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Felix Tomei Obituary
Raleigh
Felix Tomei III, died on July 7, 2014 following years of declining health. He was born in Chicago, IL on May 12, 1931. Fee graduated from New Trier High School in Winnetka, IL, Yale University in 1952 with a B.S. in Industrial Administration and Harvard University in 1954 with an M.B.A. He served in the U.S. Navy from 1954 through 1957, when he was honorably discharged as a lieutenant after serving two tours of duty in the South Pacific. Thereafter, Fee spent his entire career as a marketing professional in the power tool industry with Skil Corp., Robert Bosch Corp. and Trumpf Inc.
Fee met his wife, Margaret, in Athens, GA while attending the Naval Supply School at the University of Georgia. After marrying in 1956, they lived in Coronado, CA; Evanston, IL; Syracuse, NY; Walton-On-The-Thames, England; Franklin Lakes, NY; Naperville, IL; New Bern, NC and Burlington, CT.
In 1994, Fee and Margaret retired to Callawassie Island, SC and later, to Blowing Rock, NC, as well. In 2006, they moved to Raleigh to be closer to some of their children and grandchildren.
Felix was predeceased by his parents, Felix Tomei, Jr., and Hortense Ruth ("Jimmie") Schurman, and by his brother, Peter Andrew Tomei. Felix is survived by his wife of 58 years, Margaret Stanley Tomei, and by his children (spouse), Thomas Tomei (Karen) of Naperville, IL; David Tomei of Sanford, NC; Mary Anderson (Dale) of Woodruff, WI; John Tomei (Marilyn) of Raleigh, NC; Joseph Tomei (Edith) of Dublin, OH; and Maggie Tomei (Charles Boyer) of Raleigh, NC. He is survived by his eight grandchildren: Melissa Tomei (Mark), Kelli Maestro (Joe), Jason Anderson, Helen Anderson, Mimi Tomei, Andrew Tomei, Amelia Tomei, Joey Tomei, and by his great-granddaughter, Elara Tomei. He is also survived by his sister, Mira Lee Loran, and numerous nieces and nephews.
Fee was known for his calm and quiet demeanor; but had a very quick wit and a wonderfully dry sense of humor. He enjoyed playing golf and was an avid reader. Most of all, he was a devoted husband and father. The family would like to extend their appreciation for the compassionate treatment received from his caregivers at Sunrise of North Hills, Transitions Lifecare and Home Care Assistance of Raleigh.
Funeral services will be held on Friday, July 11, 2014 as follows: a visitation in the atrium at St. Raphael Catholic Church, 5801 Falls of Neuse Road, Raleigh, NC beginning at 10 AM, with a funeral Mass to immediately follow at 11 AM, with interment at St. Raphael's Columbarium immediately following the Mass. Brown-Wynne Funeral Home will be making the arrangements. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to the National Parkinson's Foundation, 200 SE 1st Street, Suite 800, Miami, Florida 33131.
Condolences may be sent to the family at www.BrownWynne.com
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Memories and Condolences
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Ruth Conger
August 11, 2014
Margaret, my sincere condolences for the loss of your husband. We lost touch when we moved back to California from Texas in 2010. I am sorry to say that I lost Thomas in 2012. I know you will miss Felix every day. with love
Paul Higgins
July 13, 2014
I first met Mr. Tomei in the mid 80's when he and Mrs. Tomei were visiting their children in Chapel Hill. Joe and Maggie, and I believe John, were all enrolled at UNC at the time. Joe and I had become good friends and Maggie and I were becoming pals as well. Over the years, I have had the opportunity to visit with Felix and Margaret in their homes in Connecticut and the Carolina's, and to get to know their other children and meet their grandchildren (a top notch group of human beings). During those visits and other more brief meetings, I witnessed the fine qualities and virtues which have been attested to previously in this guest book, so eloquently at his funeral by sons Joe and Tom, and in many private conversations over the past few days. What I remembered, as I was driving to St. Raphael's Friday morning, was that when Mr. Tomei greeted me wether in his home or elsewhere, it was always genuine and warm, and with no hint of distraction. I imagine he has been greeted likewise in the home of his maker.
For the Tomei family, I pray that when struck by sadness and heartache, comfort and solace will quickly follow.
Peter Strickland
July 12, 2014
Joe, John, Maggie, Mrs. Tomei and the whole Tomei family,
I was deeply saddened to read of Mr. Tomei's passing this week. It has been over 30 years since Joe and I first met. I think of you and your family on occasion with fond memories. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.
