people living with HIV/AIDS and to those simply in need of information, strength, and reassurance. My heart and thoughts are with his family, and especially with Dr. Steve. Dr. Bob's death has poignantly affected so many who knew his wit, intelligence, and strength only through The Body and through his foundation. I cannot imagine the sorrow those personally close to him feel now. May you find strength and comfort not only from one another, but from the knowledge that Dr. Bob's impact on people from every corner of the Earth is profound and will never be forgotten.

suzanne schatz

September 30, 2011

so sorry for your loss, which is a great one

suzanne schatz, Andrea schatz step mother

Peggy Klein

September 30, 2011

He was an amazing man. What a loss for us all. My sympathies are with you.

Peggy Klein

Mike Reinke

September 30, 2011

Dr. Bob,
Thanks for your your kindness and support. You will be truely missed.

Penny Evans

September 30, 2011

Thank you Bob. Love. Penny

David Keymel

September 30, 2011

Linda and family,
So sorry for your loss and the loss to the community as well.

September 30, 2011

Thank you for all of your kindness, generosity, and humor. You are an inspiration to all!

Bob Reed

September 30, 2011

Thank you Dr. Frascino.
Bob Reed

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