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Johnette Sowder Obituary

Johnette Ballenger Sowder, 47 of Roanoke, Virginia unexpectedly passed away on October, 14 2010 at her childhood home in Knightdale, N.C. Johnette had bravely battled the effects of a nine year fight against Lyme Disease. In spite of the physical pain caused by the disease and the emotional pain of having a disease that is misunderstood by many people in the fields of medicine, insurance and government, she had a dream of (in her words) “Approaching Normal” and during the past few months she had shown remarkable progress toward that goal.
Because of her progress, Johnette intended to spend October 12th-25th with her family members, while her husband/soul-mate of twenty years E. Wayne Sowder mixed sound at the Folk Festival Tent at the NC State Fair. She wanted to be with her loving father Kenneth R. Ballenger at a time when he was also facing medical challenges as well as her mother/best friend Phyllis and devoted step-father Bill Chancellor of Lake Royale, N.C. Thankfully, Johnette’s last day on earth was shared with her favorite (and only) brother Kenneth Julian Ballenger, his wife Melody watching their two beautiful and adorable daughters AnaMarie and Harmony Ballenger all of Fuquay, N.C. at play in a Knightdale park. Johnette had planned on visiting her beloved grandmother Minnie Rae “Nannie” West of Greensboro, NC. on the trip back home to Roanoke as the ultimate finale of our trip. Johnette and “Nannie” shared so many traits that we joked that they were as alike as “Two-Peas in a Pod”, hardly a week passed that they did not call or write to each other.
Johnette loved medicine, forensics, music, photography, football, boxing, animals (especially Antoinette her 16 year old cat) and would always find beauty in the simplest parts of everyday life. She loved and missed the people she worked with at Wake Medical Center and Roanoke Memorial Hospital.
I was fortunate to share twenty years with Johnette, she changed my life and I can’t believe she is gone. We loved and cared for each other and now I believe she is playing in a Heavenly park with the friends, family and her pets (Muffin and Landry) that went ahead of her. Most certainly with Johnette’s cherished Grandfather Johnny R. West from whom her name was derived, her fraternal grandparents Raydon & Esteel Ballenger and my parents Basil N. and Mary B. Sowder.
Lyme Disease changed both of our lives and in lieu of flowers please donate or purchase a DVD of the Documentary “Under Our Skin” from either Underourskin.com, Open Eye Pictures 2656 Bridgeway, Suite 202 Sausalito, CA 94965 Phone: 415-332-3266 or Amazon.com. Johnette always wanted to help other people avoid the suffering she experienced, let the spread of Lyme Disease awareness be her lasting memorial.
L. Harold Poole Funeral Service in Knightdale, N.C. are handling her final needs. The family invites any of her friends to a celebration of her life on Tuesday October 19, 2010, 1PM in the chapel where she was married on the grounds of Whitestone a Masonic & Eastern Star Community, 700S Holden Rd. Greensboro, N.C.27407 Phone: (888) 558-6374 Chaplin Tommy Jones officiating with special music by Charles Johnson.
Condolences to the family may be made at www.poolefuneral.com under Obituaries.

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Published by The News & Observer on Oct. 17, 2010.

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Carol Clark

October 20, 2010

I am a nurse who has been very sick with Lyme Disease. I did not know your lovely daughter but I felt like I did by the way you wrote about her passionate spirit trying to educate and help others when she was struggling so much with Lyme, which never seems to take a day off. I've been paralyzed twice with this dreaded disease, but know, as your daughter did that education is the key to get others help. She is my inspiration to keep spreading the word even when the days are hard. I'm sorry for your loss.

Patricia Zieverink

October 20, 2010

To your family: My deepest sypathies. I live in Rolesville and have a sister who lives in Wendell, we are Raleigh natives. We both suffer from Chronic Lyme Disease. The disease has changed both of our lives in ways not many people can understand. Your "In lieu of flowers please purchase a copy of Under Our Skin" touched me so much. As I tell my story to people that is always something I tell them, because watching the dvd is one of the only things that seems to help others understand our struggle. You are and will be in my prayers and thoughts.
Patricia Zieverink

Mary Lee Sowder

October 20, 2010

Wayne and Family.. We sent you all our deepest sympathies...You all are in our thoughts and prayers. We love you. William (Bill), Edith, Mary Lee And William (Bubby) Sowder.

October 20, 2010

I am so saddened to here about the passing of Johnette. I worked with Johnette in the Emergency Department at Roanoke Memorial Hospital. I loved her sense of humor and her no-nonsense attitude. My thoughts and prayers are with her family. Tracey Kier

October 19, 2010

october 18,2010
phyllis,my deepest sympathies to you and the family.let god be your strength.much love.
linda mial-dent

October 18, 2010

Wayne, we were so saddened by the news of Johnette. Please accept our most sincere condolences and know that we are with you in spirit. It was nice to hear her last days were good and spent with family. With all her struggles over the years I am sure she is at peace. Sometimes answers we seek are not fully understood or complete. Just know she watches over you and will be with you always.
Much Love, Tim,Kim and kids (The Otey's)

October 18, 2010

My Deepest sympathies to you & the family. My brother,Archie, my sister, Vickie & I went to High School with Johnette. Later ,she & I worked at Wake Med at the same time. Her Mother was a good friend to us their at the hospital too. She will be missed but never forgotten. We share your loss ,because she was a part of our family too......David Ange(Zebulon,NC)

Pam Davis

October 18, 2010

Our sympathy and prayers for your family.

Pam Davis

Crews Bill

October 18, 2010

Wayne.... I'm extremely sorry to hear about Johnette's passing, I remember first meeting her when we both worked at the hospital, I always enjoyed talking to her, and I enjoyed talking to the both of you, when I would see you guys out and about.....again, I'm very sorry and sadden to hear about this, my thoughts are with you, hang in there, Buddy... Bill

October 18, 2010

Wayne, please accept our deepest sympathy in Johnette's passing. What a wonderful person..Cherish the memories.
John and Debbie Troxler (Bea Stover's daughter)

Lynn Sowder

October 18, 2010

Wayne, We were shocked and saddened hearing of Johnette's passing! Hold all the memories close to your heart! We are thinking of you!

Marie Malinchak

October 17, 2010

I will miss you, Johnette, and am deeply saddened by your passing. Thank you for allowing me into your life for many years. You and Wayne were and are always special to me. Thank you for touching my heart.

E. Wayne Sowder

October 17, 2010

E. Wayne Sowder

October 17, 2010

Johnette...I'll never forget you and I will always remember that the last words we spoke to each other was "I love you". Goodbye sweet little girl...

Joe & BJ Heath

October 17, 2010

Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.

E. Wayne Sowder

October 17, 2010

Johnette...I'll never forget you and I will always remember that the last words we spoke to each other was "I love you". Goodbye sweet little girl...

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