Peter Strickland, Cindy and Sadie
July 9, 2014
We are so sorry to hear about my Uncle Fee's death. As a child I remember thinking of him as a soft spoken, kind and funny person.
Now with an adult perspective, I would say he was the epitome of success both in his professional life in business and personal life with his wonderful family. Like his parents and his sister, my mother, he was a model of integrity.
Our prayers to all of the Tomei's,
Julie Theisen, Tim and Felice
Patti Dukes
July 9, 2014
Thoughts of love and prayers for peace as you all mourn the passing of Felix. Hugs,
Jaleh Neshaat
July 9, 2014
Mrs. Tomei and Family: We did not know your husband for an extended period of time, but we will not forget his smile or sense of humor for a long time. Thank you for the privilege of spending time with him and Mrs. Tomei. Jaleh and the Home Care Assistance team
John & Janet Anderson
July 9, 2014
Dear Mrs. Tomei and family,
We were so sorry to hear that Mr. Tomei has passed away. Our heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
Our sincere sympathy,
Brad Crain, CSR
July 9, 2014
Mrs. Tomei and the Tomei family,
I am deeply saddened to hear of Mr. Tomei passing.
I feel as if I knew him personally from all of the great stories and kind words from David. Your husband/ dad was a great man and he will be missed.
Estela Villalba
July 9, 2014
Dear Mrs. Tomei and family,
Our deepest condolences for your loss.
It is past a long time since we met, but in our memories Mr. Tomei will always be the kind and generous gentleman we came across so many years ago.
With all sympathy,
Estela Villalba and family
July 9, 2014
Dear Mrs. Tomei,
We are thinking of you in these time of sorrow. I will always remember Mr. Tomei for his kindness and generosity. We offer our sincere condolences to you and family.
Much love and sympathy,
Tina Szczepanski and family
July 9, 2014
We are really sorry for your loss Mrs. Tomei. Our thoughts are with you and your family
Family Arza Villalba
David Tomei
July 9, 2014
Love you Dad. I hope you are at peace now. You were a great father to have had. I miss you.
Thomas Loran
July 9, 2014
Dear Aunt Margaret and my Tomei cousins,
I was deeply saddened to learn yesterday of Uncle Fee's death. He was a great brother to my Mom, a devoted son to his dear parents, and a very, very kind and generous uncle to me, especially the long-haired, 20-something version of me who showed up on several occasions at your house in Huntington, NY in the early 19070s having hitch-hiked down I-95 smoking cigarettes and talking loud. I remember well these visits and Uncle Fee's very, very dry and uncanny sense of humor, which I found hilarious – even when directed at me. And to have treated me like a special guest, despite my many unsavory features, is a compelling testament to his big heart and devotion to family. In short, Fee's generosity and care for me are something that I can never forget.
Although I am unable to be with the family in North Carolina on Friday, please know that Uncle Fee and all of you will be in our thoughts and prayers.
Deepest sympathies,
Tom and all of the Tom Loran family
July 8, 2014
Dear Aunt Margaret and all my Tomei cousins,
I was so saddened to hear of Uncle Fee's death yesterday. He devoted his life to loving and caring for his family. He embodied so rare a combination of integrity, compassion, dignity and wit. He was gentleman and a gentle man. And yet, rarer still, I have never known anyone who possessed a more profound and disarming humility which utterly belied his many gifts, talents and accomplishments. He will be so missed by all who loved him.
My love and prayers are with you.
Lee Dahlheim, Bruce, Nick and Mira
July 8, 2014
Dear Mrs Tomei,
I was sad to learn of Mr. Tomei's passing. My prayers and thoughts are with you and family.
Much love,Claudia Villalba
July 8, 2014
Our dearest Aunt Margaret and Tomei cousins,
We sadly learned of Uncle Fe's passing last night and wish to share our deep condolences. We will always remember his and your kindness and generosity through the years, especially our family gatherings in Naperville, visit to Huntington after the death of our father, golfing and birding in Burlington, and luncheon in Bryant Park. Admirably, he was a highly accomplished, but modest man, devoted to his family. With his gentle manner, wry sense of humor, and loving spirit, Uncle Fe will always be very special to us, and we will keep you in our prayers. With all our love and sympathy, Jenny and the Govan Family
July 7, 2014
Dear Aunt Margaret and my wonderful cousins,
It was with great sadness that I learned today the news of the loss of Uncle Fe. He was always such a special person in my life and my fondness and love for him is deep and enduring. He will be remembered for his many accomplishments and for being a wonderful husband, father, son, brother and friend. We are keeping all of you in our thoughts and prayers.
Much love and sympathy, Amy and all the Weisses
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