Sheila Pack Breeding
March 3, 1942~August 28, 2013
Resident of San Jose
Sheila has "graduated". Those are the words of Dan Breeding spoken upon the death of his beloved wife, Sheila. At 71, Sheila entered eternal rest on August 28, 2013. She has "graduated" from earthly life into Heaven and is a peace and at home with her Heavenly Father after waging a valiant three-year battle against leukemia.
Sheila and Dan were inseparable during their 53 years together. Their relationship has been described as "a marriage made in heaven". Their deep and abiding faith in God and their partnership proved that description accurate and was evidence of what marriage is meant to be. Their love and respect for each other was a picture of true biblical union. Scripture speaks profoundly that "nothing can separate us from the love of Christ". Nothing could separate Dan and Sheila from their love for one another. The desire of Sheila's heart was that she and Dan be an example among their peers in the church, the workplace, their friends and those with whom she worked in political and philanthropic efforts. Sheila's Christian walk influenced the lives of those around her. The impact she brought to the community was profound. She was not fully aware of how highly esteemed she was by all who had the privilege of learning from her example. Sheila's work in the church, united with Dan as devoted Christians, began in 1975 at Calvary Community Church in San Jose under the pastoral leadership of Gerald and Peggy Fry. They and the Fry family have been devoted over the years and remain like family.
Sheila Pack Breeding was born in 1942 in Coalville, Utah, to Walt and Georgia Pack. She graduated high school while living in Crockett, California and met Dan that same year. When Sheila and Dan met, it was love at first sight, and marriage vows came a mere six weeks later.
Sheila entered the workplace with a job in accounts receivable. Her natural abilities in this area led to a job with Carl N. Swenson & Co. in San Jose, and Dan joined Swenson seven years later. Sheila and Dan's combined work background led to a partnership in 1983 with Charles "Chuck" Toeniskoetter, and together they co-founded Towniskoetter & Breeding, Inc. Sheila and Dan both held executive positions, with Sheila as Chief Financial Officer. Their company evolved into one of the most successful construction firms in Silicon Valley. The deep and abiding friendship and respect established between Sheila, Dan and Chuck proved foundational to their success over the years. Sheila represented Toesniskoetter & Breeding, Inc. in the business community with involvements in San Jose Rotary Club, San Jose Chamber of Commerce, San Jose Political Action Committee and the YMCA of Santa Clara. She was a member of the Lincoln Club of Northern California. Sheila received numerous leadership awards which included the Leadership Excellence Community Award, Silicon Valley Chamber of Commerce, 2005: Woman of Achievement Award for Small Business, 2002, Silicon Valley Women's Fund: Paul Harris Fellow, Rotary Club International; Distinguished Citizen Award, 2008, Santa Clara County Council, Boy Scouts of American; and numerous Outstanding Contribution and Support Awards from the YMCA of Santa Clara. Sheila served from 1990 as a Board Member of Mt. Hermon Ministries, Tacoma, Washington.
Sheila always welcomed Dan's support in every area of their lives, including her own achievements. Many throughout the Valley have gained from Sheila's wisdom and willingness to give sacrificially. Her heart was always committed as an example to live and to encourage the moral values she considered foundational in retaining our God-given freedom and strength as a community and nation. Despite an intense work schedule and time devoted to numerous causes, Sheila was never too busy to prepare a beautiful meal for friends or bake cookies with neighborhood children who eagerly appeared at her door.
Sheila was a sportswoman. She loved to hunt and fish, and the excitement of sharing those adventures with Dan was her delight. She relished landing a prize king salmon, and she brought down her fair share of game birds. Sheila and Dan traveled with friends to Patagonia, Argentina and Bristol Bay, Alaska sharing the exhilaration of landing "the big ones". Numerous travels to Mexico and Idaho in the hunt for bountiful dove and upland game birds were gratifying experiences. Being good at the "sport" of dominoes counted, too. Sheila was an avid hockey fan, loyal to the San Jose Sharks from the time they formed a pro team. She and Dan rarely missed a game. They were sponsors of the Shark Foundation's annual lunches and donated generously to the organization. Sheila and Dan worked hard to earn their success, but with caring hearts gave generously to the church, family, friends and charities.
Sheila was a person of deep convictions, and one who acted on those convictions for the glory of God. She once commented, "We've been very blessed. If you do all things with the right intention, things will unfold the way they're supposed to. It happens sometimes without your even realizing it. Things come your way that you couldn't even imagine".
Sheila will be greatly missed by the vast community of family and friends who shared her life. In addition to her husband, Dan, she is survived by siblings Betty Sharrett, Paul Pack, Patsy Hyre, Myra Morris, and Roy Pack as well as sister-in-law Carol Doughty and her nieces and nephews.
In celebration of Sheila Breeding's life, a private memorial, by invitation only, will be held. In lieu of flowers, please send donations in Sheila's name to the
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Published in San Jose Mercury News/San Mateo County Times on Sept. 6, 2013
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